Seeking Perspective: Ex Reaching Out After 8 Years He was born in 20th of september 1973

Posted by Undine
Mercury retrograde + a fight with this wife + in need of an ego boost at your expense

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Undine
Mercury retrograde + a fight with this wife + in need of an ego boost at your expense

Or maybe he is going through a divorce

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Posted by Stardustmopped
In my experience men reach out when a woman has hurt them and they need an ego boost. How convenient for him that you’ve always been nice and kind to him. His life sucks and he wants you to make him feel better about it. Block and move on.

Posted by Saturn_Returns
Bloody Virgos...

Posted by elna9814


I never caught him cheating no

He broke up with me because i never believed in us and i was projecting my insecurities into him

He was my first real love.



It was the kind of breakup you read about in tragic novels or see in heartbreaking movies.

The moment I stepped into hid space, I could feel the weight of something ominous in the air.

I found myself standing in front of a closed door, a door that used to welcome me with warmth and love.

I still remember how

With trembling hands, I knocked, hoping for a glimmer of understanding or a sliver of empathy.

Instead, what greeted me was silence, a silence so deafening it drowned out the sound of my own heartbeat.



I begged, pleaded for him to open the door, to let me in, to talk things through like adults.

But all I received was the cold indifference of darkness as he switched off the light, as if erasing any chance of reconciliation.



Hours passed like agonizing eternities as I remained planted in front of that door, my heart pounding with desperation and disbelief.



I wanted to make him see me, to make him understand the pain he was causing.

But he had already closed himself off, barricaded his heart against me.



In a final act of surrender, I reached out to someone who might still have a shred of compassion left for me - his friend. And , I knew that this was how it ended.

A silent ,

Posted by elna9814

I find myself in a situation that's left me feeling puzzled and unsure, and I'm hoping to gain some insight from your perspectives.
About 10 years ago, i was 27 and I was in a relationship with someone who ended up hurting me deeply.
After our breakup, I took the necessary time to heal and move on with my life.
Recently, out of the blue, my ex, who is now married with two daughters, reached out to me via email.
In his message, he expressed sincere apologies for how he treated me in the past, emphasizing that I was the nicest person he's ever known.
He admitted to regretting his actions and expressed a desire to have had me as his wife.
In response, I let him know that I've moved on and harbor no ill feelings toward him.
Despite this, he continued to apologize profusely, thanking me for always being kind to him and reminiscing about our past moments together, claiming they were the best times of his life.
This has left me wondering why he's reaching out now after all these years.
I'm struggling to understand his motives and whether there's any significance to his sudden remorseful behavior, especially considering he's now happily married with a family.
I would greatly appreciate any insights or perspectives you all might have on this situation. Thank you in advance for your help.

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Posted by Stardustmopped
In my experience men reach out when a woman has hurt them and they need an ego boost. How convenient for him that you’ve always been nice and kind to him. His life sucks and he wants you to make him feel better about it. Block and move on.

Make sense , he is asking me if i still have feelings for him and if im in a relationship.
Im reading his emails and seeing a different person not the man i use to know he never been this weak !!! I felt he is so broken and full of regrets

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Posted by Dastard2020
If you're over it and moved on, why are you wondering about his motives and making a thread to speculate about the reasons he's reaching out? Why did you even reply to him to begin with?
Would be nice if you'd stop lying to yourself and bullshitting us.

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020
If you're over it and moved on, why are you wondering about his motives and making a thread to speculate about the reasons he's reaching out? Why did you even reply to him to begin with?
Would be nice if you'd stop lying to yourself and bullshitting us.

Do u know me?

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Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

I told you , you don't know me.

No need to insult , i never stopped healing and doing therapy.

He was my real first love.

Years ago when he decided to leave i didnt have my closure.

He left me in front of his door trying to understand

Why. The month we were planning for our wedding.

Just to learn from his best friend that he got married to a woman he met few times.

Do i feel good about it ?

Absolutly not

Am i going to allowed myself to meet him again.

I seriously dont know?

Because i needed my closure.

You do not undersrand how was our relationship and how it ended ?

Am not going to ruin his relationship with his wife. I believe in karma

But i need to understand why ?

Its my right to know

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Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

I told you , you don't know me.
No need to insult , i never stopped healing and doing therapy.
He was my real first love.
Years ago when he decided to leave i didnt have my closure.
He left me in front of his door trying to understand
Why. The month we were planning for our wedding.
Just to learn from his best friend that he got married to a woman he met few times.
Do i feel good about it ?
Absolutly not
Am i going to allowed myself to meet him again.
I seriously dont know?
Because i needed my closure.
You do not undersrand how was our relationship and how it ended ?
Am not going to ruin his relationship with his wife. I believe in karma
But i need to understand why ?
Its my right to know

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Posted by Sagicorn
Are you a cancer by any chance?!

Posted by Sagicorn

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Sagicorn
Are you a cancer by any chance?!

No am a capricorn 14 january 1986
At 2pm
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Well he's much older...that didn't bother you, that he wasn't very responsible for his age back then?
Oh, reason why I asked if you're a cancer is cause you sort of described a situation of a Virgo guy I know and a Cancer girl he was dating lol but he's much younger 1983-1982 smth like that

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Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

I understand there may have been misunderstandings, but I want to clarify that my intentions were never to cause harm.
I simply wanted closure on why things ended the way they did.
I respect his family and our past relationship enough to seek understanding, not to pursue anything inappropriate."

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Posted by Dastard2020

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

I understand there may have been misunderstandings, but I want to clarify that my intentions were never to cause harm.
I simply wanted closure on why things ended the way they did.
I respect his family and our past relationship enough to seek understanding, not to pursue anything inappropriate."
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You may BS yourself but you're not fooling anyone here.
You're deluding yourself with rationalizations; you want to rekindle your puppy love/romance. Or at the very least you're very tempted to re-live it if only short-term and are seeking validation and relying on rationalizations to pursue this because you know you're in the wrong here.
You said you have moved on, and had he not contacted you would not be here crying about "needing closure". Just cut the crap and stay away.

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Posted by Dastard2020

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

I understand there may have been misunderstandings, but I want to clarify that my intentions were never to cause harm.
I simply wanted closure on why things ended the way they did.
I respect his family and our past relationship enough to seek understanding, not to pursue anything inappropriate."

You may BS yourself but you're not fooling anyone here.



You're deluding yourself with rationalizations; you want to rekindle your puppy love/romance. Or at the very least you're very tempted to re-live it if only short-term and are seeking validation and relying on rationalizations to pursue this because you know you're in the wrong here.



You said you have moved on, and had he not contacted you would not be here crying about "needing closure". Just cut the crap and stay away.

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Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

I told you , you don't know me.
No need to insult , i never stopped healing and doing therapy.
He was my real first love.
Years ago when he decided to leave i didnt have my closure.
He left me in front of his door trying to understand
Why. The month we were planning for our wedding.
Just to learn from his best friend that he got married to a woman he met few times.
Do i feel good about it ?
Absolutly not
Am i going to allowed myself to meet him again.
I seriously dont know?
Because i needed my closure.
You do not undersrand how was our relationship and how it ended ?
Am not going to ruin his relationship with his wife. I believe in karma
But i need to understand why ?
Its my right to know

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Posted by Sagicorn

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

I told you , you don't know me.
No need to insult , i never stopped healing and doing therapy.
He was my real first love.
Years ago when he decided to leave i didnt have my closure.
He left me in front of his door trying to understand
Why. The month we were planning for our wedding.
Just to learn from his best friend that he got married to a woman he met few times.
Do i feel good about it ?
Absolutly not
Am i going to allowed myself to meet him again.
I seriously dont know?
Because i needed my closure.
You do not undersrand how was our relationship and how it ended ?
Am not going to ruin his relationship with his wife. I believe in karma
But i need to understand why ?
Its my right to know
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Wait what?! Am I reading it right or you just expressed it in an odd way - you found out he got married to someone else WHILE he was dating you and that was the reason why he shot the door in front of you and ended things?! Is this what you're saying? And you wanna know why he married someone else instead of you?

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Posted by Truemara

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

I told you , you don't know me.
No need to insult , i never stopped healing and doing therapy.
He was my real first love.
Years ago when he decided to leave i didnt have my closure.
He left me in front of his door trying to understand
Why. The month we were planning for our wedding.
Just to learn from his best friend that he got married to a woman he met few times.
Do i feel good about it ?
Absolutly not
Am i going to allowed myself to meet him again.
I seriously dont know?
Because i needed my closure.
You do not undersrand how was our relationship and how it ended ?
Am not going to ruin his relationship with his wife. I believe in karma
But i need to understand why ?
Its my right to know
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Don’t follow any advise here. Meditate ask what u want
U are within your right to want answers but use your desernment. His marriage is his fuck up not u
If you want t answers then meet him. Stay away from here n infact get help from a therapist
Too many haters here
Too many people who don’t understand
The answers u seek come from within you as to what to do

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Posted by Truemara
FYI I’ve know people in this same situation who forgave n healed back that relationship n are still together.
Love is love remove ego but also be smart n make him show you he’s changed. Life ain’t black n white n everyone here calling you names is alone. So do not get advise here.

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Truemara
FYI I’ve know people in this same situation who forgave n healed back that relationship n are still together.
Love is love remove ego but also be smart n make him show you he’s changed. Life ain’t black n white n everyone here calling you names is alone. So do not get advise here.

Thank you for understanding.
We really were so in love.
And he loved my mother alot
I felt his regret in his emails
He kept saying am sorry i wasnt good to u
And thank you for always beign good and nice to me.
I have alot of questions to ask him .

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Posted by SassyKiwi
It’s obvious you’re currently not in a relationship. If you were, would your partner have liked you considering meeting up with this married ex just for the sake of closure after over a decade? It would speak volume about how you claim to move on from your past and potentially jeopardize the relationship.
If this is truly with “clean intentions” as you claim, then he shouldn’t be hiding any of this from his wife. In fact, it should be ok for his wife to show up at whatever meeting you’re fantasizing about because it’s all innocent, right?

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

I understand there may have been misunderstandings, but I want to clarify that my intentions were never to cause harm.
I simply wanted closure on why things ended the way they did.
I respect his family and our past relationship enough to seek understanding, not to pursue anything inappropriate."

You may BS yourself but you're not fooling anyone here.

You're deluding yourself with rationalizations; you want to rekindle your puppy love/romance. Or at the very least you're very tempted to re-live it if only short-term and are seeking validation and relying on rationalizations to pursue this because you know you're in the wrong here.

You said you have moved on, and had he not contacted you would not be here crying about "needing closure". Just cut the crap and stay away.
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I understand u dont like me because i look like the bad evil guy in this scenario who wants to destroy a family.
But am not really its not my intentions.
I loved him, and he left me without trying to communicate it.
He said in his email that he couldnt forget me or the moments we spent together & that his heart was pumping when he saw my reply to his email.
Yes he asked me to move the tchat to whatsapp and he asked me if possible to meet again.
I didnt reply to that.
I have millions of questions
What he has to say if we will meet?
Do i have to live with that ?
What if it was you?

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Posted by Truemara
Dude is getting a divorce from what I read the marriage is over

Posted by Sagicorn

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Sagicorn

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

I told you , you don't know me.
No need to insult , i never stopped healing and doing therapy.
He was my real first love.
Years ago when he decided to leave i didnt have my closure.
He left me in front of his door trying to understand
Why. The month we were planning for our wedding.
Just to learn from his best friend that he got married to a woman he met few times.
Do i feel good about it ?
Absolutly not
Am i going to allowed myself to meet him again.
I seriously dont know?
Because i needed my closure.
You do not undersrand how was our relationship and how it ended ?
Am not going to ruin his relationship with his wife. I believe in karma
But i need to understand why ?
Its my right to know
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Wait what?! Am I reading it right or you just expressed it in an odd way - you found out he got married to someone else WHILE he was dating you and that was the reason why he shot the door in front of you and ended things?! Is this what you're saying? And you wanna know why he married someone else instead of you?

Its not me who wrote that
He never beign married when we were together of course . He broke up with me and two months later met another one and he got married.
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Ah ok, got it. I didn't think he was married back then, I thought he dated two of you at the same time and decided for the other one so you wanted to ask why.
Well, if it means anything, the Virgo guy I mentioned earlier did the exact same thing. He was engaged with this cancer girl for 2 years I think 🤔 they broke up idk why, soon after that he hooked up with some new girl, knocked her up and they got married. That was all within few months. Why anyone does that is beyond my comprehension lol but imo, something wasn't right in previous relationship. There had to be differences in something - views on life, different plans, different social status even...it's always something and it's never just for the sake of change.

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Posted by elna9814

Posted by Sagicorn

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Sagicorn

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

I told you , you don't know me.
No need to insult , i never stopped healing and doing therapy.
He was my real first love.
Years ago when he decided to leave i didnt have my closure.
He left me in front of his door trying to understand
Why. The month we were planning for our wedding.
Just to learn from his best friend that he got married to a woman he met few times.
Do i feel good about it ?
Absolutly not
Am i going to allowed myself to meet him again.
I seriously dont know?
Because i needed my closure.
You do not undersrand how was our relationship and how it ended ?
Am not going to ruin his relationship with his wife. I believe in karma
But i need to understand why ?
Its my right to know
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Wait what?! Am I reading it right or you just expressed it in an odd way - you found out he got married to someone else WHILE he was dating you and that was the reason why he shot the door in front of you and ended things?! Is this what you're saying? And you wanna know why he married someone else instead of you?

Its not me who wrote that
He never beign married when we were together of course . He broke up with me and two months later met another one and he got married.
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Ah ok, got it. I didn't think he was married back then, I thought he dated two of you at the same time and decided for the other one so you wanted to ask why.
Well, if it means anything, the Virgo guy I mentioned earlier did the exact same thing. He was engaged with this cancer girl for 2 years I think 🤔 they broke up idk why, soon after that he hooked up with some new girl, knocked her up and they got married. That was all within few months. Why anyone does that is beyond my comprehension lol but imo, something wasn't right in previous relationship. There had to be differences in something - views on life, different plans, different social status even...it's always something and it's never just for the sake of change.

I think its a virgo thing.. my sister is a virgo she did the same thing with her ex of 5 years just to meet another man get married the same year and now she has two kids.
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Well, it's a overanalyzing Virgo thing. I'm with Virgo for 12 years. He was dating someone else at start which I found out later. Thing was, he was with that person cause she looked "good on paper" but he didn't like her physical appearance or her behavior. He broke up with her after some tim and he stayed with me cause he loved me. But, imo, most of Virgos will choose ones that are "good on paper" instead, only to regret it later. That's why those situations happen. They are practical people and they neglect their personal preferences sometimes instead of convenience. Meaning they might go for someone they have better use of. Idk what your sister's situation was or that guy, but it gives me that impression cause I've seen it in several of them. I also had a Virgo best friend who dated two Virgo men. First one left her to get married for papers only to keep calling her later and asking to meet again, saying how he misses her and stuff like that. Second one is her husband who gave up on much better job opportunity abroad to stay with her here. So that's the two type of Virgos I guess. Ones pick love over interest and others pick interest over love but regret it later.

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Posted by elna9814

Posted by Sagicorn

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Sagicorn

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

I told you , you don't know me.
No need to insult , i never stopped healing and doing therapy.
He was my real first love.
Years ago when he decided to leave i didnt have my closure.
He left me in front of his door trying to understand
Why. The month we were planning for our wedding.
Just to learn from his best friend that he got married to a woman he met few times.
Do i feel good about it ?
Absolutly not
Am i going to allowed myself to meet him again.
I seriously dont know?
Because i needed my closure.
You do not undersrand how was our relationship and how it ended ?
Am not going to ruin his relationship with his wife. I believe in karma
But i need to understand why ?
Its my right to know
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Wait what?! Am I reading it right or you just expressed it in an odd way - you found out he got married to someone else WHILE he was dating you and that was the reason why he shot the door in front of you and ended things?! Is this what you're saying? And you wanna know why he married someone else instead of you?

Its not me who wrote that
He never beign married when we were together of course . He broke up with me and two months later met another one and he got married.
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Ah ok, got it. I didn't think he was married back then, I thought he dated two of you at the same time and decided for the other one so you wanted to ask why.
Well, if it means anything, the Virgo guy I mentioned earlier did the exact same thing. He was engaged with this cancer girl for 2 years I think 🤔 they broke up idk why, soon after that he hooked up with some new girl, knocked her up and they got married. That was all within few months. Why anyone does that is beyond my comprehension lol but imo, something wasn't right in previous relationship. There had to be differences in something - views on life, different plans, different social status even...it's always something and it's never just for the sake of change.

I think its a virgo thing.. my sister is a virgo she did the same thing with her ex of 5 years just to meet another man get married the same year and now she has two kids.
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Well, it's a overanalyzing Virgo thing. I'm with Virgo for 12 years. He was dating someone else at start which I found out later. Thing was, he was with that person cause she looked "good on paper" but he didn't like her physical appearance or her behavior. He broke up with her after some tim and he stayed with me cause he loved me. But, imo, most of Virgos will choose ones that are "good on paper" instead, only to regret it later. That's why those situations happen. They are practical people and they neglect their personal preferences sometimes instead of convenience. Meaning they might go for someone they have better use of. Idk what your sister's situation was or that guy, but it gives me that impression cause I've seen it in several of them. I also had a Virgo best friend who dated two Virgo men. First one left her to get married for papers only to keep calling her later and asking to meet again, saying how he misses her and stuff like that. Second one is her husband who gave up on much better job opportunity abroad to stay with her here. So that's the two type of Virgos I guess. Ones pick love over interest and others pick interest over love but regret it later.

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Posted by elna9814

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Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

I told you , you don't know me.
No need to insult , i never stopped healing and doing therapy.
He was my real first love.
Years ago when he decided to leave i didnt have my closure.
He left me in front of his door trying to understand
Why. The month we were planning for our wedding.
Just to learn from his best friend that he got married to a woman he met few times.
Do i feel good about it ?
Absolutly not
Am i going to allowed myself to meet him again.
I seriously dont know?
Because i needed my closure.
You do not undersrand how was our relationship and how it ended ?
Am not going to ruin his relationship with his wife. I believe in karma
But i need to understand why ?
Its my right to know
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Wait what?! Am I reading it right or you just expressed it in an odd way - you found out he got married to someone else WHILE he was dating you and that was the reason why he shot the door in front of you and ended things?! Is this what you're saying? And you wanna know why he married someone else instead of you?

Its not me who wrote that
He never beign married when we were together of course . He broke up with me and two months later met another one and he got married.
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Ah ok, got it. I didn't think he was married back then, I thought he dated two of you at the same time and decided for the other one so you wanted to ask why.
Well, if it means anything, the Virgo guy I mentioned earlier did the exact same thing. He was engaged with this cancer girl for 2 years I think 🤔 they broke up idk why, soon after that he hooked up with some new girl, knocked her up and they got married. That was all within few months. Why anyone does that is beyond my comprehension lol but imo, something wasn't right in previous relationship. There had to be differences in something - views on life, different plans, different social status even...it's always something and it's never just for the sake of change.

I think its a virgo thing.. my sister is a virgo she did the same thing with her ex of 5 years just to meet another man get married the same year and now she has two kids.
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Well, it's a overanalyzing Virgo thing. I'm with Virgo for 12 years. He was dating someone else at start which I found out later. Thing was, he was with that person cause she looked "good on paper" but he didn't like her physical appearance or her behavior. He broke up with her after some tim and he stayed with me cause he loved me. But, imo, most of Virgos will choose ones that are "good on paper" instead, only to regret it later. That's why those situations happen. They are practical people and they neglect their personal preferences sometimes instead of convenience. Meaning they might go for someone they have better use of. Idk what your sister's situation was or that guy, but it gives me that impression cause I've seen it in several of them. I also had a Virgo best friend who dated two Virgo men. First one left her to get married for papers only to keep calling her later and asking to meet again, saying how he misses her and stuff like that. Second one is her husband who gave up on much better job opportunity abroad to stay with her here. So that's the two type of Virgos I guess. Ones pick love over interest and others pick interest over love but regret it later.

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Posted by Sagicorn

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Posted by Sagicorn

Posted by elna9814

Posted by Dastard2020
'Seeking perspective'
lol
You're seeking justifications to spread your legs and steal your ex from his current spouse.

I told you , you don't know me.
No need to insult , i never stopped healing and doing therapy.
He was my real first love.
Years ago when he decided to leave i didnt have my closure.
He left me in front of his door trying to understand
Why. The month we were planning for our wedding.
Just to learn from his best friend that he got married to a woman he met few times.
Do i feel good about it ?
Absolutly not
Am i going to allowed myself to meet him again.
I seriously dont know?
Because i needed my closure.
You do not undersrand how was our relationship and how it ended ?
Am not going to ruin his relationship with his wife. I believe in karma
But i need to understand why ?
Its my right to know
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Wait what?! Am I reading it right or you just expressed it in an odd way - you found out he got married to someone else WHILE he was dating you and that was the reason why he shot the door in front of you and ended things?! Is this what you're saying? And you wanna know why he married someone else instead of you?

Its not me who wrote that
He never beign married when we were together of course . He broke up with me and two months later met another one and he got married.
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Ah ok, got it. I didn't think he was married back then, I thought he dated two of you at the same time and decided for the other one so you wanted to ask why.
Well, if it means anything, the Virgo guy I mentioned earlier did the exact same thing. He was engaged with this cancer girl for 2 years I think 🤔 they broke up idk why, soon after that he hooked up with some new girl, knocked her up and they got married. That was all within few months. Why anyone does that is beyond my comprehension lol but imo, something wasn't right in previous relationship. There had to be differences in something - views on life, different plans, different social status even...it's always something and it's never just for the sake of change.

I think its a virgo thing.. my sister is a virgo she did the same thing with her ex of 5 years just to meet another man get married the same year and now she has two kids.
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Well, it's a overanalyzing Virgo thing. I'm with Virgo for 12 years. He was dating someone else at start which I found out later. Thing was, he was with that person cause she looked "good on paper" but he didn't like her physical appearance or her behavior. He broke up with her after some tim and he stayed with me cause he loved me. But, imo, most of Virgos will choose ones that are "good on paper" instead, only to regret it later. That's why those situations happen. They are practical people and they neglect their personal preferences sometimes instead of convenience. Meaning they might go for someone they have better use of. Idk what your sister's situation was or that guy, but it gives me that impression cause I've seen it in several of them. I also had a Virgo best friend who dated two Virgo men. First one left her to get married for papers only to keep calling her later and asking to meet again, saying how he misses her and stuff like that. Second one is her husband who gave up on much better job opportunity abroad to stay with her here. So that's the two type of Virgos I guess. Ones pick love over interest and others pick interest over love but regret it later.
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Yes i think so too , i can feel his energy , he feels guilty he kept asking me if i hate him and that he is sorry for the pain he caused.
I told him that i never hated him.
Then he said < only god knows how much i loved you and how much he respect and adores me >

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