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A match may be made in heaven, but you still have to make it work here on Earth.

Fairy tales make for fun reading, but anyone who has ever been in a serious relationship knows that living "happily ever after" is a day-by-day project. Wouldn't it be nice if someone outside the relationship could point out the potential pitfalls between the two of you and show you ways to avoid them or work through them?

That is just what noted astrologer Bernie Ashman does in SignMates. Stepping far beyond the typical lists of "Leo gets along with --- but is incompatible with ---" he points out the destructive "games" that any two signs are likely to play, gives strategies for overcoming them and points the way to the "rainbow" -- the happy ending of being real with each other every day.
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Aries - Virgo: The Energizers

Aries + Virgo = Restlessness


Aries is ready for the next challenge while in the midst of the previous adventure. Virgo has an inquisitive mind with an impulse to move nervously back and forth to meet the deadlines imposed by multiple challenges. The main difference here is that Aries is inclined to let someone else finish what it starts, while Virgo is bothered by leaving work undone. This may sound like a challenging Sun-sign combination - it is. Aries can motivate Virgo to stop worrying too much about the details and to move forward. Aries does well to listen to Virgo's advice to consider consequences before rushing ahead.

Tornado Game

The games played in your Aries-Virgo relationship are associated with not really listening to each other and with neagting one another's opinions. The Tornado game is born when one or both of you is preoccupied with excitement over a new opportunity. It could be because one of you is nervously focused on getting a job done right. The two of you experience a speeding up of your minds that can rival any funnel cloud. When Aries becomes nervous for too long the stress felt is intense. Aries' anxiety levels increase dramatically when Virgo worries. You can cause each other to worry without even knowing you're doing it. In this game the two of you lose your awareness of the big picture. Each of you becomes so absorbed with the details of your individual lives that the relationships lacks a clear sense of direction. If nobody steers the ship, it drifts at the mercy of the waves. A whirlwind of ideas is produces by the natural chemistry of your sign combination. The blending of your plans and thoughts is challenging to harness at times. Some Aries- Virgo couples panic. Constant yelling and screaming will be a barometer that something is out of balance. If you choose to write off your partner's complaints, resentment will build. Because you can move decisively to solve problems together, it may be difficult to perceive that there is even anything wrong. It can be tempting to hide from the truth. Don't be afraid to clean out the closet once in a while - there is nothing in there that bites!

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We Can't, We Can't Game

This game finds the two of you lost in negativity. Your minds have become absorbed with doubts about your individual and shared potentials. It's amazing how far a little encouragement can go. It's equally startling how a lack of faith can stop even fiery Aries in its tracks. Dependable Virgo's confidence can suffer from the fallout caused by negative reactions. Attaining a "We can" attitude will take that much more practice if the two of you have indulged in too many doubts for too long.

Your minds have a bad habit of first thinking what could be wrong with the relationship. It may be true that you do need to address an issue or two. If you start from a negative perspective the work is nearly impossible to accomplish. Furthermore, it's not much fun being together. It is tiring to be continually reminded of your mistakes or faults. The lack of a positive attitude regarding your shared potentials makes it difficult to find a sense of unity. Even passion is blocked, and sex isn't quite the same. You can feel something is wrong with your connection. It will take a genuine effort to find your way back to a positive connection, but it can be done!

Nine to Five Game

When life falls into a dull routine the two of you may lack the stimulation you need to feel energized. The two of you can delights in exposing one another to new ideas. It is when your everyday life together becomes too predictable that you can become irritable. Your minds seem to lose that edge when you don't make new plans. There is a curiosity that you can enjoy in exploring new business enterprises or hobbies. If you are tied down to the same schedules, day in and day out, it takes the passion out of you. There will be times when you really do have to focus on major projects or take care of serious business. When you forget to even think about spicing up life with travel or other social events you can lose appreciation for one another. Your sign combination thrives on new activities. Take a chance and throw some of that caution to the wind. Let the initial excitement that brought you together in the first place find its way back into your relationship.
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Strategies

How do you rise above the challenge of your Aries-Virgo games? In the Tornado game, the two of you can follow your own interests, but need to keep each other "penciled in" your schedules. Make big decisions together. Sometimes it's easy to get so swept away by the momentum of a new direction that you forget to include your partner. Aries can ride a wave of enthusiasm to new creative heights. Although Virgo is not known for the same fiery intensity as Aries, Virgo's mental power can suddenly propel Virgo forward. In an Aries - Virgo relationship, there is a common need to put ideas into motion. Aries usually leaps into action. Virgo may first analyze an idea, but is still capable of moving with great intensity. The Tornado game usually is more disruptive when you are not communicating clearly. You probably assume that you are being understood, but you will not always be able to read each other's minds. The excitement that change brings to you is worthwhile because it keeps your hearts and minds alert. If you pay attention to what each is pursuing, you are not likely to drift apart.

In the We Can't, We Can't game, you might need to retrain your minds to think more positively. It does take practice. Channeling your energies into constructive projects together is a way out of the maze of negative thinking. A little belief in your partner brings out your best. There may be a hidden anger at the root of this game. It could be that old issues that have never been discussed are in the way. Resentful feelings can keep either of you from seeing a more positive picture. Addressing previous issues can pave the way to greater happiness. Sometimes it takes only one failed experience together to convince a couple that future endeavors will turn out as badly. It takes courage to think more positively. One succesful venture together can turn this around. Often it is the weight of one small success that tips the scales in the favor of a more positive outlook.

The Nine to Five game only requires that you free your imagination to explore stimulating options. If you just give yourself a chance, it is easy to make life more exciting. Although everyone needs routines to establish stability, allowing for new experiences recharges your romantic instincts. The same schedule can dull your passion and creatiity, while changing your daily patterns can bring in a ray of sunshine. Your relationship can benefit from spontaneity. Surprising your partner with a gift, or going to an unusual place, does pay dividends.
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The Rainbow

Through your Aries-Virgo relationship you can learn to be loyal to each other's goals. The push you give each other to go after your dreams can make your hearts grow fond of one another. You can be good partners in business and love.

An Aries man can appreciate the steadiness of a Virgo woman. She is entertained by watching him run in circles around her, while she moves systematically ahead. He hopes his impulsive actions won't disturb this well-organized female. The Ram is surprised to see that this woman can switch from being a serious-minded worked to being a fun-loving lover. He learns quickly that she responds to those who show a serious interest in knowing the real her.

The Virgo woman is moved by the Aries man's determination to move mountains. He always seems to be in a hurry to be somewhere. She does wish that the Ram could occasionally enjoy the moment before allowing himself to be enticed into the next chase. Her perceptions are governed by primal instincts that have developed into fine powers of discrimnination. Her common sense tells her that he is a risk and a half. The Mercurian woman would rather listen to mischevious whispers that coax her to let go and take a wild ride. After all, does she always need to know exactly where her feet might land?

The Aries Woman is attracted to the Virgo man's sense of self-assuredness when he talks about his accomplishments. She tries to build his confidence so he will be a match for her. He may be aware she is doing this, and does he like it! The flame-throwing logic of the Ram certainly burns right through his normally reserved thoughts. The Aries woman immediately sees that this cooly rational man is enthralled with her take-charge spirit. She is glad to see that he can take the lead. She becomes confused if she always must be the initiation. She is delighted to see he is a very attentive lover. She brainstorms ways to break him free from his thoughts so that he can be a free spirit.

The Virgo man meticulously tries to analyze the Aries woman. He hates to admit it, but her unpredictability turns him on. Most of his world is labeled, but not this complicated woman. He does wish that she wasn's to direct at times. Then again, he does like the way she makes her ideas known. He gets the message that he needs to be fast on the draw if he is going to capture this woman's interest. She seems to want his patience to be balanced with assertiveness. He observes that this outgoing feminine spirit is happier when he is acting rather than thinking.

This is a particularly good match sexually. Fire and earth often enjoy each other's bodies. It's often true of your two signs. You know how to awaken each other's sensuality. If you are clever enough to choose careers or businesses that don't prove to be too exhausting, the time spent together is filled with passion.
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You can give a boost to one another's wealth. Problem-solving can bring your best talents. When you put your heads together, few couples can match your ability to find a way out of a jam. You will find yourself working together late into the night to overcome obstacles. You are a strong duo in a crisis, and are great allies when taking on new challenges. You share inventiveness in blazing career trails. You can offer each other tips from your experiences that could save you many steps in climbing the ladder of success. What you need the most is time. When you tune in to the habits and reasoning powers of one another, the days together are not so tedious. They are downright enjoyable!
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It is seriously a day by day project lol. Now I am interested in this.
We should all contribute to a book? The dxp cookbook and the swimsuit calendar (it's for charity sheesh) didn't really take off 🙂


That's actually not a bad idea. I mean, in a way that's what we're doing when we write our thoughts on dxp, except the site owner pockets the revenue.
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I'm sure Duncan is collecting info for every sign from this site.. And if he isn't , he should because some of the shit being posted on these boards is astrology gold. Lol