So I hurt him and dumped him but I want him back

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by risphoenix on Monday, July 16, 2012 and has 39 replies.
I know yall are tired of females coming on here askin for advice but I really need help! I dumped my man for not listening to my concerns all he would tell me is if thats how you feel then feel that way...wtf? how did he go from being the sweetest person I know to the devil himself.. mind I tell you this is over his dogs..lol.. they are at the top of his list not me.. I know it may sound funny but Im not exaggerating in the least. He will go all out for these furry creatures but when it comes to me I have to ask... my thing is ..he knows how to be considerate I see how he treats his dogs .. but all of a sudden he stops treatin me with consideration..do you need help? are u ok? it slowly started to fade along with his things from my apt..lol wtf?
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"me, me, me"
it takes two to tango. WHY must women insist that men do all the work in relationships? that they must do all the nurturing? please, I wouldn't give up anything for my dogs, let alone a whiny girl who's going to dump me over an issue AS TRIVIAL as the attention I give to my pets... you're seriously jealous of... his dogs?? hold old are you? you storm out with a smart "it's me or them" attitude and now you sit here pouting over HIS behavior... lol that is the most assanine thing I have ever heard of. how would you expect anyone to want to put up with you...
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Pets give unconditional love. They never betray or cheat.
My vote goes to the dogs too.
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Posted by risphoenix
I dumped my man for not listening to my concerns all he would tell me is if thats how you feel then feel that way...wtf? how did he go from being the sweetest person I know to the devil himself..



If he is telling you that it's ok for you to feel that way, then it means he listened .. otherwise, he would respond with .. "what did you just say"
I would like to know what is wrong with a man allowing you to feel as you need to feel .. because there are plenty of control freaks out there who would attempt to force you .. oh wait, you know all about being a control freak, don't you?

Posted by risphoenix
... my thing is ..he knows how to be considerate I see how he treats his dogs .. but all of a sudden he stops treatin me with consideration..do you need help? are u ok?

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It's really disgusting that you are jealous of his dogs. And what is wrong with him asking if you are ok?

You must be flipping out on him, then, if he is asking if you need help .... I can just imagine .... here this man loves his dogs and instead of you sharing in the joy, you'd rather be in contempt.

You know .. this problem has absolutely nothing to do with his dogs .... and everything to do with you being a brat
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I wonder what type of dogs they were F the topic this is the usual oh shit I slipped and fell on the ice one of my legs broke and the crutches wont work, fuck.
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Posted by P-Angel

.... here this man loves his dogs and instead of you sharing in the joy, you'd rather be in contempt.
You know .. this problem has absolutely nothing to do with his dogs .... and everything to do with you being a brat


sorry, but dead on.
you would benefit from PARTAKING in his life with his dogs... learn a little. appreciate who he is. appreciate the animals, because there is no greater friendship. cause that's what happens when two people come together harmoniously... they share their lives with one another...
you're apparently not the sharing type, rather-- you want and demand entirely.
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Muhahaaahahahahahahahahah.
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really? thats the advise you guys give? yall dont know how stingy he was with money and im a very giving person ..yes I do want him back cause I know I made a mistake now how many of yall virgos can actually admit to makin a mistake ..very rare..but as for him askin me if I was ok those were examples he never asked.. and guess what Im not a dog person he knew that and for him to make sure the dog is more comfortable than me yea I do have a problem with that.. I came on here asking for advise but all yall are doing is makin a big joke out of the whole thing are yall effin serious?
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The question you should ask him is it's eithier the dogs or me. But then again his descision has been made so maybe you can become a dog person or just a understanding one that knows he likes his dogs and you to. The first post talks about dogs now your saying something about money explain the whole story and please dont introduce cats. Tongue
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and most virgos are animal people so its so typical for you guys to root for the dogs I dont have a problem with the dogs its a big difference in how he has unconditional love for them and I have unconditional love for him but he does not have that with me .. he gets upset with things that are out of my control and I can not change the fact that Im in this state and his past is in another .. he is very jealous but if yall dont have any positive advise to give go to hell cause I came here trying to correct a problem and just like a virgo that yall are you look out for the negative .. Is there any positive ones willing to spread some knowledge here? cause Im not feedin into yall b.s. about what the hell I did wrong .. how old are yall? actin like 12 year olds plzzz I wouldnt want advise from yall anyway..
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Im trying to get comfortable with them I have tried... I really do love him and I know I have to compromise cause I love him
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Posted by risphoenix
and most virgos are animal people so its so typical for you guys to root for the dogs I dont have a problem with the dogs its a big difference in how he has unconditional love for them and I have unconditional love for him but he does not have that with me .. how old are yall? actin like 12 year olds plzzz I wouldnt want advise from yall anyway..


A) you do not love him unconditionally. dogs = a condition = you dumping him: ergo, your love? = not unconditional. ok. you're actually being what's called hypocritical.
B) why the hell would he give you unconditional love anyway. who are you to him, exactly? his dogs will always be there until either he dies or they die. you on the other hand, you already left him. so much for love huh?
C) everything you have said so far has absolutely no value here because you have not provided any reasonable foundation for your arguments whatsoever. the only faults you have reported against him are that he is "stingy" with money (and that's a bad thing why...?) and he's not paying attention to YOU (like a f*cking 5 yr old girl who cries in the supermarket).
D) all you seem to care about is YOURSELF and HIS MONEY spent on... oh wait... YOURSELF? unconditional... right.
E) you can't even spell properly; I guess you're too lazy for some apostrophes? either way, don't go accusing these fine ladies and gents of THEIR advise and vocabulary.
F) you're JUST like every other selfish, immature, clueless girl who comes on here whining about how my bf doesn't do this, my bf is so mean, why won't he this... grow up. get outside. read a book. evolve. start acting like a responsible young woman already. stop being so dependent on EVERYONE else. guess what sweet pea, life is a fat ole mess out there, and you're gonna need to learn how to handle your big whiny self. stop putting your own insecurities on your relationships; stop putting them on some poor guy who you think is supposed to kiss your feet & buy you the world so you can go to sleep at night thinking you love yourself. start appreciating people for what they are and be simple!
E) I could go on, but honestly you're naive, rude, ungracious, and annoying, AND I'm over it. besides, it's not like you're going to take any of this for what it's worth anyway. good luck to you.
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G)* f*ck, whatever, better than you can do
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SO you go as far as how I do not proof read and my spelling wow! you just just proved me right about how your like a 12 yr old you dumb @ss! and your over it but you write me a fucking novel .. and if you dont know the whole story then why do you think your answers are correct? how do you even give answers and KNOW what your saying is right if you dont know everything? Right... like I said before if you have no positive advice then shut the hell up thank you smile and whining?? your a freakin virgo for god sakes you do enough of that for me and you both ..stupid broad why even respond ??
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and its EGO jack ass not ergo ..smh..why am I even wasting my breath on that I should have let you go on living life thinking you can spell..lmao!
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*NEWSFLASH*
Everyone who comments here IS NOT A VIRGO, obvi. So while you're jumping to conclusions stating how negative Virgos are, most of the people who commented here are not. They're giving their comments about your situation because of what??? IT'S A PUBLIC FORUM. Word of advice, don't come on a PUBLIC forum with your "problems" if you don't want to hear the truth. No one is here to butter you up. You made a thread, people commented. DEAL WITH IT.
You want someone to kiss your ass, no wonder ole boy chose his dogs over you. I'd choose them to rather than be involved with a insecure, immature fool such as yourself. Who the hell gets jealous about fucking dogs? You should embrace the fact that he puts alot of effort & care into them. HELLO...that should be an indicator of how he treats people in general & you should respect it. He dodged a bullet. Kudos to him.
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Posted by risphoenix
and its EGO jack ass not ergo ..smh..why am I even wasting my breath on that I should have let you go on living life thinking you can spell..lmao!


er??go (??rg, ?r-)
conj.
consequently; therefore.
adv.
consequently; hence.
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and I'm not a virgo, thank you.
all you're doing now is picking a personal fight, you still have yet to support any of your claims seriously...
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that's fine though. I responded because I was trying to show you some common sense...
oh well, now my gemini mars is all riled up lika snarlay dowg! so come at me!

oh wait.
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not ONCE in your initial post or any post since have you said that you would even acknowledge that you're sorry. not once have you thought about apologizing to him. instead, you rant about it's his fault and his issue to deal with. there's just nothing wrong with your behavior and that's that.
so what, exactly, did you come here for if you won't consider anyone else's views but your own?
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Posted by doubletrouble
A) you do not love him unconditionally. dogs = a condition = you dumping him: ergo, your love? = not unconditional.





Posted by risphoenix
and its EGO jack ass not ergo ..smh..

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omyfucking ... lol
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Posted by Layna
Posted by doubletrouble
... my gemini mars...


Yay, Gem Mars! ???
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3rd that
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Posted by risphoenix
.. and guess what Im not a dog person he knew that and for him to make sure the dog is more comfortable than me yea I do have a problem with that..




Are you saying that because he knew you weren't a dog person, then he had an obligation to YOU not take care of his animals?
What does him ((((knowing)))) you don't like dogs have to do with the equation?

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Wait so ask for advice about your mans dog relationship get mad at the advice call everybody thats not Virgo's a Virgo something about money was added into the mix. Then you say how bla bla bla you cant say anything without the full story but the person who told the story told half.
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Posted by Layna
Think about it.




I have an inkling that thinking isn't her fortay
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Here's a thought ....... in knowing he loves his pets, is his soft spot = where you should aimed to CATCH him

I know, I know .... entitled Princesses don't work, they sit back and waited to conquered .. silly me
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Posted by P-Angel
Posted by Layna
Think about it.




I have an inkling that thinking isn't her fortay
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The brain part is missing. -,-
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Posted by P-Angel
Posted by Layna
Posted by doubletrouble
... my gemini mars...


Yay, Gem Mars! ???



3rd that
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it's a wicked little thing, isn't it Winking
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It sounds like a case of little issues, disappointments, and dissatisfaction that accumulated over time that you never openly resolved with him, and then the dogs tipped the scale...
The only thing to realize and understand about your situation is that Virgos really cherish the things they own and the people they allow into their life. If you are someone or something of significance, he will go to the ends of the world to protect and make sure you are safe and well taken care of. If he had not made concessions to resolve the issues you have with him and allowed you to leave that easily , unfortunately, he may not be that interested.
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Wow, it must be hard being a little spoiled princess.
I could understand your wtfery to an extent, but as others have pointed out, he clearly didn't think of you as much as you expected him to. To that, why would you want that back?
But in turn, you've proven what a self centered prick you are. Also mentioned- you have taken no blame or apologized for your share of wtfery.
Also, lol @ not knowing what "ergo" is.
Poor thing. You should grow out of it... sometime soon. Chicks like you disgust me. You're why the rest of the relatively normal, non stereotypical women have to fight against these stereotypes.
Do the entire male species a favor and DON'T date until you can get some control over your propensity of being gold digging attention whore.
(Just so you know, "propensity" means having a tendency to behave a certain way.)
AND in regard to your predicament, leave him alone and go work on your issues a bit. It'd be one thing if you actually acknowledged how you screwed up and want to fix that, but all you've proven is that you should be avoided like the plague. Leave the poor guy alone.
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Tempers?
I'm not aware of anyone getting angry in this thread, except for the creator who is mad because she is the center of the Virgo's universe .. his dogs are.
However, that isn't even the truth. When one reads between the lines, they can see that his actions in giving the canines more attention is deliberate. So, this means, he realizes that it causes her to cram corn cobs up her ass.

Posted by risphoenix
how did he go from being the sweetest person I know .....
... all of a sudden he stops treatin me with consideration ..




He was a nice guy to her, according to her, who was sweet and considerate .... then suddenly, he becomes an asshole to her. This means that she has done something to him to create this attitude in him.
That means .. she is completely ignoring any self accountibility in this, and putting ALL blame on him.
Even the Virgo, himself, who is personally involved, has stopped considerations with her .. according to her. Now, if Virgos are going to believe of themselves as being wholesome people who wouldn't be assholes to a person for no reason, then the same Virgos cannot come in here and pretend as though she's innocent.
capice ?
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When you break ppl down and show them the fragments that they really are they have no choice but to show some type of emotion. It's in there nature.
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Poor thing just delete the thread and go talk this over with a friend. These people will not give you empathy they will judge and critize you.
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risphoenix - I think you need to distance yourself for a bit...not play games...but Virgos are complex and can't be coerced into changing just because it makes you feel bad...they are intrigued by those who do not need them...so the very fact that he sees this as a need for you is the very reason why he will continue his behavior...nothing makes a Virgo want something more than someone not wanting them...AND if he does not come looking for you then you are better off just moving on...
Octoberbaby91 - I've noticed that on here a lot lately...this used to be a much friendlier place to come and voice concerns without being judged...
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3 yrs old thread? smh.
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I know, right.

When the Stupid Scorpio posted her shit .... I just smh
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