storytime - my virgo “boyfriends” crazy ex

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by princesstreatment on Tuesday, March 28, 2023 and has 14 replies.
i wanna know the compatibility based off of our charts and anything (opinion, advice) based off of what happened between us please;


(im a leo)

me and this guy met each other a year ago. i used to hang out with his friends and him, had a lot of fun and we were hitting it off. during out situationship a girl (capricorn) dmed me on instagram through vanish mode asking me if i liked him and ofc i said yea, adding the fact that he likes me back too, the girl followed that by saying that she likes him too but i shrugged it off or something since i trusted him to stay by my side. he did but the weird thing about that is that i went to see him the next day and he just randomly mentioned that he had a dream about her but i didnt let him see me being jealous although i was even convinced that she manifested him or something like that. the same girl who texted me struck our attention during that time because of a situation in which she abused his ex (our another acquaintance) by pulling and dragging him by his hair. we briefly discussed it by of course saying how crazy it is to even think of doing that to a person and especially your s/o. he went to a ski trip for a week, texted me dryly and then left me on delivered for days. he didnt even text me that he came back from the trip. the same day he came back, i stumbled upon him at a local place and confronted him about the texts but instead of acknowledging my emotions, he invalidated them, shrugged it off, called me a drama queen and cynically said sorry while walking away. i cut contact w him after that. and the next thing i know is that hes texting that girl and getting into a relationship with her a week (or two) later WHEN HE WAS SAYING THAT HE WASNT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP AND WAS TAKING IT SLOW (W ME IN REALITY)


i painfully but quickly got over him. him and that girl were together for a year or so and i didnt even look their way, i was only acquaintances with the girl and happened to find myself in situations in which she was in too, she didnt bother me either, although im thinking now that i shouldnt have let that first thing slide since, then she “accidentally” made him and i get into the same situations in then which i childishly ignored his even presence. this girl even texted my best friend (taurus) sending her screenshots of his dms where he and his friend were shittalking my bestfriend, saying nasty things. naturally resulting in my friend not liking him as a person


anyhoo, a year into their relationship, my same best friend was throwing a party where everyone with our approval was invited, the guests and i wanted to smoke 🍃 and were planning to buy some when the girl texted me saying she and her friend had some and wanted to come over, my bsf approved it since we already were planning on smoking but to our suprise she brought over him and his friend without letting us know (how she did it w me numerous times) (specifically the two people who were shit talking the party host according to her) the second they stepped foot into the house my bsf became furious since we didnt know those two were coming too, so she told them to either prove that the texts were false or that those 4 were leaving the party. in the end, i was figuring out the situation instead of my bsf and was discussing it w him, my bsf and his friend privately without her. it turned out that the girl herself was talking shit abt my bsf (even worse things than him), faked the screenshots, was publicly accusing him of shittalking her when in reality she was the bitch in the summary. me and my bsf decided to cut contact with her and her friend off completely and he took it as an opportunity too (adding onto his own personal reasonings)


me and him reunited as friends and surely we took it romantically. everything was going great, we were going on dates, here and there he gifted me his electric guitar, polaroid pictures, we met each others families and basically were love bombing each other and the relationship was better than ours a year ago but the problems we were facing now was that he had just gone out of a toxic traumatic relationship, in which according to his words “he lost himself” and was going through a tough time. which i respected, i was giving him space and time, was maximally reassuring him that we didnt need to rush anything. although im sure he knew what kind of a relationship he was getting into and that he was in it for the thrill of “fixing that girl”. as i said, everything was going great but that crazy ex was still coming in contact w him because she didnt get closure (reasoning understood, actions not excused); he blocked her everywhere and was actually putting in effort to move on from her


i wish i was exaggerating or kidding while saying this, i was supposed to meet up with him and my friends to go a concert when that bitch of a girl crossed and jumped me in the street out of nowhere screaming, cursing at me, pulling me by my hair, punching me with her hands and legs ALL IN THE CENTRALS PUBLIC. my bulky guy friend was barely able to help me out, strangers were helping me out and cussing her out and stuff. as soon as i got her off of me, my friend pulled me out and took me away from her. i immediately call him saying

“to fucking be here in a motherfucking second”. he came, was furious and wanted to talk to her but it turned into a even more complicated mess and well jesuss, we finally left to go to the concert and had our first kiss💀


even after that, the girl was still threatening to hurt me and do stuff to me, i was even thinking of suing, literally bought a taser and stuff. anyway, somehow me and that girl thanks to my dear gemini friend (in gemini we trust🙏) me and the girl talked it out, and my friend shook some sense into her or whatever and we got it over with. as soon as the crazy ex dramas got over with, the guy (the one and only virgo) started the mental health talk, was self diagnosing himself with schizophrenia (associates himself w rappers who relate to that💀💀), started saying how he didnt want anything in life, nor food nor water (couldnt even say directly that he didnt want me) and explained how he saw me in the same position as he was in with his ex, during which i said that if he resonated with his literally crazy ex then i didnt see this relationship having any potential but i added that if that wasnt the case and if it was just about his happiness then id be able to “put up with it” since i dont have any unresolved mental issues, am surrounded with friends who do have mental health issues, am still genuinely happy and think that id make him happy too if he tried. he still pushed me away and we came to the conclusion that logically he needed a break because he “just got out of a relationship” whilst he was doing good throughout the rest of the relationship, and im not the only one who witnessed our relationship, our friends saw us having fun and being happy together too.


we took a break, i was devastated, missed him and got frustrated since he didnt consider my feelings, i hid him from all my stories knowing that virgos still lurk and stalk after no contact and he texted me, asking the reasoning for it. i pettily replied that “i hid my stories from you in order for you to “push me away” more easily” he got confused, made me repeat the answer and then left me on seen


we didnt text after that, i got more frustrated, almost sent a paragraph explaining the situation, my emotions and stuff but i just sent this; “you had the potential to be in a great relationship and im saddened by the fact that you couldnt see that” next day he sends me, guess what? SKULL EMOJIS “💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀” i immediately understood that he was immature and that he couldnt take anything or at least relationships seriously and left him at that message


then someone tells me he went back to his ex, him telling her how he cut contact with me, didnt even get back with her and blamed?accused? my friends of shittalking his crazy ex???


that was my final straw and i realized that the relationship was or had turned into a one sided relationship, wanted to have the open doors between both me and his ex and that he wanted to have the possibility of using me


and my friends, that is the emotional rollercoaster i went through during the pisces season (the time of my moon 😄)
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my chart;

leo sun (1st house)

moon in pisces (9th house)

leo rising

mercury in cancer (12th house)

venus in virgo (2nd house)

mars in taurus (11th house)

jupiter in saggitarius (5th house)

saturn in leo (2nd house)

uranus in pisces (9th house)

neptune in aquarius (8th house)

pluto in sagittarius (5th house)

lilith in scorpio (4th house)

chiron in aquarius (7th house)

south node in virgo (2nd house)

north node in pisces (8th house)


his chart;

sun in virgo (2nd house)

moon in libra (2nd house)

leo rising

mercury in libra (3rd house)

venus in virgo (2nd house)

mars in libra (3rd house)

jupiter in scorpio (4th house)

saturn in leo (1st house)

uranus in pisces (8th house)

neptune in aquarius (6th house)

pluto in sagittarius (5th house)

lilith in virgo (2nd house)

chiron in aquarius (6th house)

south node in virgo (2nd house)

north node in pisces (8th house)


i really thought we were compatible for each other, or i may have thought that because he had my inner moon side in his “life purpose” as north node or something :,)
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just give it a minute


virgos always regret going for capricorns
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It sounds like you handled that pretty well and that chick has serious problems and got into his head. As a Virgo I can tell you he cares for her and that is what's being used here. It's normal to care for others. The kind of relationship and boundaries is what helps keep things in check.

I'd be more interested in seeing his and her chart with aspects then her and him. See what kind of hold they have on each other or her over him.


Mental health is contagious when you are "open" towards someone and don't have a strong sense of self to handle the rollercoaster ride they are going through while trying to figure out themselves.

This was a problem of my past self. Lol I've gotten much better at handling situations like this after learning the hardest way🤣
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Posted by virgoOPPP
just give it a minute

virgos always regret going for capricorns
ive considered the fact that its highly likely that hell come back but despite my feelings for him i dont think im gonna let him back. either way, he might realize himself that he made a mistake but idk if my message was clear enough that its mostly but not only because of him returning to his ex (the urge of me explaining it to him or getting closure is bugging me on the inside still)
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Compatibility is based on maturity, patience and flexibility. Not your chart.


The chart just shows you bumps you may run into, but anything can be sorted out if the desire is there.


To wrap this up, you're wasting your time. But he's already put you on the emotional rollercoaster and has caused you to invest in this fruitless situationship.


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He's probably having great sex with her crazy ass, which keeps her around cause she's fun.


Take yourself out of the equation and let him have her, since he can't stay away from her and she tried to fight you.

He's probably finding it amusing. He doesn't have respect for either one of you.
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Posted by saggurl88
He's probably having great sex with her crazy ass, which keeps her around cause she's fun.

Take yourself out of the equation and let him have her, since he can't stay away from her and she tried to fight you.
He's probably finding it amusing. He doesn't have respect for either one of you.
only thing earth signs got going for each other is sex


like can't imagine anyone romanticizing that in their brain unless they're one of the more delusional sun signs


or his moon
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Posted by StubbornSagittarius
It was one sided from the start. And why on earth would you want anything to do with that insane person? He's obviously way much worse than his ex so why not get over it and find yourself a normal person. There is nothing you have to regret about him. Well instead of the event woth his ex and water time in any contact with him
ive realized that its not even the person who im attached to but to the way he made me feel, only thing right now that i need is time in order for me to move on. i was only giving myself a reality check while writing this. even if he comes back im not nor was planning on taking him back, thankfully
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Posted by LuckyLibra7
Compatibility is based on maturity, patience and flexibility. Not your chart.

The chart just shows you bumps you may run into, but anything can be sorted out if the desire is there.

To wrap this up, you're wasting your time. But he's already put you on the emotional rollercoaster and has caused you to invest in this fruitless situationship.


thank you for your feedback, i wasnt really trynna see the compatibility more trynna understand how our placements clashed with each other that possibly had an influence on this whole situation, trynna see what couldve led him even come to this point
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Posted by virgoOPPP
Posted by saggurl88
He's probably having great sex with her crazy ass, which keeps her around cause she's fun.
Take yourself out of the equation and let him have her, since he can't stay away from her and she tried to fight you.
He's probably finding it amusing. He doesn't have respect for either one of you.


only thing earth signs got going for each other is sex

like can't imagine anyone romanticizing that in their brain unless they're one of the more delusional sun signs

or his moon
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exactly, before we took a break and split up he was obviously doing fine but since he romanticizes mental instability in other girls he thought that id romanticize it in him too
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Posted by princesstreatment
Posted by virgoOPPP
Posted by saggurl88
He's probably having great sex with her crazy ass, which keeps her around cause she's fun.
Take yourself out of the equation and let him have her, since he can't stay away from her and she tried to fight you.
He's probably finding it amusing. He doesn't have respect for either one of you.


only thing earth signs got going for each other is sex
like can't imagine anyone romanticizing that in their brain unless they're one of the more delusional sun signs
or his moon
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exactly, before we took a break and split up he was obviously doing fine but since he romanticizes mental instability in other girls he thought that id romanticize it in him too
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i'm a virgo who used to be with a capricorn (who cheated on me) and quite frankly, i've put up with a lot of really controlling behaviors from him and part of that was the fact that i don't care much for driving in both the literal and metaphorical sense, know what i mean? and the fact that it feels like a comforting routine. as for mental instability, idk but i tend to attract people with problems but that's coz i don't really see why i should bother people who are doing well. i need to feel like i contribute something to the table.


but then, virgos come in varieties. and virgo men are especially random. there's something about her and whatever they've had that he can't psychologically let go of... yet. no worries, he'll discard her eventually as we do. tho i wouldn't suggest waiting around for someone like that.
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Posted by virgoOPPP
Posted by princesstreatment
Posted by virgoOPPP
Posted by saggurl88
He's probably having great sex with her crazy ass, which keeps her around cause she's fun.
Take yourself out of the equation and let him have her, since he can't stay away from her and she tried to fight you.
He's probably finding it amusing. He doesn't have respect for either one of you.



only thing earth signs got going for each other is sex
like can't imagine anyone romanticizing that in their brain unless they're one of the more delusional sun signs
or his moon
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exactly, before we took a break and split up he was obviously doing fine but since he romanticizes mental instability in other girls he thought that id romanticize it in him too
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i'm a virgo who used to be with a capricorn (who cheated on me) and quite frankly, i've put up with a lot of really controlling behaviors from him and part of that was the fact that i don't care much for driving in both the literal and metaphorical sense, know what i mean? and the fact that it feels like a comforting routine. as for mental instability, idk but i tend to attract people with problems but that's coz i don't really see why i should bother people who are doing well. i need to feel like i contribute something to the table.

but then, virgos come in varieties. and virgo men are especially random. there's something about her and whatever they've had that he can't psychologically let go of... yet. no worries, he'll discard her eventually as we do. tho i wouldn't suggest waiting around for someone like that.
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ive dived deeper into virgos heads and not only understand but even resonate with wanting to make the person you love better and happier if i think im capable of it (venus in virgo) but there has to be a limit, she literally abused him and the things he put up with during that relationship is unbelievable, its sad bc hes literally traumatized now. i get the going with the flow thing and finding comfort in it too (mutable sign thing) but i wont ever understand how he let himself get to that point bc its literally about bare self respect and im losing the desire to even think about taking him back everday, more as the time goes on
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