The games Virgos play
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by gslove on Tuesday, August 1, 2006 and has 6 replies.
I was convinced that my Virgo was not a game player and that he was still interested in me, but now I'm not so sure. I thought he was just being shy or unsure or something. He keeps showing up at places where he knows I hang out and acting like he wants to get back into my life, but he never asks me out. I thought maybe it was because he wasn't sure how I feel and he doesn't want to get rejected and Everyone told me that he needs a little encouragement from me that I would say yes, so I went to a wine tasting last night and it just happened to be in somebody's house that lives in the same condo complex that he just moved into so I called him (which I never do) and left this message:
"You are never going to guess where I am right now? I am in your building at a wine tasting event. I had no idea I was going to be coming to your address. Isn't that funny? Why don't you come over and have some wine and meet your neighbor if you don't have any plans." Then I left the condo number where I was. I still have not gotten any response at all from him. Not even a no thank you or thanks for the invite. I just don't get it. He is always the first one to come up and talk to me or sit down with when he sees me. I guess it's just all in my own head that he still has an interest in me. If he still had an interest wouldn't that phone call make him contact me? I'm usually not wrong about these things but I guess I am. If he is not interested then why does he keep coming around? Do you guys think he is playing a game with me? Is he doing that thing where he is just still feeling me out and seeing if he can trust me before he asks me out? Somebody please give me some insight into this frustrating person.
:-) I know I just need to come out and ask him, but the time never seems right to ask him.
"You are never going to guess where I am right now? I am in your building at a wine tasting event. I had no idea I was going to be coming to your address. Isn't that funny? Why don't you come over and have some wine and meet your neighbor if you don't have any plans." Then I left the condo number where I was. I still have not gotten any response at all from him. Not even a no thank you or thanks for the invite. I just don't get it. He is always the first one to come up and talk to me or sit down with when he sees me. I guess it's just all in my own head that he still has an interest in me. If he still had an interest wouldn't that phone call make him contact me? I'm usually not wrong about these things but I guess I am. If he is not interested then why does he keep coming around? Do you guys think he is playing a game with me? Is he doing that thing where he is just still feeling me out and seeing if he can trust me before he asks me out? Somebody please give me some insight into this frustrating person.
:-) I know I just need to come out and ask him, but the time never seems right to ask him.
I always play games with my Virgo cousin (He' 23)
He only laughs only if I involve sex in my jokes.
He only laughs only if I involve sex in my jokes.
Thanks Dyr,
The running theme here seems to be that I am always feeling rejected by him which I realize is my own issues. No, I'm not sure if he got the message, but I find it hard to believe that he didn't get it. But I also don't believe that he would be so mean to not to have at least called back or at least sent an e-mail saying Thanks for the invite. This is why I don't make more effort with him. He is so unpredictable. This is a lot of the reasons we had problems before when we were dating. We would have really great nights together and I would feel like there was some real progress being made and he would treat me like a princess and then the next time we would go out he would be sending me home at the end of the night and rejecting me and pulling away in a nice way of course. It was push and pull the whole time. When I confronted him about this he freaked out so much that he moved away. So now that he is back the problem is that my guard is up and I don't make efforts like I used to and I am afraid to communicate with him because of my fear of rejection and his efforts are so small, but yet I feel that there is still such a spark between us but just so much fear on both of our parts. I don't know what is wrong with me that I can't get this guy out of my mind. It worries me that I am all hung up on a guy that makes me feel so crazy all the time. I think it's because I've seen his potential and if I could just get him to not be so scared he would come around, but in order for that to work I need to get rejection proof and realize that his actions have nothing to do with me and that they are all about his fears that were developed with his horrible last relationship. I really need to confront him once and for all so that we can get something started or I can just get some closure and move on. Anyway, I don't think I will react well when I see him again and he acknowledges that he did get the message and he just decided to ignore it. I won't make a scene or anything like that, but I will probably just act like it didn't bother me at all and just make some excuse to get away from him quickly. I know Dy that you are thinking that doing that won't solve my problem though and it would be better to confront him with this stuff. I know, I know!!!! :-)
The running theme here seems to be that I am always feeling rejected by him which I realize is my own issues. No, I'm not sure if he got the message, but I find it hard to believe that he didn't get it. But I also don't believe that he would be so mean to not to have at least called back or at least sent an e-mail saying Thanks for the invite. This is why I don't make more effort with him. He is so unpredictable. This is a lot of the reasons we had problems before when we were dating. We would have really great nights together and I would feel like there was some real progress being made and he would treat me like a princess and then the next time we would go out he would be sending me home at the end of the night and rejecting me and pulling away in a nice way of course. It was push and pull the whole time. When I confronted him about this he freaked out so much that he moved away. So now that he is back the problem is that my guard is up and I don't make efforts like I used to and I am afraid to communicate with him because of my fear of rejection and his efforts are so small, but yet I feel that there is still such a spark between us but just so much fear on both of our parts. I don't know what is wrong with me that I can't get this guy out of my mind. It worries me that I am all hung up on a guy that makes me feel so crazy all the time. I think it's because I've seen his potential and if I could just get him to not be so scared he would come around, but in order for that to work I need to get rejection proof and realize that his actions have nothing to do with me and that they are all about his fears that were developed with his horrible last relationship. I really need to confront him once and for all so that we can get something started or I can just get some closure and move on. Anyway, I don't think I will react well when I see him again and he acknowledges that he did get the message and he just decided to ignore it. I won't make a scene or anything like that, but I will probably just act like it didn't bother me at all and just make some excuse to get away from him quickly. I know Dy that you are thinking that doing that won't solve my problem though and it would be better to confront him with this stuff. I know, I know!!!! :-)
"The running theme here seems to be that I am always feeling rejected by him which I realize is my own issues."
< Smiles and nods head, thinking, sglove will recover without letting a bad experience tramatize her into being bitter and withdraw into sulking. Yahoooooooo !!!
< Smiles again . . silently thankful, for sglove will find true happiness in herself and knows that another can only be happy with her, if she's happy with herself.
"It worries me that I am all hung up on a guy that makes me feel so crazy all the time"
< Smiles again, self-reflection is key to personal growth . .
Ok, I'm getting turned on here by all this . . . is that freaky?
"I need to get rejection proof and realize that his actions have nothing to do with me and that they are all about his fears."
< Getting close to "O" . . . stop, sglove . . you want my hubby to be jealous?
I know you want someone to talk to, but, inside, you know your own path and what you need to do. What feels right, is the right avenue to take. I know that Virgo's have this shyness about approaching stuff sometimes, or, maybe it's a fear of some kind, but, YOU have to be comfortable too. You've done your part, now, it's up to him. Frankly, I don't see why you should have to come out and confront anything. You've made him know that you were thinking about him that night. Whether he got the message, or didn't - that night - certainly, he has reviewed his messages by now. And, he realizes that you made the effort.
It's his turn. If he continues to ponder, then he might loose out on someone who's trying to be real . . that will be his lose. I doubt he's playing with your feelings. Probably closer to the truth is that he's playing with his own, which seems normal for a Virgo. They have to consider EVERYTHING. That's not a bad thing, in itself, but, because of their deliberation, they loose out on a lot that could bring joy.
You got it, sglove . . you are thinking about what feels right within yourself and not depending on another to take care of your emotions. Stand strong and listen to your own voice inside your head, and, not what another may want of you, or expect of you.
< Shutters and gets wet.
I know, that was sick . . just sick . . . damn.
< Smiles and nods head, thinking, sglove will recover without letting a bad experience tramatize her into being bitter and withdraw into sulking. Yahoooooooo !!!
< Smiles again . . silently thankful, for sglove will find true happiness in herself and knows that another can only be happy with her, if she's happy with herself.
"It worries me that I am all hung up on a guy that makes me feel so crazy all the time"
< Smiles again, self-reflection is key to personal growth . .
Ok, I'm getting turned on here by all this . . . is that freaky?
"I need to get rejection proof and realize that his actions have nothing to do with me and that they are all about his fears."
< Getting close to "O" . . . stop, sglove . . you want my hubby to be jealous?
I know you want someone to talk to, but, inside, you know your own path and what you need to do. What feels right, is the right avenue to take. I know that Virgo's have this shyness about approaching stuff sometimes, or, maybe it's a fear of some kind, but, YOU have to be comfortable too. You've done your part, now, it's up to him. Frankly, I don't see why you should have to come out and confront anything. You've made him know that you were thinking about him that night. Whether he got the message, or didn't - that night - certainly, he has reviewed his messages by now. And, he realizes that you made the effort.
It's his turn. If he continues to ponder, then he might loose out on someone who's trying to be real . . that will be his lose. I doubt he's playing with your feelings. Probably closer to the truth is that he's playing with his own, which seems normal for a Virgo. They have to consider EVERYTHING. That's not a bad thing, in itself, but, because of their deliberation, they loose out on a lot that could bring joy.
You got it, sglove . . you are thinking about what feels right within yourself and not depending on another to take care of your emotions. Stand strong and listen to your own voice inside your head, and, not what another may want of you, or expect of you.
< Shutters and gets wet.
I know, that was sick . . just sick . . . damn.
Oh, it was just last night . . maybe a little more time for him to respond, or even check the message wouldn't be too much to ask.
Still, though, I would wait until he actually checks his messages, a couple days. If he doesn't approach you in some way . . . write him off.
Look to the horizon, shake off the old and await for the new with a better perspective . . .
Still, though, I would wait until he actually checks his messages, a couple days. If he doesn't approach you in some way . . . write him off.
Look to the horizon, shake off the old and await for the new with a better perspective . . .
Hahaha!!! P-Angel you are making me laugh hysterically and cry at the same time. Does it seem wrong if I tell you I love you???? 
Tell your husband I'm sorry.
The only reason I feel I need to confront him is for my own sanity. I need to hear what is going on with him from his own mouth instead of making up all of these scenarios in my own head and analyzing everything to death. Then I can move on and have closure.
Unless of course he admits he still loves me Then I will be screwed.
Tell your husband I'm sorry.The only reason I feel I need to confront him is for my own sanity. I need to hear what is going on with him from his own mouth instead of making up all of these scenarios in my own head and analyzing everything to death. Then I can move on and have closure.
Unless of course he admits he still loves me
Then I will be screwed.Leave Your Feedback
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