The Gray Area

Note, this isn't a thread to put those who are more prone to see things in black and white down.

One of the things that really makes me stand out, even if it is subtle, is my empathy and my ability to see things from literally every angle. While I'm capable of playing devil's advocate when required, I'm someone who has a difficult time taking things in from only one side. In fact, it's so difficult (unless it's clear to myself which side I want to take in certain situations) that I've been put down for it before. A lot of people I know, while they aren't close-minded, are often quick to jump to one side when they encounter something. Myself, I always take a moment to absorb it, and I look at every angle before coming to a decision or opinion. And even before so, I take into account the less popular opinion, even going so far as to acknowledge it so it'll balance me out. Like I said before, sometimes people don't like this and I'm put down for it (my roommate/best friend and I can sometimes get into arguments because she's a stubborn aries). So, I'm often not very open about this ability, or going into detail about what I'm thinking UNLESS it's something I'm really passionate about. When I was a senior in high school, my government teacher told me that I would actually be a wonderful person in politics because of my ability to take in all sides; she praised me for it considering a lot of my friends/classmates were heavily opinionated about certain things. It was the only time I ever was. Although, government isn't my thing, this lead me into going into psychology and criminology.

I use this comparison a lot, but if I were in a court of law, I couldn't be the prosecutor. I would be the defense attorney. My thinking is that are two sides to every story, always. And one side just can't be ignored no matter what, whether you know what side you lie more towards anyway (and whether it's the unpopular side).

So, I was curious to know if any other people were like this. I ask because it's sometimes hard to communicate with people when you're at different mindsets.

Although we have been declared as the sign to have a perspective of seeing the black and white without the gray, I am usually seeing all views before making a firm decision on a topic, debate, argument, choice, and so fourth. When i first joined Dxpnet, I presented myself as a typical user who was searching for answers that can abate my knowledge to astrology as well as my psychological project I have made based on people who assert themselves based on signs. While I was studying people\'s behaviors, I took part of the network and I began helping people on this site with information they may want to know, I was never, and I\'m still never, aggressive with information that may help people. Many people simply attack the issue rather than dissect the problem because they think that simple procedures such as relationships: mixed-signla, confusion, and etc. is nothing more than universal roadblocks, but they are more than that so information is often misinterpreted or forced upon people or other users. The reason so many virgos have this \"problem\" is due to the fact we often examine a problem for too long before we make a decision, and during this calculation we often lose motivation.

In real life, I am the guy everyone turns for help, and I often think of their situation and puzzle possible outcomes for them to consider or think about without giving them a push or manipulate their idea\'s so the situation may come out that \"I MAY WANT THEM TO DO THIS\" rather than having them think for themselves...

I guess this is why people like talking to me because i never tell them what to do rather allow them to be who they are...but it\'s never the same if i ask for help unless it\'s with another virgo.

I think like this too. And yes, it annoys the hell out of people.

To be honest, while it'd be ironic, I think my scorp moon also has a lot to do with it too. I understand a lot of things without really having to experience them. Empathy is something I embrace and take to heart. It drives me, and it what makes me want to understand and study people and their behavior. The only way I can do that is to have this mindset where I have to look at all the possibilities.

"Many people simply attack the issue rather than dissect the problem because they think that simple procedures such as relationships: mixed-signla, confusion, and etc. is nothing more than universal roadblocks, but they are more than that so information is often misinterpreted or forced upon people or other users."

Sorti, I really agree with this. I see this a lot in people, and while some people are annoyed because it just sounds like I'm criticizing again, I usually try to interject to get them to see another point of view. When people think they are right, they don't want to be reminded that there is a possibility that they could be wrong. In social psychology, we talk a lot about how people often distort reality to retain their self-esteem; even the most sane and self-aware. When looking into situations, people often associate another person's behavior with his or her disposition without taking into account aspects of the situation. Not saying that we're immune to this, but I feel like what I do different is that I slowly become aware that there is always another side. Understanding this helps me to grasp people and situations.