DyarStra?e
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The Virgo Male - Part 2
In short: Virgo boy is like an episode of "The Andy Griffith Show" and Virgo teen is like the last 23 minutes of "Apocalypse Now"!
As Virgo man gets older, and has more years of success over the demons of his youth, he becomes a very pleasant guy indeed. But, he will have (usually short) relapses into what can only be described as a dark as midnight foul-ass funk. It will not come on like an earthquake, there will be WARNING SIGNS of the approaching storm: he eats less (if at all), talks less, and avoids you more. If you're living with him, he'll find reasons to be in another part of the house / yard / neighborhood. If you're living apart, you may not see these signs, and wonder why the schmuck suddenly stopped calling, e-mailing, stopping for you when you're standing in front of his car (okay, he WILL stop, or at least SWERVE around you!).
Try not to take this as an offense, because if he loves you, he's really trying to spare you from a few days to a few weeks of lashing-out, sarcastic, touchy as hell, ultra-ultra-ultra sensitivity to EVERY DAMN THING HE COMES IN CONTACT WITH!! He could win the Super Duper Lotto, and would gripe & carry-on about the taxes he'll have to pay just to support a bunch of worthless welfare queens who have bigger houses and better cars than he has and have more sex because they have so much time on their hands than he has because he's got to adjust his with-holding to take the new $ 260,000,000.00 into account before he gets his ass audited... See what I mean?
But aside from these infrequent "Nutty Professor" dyptherias, mature (and Healthy!) Virgo man is incredibly easy to get along with. He's generally an optimist, or at least a glass-about-40% -full kinda guy, who justs wants to get things done. If you love him, and want him to be happy, LET HIM DO AT LEAST A FEW THINGS FOR YOU. He has "nervous energy" that MUST BE CHANNELED. He is always looking for PRACTICAL ways to burn up that energy. Even if you're independent, and don't like the "little lady" door-opening treatment, find a thing or two he can do for you, and you'll both be in harmony...
As for the moods of the Hardened Virgo... who cares? If your smart, you'll avoid him LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE DOES!
~dyrstr8z
Message posted by: branh0913 on 4/5/2006 10:22:48 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.126
Wow dyrs8z that was dead on. This shows people the evolution of the Virgo. Virgos do go through a lot of changes during their adolescent and we do become very sensitive to our environment at that age. I guess this is because we are starting to see the world "for what it really is" for the first time, and it depresses us during this stage. This makes Virgos ultra practical once we become adults because we build up very hard armor after our youth. Also this explains why Virgo adults seem colder, because when we were emoting as children we felt vulnerable, and we devised methods of hiding and out thinking our emotional tendencies. A younger Virgo male (like myself) spends most of the time with the balancing act of emotions and logic. Very good article. BTW dyrs8z, when is your birthday?
Message posted by: StringsAttached on 4/5/2006 10:33:48 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.149
What I'm wondering is how in the world did you survive the military and not come out a Hardened Virgo?!
Oh, this mellowing-Virgo-in-his-40s stuff sounds so comforting. And wonderful job explaining that "dark as midnight foul-ass funk" that leaves him with a "lashing-out, sarcastic, touchy as hell, ultra-ultra-ultra sensitivity to EVERY DAMN THING HE COMES IN CONTACT WITH!!" What on earth is this by the way, merely a passing mood from time to time? And can you explain why? Why does it hit--just something terribly bothering him, too much stress, (not enough sex?! Ha!), etc. Any remedy for it besides just leaving him entirely alone? (does throwin' him on a bed and attacking him help?) Sounds like me and some of my bee-otchy moods, or commonly known to most women as PMS. Hmmmmm. So the Virgo guy is afflicted with random bouts of PMS, eh? Pricky Monster Syndrome, huh?
Hope you've got an answer or two for this. (But then when does DYYYYYYY not have an ANSWER?!?)
You're the greatest, Dy.
Wow dyrs8z that was dead on. This shows people the evolution of the Virgo. Virgos do go through a lot of changes during their adolescent and we do become very sensitive to our environment at that age. I guess this is because we are starting to see the world "for what it really is" for the first time, and it depresses us during this stage. This makes Virgos ultra practical once we become adults because we build up very hard armor after our youth. Also this explains why Virgo adults seem colder, because when we were emoting as children we felt vulnerable, and we devised methods of hiding and out thinking our emotional tendencies. A younger Virgo male (like myself) spends most of the time with the balancing act of emotions and logic. Very good article. BTW dyrs8z, when is your birthday?
Message posted by: StringsAttached on 4/5/2006 10:33:48 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.149
What I'm wondering is how in the world did you survive the military and not come out a Hardened Virgo?!
Oh, this mellowing-Virgo-in-his-40s stuff sounds so comforting. And wonderful job explaining that "dark as midnight foul-ass funk" that leaves him with a "lashing-out, sarcastic, touchy as hell, ultra-ultra-ultra sensitivity to EVERY DAMN THING HE COMES IN CONTACT WITH!!" What on earth is this by the way, merely a passing mood from time to time? And can you explain why? Why does it hit--just something terribly bothering him, too much stress, (not enough sex?! Ha!), etc. Any remedy for it besides just leaving him entirely alone? (does throwin' him on a bed and attacking him help?) Sounds like me and some of my bee-otchy moods, or commonly known to most women as PMS. Hmmmmm. So the Virgo guy is afflicted with random bouts of PMS, eh? Pricky Monster Syndrome, huh?
Hope you've got an answer or two for this. (But then when does DYYYYYYY not have an ANSWER?!?)
You're the greatest, Dy.
Message posted by: Shaka2 on 4/6/2006 7:32:32 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.33
I dont entirely agree with the "adolescent virgo and his demons" comment, being a Virgo Sun, moon and mercury I dont recall going through any Dr Jekyll and Mr Hide phase in my teens (which finished only 3 years ago), I kind of became a mini adult after turning 9, I pretty much wasnt into the bullbutter of clich? teenage behaviour (experimenting with drugs,sex etc) nor was I a pain-in-the-ass for my parents, of course there were arguments every now and then but overall it was Ok.
Message posted by: fatalbutterfly on 4/6/2006 8:16:29 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.110
Oh god I've not only been in love with two male virgos in my life, romances that totally went haywire.... But I have a son born on the 13th of Sept.... he's the sweetest, but his nickname is "the crazy professor"... the only male virgo I seem to understand and know, the only one that hasn't went into turtle mode as I call it at least not with me "not yet anyways"..... but now I'm dreading the day he becomes an adolescent......right now when I think about him and his ways he's so intelligent, witty and so old for his age.... sometimes he scares me because even though he is eight he is so wise and charming its not even funny. He is quiet though and can sometimes think to much about things. The whole time I was trying to understand these Virgo men I should have just looked at my Virgo son...... I might have been all the wiser sooner.... I should have realized this alot earlier I'm a Virgo too... That to understand the man you sometimes have to look at the inner child........
Message posted by: Shaka2 on 4/6/2006 8:30:51 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.33
Oh my god! you sure werent describing me there werent you fb?
Message posted by: StringsAttached on 4/6/2006 9:46:23 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.104
Yeah, Shaka (hey, long time no see BTW), you sound like a little male version of me. I never put so much as a gray hair on either parent's head, was very mature and "grown-up" for my age, never had a tumultous adolescence with either one.
Are you an only child, an oldest sibling, or distanced from other siblings by several years?
Ooops (hand over mouth), sorry, Dy. I guess we're cutting right into the middle of Male Virgo.
I dont entirely agree with the "adolescent virgo and his demons" comment, being a Virgo Sun, moon and mercury I dont recall going through any Dr Jekyll and Mr Hide phase in my teens (which finished only 3 years ago), I kind of became a mini adult after turning 9, I pretty much wasnt into the bullbutter of clich? teenage behaviour (experimenting with drugs,sex etc) nor was I a pain-in-the-ass for my parents, of course there were arguments every now and then but overall it was Ok.
Message posted by: fatalbutterfly on 4/6/2006 8:16:29 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.110
Oh god I've not only been in love with two male virgos in my life, romances that totally went haywire.... But I have a son born on the 13th of Sept.... he's the sweetest, but his nickname is "the crazy professor"... the only male virgo I seem to understand and know, the only one that hasn't went into turtle mode as I call it at least not with me "not yet anyways"..... but now I'm dreading the day he becomes an adolescent......right now when I think about him and his ways he's so intelligent, witty and so old for his age.... sometimes he scares me because even though he is eight he is so wise and charming its not even funny. He is quiet though and can sometimes think to much about things. The whole time I was trying to understand these Virgo men I should have just looked at my Virgo son...... I might have been all the wiser sooner.... I should have realized this alot earlier I'm a Virgo too... That to understand the man you sometimes have to look at the inner child........
Message posted by: Shaka2 on 4/6/2006 8:30:51 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.33
Oh my god! you sure werent describing me there werent you fb?
Message posted by: StringsAttached on 4/6/2006 9:46:23 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.104
Yeah, Shaka (hey, long time no see BTW), you sound like a little male version of me. I never put so much as a gray hair on either parent's head, was very mature and "grown-up" for my age, never had a tumultous adolescence with either one.
Are you an only child, an oldest sibling, or distanced from other siblings by several years?
Ooops (hand over mouth), sorry, Dy. I guess we're cutting right into the middle of Male Virgo.
Message posted by: Shaka2 on 4/6/2006 10:03:25 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.33
I have 1 brother (24) and two sisters (23 and 10), Im 22 myself. I was the "spoiled" kid before my little sister was born when I was 12, but its fun helping raising her, all the way from the beginning, at least I wont be unexperienced by the time I become a father!
What you been up to these days?
Message posted by: branh0913 on 4/6/2006 2:20:39 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.207
Fatalbutterfly my birthday is also Setpebet 13th
Message posted by: dyrstr8z on 4/6/2006 4:51:30 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.211
branh0913: Sept 22, but I was "supposed" to be delivered on the 20th - there were complications (story of my life!)...
Strings: Military was perfect for this Virgo - learn the rules, use the rules, keep a low profile, and make it to retirement! - really easy... Can't even imagine what causes the awful moods as an adult - if you discount internalizing all the stupid sh** the Boss does, seeing lesser mortals achieve more with much less, etc. My Virgo Dad's doldrums were less frequent than mine are, but orders of magnitude more severe. My Mom varied her response based on factors I wouldn't be aware of as a child, and I'm sure there were lots of things going on in the background... No, I wouldn't suggest using sex as a remedy, it's really best just to stay out of the way - the more you try to "help" the more he'll resent it. Hey! Maybe the Zombies had it right: "It's the Time, of the Season, when the blood runs high... "
Shaka: Glad you didn't go through what I did. As I've said before, these astrological signs are (at best) mere descriptors of tendencies - there are way too many factors involved with an individual's behavior to attribute everything to the position of a few dead planets, a moon, and a star on a birth date... Having said that, 2 of my geeky male Virgo coworkers could be my triplet brothers of different mothers!
I have 1 brother (24) and two sisters (23 and 10), Im 22 myself. I was the "spoiled" kid before my little sister was born when I was 12, but its fun helping raising her, all the way from the beginning, at least I wont be unexperienced by the time I become a father!
What you been up to these days?
Message posted by: branh0913 on 4/6/2006 2:20:39 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.207
Fatalbutterfly my birthday is also Setpebet 13th
Message posted by: dyrstr8z on 4/6/2006 4:51:30 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.211
branh0913: Sept 22, but I was "supposed" to be delivered on the 20th - there were complications (story of my life!)...
Strings: Military was perfect for this Virgo - learn the rules, use the rules, keep a low profile, and make it to retirement! - really easy... Can't even imagine what causes the awful moods as an adult - if you discount internalizing all the stupid sh** the Boss does, seeing lesser mortals achieve more with much less, etc. My Virgo Dad's doldrums were less frequent than mine are, but orders of magnitude more severe. My Mom varied her response based on factors I wouldn't be aware of as a child, and I'm sure there were lots of things going on in the background... No, I wouldn't suggest using sex as a remedy, it's really best just to stay out of the way - the more you try to "help" the more he'll resent it. Hey! Maybe the Zombies had it right: "It's the Time, of the Season, when the blood runs high... "
Shaka: Glad you didn't go through what I did. As I've said before, these astrological signs are (at best) mere descriptors of tendencies - there are way too many factors involved with an individual's behavior to attribute everything to the position of a few dead planets, a moon, and a star on a birth date... Having said that, 2 of my geeky male Virgo coworkers could be my triplet brothers of different mothers!
Message posted by: StringsAttached on 4/6/2006 4:54:32 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.23
Shaka, oh just raisin' some hell on here, kickin' some butt, subduing some otherwise-considered-powerful men, that sort of thing . . . 😉 (We Virgo women DO like to be on "top" now and then, it's true . . . ) LOL
Sounds like you grew up a bit in helping to raise your sister. Good head on your shoulders . . .
Nice chattin' with you in the other posts too.
Message posted by: StringsAttached on 4/6/2006 4:56:51 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.23
Dy: "No, I wouldn't suggest using sex as a remedy, it's really best just to stay out of the way - the more you try to "help" the more he'll resent it."
Yeah, I'm the same way when I'm angry. Just leave. me. alone. Period!
But, say, Dy . . . any chance once he's outta this range a good sex attack wouldn't do him a world of good?
Message posted by: dyrstr8z on 4/6/2006 5:12:12 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.211
Strings: Ahhh, so glad you asked! I wouldn't recommend a direct frontal assault, but a feint with a twist that puts him in the trenches would do the trick (no, I ain't translating all of that jargon!)...
Message posted by: virgogotme on 4/6/2006 6:27:14 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.7
Strings Attached: Oh, this mellowing-Virgo-in-his-40s stuff sounds so comforting.
It's like campbell soups, mmm mmm good....almost like when a man in his 20's or 30's has a steamy night with a woman in her 40's.....THEY NEVER GO BACK 😉
Message posted by: StringsAttached on 4/6/2006 6:34:44 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.21
From Dy: "Strings: Ahhh, so glad you asked! I wouldn't recommend a direct frontal assault, but a feint with a twist that puts him in the trenches would do the trick (no, I ain't translating all of that jargon!)..."
Hmmmmm. In-te-dest-ink. Veddy in-te-dest-ink. I'll do my own translating, thank you, and come up with a scenario that'll well nigh put 'is lights out!!
Ha! Thanks, Dy. You're the man . . . .
Shaka, oh just raisin' some hell on here, kickin' some butt, subduing some otherwise-considered-powerful men, that sort of thing . . . 😉 (We Virgo women DO like to be on "top" now and then, it's true . . . ) LOL
Sounds like you grew up a bit in helping to raise your sister. Good head on your shoulders . . .
Nice chattin' with you in the other posts too.
Message posted by: StringsAttached on 4/6/2006 4:56:51 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.23
Dy: "No, I wouldn't suggest using sex as a remedy, it's really best just to stay out of the way - the more you try to "help" the more he'll resent it."
Yeah, I'm the same way when I'm angry. Just leave. me. alone. Period!
But, say, Dy . . . any chance once he's outta this range a good sex attack wouldn't do him a world of good?
Message posted by: dyrstr8z on 4/6/2006 5:12:12 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.211
Strings: Ahhh, so glad you asked! I wouldn't recommend a direct frontal assault, but a feint with a twist that puts him in the trenches would do the trick (no, I ain't translating all of that jargon!)...
Message posted by: virgogotme on 4/6/2006 6:27:14 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.7
Strings Attached: Oh, this mellowing-Virgo-in-his-40s stuff sounds so comforting.
It's like campbell soups, mmm mmm good....almost like when a man in his 20's or 30's has a steamy night with a woman in her 40's.....THEY NEVER GO BACK 😉
Message posted by: StringsAttached on 4/6/2006 6:34:44 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.21
From Dy: "Strings: Ahhh, so glad you asked! I wouldn't recommend a direct frontal assault, but a feint with a twist that puts him in the trenches would do the trick (no, I ain't translating all of that jargon!)..."
Hmmmmm. In-te-dest-ink. Veddy in-te-dest-ink. I'll do my own translating, thank you, and come up with a scenario that'll well nigh put 'is lights out!!
Ha! Thanks, Dy. You're the man . . . .
Message posted by: dyrstr8z on 4/6/2006 6:41:25 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.211
.... No, I'm the Virgo Man... all grow'd up!
Gotta Tell Ya: I had a very close call with a Virgo girl my junior year in high school - she moved before we got THAT CLOSE - but I have often wondered all these many years if she might've been THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY...
Message posted by: fatalbutterfly on 4/7/2006 11:14:19 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.197
Okay, here it goes.... I'm still trying to make head or tails out of my last relationship. I have a new partner and he is starting to grow on me in a good way, but I'm still haunted by my last experiance. I just can't make heads or tails out of it. To put it in plain terms....
Boy( virgo 9.2) meets girl(virgo 9.6) at a party which turns into a hot make out session and ends in a total battle and nasty fight.
Girl returns to Germany after a few days and forgets evil vicious boy.
Then about 3 mo later he starts emailing her and they find out they have alot in common they email four hours long once and never under 2 hours....emails daily.
Boy comes to visit girl in Germany and everything is so awkward and platonic.
Boy and girl return to U.S. sameday together. Which was on Aug. 1st they start this (idiotic) going out every other day crap but no move not on her part not on his part. They talk for hours in person on the phone, they constantly make plans to do this or to do that. But still platonic... then Virgo boy disappears for a week. Returns like no biggie... and the same going out patern starts again. Sometimes girl virgo notices boy virgo is nervious like he wants to kiss her, which makes girl virgo nervious and figity. So girl virgo goes home and boy virgo goes home both in pissy virgo moods... then they hike a little one day, go to the racetrack another day, dinner lots of dinners and even an aboretium. But they never touch each other and there both extremly nervious.... So girl Virgo gets mad and tells boy virgo to just stay away so boy virgo says fine and that last a week. Then its back to the same ol same ol platonic sibling crap. Until Girl virgo meets someone who does not want to be platonic anymore and she tells boy virgo "whats it going to be boy" and boy virgo never talks to her again its been about a month. Girl virgo has to leave to Europe again in a week and I miss him and I don't think he gives a damn.....This whole story took place over two years starting with the kiss in 2004 his visit and our return in Aug. 200
.... No, I'm the Virgo Man... all grow'd up!
Gotta Tell Ya: I had a very close call with a Virgo girl my junior year in high school - she moved before we got THAT CLOSE - but I have often wondered all these many years if she might've been THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY...
Message posted by: fatalbutterfly on 4/7/2006 11:14:19 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.197
Okay, here it goes.... I'm still trying to make head or tails out of my last relationship. I have a new partner and he is starting to grow on me in a good way, but I'm still haunted by my last experiance. I just can't make heads or tails out of it. To put it in plain terms....
Boy( virgo 9.2) meets girl(virgo 9.6) at a party which turns into a hot make out session and ends in a total battle and nasty fight.
Girl returns to Germany after a few days and forgets evil vicious boy.
Then about 3 mo later he starts emailing her and they find out they have alot in common they email four hours long once and never under 2 hours....emails daily.
Boy comes to visit girl in Germany and everything is so awkward and platonic.
Boy and girl return to U.S. sameday together. Which was on Aug. 1st they start this (idiotic) going out every other day crap but no move not on her part not on his part. They talk for hours in person on the phone, they constantly make plans to do this or to do that. But still platonic... then Virgo boy disappears for a week. Returns like no biggie... and the same going out patern starts again. Sometimes girl virgo notices boy virgo is nervious like he wants to kiss her, which makes girl virgo nervious and figity. So girl virgo goes home and boy virgo goes home both in pissy virgo moods... then they hike a little one day, go to the racetrack another day, dinner lots of dinners and even an aboretium. But they never touch each other and there both extremly nervious.... So girl Virgo gets mad and tells boy virgo to just stay away so boy virgo says fine and that last a week. Then its back to the same ol same ol platonic sibling crap. Until Girl virgo meets someone who does not want to be platonic anymore and she tells boy virgo "whats it going to be boy" and boy virgo never talks to her again its been about a month. Girl virgo has to leave to Europe again in a week and I miss him and I don't think he gives a damn.....This whole story took place over two years starting with the kiss in 2004 his visit and our return in Aug. 200
This whole story took place over two years starting with the kiss in 2004 his visit and our return in Aug. 2005 and now our not speaking to each other since Mar.16th 2006. I just couldn't take it and we would fight I felt neglected I think. He drove me crazy with desire and I just plain drove him crazy, don't know....... Does anyone have any answers for me so I can just f#?&+ move on.
Message posted by: fatalbutterfly on 4/7/2006 11:20:44 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.197
Oh a sub note he has had maybe three relationships in his life all ending on the girls part. The last time he was with a women it was about three years ago. I kept taking this into consideration, but at some point you just throw your hands up in the air and run.
Message posted by: fatalbutterfly on 4/7/2006 11:20:44 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.197
Oh a sub note he has had maybe three relationships in his life all ending on the girls part. The last time he was with a women it was about three years ago. I kept taking this into consideration, but at some point you just throw your hands up in the air and run.
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