This article is spot on! I wonder if all virgos are narcissists or its just mine LOL

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by leona on Thursday, October 8, 2015 and has 17 replies.


How do you know when you’re dealing with a narcissist? The following are some telltale signs, excerpted from my book (click on title): “How to Successfully Handle Narcissists (link is external)â€. While most of us are guilty of some of the following behaviors at one time or another, a pathological narcissist tends to dwell habitually in several of the following personas, while remaining largely unaware of (or unconcerned with) how his or her actions affect others.

1. Conversation Hoarder. The narcissist loves to talk about him or herself, and doesn’t give you a chance to take part in a two-way conversation. You struggle to have your views and feelings heard. When you do get a word in, if it’s not in agreement with the narcissist, your comments are likely to be corrected, dismissed, or ignored.

“My father’s favorite responses to my views were: ‘but…,’ ‘actually…,’ and ‘there’s more to it than this…’ He always has to feel like he knows better.â€

― Anonymous

2. Conversation Interrupter. While many people have the poor communication habit of interrupting others, the narcissist interrupts and quickly switches the focus back to herself. He shows little genuine interest in you.

3. Rule Breaker. The narcissist enjoys getting away with violating rules and social norms, such as cutting in line, chronic under-tipping, stealing office supplies, breaking multiple appointments, or disobeying traffic laws.

“I take pride in persuading people to give me exceptions to their rulesâ€

― Anonymous

4. Boundary Violator. Shows wanton disregard for other people’s thoughts, feelings, possessions, and physical space. Oversteps and uses others without consideration or sensitivity. Borrows items or money without returning. Breaks promises and obligations repeatedly. Shows little remorse and blames the victim for one’s own lack of respect.

“It’s your fault that I forgot because you didn’t remind meâ€

― Anonymous

5. False Image Projection. Many narcissists like to do things to impress others by making themselves look good externally. This “trophy†complex can exhibit itself physically, romantically, sexually, socially, religiously, financially, materially, professionally, academically, or culturally. In these situations, the narcissist uses people, objects, status, and/or accomplishments to represent the self, substituting for the perceived, inadequate “real†self. These grandstanding “merit badges†are often exaggerated. The underlying message of this type of display is: “I’m better than you!†or “Look at how special I am—I’m worthy of everyone’s love, admiration, and acceptance!â€

“I dyed my hair blond and enlarged my breasts to get men’s attention—and to make other women jealousâ€

― Anonymous

“My accomplishments are everythingâ€

― Anonymous executive

“I never want to be looked upon as poor. My fiancé and I each drive a Merce
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6. Entitlement. Narcissists often expect preferential treatment from others. They expect others to cater (often instantly) to their needs, without being considerate in return. In their mindset, the world revolves around them.

7. Charmer. Narcissists can be very charismatic and persuasive. When they’re interested in you (for their own gratification), they make you feel very special and wanted. However, once they lose interest in you (most likely after they’ve gotten what they want, or became bored), they may drop you without a second thought. A narcissist can be very engaging and sociable, as long as you’re fulfilling what she desires, and giving her all of your attention.

8. Grandiose Personality. Thinking of oneself as a hero or heroine, a prince or princess, or one of a kind special person. Some narcissists have an exaggerated sense of self-importance, believing that others cannot live or survive without his or her magnificent contributions.

“I’m looking for a man who will treat my daughter and me like princessesâ€

― Anonymous singles ad

“Once again I saved the day—without me, they’re nothingâ€

― Anonymous

9. Negative Emotions. Many narcissists enjoy spreading and arousing negative emotions to gain attention, feel powerful, and keep you insecure and off-balance. They are easily upset at any real or perceived slights or inattentiveness. They may throw a tantrum if you disagree with their views, or fail to meet their expectations. They are extremely sensitive to criticism, and typically respond with heated argument (fight) or cold detachment (flight). On the other hand, narcissists are often quick to judge, criticize, ridicule, and blame you. Some narcissists are emotionally abusive. By making you feel inferior, they boost their fragile ego, and feel better about themselves.

“Some people try to be tall by cutting off the heads of othersâ€

— Paramhansa Yogananda

10. Manipulation: Using Others as an Extension of Self. Making decisions for others to suit one’s own needs. The narcissist may use his or her romantic partner, child, friend, or colleague to meet unreasonable self-serving needs, fulfill unrealized dreams, or cover up self-perceived inadequacies and flaws.

“If my son doesn’t grow up to be a professional baseball player, I’ll disown himâ€

― Anonymous father

“Aren’t you beautiful? Aren’t you beautiful? You’re going to be just as pretty as mommyâ€

― Anonymous mother

Another way narcissists manipulate is through guilt, such as proclaiming, “I’ve given you so much, and you’re so ungrateful,†or, “I’m a victim—you must help me or you’re not a good person.†They hijack your emotions, and beguile you to make unreasonable sacrifices.
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I think it's all of us.
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Ouch! Big Grin
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Well I havent come across many like this but all of this fits my virguy lol .. poor me!!
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1. the exact opposite. Typically, the Virgo is a very good listener, and is quite content to use It's keen powers of observation rather than talk over top of the other.

2. the exact opposite. Typically, the Virgo is extremely service oriented, and It's main goal is to focus on you, so to understand what you need, so that they can provide it to you.

3. the exact opposite. Typically, the Virgo is very comfortable with order. They are the ones wanting to make rules, wanting to sort out the chaos of ........



.... you know what, everything you've posted here is wrong, so there's no point in continuing with the list. Instead of being a grown up to understand that people come and people go, and your job is to let it pass ... you apparently cannot handle that you play a part at fault, so you've come here in typical douchebag fashion, to attempt to throw him under the bus.

Virgos are nothing like you are trying desperately to convince people ... and all of us know they aren't ... so, what can we do except laugh at you.

Until you grow some big girl panties .. you're a joke with what you posting, since the source is coming from your hurt butt.
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Posted by Damnata
I think it's all of us.

Uuuhhh no ma'am.
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Posted by Magenta_Azure
Posted by Damnata
I think it's all of us.

Uuuhhh no ma'am.
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All of us Virgos.

I mean might as well tell the delusional people what they want to hear.
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Posted by Magenta_Azure
Posted by Damnata
I think it's all of us.

Uuuhhh no ma'am.
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Respectfully...I was thinking the same thing...uhhh...not everyone.
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@p-angel - LOL .. you make me laugh seriously. I dont understand your problem, just because you have 'd some good experience with virgos does not mean you can speak for all. And the above article isnt written by me. I read it on the internet and thought i ll share it with you guys, since all of this is true in my case. My virgo no doubt is a good listener but he only listens to things he want to - and if i were his hater i wouldnt come here look for solutions to be able to put up with him
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Yeah ofcourse not every virgo is alike - I m sure there are positive ones, its probably about the ones living on the negative spectrum ..
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oh and by the way i have been raised by a virgo dad and a pisces mom so i can tell a lot from my experiences ...
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Posted by leona
@p-angel - LOL .. you make me laugh seriously. I dont understand your problem, just because you have 'd some good experience with virgos does not mean you can speak for all.

Well, for starters, she has a Virgo that she knows and Loves, as do many here (me included). You asked a (stupid) question, and you got an answer that you didn't like (because saying that there are amazing Virgos out there would mean it's you with the problem, not us, and you couldn't handle that). You want to pretend you didn't see the other 5011 threads suggesting the same shit, then you also want to pretend that you don't understand how this nonsense could be considered irritating to some of us?

Posted by leona
Yeah ofcourse not every virgo is alike - I m sure there are positive ones, its probably about the ones living on the negative spectrum ..
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Yet you posted that idiotic thread title anyway. The only answer that would suit you is the one you'd get by talking to yourself in the mirror...
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@TaureanVirgo - I m not here to attack all virgos, i m here lookin for solutions, just like you all - and i dont mean to offend any of you in anyway neither i know any of you personally. I just find it v irritating when some of you just dont understand the fuck people are going through and start defending virgo, and now you have jumped into this out of nowhere . Kindly if you cant advice then please stop throwing your negative sarcasm. And i m glad that p- angel happens to be the lucky one to have worked with her virgo without any complications but a happy one wouldnt be here wastin his/her energy over somethin that doesnt make sense. Please stop picking on my threads if you find them stupid you shouldnt bother reading them.
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@TaureanVirgo - and by the way for your information i didnt ask any stoopid idiotic qs, I only shared an article that fits my virgo guy to figure out if all these are common virgo traits or it only happened in my case and a lot of you are already strugling with the narcissist ones.
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@TaureanVirgo - and if you just check above and look carefully u would see that i wrote in my first comment that i havnt come across many like that, it only happens to be true in my virgo case. So DONT TAKE IT PERSONALLY!
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@TaureanVirgo - and if you just check above and look carefully u would see that i wrote in my first comment that i havnt come across many like that, it only happens to be true in my virgo case. So DONT TAKE IT PERSONALLY!
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