Trust...

Trust, such a simple yet complex word.

How do we grow in that area? I wonder...

Is trust a choice or a result of a group of choices?

Thoughts?

I didn't trust a certain person for years after I was betrayed by him. It took a long time to regain it. Now I'm considering that I was right not to trust him in the first place, possibly. I don't know. This Virgo thing is a little hard to grasp sometimes. In my book, a lie is a lie.

Trust is a choice, a gift you give to someone, based upon history, I guess.

I like to trust from the start, though. If I see something that doesn't add up, is awry, then I pull it back until I get an all-clear.

" I didn't trust a certain person for years after I was betrayed by him. It took a long time to regain it. Now I'm considering that I was right not to trust him in the first place, possibly. I don't know. This Virgo thing is a little hard to grasp sometimes."

I hear ya. We got two options. Either we misstrust but eventually end up being right, or we misstrust and we end up being wrong...

I don't know about you, but my downfall is that I can be very perceptive and intuitive with other people at times...so I tend to know really fast when someone is trying to intrude in my relationship or is into someone I'm dating or vice-versa.

What sucks for us, as I've heard in other cases, is that many times we misstrust and feel guilty for doing that...and yet we find out we were right on target...it's an awful feeling.

However, I want to make sure I'm fair with everyone, so I've been dating Aquas and Libras lately, and they seem to be the opposite of me when it comes to that...because they trust right away at first, while for me it takes time...but once I get there it's really good...I'm settle and at peace.

Lately and as I get older I've been realizing that I need to make that one choice at some point...right at the beginning...to trust or not trust someone and then move on.

Aquas and Libras require lots of trust because of their free spirit, so I've had to exercise that tons, lol, not to say that I don't take into account some silly moments they have had...but overall I think I could never control their feelings or choices...so I have to let them free and just hope that they will respect whatever relationship we have. Otherwise, I'll drive myself crazy with the analysis.

I would never express when I'm a bit jelaous...so if you would meet me in person, you would be surprise to hear me talk about this...but hey I'm just a human being trying to not get hurt...so I guess I just need to watch out that my walls don't let me blind...I need to be cautious but also fair.

VLL

trust and love is a choice. if somebody can't trust you they don't love you. but one can never dictate to someone that they want them to trust them, for trust is EARNED thru efforts. it is built.