Virgo acting weird towards Cancer girl

Okay so I'm a Cancer & the guy that I was pursuing is a Virgo. Since our company has a strong policy about dating, I knew he was off limits since he's my boss & all. We work in retail so our environment is casual & laid back. My attraction for him came unexpected when I stared into his eyes, since then I was hooked! I noticed the way he looks at me & how he tenses up when I'm around. I figured I'd make a move & tell him he's cute & he said he appreciated what I thought. I told him I hope I don't get in trouble for hitting on him & he said he doesn't mind it! He said he wished we worked together more often & I obviously felt the same. The thing is, whenever we work together, he acts distant towards me, yet, he stares at me all the time even if I'm on the other side of the room! So I figured he was just shy & I decided to text him & hypothetically ask him out & he said he wished he could but he would get in trouble if he did. I told him it's fine & that I was hoping it wouldn't make things awkward between us knowing that I have a crush on him. He didn't reply whatsoever. I didn't see him for a week & when I did he acted his usual self when we were in the store. Weird thing is when we had to leave the store to deposit money at the bank, he acted more open & friendly! Last week, I texted him regarding work, towards the end I decided to play with him & ask him out but I told him I was kidding. He replied & said that we should run into each other at the same place so it wouldn't seem like we planned it. We agreed on it but never made definite plans. So I thought we were making progress but the same thing happened when I worked with him again! Awkward conversations & staring & he obviously didn't bring up the conversation that we had. It's like nothing happened! So I texted that night about getting together but he didn't respond. Saw him the next day as he was leaving, an hour later, he responded to my text. I told him if he was too cool to hangout then it's fine with me but he said he is never too cool to hang he just hated living far from here. So I told him I wouldn't mind driving in his area since he's always here & with that, I get no response. I worked with him after that, he acted the same. Yet when we left the store, he was more open & friendly. I figured I'm done chasing this Virgo. The other day though, I accidentally added him on Facebook, he accepted my request which was weird. Now I'm wondering, what gives?! I thought I pushed him away by coming on t

too strong. I'm confused on what to do next. I've made the first move multiple times. Should I pursue my feelings or just back away? Why is he so weird. Hah

I don't think he's really weird at all, I think you're just ignoring obvious cues. He gave you his answer here, "...He wished he could but he would get in trouble if he did." A girl never has to ask a guy twice if he's interested, Virgo or not.

Please stop wearing your heart on your sleeve, first and foremost, then slowly back off. Just think about the situation you are putting him in, a Virgo will not pursue a relationship that could jeopardize his job and stability. Be friendly and casual, let him approach you; he will if he wants to get to know you more.

I've picked up on his cue that he's interested since he's suggested we should hang out. What I don't get is why he acts that way when we're around each other. I guess I'm gonna take your advice & jus back off. We'll see how it all works out since he already knows how I feel. Thanks for the advice though!

well you two are in a work environment and he takes his work seriously. this is a really good thing and should be admired.

it is true that mixing business with pleasure can very well jeopardize an employee's position, and he is cautious of that. as a virgo especially, no matter how attracted he is to you he will not allow it to jeopardize his position; and if he really cares for you, nor will he allow it to jeopardize yours either.

in virgo speak, you coming on to him at work and elsewhere puts him at a sort of unease, because it is not something he A) can necessarily react to and B) probably doesn't even know how to react to if he wanted to. so if he likes you or not, he probably doesn't know how to handle the situation. you could be a good hookup, or a genuine interest, or someone he doesn't really have interest in but tries to keep it friendly. either way, it's all in the same predicament: the workplace.

likewise, outside of work is not necessarily a free zone to him. depending on the relation of both of your positions, he could very well lose his job if someone discovered you were becoming intimate. the workplace is never kind to the idea of employee "relations."

all in all, keep it PG at work. you can always flirt casually, but remember your environment. he will not forget his.

on a different note, virgos tend to "shy up" as their relationships progress. then again, he could just be acting polite. I guess you could see that as a sort of defense, because they do not express their feelings easily. if he begins to actively do things for you or for your benefit, that is a good way of seeing a virgo's feelings. they're motto is "to serve" after all, whether to friends or loved ones.

Cancergirl,

If you're here looking for affirmation that he's interested rather than the actual truth, then yes, he's very much into you. It's so obvious that he is because he's just dying to call you when he's off work to make plans with you, take you out to dinner, shower you with attention.

Just sit back for a moment and really think. In your entire life, did a guy who is actually interested in you ever shy away from the opportunity to talk/hang-out/see you?

I have been a victim of over-looking obvious cues, we all have, and it's okay. When I had a crush on a Taurus many years ago, I thought he liked me as well because he would always invite me to go out and would talk to me everyday. Even though I realized little things like he would never make eye contact, never asked me out to places one-on-one, never tried to be close to me or touch me in a subtly affectionate way, never really talked about anything intimate or personal, and never really tried to get to know me as a person, my goals and ambitions, etc. - actions that normally tell tales that he's interested, I completely ignored these cues because I thought, 'Hey! He's always calling and always asks me to go out.' I got caught up in all my 'hopefulness'; but, the reality of the matter was, he really just enjoyed my company as a friend. That's okay, we're still GREAT friends to this day and nothing has ever insinuated otherwise. Our interactions never faltered, pretty much stayed the same as the first day we became friends. Except, I don't read too much into the mixed signals because there's no such thing as mixed signals if he's truly into you.

Use your rationale, ACTIONS speak louder than words, and you will find your answer.

Thanks for the input guys! Overall I guess you can say I overanayzed the situation. He was just so mysterious to me in the beginning thats why I got so interested. Since we became fb friends I guess you can say the "mystery" died down. I'm not gonna pursue anything obviously since I don't wanna jeopardize his job & I'll see how things go. I plan on leaving the job anyway since its just part time. Other than that I'll go with the flow & just keep it casual. Thanks again!