virgo ex ignoring

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I'm new here but I need some feedback only if you've experienced an ex bf who is a Virgo. I myself am a Taurus (gem moon) and I can handle pretty much thing. It's been a rollercoaster from hell every since we met..however we managed to love each other in the process. We broke up go back together several times up until now. We broke up officially about 2 months or so ago but remained in each others lives (playing the role) but with no title. I did almost everything I could to get him to understand that I was only there to help..not inflict pain. However he inflicted a lot towards me. About a month ago I found out somethin he did that really screwed up my head and heart. Even though we weren't together officially when it happened, he still had me in his life, being there for him, saying he loves me etc. So I still felt and feel cheated 😢 after this issue happened, he gave a bull sh!@ apology but I just couldn't let it go. I'm thinking out of guilt he tried to fix things buy wanting to buy me stuff, see me, tell me the truth but it was to late. As much as I love him I ended up two weeks ago texting him and saying how disgusting he is, classless and never to contact me again. I tried so hard to get past it but me being a Taurus I can't just do that. After the message he responded only saying "ok" and that was it. 4 days later I texted and apologized for what I said(names) and told him my guy friend was talking about the situation to me which is why I snapped. However he hasn't spoke to me since...I even texted him one last time last week and still nothing. I'm wondering is he done for good? Because he messed up not me. I'm getting over it but there is so much I need to say but I obviously cannot. I'm not going to initiate any more contact because I can't stomach rejection. I'm very strong but this has brought me to my knees and its like he doesn't care. Will he always ignore me?
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He's thinking what's the point? He's thinking if you two can't seem to overcome & get past his mistakes, why hold on ? If all you're going to do is have a grudge toward us, then what's the point of being with you.

BUT

My opinion is that he's acting like the victim & he's not. The reason you snapped & overreacted is because YOU TRUSTED him.... YOUR feelings are real! Plus, you are human & you needed to detox your feelings. Yes, he's hurt & took everything you said personally but he hurt you more.

Unfortunately, he's punishing you with silent treatment. While he's doing that, You should really spend this time thinking about how much longer are you going to stay on this rollercoster ride with him? What he did is not a little rock that can be swept under the rug. You are going to have to sweep a boulder under the rug now. Trying to get over how he hurt you will drain you for months, years even. Take this time to really think about your future with him....that's exactly what he's doing, thinking about ya'll future.

Don't worry, although he's ignoring you, he still cares. He will get over it. But you really deserve a guy that's totally crazy about you....a guy that runs TO the problem & not runs away from it.
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Posted by geminimoon87
About a month ago I found out somethin he did that really screwed up my head and heart. Even though we weren't together officially when it happened,

The two of you were not exclusively dating at the time.

Posted by geminimoon87
As much as I love him I ended up two weeks ago texting him and saying how disgusting he is, classless and never to contact me again.



You broke it off. He didn't.

Posted by geminimoon87
I tried so hard to get past it but me being a Taurus I can't just do that.
I'm a Taurus as well. When you find it challenging to get past a hurt, or a sting of betrayal, the best option is to vent to friends or family members. When you have calmed down, gather your thoughts, express your words effectively. ...and then separate yourself from the other individual for a little while until you can completely forgive him for what he did. When I was in my 20's, I did exactly what you're doing. Keeping everything bottled in...and then 'exploding.' This passive-aggressive behavior is never benefical.

Posted by geminimoon87
Because he messed up not me.
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Another Taurus trait, failing to admit when we're wrong, or the part we played in it. In my opinion, the fault lied with the both of you. You're both young. The two of you will make foolish mistakes. This will blow over, trust me. Just give yourself some time and space.

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Posted by geminimoon87We broke up officially about 2 months or so ago but remained in each others lives (playing the role) but with no title. I did almost everything I could to get him to understand that I was only there to help..not inflict pain. However he inflicted a lot towards me. About a month ago I found out somethin he did that really screwed up my head and heart. Even though we weren't together officially when it happened, he still had me in his life, being there for him,

As much as I love him I ended up two weeks ago texting him and saying how disgusting he is, classless and never to contact me again. I tried so hard to get past it but me being a Taurus I can't just do that. After the message he responded only saying "ok" and that was it. 4 days later I texted and apologized for what I said(names) and told him my guy friend was talking about the situation to me which is why I snapped. However he hasn't spoke to me since...I even texted him one last time last week and still nothing. I'm wondering is he done for good? Because he messed up not me. I'm getting over it but there is so much I need to say but I obviously cannot. I'm not going to initiate any more contact because I can't stomach rejection. I'm very strong but this has brought me to my knees and its like he doesn't care. Will he always ignore me?




You broke up, and you made the choice to "play the role" after. Whatever he did outside the friendship is really none of your business. When you tell a Virgo what you did out of anger (an emotion you had no right to feel since you were not in a relationship), he took it literally and is doing what you asked.."never contact me again". He said "ok", and then you have a change of heart. Doesn't matter, he's done with you and your confusion regarding the friendship. Way down the road you might be able to have a conversation with him, however don't count on it, just move on and concentrate your energy somewhere else.
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Posted by Rapunzel
I like what Taurusbull said ^^^^

You know, the sad thing about dating "unofficially" is that with women, we still think he should still act committed....no dating, kissing, smiling, flirting, calling, looking at other chicks....

Its like Unofficial is still Official ! Tough Situation...




No it's not it's friends with benefits and there are NO rules with that. If you can't handle one you don't get involved in one. Pretty simple.
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Posted by Rapunzel
I like what Taurusbull said ^^^^

You know, the sad thing about dating "unofficially" is that with women, we still think he should still act committed....no dating, kissing, smiling, flirting, calling, looking at other chicks....

Its like Unofficial is still Official ! Tough Situation...




No it's not it's friends with benefits and there are NO rules with that. If you can't handle one you don't get involved in one. Pretty simple.
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+1 and most women are unable to handle it.
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Posted by geminimoon87

We broke up officially about 2 months or so ago but remained in each others lives (playing the role) but with no title.






Stupid people do stupid things ... and then cry about because they think they didn't create it, and they think others inflicted pain upon them.

Smart people realize what they do, they are accountible for themselves ... and so step away from engaging in stupidity.


You are the former ... obviously.

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Whatever happened to you, in all the babble that didn't read after that sentence ... is all your fault.

Obviously, you are here to cry about being a victim because there would be no other reason to come here to whine about being ignored, as the title claims ... you aren't a victim, you're an idiot ...


.... you are the director of your life.


You were obviously smoking dope when that news flash came to you at age 6



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from geminimoon87 sent on 4/14/2013 at 11:25:14 AM

Idk if u can read or not, but I asked for insight for those who experienced it before. You don't know anything about me or my situation so call me stupid. I'm not about the drama via internet but understand how retarded u appear to be


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That ^^^ is a PM from you.

Obviously, you don't have the balls to address me in public.