Virgo girl is confusing me. Can you help?
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by ScorpioPat1120 on Wednesday, October 23, 2013 and has 9 replies.
I'm a Scorpio guy and, I've been hanging out with this Virgo girl I met online.
We started talking in late May, and met in-person in early July. We instantly hit it off; we both find it relatively easy to talk to one another about most things, and I find I can relax around her without too much effort. There's flirting on both ends.
For some background: her last relationship was pretty serious, she lived with this guy for about a year, he changed and became verbally abusive, and eventually broke up with her in a text message. She has mentioned that she is still in the process of recovering from this and wants to be friends.
I like her, and have told her this. She seems to like me too, but I feel like I get mixed messages: when we first started talking she was very present: we would text once a day back and forth, and while I was sick one week she would regularly check in on me to see how I was doing.
But lately, I've had to initiate most of the contact, and sometimes it will take longer (sometimes days) for her to respond to things.
The last time we went out was a week ago for lunch. For the most part things seemed normal: we talked as usual, we laughed, she asked me things about myself like she usually does and things seemed normal.
Then she drops this info on me: she's apparently been seeing a couple of guys. She likes "both of them...but they both have their flaws..."
She's apparently "told one of them about this...he didn't take it well."
She asked me advice on how to deal with this situation, and I told her that if I were in the situation I would want the person I was seeing to be upfront with me.
A few minutes after this topic she asked if I was dating anyone to which I replied no, as I am not a person who likes to date around because in the event that I have to make a decision, I don't want to be the person to have to hurt someone's feelings.
She eventually followed this up with a suggestion that I date other people because dating one person might not make me happy. She then quickly added that it was "up to you ['you' meaning me] if you want to date around...it's just a suggestion."
I quickly took this to mean that she was subtly rejecting me. I kept my composure the best I could, but I couldn't help but feel a bit discouraged because of this. I think she noticed because when she noticed my face, she started smiling, and asking me what was on my mind. I tried to smile and told her that nothing was on my mind, yet she
We started talking in late May, and met in-person in early July. We instantly hit it off; we both find it relatively easy to talk to one another about most things, and I find I can relax around her without too much effort. There's flirting on both ends.
For some background: her last relationship was pretty serious, she lived with this guy for about a year, he changed and became verbally abusive, and eventually broke up with her in a text message. She has mentioned that she is still in the process of recovering from this and wants to be friends.
I like her, and have told her this. She seems to like me too, but I feel like I get mixed messages: when we first started talking she was very present: we would text once a day back and forth, and while I was sick one week she would regularly check in on me to see how I was doing.
But lately, I've had to initiate most of the contact, and sometimes it will take longer (sometimes days) for her to respond to things.
The last time we went out was a week ago for lunch. For the most part things seemed normal: we talked as usual, we laughed, she asked me things about myself like she usually does and things seemed normal.
Then she drops this info on me: she's apparently been seeing a couple of guys. She likes "both of them...but they both have their flaws..."
She's apparently "told one of them about this...he didn't take it well."
She asked me advice on how to deal with this situation, and I told her that if I were in the situation I would want the person I was seeing to be upfront with me.
A few minutes after this topic she asked if I was dating anyone to which I replied no, as I am not a person who likes to date around because in the event that I have to make a decision, I don't want to be the person to have to hurt someone's feelings.
She eventually followed this up with a suggestion that I date other people because dating one person might not make me happy. She then quickly added that it was "up to you ['you' meaning me] if you want to date around...it's just a suggestion."
I quickly took this to mean that she was subtly rejecting me. I kept my composure the best I could, but I couldn't help but feel a bit discouraged because of this. I think she noticed because when she noticed my face, she started smiling, and asking me what was on my mind. I tried to smile and told her that nothing was on my mind, yet she
continued to politely press me for an answer. I didn't give her one.
As we left, she complimented me on my jacket, I held the door open for her, she said thank you. She smiled at me, replied "I had fun." And we left separately (like we usually do).
Afterwards, I casually texted her about something that she had asked me earlier and she replied to it, and we left it at that.
That was a week ago.
I guess what I want to know is, does she like me as a friend, does she like me as more but is still recovering from her ex, does she never want to see me again? I am super confused and just want to know if anyone can give me some insight on what my next move should be...any help would be great.
If you need anymore details, let me know
Thanks.
-Pat
As we left, she complimented me on my jacket, I held the door open for her, she said thank you. She smiled at me, replied "I had fun." And we left separately (like we usually do).
Afterwards, I casually texted her about something that she had asked me earlier and she replied to it, and we left it at that.
That was a week ago.
I guess what I want to know is, does she like me as a friend, does she like me as more but is still recovering from her ex, does she never want to see me again? I am super confused and just want to know if anyone can give me some insight on what my next move should be...any help would be great.
If you need anymore details, let me know
Thanks.
-Pat
My Full chart:
Rising Aquarius, Sun Scorpio, Moon Taurus, Mercury Sagittarius, Venus Libra, Mars Scorpio, Jupiter Virgo, Saturn Aquarius, Uranus Capricorn, Neptune Capricorn, Pluto Scorpio, N. Node Capricorn.
HER Full Chart:
Rising Scorpio, Sun Virgo, Moon Sagittarius, Mercury Virgo, Venus Leo, Mars Libra, Jupiter Virgo, Saturn Aquarius, Uranus Capricorn, Neptune Capricorn, Pluto Scorpio, N. Node Capricorn.
Rising Aquarius, Sun Scorpio, Moon Taurus, Mercury Sagittarius, Venus Libra, Mars Scorpio, Jupiter Virgo, Saturn Aquarius, Uranus Capricorn, Neptune Capricorn, Pluto Scorpio, N. Node Capricorn.
HER Full Chart:
Rising Scorpio, Sun Virgo, Moon Sagittarius, Mercury Virgo, Venus Leo, Mars Libra, Jupiter Virgo, Saturn Aquarius, Uranus Capricorn, Neptune Capricorn, Pluto Scorpio, N. Node Capricorn.
Sorry I had to separate that into three messages. Just wanted you to know all details. Ask me for more if you need them.
How old are you two?
@LostinmyMind11
22. Both of us.
22. Both of us.
You both are young....she seems not ready to jump into another serious relationship. I think she just sees you as a friend. IMO
To know for sure...youre just gonna have to ask her straight up what the deal is
To know for sure...youre just gonna have to ask her straight up what the deal is
Like Lostinmymind said, it doesn't sound like she isn't ready for a relationship again but doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I'd say if she is telling you to date other people she doesn't see it going anywhere romantic with you. Sorry!
There is something about Virgo/Scorpio that never works. Virgo just needs know Scorpio a little to realize that It's not what Virgo wants. Virgo starts avoiding and then the Scorpio becomes obsess with the Virgo aloofness.
If she starts avoiding you, that means that she doesn't see a future with you but she may want to keep her options open in case. Virgo will take care of his/her lover's needs and wont avoid him/her.
If she starts avoiding you, that means that she doesn't see a future with you but she may want to keep her options open in case. Virgo will take care of his/her lover's needs and wont avoid him/her.
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