virgo girls & platonic frndship

How many of you virgo girls have platonic male frnds who are somewhat special t you or probably brotherly or u like their attention etc etc...

i do. i always need to have one though, someone i can talk to openly without getting involved in that way.

ok bear69 & PM what wld u do if any of them is in love with u ?? be honest ok...

wolf:
this has happened, sometime i was shocked becuz i didn't feel the same way and didn't see it coming but i made sure we were still freinds. My ex and my current were my friends before we hooked up. When i realized they loved me i realized i had feelings for them too. You can drop in hints as in flirting and see how she responds if you want to test the water. If you are in love in with ur friend tell her, worst comes worst she will still want to be friends, becuz we definitely value our friendship but tell her she could be feeling that way about u as well.
hope this helps 🙂

what if u already had a boyfrnd then??

yeah i have platonic male friends (two to be exact), they are special to me, but not because i like the attention they give me. they've always come off as brotherly to me...and i did have one of them chase and was very persistent...hmm, i mentioned this somewhere...but anyway, i thought of him as an older brother but never told him in this exact way as i was told from a guy that this was the worst thing to ever say to a guy. so what did i do, i told him that he was a very dear friend to me and that i didn't want to ruin this sort of bond that we have with each other (because he's not on good terms with any of his exes and i didn't want to take that risk with him, but i also didn't see him in that way even though i found him attractive. had he been friends with at least one of them, i might have given it a whirl despite feeling differently, because you never know what can happen if you just give something a try, and i needed a safety net). and personally, i found him to be a better friend to me than a boyfriend. i'd like for my partner to teach me something new or show me a new perspective so that i can grow. not that friends don't help you grow too, but the growth derived from a friendship vs. a romantic relationship can be different. just my two cents.

if i had a boyfriend in the situationthat you described, then i would stay with my boyfriend, that's why i went with him in the first place. if i was interested in someone else, then i wouldn't have gone for him, get my drift? and i've never started growing feelings for someone else when in a relationship. not saying that i don't have this capability, i just don't know IF i have it. i've never liked two men at once, but it sounds difficult if you ask me.

wolf:
I am very loyal, i wouldn't even consider another man when i'm in love with someone. but if i'm not and for some reason or another the relationship isn't going well, i would still break up with my bf before i start something.but it would be a slow process. To tell you the truth, i think a person and specially if it is someone u care about should know how u really feel about them, but as a friend u don't want to ruin her relationship spec. if things are good. u can tell her that u care about her but u don't want to be in between them, u just wanted her to know, but u don't want to mess up ur friendship either. as a virgal trust me it would be enough to get my mind analyzing twenty million things.
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"well agent...i wish i had that attitude...but for me...love can only emerge from friendship...if the guy is not my good friend...i wont be comfy to take the things any further...for me it has to be friendship before love..."

which attitude are you talking about? if you're thinking that if "you enter the realm of friendship with me, then that means i won't give you a chance in the romance department," then that's not what i mean at all, lol. i just stated my case in particular to this friend of mine as this was the only experience that i've encountered in relation to wolf's question. if i'm interested in a guy then i would try to get to know him first, i'm not the type to jump into a realtionship with a total stranger. so if this is your definition of friendship, then you can also classify me in this category where i need to be friends with you. but if you're one of my "good" friends, then i would prefer not to indulge in a new adventure with you (keyword here is prefer, it doesn't necessarily mean that i won't). it all depends on the person we're speaking of, so it's relative. sorry if i gave you the wrong impression from my previous posts to this thread.

OK so that means virgo girls need girl frnds with peni5e5 but no ballz...

OK so that means virgo girls need girl frnds with peni5e5 but no ballz...

yeah...very convincing...NP

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STORY PART I
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Now the other side of coin---a guys perception...
she calls u her 'brother'
u think of her as ur sister too...
u pamper each other all the time...
u have ur girlfrnds...everythin's fvckin cool...
but She is special...u dont know why...probably brotherly love...
atleast u think it that way...
but u dont think the same way fr ur real brothrs & sisters...
yeah...she is 'special'...u dont know wat ds all this means...whatever juz a feeling...
u r in relationships...things cool....
but if someday given a choice b/w Her & everybodyelse...u know who...
yeah...she's my 'sister'...special...
c'mon it cant be love it has to be somethin else ok...
u juz cant think it that way...
u think "how can it be love she's ur sister Right"...

Probably I'm juz blabbering...yeah feelings and u dont feel in sentences...words dsnt matter call it 'sister' or anything...

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WOLF
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pluto's muse, i didn't take your post as sarcasm, just thought you took my post the wrong way, so no worries.

Uh...SHE is NOT your sister (just remember that).