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Oct 15, 2012Comments: 13 · Posts: 775 · Topics: 0
Then take a bus or the train. If you were too busy, the traffic would likely not have been mentioned in your post. Just tell him what your schedule is like.
If you keep brushing him off, he will get discouraged and stop...then you will start...
He will either think that you are playing games or not interested (pick one or both)
They need to be around us and spend time with us in the beginning, gems don't necessarily have to.
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Oct 15, 2012Comments: 13 · Posts: 775 · Topics: 0
Sorry, can't relate to that part. Ask him to come to you then and explain this no public mode of transportation and your issue with traffic.
They can be accommodating like gems.
I'm sure you guys will find away, it can't be that difficult. You have to show effort even if you think it is really difficult. So find a solution.
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Mar 30, 2012Comments: 1243 · Posts: 16617 · Topics: 170
Then explain your situation and see if you can work something out. It seems as if you're just beating around the bush and giving off the wrong impression if that's the case.
But I still think he's being lame by referring to it as "hanging out." Given the age range here, it doesn't surprise me, but "hang out" has become a popular, yet unacceptable, way to propose a date. Why? "Date" is oh so scurry and srs.
I dunno, I just find it sad. :/
You need to make sure you communicate better too. Don't be one of those bitches that guys complain about. "She was so hot/cold. She was jerking me around!" From what you've shared, you're giving off the impression that you're feeding an "I'm too busy" excuse, which is universal for "not interested."
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Jun 20, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 3847 · Topics: 1
Personally, I refer to meeting up with a guy as 'dating' unless they're a friend of mine then we just meet up.
Here in the UK we don't use 'hanging out' to describe dating or meeting up.
My recent experience of 'dating' in the USA was that dating and hanging out were two different things.
It was said to me by a 34 year old American guy that he's not used to 'dating' and mainly spends time with his 'buddies'. He then started to refer to 'hanging out' Instead of dating. It was like dating suggested something more serious with serious consequences or something!!
It didn't bother me which term was used but hanging out always reminds me of young people in their school days but I can see it can be used as a less serious form of dating.
I just found the whole experience a little immature.
I think in the case of the OP and given that the guy has been asking her out for the last month and she's found every excuse not to go that he's justified to pull back on the contact yet he's still pursuing and has asked her to 'hang out' and go for dinner etc so to me that would be a friendly date although I agree with Rocky about the manning up and dating bit but given they are only 21 perhaps hanging out is a good start.
Just go out with him. You know you want to otherwise you wouldn't be on here talking about it! Virgo's do tend to over analyses just as the other person said. Keep it clear and simple, he can come to you, job done!
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
You say nothing in here to suggest that you have an interest in him.
If you did have an interest in him, then you wouldn't have excuses. You do have excuses.
Why would you lead him on that like? Are you a player? A person of integrity would nip it in the bud, rather than let him continue to chase.
My hope is that he finally realizes your deceptive, and ices you out.
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Feb 11, 2010Comments: 252 · Posts: 38715 · Topics: 473
Not even reading anything past the "at least 4 times" title.
From that alone, you're proud of dangling a carrot in front of a guy. Suit yourself.
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Jun 27, 2014Comments: 46 · Posts: 1014 · Topics: 34
unless either of you are holding back on honest sharing, ask directly. You want something, he wants something. You're just hesitant to drive into the city. You can summarize it so simply here so give that back to him unless there's something else.
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
Of course there's something else.
An honest and genuine person wouldn't play attention games, and wouldn't lead a person on.
In the end, it's those women who grow old alone ... because nobody ever really loves a Princess with entitlement issues.