Virgo guys and friendships

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by christinelovessnickers on Saturday, December 19, 2015 and has 15 replies.
Would you be friends with someone who didn't want to date you?
Yes, after I accept that he doesnt want to date me, if friendship is all there is then so be it
After I get myself a better looking girlfriend than her, yes Winking
Posted by Greentea
Yes, after I accept that he doesnt want to date me, if friendship is all there is then so be it


Oops, didn't focus on that this is just for guys that are virgo lol...sorry really late night with my scorpio.
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
After I get myself a better looking girlfriend than her, yes Winking

Lol..try to rub it in her face
Posted by Greentea
Posted by Greentea
Yes, after I accept that he doesnt want to date me, if friendship is all there is then so be it


Oops, didn't focus on that this is just for guys that are virgo lol...sorry really late night with my scorpio.
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Lol. No worries . Doesn't have to be just them
Posted by starwars
shit im not a guy

You can still answer lol.
I have a Virgo male friend who I dated more than 10 years ago, for a short time. He says that he still finds me attractive but he knows that our differences mean that a friendship is best, not more. We've talked about having a physical friendship (fwb as people might call it now) but that's too iffy for me and he respects that.
Posted by CopperDove
I have a Virgo male friend who I dated more than 10 years ago, for a short time. He says that he still finds me attractive but he knows that our differences mean that a friendship is best, not more. We've talked about having a physical friendship (fwb as people might call it now) but that's too iffy for me and he respects that.

This guy asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him no. He told me I was selfish and that I broke his heart. I barely hear from him now. I tried getting ahold of him, but either don't get a response or its very short.
Posted by christinelovessnickers
Posted by CopperDove
I have a Virgo male friend who I dated more than 10 years ago, for a short time. He says that he still finds me attractive but he knows that our differences mean that a friendship is best, not more. We've talked about having a physical friendship (fwb as people might call it now) but that's too iffy for me and he respects that.

This guy asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him no. He told me I was selfish and that I broke his heart. I barely hear from him now. I tried getting ahold of him, but either don't get a response or its very short.
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It isn't selfish for you to not want more with him if you don't have romantic and/or sexual feelings for him. Painful for him, sure, but no reason to call you selfish just based on the facts. But I understand that if he feels more for you than friendship it would be too hard to remain friends. He'd probably always want more than that, so it couldn't be a true fair friendship.
Posted by christinelovessnickers
Would you be friends with someone who didn't want to date you?

Yes, if all I felt was friendship feelings.

Yes, If I never ever felt there would be nothing between us.

Yes, If I accepted I would not feel much more than friendship.

No, if I felt that there was potential for more.

No, if I was hoping the friendship would escalate into more.

No, if I had any gut level feelings of wanting more.
didn't you ask this (similar) question years ago?
Posted by LadyOfRebirth
I don't believe that's all there is to the story.

You used to be here on this board a lot asking about him. Asking what his words and actions meant. I'm pretty sure you confessed you had some sort of feeling for him.

Different virgo. I have an affinity for them. This is one we dated briefly, while I was off again with the other virgo. He moved away and came back for a visit. He has always said he wanted to be serious. I have tried to have romantic feelings, but it has always felt off. He is a really good man though.
Posted by virgowithasoul
didn't you ask this (similar) question years ago?

Possibly. Different person. The other guy was a twisted messed up situation on both of our ends.
He asked me out before he left again and I told him no. I didn't think it would be fair to date him if I wasn't romantically interested in him. I do care about him. He has started ignoring me recently, gradually. He was more "cold" a little after he left.