Virgo Guys I need your opinion again,please.

Hello, Well, my virguy never responded, it has been almost 3 weeks now. I think I made him mad for the last time. What do you guys think? Will he come around and call me or is it over for sure this time? i'm confused. He did tell me he liked me at one point, is it easy for a virguy to forget about a girl he opened up to and expressed his feelings or is he just being proud and protecting his feelings. Should I wait around or just give up ... Viguys, what do you think?

Paige, I am definitely not a virguy, but here are my 2 cents:

(I don't know your story btw)

Do you think if a guy was interested in you he would have waited 3 weeks to contact you? Say, you like a guy and he makes you mad for whatever reason, would you stop contact for 3 weeks?

a) He did not care from the beginning
b) He cared about you at some point but you made him mad and he doesn't wanna call you. Meaning: he doesn't care enough! If he did, he would have called you.

Do you know how many weeks, even months of my precious life I wasted for the virguy I was interested in? Do you know how many times I started the day hoping that he would do something extraordinary to show he cared, and ended the day with a broken heart because he did absolutely NOTHING.

Please, PLEASE, listen to your instincts. Better yet, listen to your friends, people who actually know you and possibly this guy. What do they tell you? All my friends that knew about my guy told me to forget about him. I did not listen to them, instead I came here on DXP hoping to read a post that would give me some sort of hope. Now, after almost 4 months, I wish I listened to my friends instead of my feelings.

Just my 2 cents, Paige. You'll most probably get replies saying, "oh this one time I was so mad at this girl I did not contact her for 6 months but I had so deep feelings for her, I just never let her know how I felt." Or things like "My virguy, whom I am engaged right now - the wedding is in June!!!! - stopped talking to me for some ridiculous reason but I persevered and my patience paid off! So hang in there girl!!" People would write you these things to help you. But the reality is, perhaps, as I said in the previous paragraph: most probably he doesn't care enough.

I hope my words are not too harsh. I definitely do not intend to hurt you. I am just trying to help you with my experience. Take my advice wih a grain of salt as you should do with the other advise.

Good luck.

FFV

Sorry about the spelling mistake in my last sentence, I should have double checked:

Take my advice with a grain of salt as you should do with the other advice.

Thank you notso.

I wish I gave this advice to myself 4 months ago! LOL!

Well, I did learn something from my experience with the virguy at least. 🙂

It's so funny. There are two sides to posts like this.

1) you are the original poster, looking for help trying to understand some guy. You just don't want to accept the fact that the guy is not interested in you. So when you get advice like the above, you totally dismiss them and try to get answers that you would like to hear.

2) you are the "adviser", you try to show the original poster that the guy is not interested in them. Reading the posts, it is crystal clear to you that the guy just doesn't care and you reply to the posts trying to help people not do the same mistakes you/your best friend did at some point but you also see that the poster is not yet ready to accept the truth.

It's so funny to be on both sides. What is funnier is, next time you fall for a guy and he starts avoiding you, you're back at the denial side...

I should sleep, too. It's been a long day. Have a good night notso! 🙂

notso07: You forgot:

3) you are the "adviser" that feeds the OPer a bunch of BS, because you feel obliged to spare them hurt feelings or a bruised ego.

That's quite possibly the most damaging side to posts like this.


Oh, that is so true! Replies like that just help to prolong the misery of the OP. Although, being candid does not mean being too harsh. Some people say so mean things to "wake up" the confused OP, it just does more harm than good. And the OP dismisses the advice altogether.

Anyways, good night!

Well,, I do appreciate your advice, but everyone is different. AND, I asked for a VIRGO GUYS advice, not some bitter girl who didnt get liked back. Like you said, YU DONT know the whole story! =)

"not some bitter girl who didnt get liked back" - FFV has just given you probably the best advice anyone could offer you in your situation without being in any way offensive or abrasive or harsh...and you are calling her "bitter" Paige......for me she is one wise lady:-)

A x

** throws hands up in the air and walks away

.....me fox-trotting behind you PA......:-)

A x

Alana: for me she is one wise lady:-)

Thanks Alana! 😉

notso, I agree that it depends on the person. Some people might think that people who write harsh comments are "bitter", so they might just ignore the advice. On the other hand, there are people who think that anyone who tells them what they don't want to hear is bitter! LOL! Can't help those...