Virgo has to be lead but does he want it?
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by loolitah on Saturday, June 8, 2013 and has 12 replies.
Hello guys, I've read some posts here and I got this question.
Okay, virgos won't make the first step, and not even the second and the third... (most of the time) so the other person has to make it. You ask him out, you try to make contact and all. But what leads to confusion is that if act like this to show there's a chance, how do they act when there isn't?
I've read lots of "virgo seems cool and uninterested, but it's not like that". But if he wasn't interested, he would act just the same way, isn't it?
I can analyze the sittuation and take charge but if he seems cool, how do I know if instead of trying to build a friendship to get closer to him am I not bothering him when he just isn't interested at all?
Let's discuss it, thanks for reading.
Okay, virgos won't make the first step, and not even the second and the third... (most of the time) so the other person has to make it. You ask him out, you try to make contact and all. But what leads to confusion is that if act like this to show there's a chance, how do they act when there isn't?
I've read lots of "virgo seems cool and uninterested, but it's not like that". But if he wasn't interested, he would act just the same way, isn't it?
I can analyze the sittuation and take charge but if he seems cool, how do I know if instead of trying to build a friendship to get closer to him am I not bothering him when he just isn't interested at all?
Let's discuss it, thanks for reading.
No matter what anyone tells you to do it wouldn't do anything to make your fears go away wouldn't it?
It'd be awesome to have a lot more people be upfront, respectful, and conscientious of their own feelings and with the people in their lives instead of trying to find some indirect, roundabout way that still doesn't strike through the problem.
You can do that without having the Virgo run away. He'll definitely need time away to think about it though. You can also be clear about how long you're willing to wait before you'll understand.
But I must insist that if you yourself need to always ask what or how then a Virgo isn't for you. You'll end up as CluelessCancer's best friend.
It'd be awesome to have a lot more people be upfront, respectful, and conscientious of their own feelings and with the people in their lives instead of trying to find some indirect, roundabout way that still doesn't strike through the problem.
You can do that without having the Virgo run away. He'll definitely need time away to think about it though. You can also be clear about how long you're willing to wait before you'll understand.
But I must insist that if you yourself need to always ask what or how then a Virgo isn't for you. You'll end up as CluelessCancer's best friend.
Posted by Amandus
No matter what anyone tells you to do it wouldn't do anything to make your fears go away wouldn't it?
If someone showed me a different aspect of the sittuation I didn't realize it would make my fears go away, for sure.
But I must insist that if you yourself need to always ask what or how then a Virgo isn't for you. You'll end up as CluelessCancer's best friend.
By that do you mean: be as direct as possible? If that's it I'm in, I just don't wanna screw things up.
I've got attitude, I was the starter with many guys, if I'm interested I'll go and show it. But the virgo is too oblivious.
I told him "if I'm bothering, let me know" but he doesn't seem like he would tell me if I was.click to expand
I don't demand to him, but I tell myself "this is taking eternity" hahaha
I'm a Leo so patience is not one of my virtues but I think I'll exercise it for him.
Re-reading our conversation I found he was supportive in his own way.
When I said "I'm going to dye my hair" he asked if I wanted help and spontaneously took me some decoloration powder I'd use.
The conversation was flowing well (not in my ideal rythm but well), he'd message me to say random non-sense stuff, which is characteristic from him and I found super cute haha.
Back then I asked him to play an online game with me and I told him it was 13GB of download and he downloaded it and made an effort to play with me... I'm always thinking "it's nothing, he's just being nice" (maybe it's my Libra rising) but hey, that's some nice effort, maybe I'm just creating excuses.
I'm a Leo so patience is not one of my virtues but I think I'll exercise it for him.
Re-reading our conversation I found he was supportive in his own way.
When I said "I'm going to dye my hair" he asked if I wanted help and spontaneously took me some decoloration powder I'd use.
The conversation was flowing well (not in my ideal rythm but well), he'd message me to say random non-sense stuff, which is characteristic from him and I found super cute haha.
Back then I asked him to play an online game with me and I told him it was 13GB of download and he downloaded it and made an effort to play with me... I'm always thinking "it's nothing, he's just being nice" (maybe it's my Libra rising) but hey, that's some nice effort, maybe I'm just creating excuses.
Aww thanks ???
Posted by LilyTreePosted by loolitah
I don't demand to him, but I tell myself "this is taking eternity" hahaha
I'm a Leo so patience is not one of my virtues but I think I'll exercise it for him.
Re-reading our conversation I found he was supportive in his own way.
When I said "I'm going to dye my hair" he asked if I wanted help and spontaneously took me some decoloration powder I'd use.
The conversation was flowing well (not in my ideal rythm but well), he'd message me to say random non-sense stuff, which is characteristic from him and I found super cute haha.
Back then I asked him to play an online game with me and I told him it was 13GB of download and he downloaded it and made an effort to play with me... I'm always thinking "it's nothing, he's just being nice" (maybe it's my Libra rising) but hey, that's some nice effort, maybe I'm just creating excuses.
If it ain't broke, don't fix it. I know what you mean about patience (Aries here! LOL!), but I've discovered that I can be a very patient and understanding person. Just enjoy it, and go with the flow. Whatever you do, don't compare your relationship now to either your past relationship(s) or other people's relationships. I find that women usually stress the most when they do that, and they end up stressing and feeling as if their own relationship is "behind" because it doesn't look like someone else's relationship. Things happen in their own time, and if they are going well, it's important to be thankful, happy, and live in the moment.I wish you the best.
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+100 very true. @LilyTree, i don't know if it is my aries moon, but i can relate to some of the things you say, very restless but with lots of patience nonetheless.
However, you are jumping the gun quite a bit ... to lead your Virgo is something that takes place during a relationship ... you haven't even gotten him to notice you yet, from the looks of this thread.
You still haven't figured out if he's even into you ... you are in here asking about a partnership characteristic, while not being a partner of a Virgo.
Don't you think you should slow the fuck down?
You still haven't figured out if he's even into you ... you are in here asking about a partnership characteristic, while not being a partner of a Virgo.
Don't you think you should slow the fuck down?
You can lead them into a first step, for that you don't need to be in a relationship.
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Posted by starloverPosted by loolitah
You can lead them into a first step, for that you don't need to be in a relationship.
Yes you can, i did that with a virgo man.
Remember though, Virgo is a feminine sign and quite passive so dont expect to be *swept* off your feet at any stage by this man, they are usually the more quietly introspective types
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what i think most people fail to acknowledge or notice is that virgo is a sign of service, which makes them nurturers. once they acknowledge their feelings for you and the feelings are mutual, you have a very caring, loving, giving partner. for most of us it's all about making your partner happy and about their likes/dislikes. most virgos get happiness from the happiness they give to someone. so you need to make them secure in the knowledge that you have right intentions with them. and then if they feel the same way about you, you will almost always find them meet you atleast half way if not all the way (this could be because we don't want to impose on you). i, for one, believe in the word 'partner', lets be a team and do things together.
Oh. I was under the impression that you were already close enough to the Virgo.
Woops. You should probably save what I said for a much later time.
Woops. You should probably save what I said for a much later time.
Posted by Amandus
Oh. I was under the impression that you were already close enough to the Virgo.
Woops. You should probably save what I said for a much later time.
I'll keep it in mind ^^
I'm seeking to build a friendship with him, right now we're casual friends. We haven't talked a lot recently because he is doing the prep course again (where we met) and I'm working.
We've met in September, but I had an eye on him some months before ^^'
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