Posted by EskilsdottirOur last conversation (txt message) he asked me to stop stalking him (becos I found out he went back to work at his day off)... I can't interpret he is serious or he is just joking, but I didn't reply him after that... So feel abit awkward if I ask him for dinner even he said "stop stalking"...
Haha maybe we've been dating the same Virgo...? Just had a very similar experience and still can't get my head around it.
I would probably just text and ask if he still wants to do dinner for his bday, not in an accusing tone, just casually. A lot of people (including myself) get a bit weird about their birthdays.
If he turns you down, he turns you down and at least you'll know. You can't tiptoe around someone whims, especially if you had plans made. He obviously knows there was a plan in place so he shouldn't find it weird that you ask?
Posted by RemixGeneralFishyNot with "lol" ... But I realised whenever I said anything emotional related he will either ignored me or said "ain't we said we give each other space?"
In my experience with Virgos, if you haven't annoyed him enough already to the point of being borderline rude to you, he'd disguise seriousness with a little bit of humor.
Did he include "lol" after "stop stalking me"?
Posted by tizianiI think so too, that's why I try to stay at friend zone... I just don't get why Virgo man doesn't make it clear but just keep saying "I need more space"... Just hang you in the air and not giving you a definite answer? Is this tactic or natural Virgo trait?
No offence but it really sounds like this guy has beaten you down mentally to the most submissive position possible. He has you on task.
Posted by QueenofsagSounds all too familiar lol. I'm a Pisces with Virgo moon and I'm more like a Virgo than a Fish. When I go quiet on someone and don't respond to their messages, it's because I simply don't want to. But I don't want to be rude about it, like snap at you "stop texting me so much" or "leave me alone".Posted by tizianiI think so too, that's why I try to stay at friend zone... I just don't get why Virgo man doesn't make it clear but just keep saying "I need more space"... Just hang you in the air and not giving you a definite answer? Is this tactic or natural Virgo trait?
No offence but it really sounds like this guy has beaten you down mentally to the most submissive position possible. He has you on task.click to expand
Posted by DMVWe talked (txt) every 2-3 days and whenever we see each other at work (99% I initiated)... Just like friend... But I guess you are right... If he never initiate any convo which shows how he feels towards to me...
Why would you want to do something for someone's birthday when they arent talking to you. You havent talked to him in a month but you wanna celebrate his birthday?
If you must, just text him to see if he wants to hang out.
Posted by starwarsI feel great that I didn't contact him at all on his bday. He treated me like rubbish but whenever he appeared within 3m of my proximity (same company but different department), I can feel he is looking at me and checking me out (not necessarily want to get my attention but just check me out).Posted by Queenofsag#Virgosproblems
I can't interpret he is serious or he is just jokingclick to expand
Posted by starwarsWill see him more often after I change department. Any tips for staying calm?
@OP don't contact him ever again!
Posted by cheekyfaerieHighly likely. Should leave this man alone from now on.
This guy is so not interested.
Posted by OmniVirgoFlirtJust be simple and not over complicating the situation. Dinner with nice wine and have a friendly chat. No mind game and no one should get hurt. Naive?Posted by QueenofsagWhat do you want to do? Answer that.
He was very distance about a month ago but things get slight better becos I gave him space... But not sure if I should do something about his bday. We had a plan for dinner before he became cold and distance but I have no courage to ask him in case he turn me down... Help please!click to expand
Posted by QueenofsagJust curious, any Saturn or Pluto hard aspects to Venus?
He was very distance about a month ago but things get slight better becos I gave him space... But not sure if I should do something about his bday. We had a plan for dinner before he became cold and distance but I have no courage to ask him in case he turn me down... Help please!
Posted by GypsyInChainsPosted by QueenofsagJust curious, any Saturn or Pluto hard aspects to Venus?
He was very distance about a month ago but things get slight better becos I gave him space... But not sure if I should do something about his bday. We had a plan for dinner before he became cold and distance but I have no courage to ask him in case he turn me down... Help please!click to expand
Posted by QueenofsagPosted by tizianiI think so too, that's why I try to stay at friend zone... I just don't get why Virgo man doesn't make it clear but just keep saying "I need more space"... Just hang you in the air and not giving you a definite answer? Is this tactic or natural Virgo trait?
No offence but it really sounds like this guy has beaten you down mentally to the most submissive position possible. He has you on task.click to expand
Posted by aNEWdayI totally agreed, I love my space too.Posted by QueenofsagPosted by tizianiI think so too, that's why I try to stay at friend zone... I just don't get why Virgo man doesn't make it clear but just keep saying "I need more space"... Just hang you in the air and not giving you a definite answer? Is this tactic or natural Virgo trait?
No offence but it really sounds like this guy has beaten you down mentally to the most submissive position possible. He has you on task.
I'm not a Virgo, or a man lol, but I can't help but think when reading this that when I want space, and make it clear to Someone, that most likely means I feel annoyed or smothered by them. I need that space to think thingsover, reasses the relationship, just some me time without that person.
With enough time, and I think most importantly *how that person reacts to giving me the space I need/respects that* I can usually figure out if I want them in my life at all.
With all this said, I think you should respect his wishes. Most likely those plans he may not follow through with for his bday because he may not be at that place with you yet. Id say forget the plans and send him a nice birthday message.dont expect anything in return, and don't overthink it. Keep living your life. I can get back into doing things while I have space from a person and realize I don't even miss them and I now know it's not fair to the other person who is left hanging. In this case you.click to expand
Posted by EarthboundfelineIt was his bday yesterday so is too late anyway.
If I asked for space from someone, I wouldn't mind them telling me happy birthday and keeping it at that. So I think its cool to atleast tell him if you'd want but keep it short and sweet, let him start the convo up and if not he might still be in his "I need my space zone"
Posted by aNEWdayPosted by QueenofsagPosted by tizianiI think so too, that's why I try to stay at friend zone... I just don't get why Virgo man doesn't make it clear but just keep saying "I need more space"... Just hang you in the air and not giving you a definite answer? Is this tactic or natural Virgo trait?
No offence but it really sounds like this guy has beaten you down mentally to the most submissive position possible. He has you on task.
I'm not a Virgo, or a man lol, but I can't help but think when reading this that when I want space, and make it clear to Someone, that most likely means I feel annoyed or smothered by them. I need that space to think thingsover, reasses the relationship, just some me time without that person.
With enough time, and I think most importantly *how that person reacts to giving me the space I need/respects that* I can usually figure out if I want them in my life at all.
With all this said, I think you should respect his wishes. Most likely those plans he may not follow through with for his bday because he may not be at that place with you yet. Id say forget the plans and send him a nice birthday message.dont expect anything in return, and don't overthink it. Keep living your life. I can get back into doing things while I have space from a person and realize I don't even miss them and I now know it's not fair to the other person who is left hanging. In this case you.click to expand