Virgo Male with Aries Male

I am an Aries male. Your typical egotistical, headstrong, falling quickly, fool hearted, harsh tongue, hero complex having Aries, I feel I am the exact definition of an Aries, hence why I call myself "Ares Supreme". But I digress. Here is my story.

I have always been approached by guys who would pour their heart out to me, and worship the ground I walked on even to a fault where it all became overwhelming. Dating a Leo for 6 years and two Aries over the course of two years. Dominated them all, then left their hearts in pieces. Fast forward a few months from my last relationship I receive a message from on a dating site from a profile with very little info and no picture, note, my profile was riddled with all of my best shots. The message was short, something along the lines of hey, I can send a pic or something. I receive the pic, and am instantly in love being the Aries that I am.

Unfortunately for me, he just happened to be a Virgo. I am no stranger to Virgos. My mom, an Aries, has been dating one for the past 10 years, so I've had plenty of practice. I also was talking to a Virgo for four months prior and well, that went NOWHERE! Anyways, fast forward 3 months, I finally got him to make things official. We live an hour away from one another and both go to school and work. He just turned 25, I am 24. Well basically. He is hot and cold, as I expect from a Virgo. I wasn't fully unprepared but living through it and reading it are two totally different things. Fast forward four months, little has changed. He goes somedays without answering my texts, if I don't text him for a few days he won't text me. I should mention he is NOT out of the closet. Being an Aries, having my texts ignored gets my blood boiling but I practice an extreme level of self control. He has NO idea I am fuming. Eventually I calm down and text him something sweet. He admitted to loving me. He did it in a very hesistant mumbled way and I could tell it was extremely hard for him. He says he wants me to be his last, and wants to be with me forever. When we are together things are perfect. But I feel like he rarely has time for me. I am madly in love with him now though, so there is no turning back.

He says he loves me. Does he really mean it based on what you all have read?

Posted by CluelessCancer
It's always the cute one's that are gay, i love your fashion sense.

Haha thanks. My fashion sense is exactly why Virgos are draw to me. They see me as a "class broad" meanwhile what goes on in my head is far from classy. Literally the last five people that have asked me out were Virgos, and one was a girl!

Posted by CluelessCancer
I could definitely see why they would chase you, well you know what Virgos are going to say right, take it easy, be slow, he probably does truly love you, but is testing you, taking his time, once you have him, you have HIM and than he'll be chasing you...

blah blah blah blah blah..snooze...basically be patient, get other hobbies, or a side boyfriend lol

Hahaha! I've done the side boyfriend thing in the past, my problem was I just couldn't get enough lol. I don't know when to stop, so for the sake of this relationship, I guess I will choose patience. Aries and patience don't mix haha. But yeah I know what to do on an intellectual level, but my heart is about as intellectual as an infant, all it can do is feel.

Sounds a lot like how things were with my Cancer when we first started out. Complete with me not being "out". And also the Gemini too...

Sometimes we need our space and quiet time. And sometimes we just need the other person to make a move first so that we can return the gesture when we're ready. I know that can drive more emotionally assertive and demonstrative people batty but once there's a comfortable level of security where he no longer worries about being abandoned for expressing himself it will even out. I'm sure he really does mean what he says in regards to how he feels about you.

OP---

You're too cute. He may just be internalizing and will require some space. He's a Virgo. You did mention that he's not officially out the closet. My intuition tells me he meant what he told you. He just needs some time. Utilize this time to keep yourself busy and reach out to him once a week.

Keep that Aries temper in check!

Posted by SugarAries
oh, and they do value a well-dressed/well put together companion...so you've already won there 😉

This is very true!

To me. Being the only other virgo to respond. It sounds like you got a little of your own medicine in return.

He won't be dominated and he won't conform so I guess your gonna have to love him as he is and let him come to you as much as you go to him.

For an Aries this is gonna kill you but us virgos are worth the efoorts.

nh

Posted by HungVirgo
nh

What does that mean?

Firstly, thanks for the compliments ladies and gents, though as an Aries, my "modesty" precedes me.

Posted by miamivirgo
To me. Being the only other virgo to respond. It sounds like you got a little of your own medicine in return.

He won't be dominated and he won't conform so I guess your gonna have to love him as he is and let him come to you as much as you go to him.

For an Aries this is gonna kill you but us virgos are worth the efoorts.

You have opened up pandora's box. Prepare to be stalked for advice. But yes, I have come to realize there is no dominating him (at least not for a few years ha! one can dream), still I love him all the same. My issue isn't so much with accepting him as it is with understanding them. It is natural to feel the cold shoulder when the person who "loves" you is ignoring you or being very "short", especially when you yourself are an attention whore, (a regular whore in my past life)and have grown accustomed to being treated like Gold and being holier than thou. One thing that I do is buy him gifts a lot. I guess you can say I have a tad bit of Virgo in me. When I first saw him I noticed that is wardrobe was lacking so when we started dating I started buying him clothes. He tends to "reject" my gifts initially, "Stop buying me stuff! You should save your money!" which I ignore completely. Got him a really nice watch for his b-day! He is much of a challenge. I like it, but I also hate it -.-

Posted by HungVirgo
nh

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Posted by sunnyvirgo83
I am a Virgo woman and just had a fling with an aries man....omg he was kind of a nightmare. For the fact that you got him to be your man damn good for you. Now I highly advise you to just CHILLL MAN CHILL! Maybe he's scared to 'come out of the closet' for him being "still-in-the-closet" gay Virgo male, must be eve harder for him to come around. But since the fact you got him to say he loves you everything will be okay. Us Virgo's are very loyal...my ex Aries always argued, and wanted it "his" way barley listened to my side So, I'd say just chill, relax do what you do to calm your poor man nerves....and enjoy him.

Yes i've suppressed much of my "bad" qualities, but they slip out every now and again. I get better at this each day. I will definitely chilax. I also know better than to ever argue with a Virgo unless it is really important.

Posted by sunnyvirgo83
You think your nuts, you'll think twice by reading that lol!

I will surely check it out when I am done my homework.