Virgo males being mad help???

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by jerseygirly36 on Wednesday, January 30, 2008 and has 38 replies.
OK i am new here now here is my question.. i am on myspace and i was chatting with some guy on im and stuff we never met just talked on phone 1 time.. ok i was depressed and upset text him and left messages on his phone he text me will e-mail u when i got home he came home and messaged me that i am scaring him and he deleted me from myspace.. then i kept messaging him and telling him sorry and stuff like that he didnt answer me back then i requested him as a friend again he never denyed me but didnt request me so friends told me leave him alone for a couple days he will talk to u again.. but whats strange is that when we were talking he asked what my last name was i told him he typed my first and middle name with his last name and says now thats better.. what should i do can anyone help me???
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jerseygirly36, are you a Cancer??
"...he came home and messaged me that i am scaring him..." Uh, you're kinda scaring me!
"what should i do can anyone help me???"
Leave him alone. I don't know what you texted him, but it was upsetting. After he calms down, he'll contact you again if he thinks it's something that can be worked out...
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i just e-mailed hima nd said i was sorry and di what i did and thats it he never responded but he did take time to read it.. i didnt do anything bad i was upset and just kept aclling him and texting him thats all... I am Taurus woman now im really confused what shopuld i do???
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Stop contacting him.
Put yourself in his shoes. This depressed chick that he's never met starts leaving messages that freak him out. He deletes the woman from his myspace friends list. That makes the depressed chick go absolutely batshit and she starts texting him even more.
Girly, your behavior is absolutely insane. Don't see this as a moral judgment. You're not the first and certainly won't be the last person to ever lose all rational thought over someone you're infatuated with. What matters is how you handle yourself now.
Do NOT contact him. Leave it alone. You're being crazy obsessive and you need to stop.
If he's interested, he'll contact you. If he's not interested, the only thing that your behavior is going to bring you is a restraining order.
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Thanks i needed that.. I did in fact e-mail him and said sorry earlier and got nothing back so u are right i need to leave him alone if out friendshhip is worth it he will call me if not oh well.. thanks for the advice :-)
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Thanks i needed that.. I did in fact e-mail him and said sorry earlier and got nothing back so u are right i need to leave him alone if out friendshhip is worth it he will call me if not oh well..
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Ya' u know... Let him grow up and deal with his issues...You do not need to baby sit a grown up guy.
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i am listening to u all and leaving him alone see what happens
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caprigirlwithvirgo: "Who has time for that in such a short life?"
Well... duh! YOU DO! You're with some poor pathetic Virgo Man... HE has my sympathies!!
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jerseygirly36,
You're a Taurus. He feels a natural attraction to you. Just chill.
My first lover was a Taurus chick -- very fond memories for this Ol' Virg!
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First of all, just because one Virgo is attracted to Taurus chicks doesn't make EVERY Virgo attracted to Taurus chicks.
Geez ... talk about sweeping statements.

Second .. what scard him away, jerseygirl, is your emotional baggage. And it makes no difference how much time goes by, beit, one day or ten years ... if you contact him, whinning because you're 'upset' emotionally distraught .. then he'll never contact you.

You want to know what to do? First order of business is to check your emotional baggage at the door and don't inflict it upon him. And this includes sending him apologizing texts.
Though you may "think" you are doing the right thing by apologizing, what you are doing in reality is confirming to him that your emotionally out-of-control because by you saying your sorry to him is still whimpering about sappy emotions.
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*** side note ***

This goes for ALL men, not just V's.

If you inflict emotional shit on any man to whom is just barely your friend, simply because you can't handle it on your own without sharing the misery .... he'll bail on you.
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"You're with some poor pathetic Virgo Man"

:: shakes head and wonders how offensive it would be if people referred to Deb as horribly as Dyr refers to other peoples spouses all the time in here ::
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P-Angel: "First of all, just because one Virgo is attracted to Taurus chicks doesn't make EVERY Virgo attracted to Taurus chicks."
OK... yes, I described my experience, but most astrologers say that Taurus + Virgo is a natural or easy match... but maybe you know better than they do??
:: shakes head and wonders how offensive it would be if people referred to Deb as horribly as Dyr refers to other peoples spouses all the time in here ::
Here's the complete sentence & thought: You're with some poor pathetic Virgo Man... HE has my sympathies!!
Now, let's parse the word pathetic: "Arousing or capable of arousing sympathetic sadness and compassion." [http://www.thefreedictionary.com/pathetic]
So, stated another way: Because he is with caprigirlwithvirgo, this poor Virgo Man has aroused my feelings of sympathetic sadness and compassion.
Is that clearer for you now, my dear Pisces??
We really do make an interesting pair: You spin the words, and I untangle your mess. (Pretty typical for Pisces + Virgo, don't you agree?)
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Well it he did actuallyw hen we were chatting ask me what my last name was when i told him put my first and middle name wit his last naem and says that sounds alot better hmmmmm... then we talked on phone things were fine then after that the next day i got down and thought he didnt like my pics even though he posted that he did i text and called and he told me when he got home he would mail me back he wrote is freakin him out and the next day he deleted me from myspace and then i messaged him and text him apology after apology... i requested his friendship again he never denyed me but never accepted me either.. a couple days ago i apologized again he took time to read it but never responded thats the whole story... now that u know the whole story what happens next?????
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we actually talked on the phone was good conversation and was fun he acted interested like dyar said there was an attraction there he did show he likes me...
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Well, there you go .....
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"a couple days ago i apologized again he took time to read it but never responded thats the whole story..."
OK, so stop apologizing to him. Let things settle down.
"we actually talked on the phone was good conversation and was fun he acted interested"
So, put your mind at ease. Chill. Let him make the next contact. Remember: Virgs don't move fast -- especially young ones. Takes lots of years & experience to get our confidence up...
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Ok.. thanks :-) now i know what to do thanks for the help!!
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Feeling alittle down i am sad and miss him Sad i find myself looking at his myspace pictures.. How long does it take for virgo men to stop getting mad and come around???
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Don't contact him, girly! Don't do it!
If you're sad and missing him, this is a good place to come and vent. What might be even better is if you stopped looking at his myspace pictures and stopped obsessing over it.
Go shopping. Get some lipstick that you look fabulous in. Go see a movie. Donate food to a homeless shelter... I have no idea. Just do something that takes your attention completely away from him.
If you go through this board, you'll see that virgos aren't on a clock. Sometimes it takes them a few days to come around. Sometimes it takes them a few weeks. Sometimes they don't come around at all.
Don't contact him. Repeat. Don't contact him. Go out and do something that takes your mind off of this. Stop obsessing.
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I won't contact him.. Its Just crazy how virgos are.. they get mad over something and dont talk about it with you they just delete u no messages except i was freaking him out.. then day before he was on phone laughing and putting my first and middle name with his.. im confused with what i told u do u think he will call or mail me??
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Girly, did it ever occur to you that he might not be all that?
I've had my share of internet romances and I've done the internet dating thing for a while. There are very few things I can say with any certainty, but I do know this... you never know if the chemistry you feel with a person online is real until you meet them face to face.
I know you've spoken with him on the phone. I'm sure you've probably shared all sorts of things with each other online. Those things are great for building some sort of basis with a person, but they're not a substitute for being in someone's physical presence.
I feel bad that you're upset and I'm trying to show you that there are lots of different perspectives to have on this.
Check yourself, girly. You're clearly passionate and probably a hell of a lot of fun to be around. Don't waste that on a mirage. Save up all that energy for someone you can actually touch.
Here's something you might try to help get some of that self-esteem back. Go on to the craigslist site for where you live. Post an ad in casual encounters describing yourself and saying that you're interested in meeting someone for drinks and maybe more. I swear to God you'll have more replies than you can shake a stick at. You'll also probably get a lot of tasteless pictures of dudes' cocks, but whatever. You don't have to go out with any of them. Just sit home and enjoy reading the emails of all the men out there that would like to be with you, even if your myspace virgo guy doesn't.
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i hear ya LOL thats funny u made me laugh LOL he is also a nightclub promoter he wnted to meet me but ya know i have known him since dec 18th i think it was.. he looks like fun in all the pics he posts and just wish he would get over a little thing but i will do what u said stop saying sorry im drowning myself and him in it.. see what happens if our friendship is worth it it will happen... Thanks for helping me :-)
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Tried to get my mind off of my virgo so decided to go out with a guy last night that i have been talking to and just my luck is a virgo LOL its true what dyar says about virgos being attracted to a taurus was definately an attraction there.. But i still am keeping a door open for the other virgo :-) all in all was a good night
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ha ha ha ya it should be this guy and me are only friends dont want anything more right now i have my heart set on my other virgo.. But i have been good havent contacted him at all its a start dont you think???
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Jerseygirl i totally agreen with V-lady. you need to lay off. you keep saying that you are going to leave him alone but almost every single message you have written has stated that you CONSTANTALY e-mailed him, telling him over and over that you were sorry. Put yourself in his shoes. how would you feel if you were being stalked (for lack of a better term) by somone that you had never even met face to face? Even after you texted him and told him that he was scaring you? I am not trying to be mean or hurtful it is just the oppisite. sometimes to understand better you have to put yurself in the other persons shoes. I am Virgo female obviously lol, and i have had a guy do that to me. totally creeped me out I had never met this person face to face and after he pulled that stunt i didn't want to. V-lady is right i think you need to move on. i don't know how old you are your words sound young so here is a little more advice.
I am a young adult myself and have had my fair share of relationships. just recently became single i was dating a cap (you think virg's are complicated wait till you date a cap great ppl just holy S**t. lol) and I have come to realize. i am a young beautiful, independent,strong, and kind person. and everyday i learn something new about myself. my ponit find out who you are as a person spend everyday loving yourself and discovering new things about you and the world around you. when the time is right you will find some one who will rock you world. My best friend who is also on this site(Gem82). i just finished giving her the same advice after her breakup and now she is having a blast. read some of her postings on the Leo board. it will happen when it happens don't rush anything.
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I hear ya well its been a couple days and i havent texted mailed or anything to my virgo man.. i feel if he wants me he will contact me i am done with it already.. i guess i am still yound im 36 i read all the things u guys write and realized i need to worry about myself i am tired of putting people before me.. i went out yesterday felt good to get away and have a night out :-) i just read my virgos profile says he is bummed out maybe he is thinking but you know what u are right.. when u least expect it things will happen i am moving on and whiping the slate clean and making a fresh start Winking thanks VirgoGirl
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Yay !!!! Tests !!!!

And if you pass .. maybe you'll get a prize smilesmile

Won't that make you feel lucky?
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ya i guess so LMAO yeah a prize hmmm better be a good damn prize thats for sure LOL
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Not really sure what the tests are, though, jerseygirl, that have been insinuated. I've been married to a Virgo for 25 years and he has yet to test me.
Maybe only a certain kind people get tested, and hopefully, you won't be one.
What it all really boils down to .... what makes YOU happy. If by waiting for him, or any other partner in life, to show you or bring to you the kind of quality you need to make you happy isn't happening, then you have to make it for yourself.
So many people in this world sit around, waiting for another to bring to them what they need, and the thing is ... nobody really knows what you need in your life, except you.
Put on your happy face and go make your world shine for you smile
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awwwwww now that was nice and sweet thanks :-) im cool now going out sometimes wit different people but leaving the door open in case my virgo comes in.. if not then oh well as each day goes past i get stronger and stronger...
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Woow! Keep talking! P-Angel, virgogotme, virgogirl_84. All I have to do is listen to you all. I haven't heard his voice since wednesday and ignored all the virguy's calls thursday night because I want it understood that his behavior is unacceptable. i expressed how that unprovoked distancing and ignoring me is unappreciated and makes me feel rejected. Now I have to show him better than I can tell him. If he calls me. Fine. If he doesn't, oh well!
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I have been reading posts about virgo males for the last 2 weeks. I met a virgo male a month ago. I am 37& leo female. Just graduated in December and moved here. I met virguy a month ago. He was so sweet and attentive at first. Then he distanced himself. I turned to this website for comfort. I would read whatever you all posted about virgo men and got a better understanding. What I realized through personal evaluation is that he's a control freak with his emotions. The way I flip it is when he tells me he's coming to see me I tell him that I will call him when I come home as opposed to waiting on him. He pouts and won't answer his phone. I text and tell him to communicate and that I feel rejected. There's only so much talking you can do and after all virgos are well known for their impeccable communication skills and flawless memory. If I've voiced my concerns and he's still being an ---hole than it's time for me to distance myself and ignore him and give him a taste of his own medicine. I want him to come back by hey! I'm 37 and biological clock is ticking!
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Virgos are different i tell ya just got rid of one just now.. i keep waiting for the other virgo but about to give up on him as well and get myself together..
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P-Angel: "Not really sure what the tests are, though, jerseygirl, that have been insinuated. I've been married to a Virgo for 25 years and he has yet to test me."
I don't intentionally "test" anyone, and neither do the other Virgo Males I know. On the other hand, we will definitely try your patience! Maybe that's what a lot of these women mean. Like, I really got on my Scorp's nerves when we were dating; and, my VirDad p1ssed my long-suffering LeoMom off a lot when they were courting. In both cases, we make better husbands than boyfriends. But part of that is because the women understood us better, and once you're living with us, you have a better handle on us.
kuntrygirl: "i expressed how that unprovoked distancing and ignoring me is unappreciated and makes me feel rejected."
Good! I keep telling women that you have to stand your ground with a VirGuy -- especially us older (35+) versions, because we can be very stubborn! Tell HIM what your "rules" are, and if he can abide by them, you'll have a good shot at an LTR. If not, the sooner you both know, the better, since "I'm 37 and biological clock is ticking!"
My Scorp was going on 37 when we started dating, so I sympathize. I'm 8 yrs 8 mos older than her (almost to the day), and she talked me into getting a vasectomy reversed, and starting a second batch of young'uns, so yes, we can be changed!
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ok the other virgo came back that i got rid of now the virgo man that i wanted still hasnt mailed me but i mailed him and stood my ground because i was tired of waiting on someone that i will never meet so i said that i am over him now and that i guess our friendshipw asnt worth saving because he never mailed me back i told him that in an e-mail but i did also let him know that i am still heer as a friend and if he needs me to talk to if im not busy i will be there.. since we never met and well dyar u know the story he never mailed back but got a feeling that since he knows i will not be waiting anymore that he maybe thinking now.. so thats that i needed to stand my ground.. what happens now dyar???
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Too much work .. this is suppose to be a fluid union, not a task. Instead of moving WITH a person to form a bond .. the other has to manipulate the situation to "get" him to cooperate.
Toss ..... go find someone who actually WANTS to cooperate for the purpose of love.
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Well Guys the Virgo Man came back he stopped being mad at me and hopefully we will meet sometime.. you guys were right good advice to leave the virgo man alone when he mad and he will come back thats what he did :-) thanks guys happy valentines day to everyone
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