Virgo Man.

I am new on these boards. I was searching for information on Virgos and came across this website. Decided to give it a go.I have a question about relationships.

I recently met a Virgo man. My first Virgo man relationship if you can call it that. I have had one Virgo friend when I was younger. Recently I met a Virgo man, we met up about three times. He is fun, makes me smile every moment, is very affectionate, and I enjoy spending time with him. His actions show that he likes to spend time with me as well.

Every time that we spend time together, there is a time period where he just does not say anything. No phone call, email, or any other form of communication. This leaves me to wonder what I am to him. I read on some of the pages that it is good to ask. But I do not want to ask so suddenly and so soon. I as a person do not rush. I like to think and understand my actions and the events in my life. I do not jump into relationships fast or talk about them.

Is the behavior that I experience typical, should I worry and anticipate negative outcomes? I do not get crushes often and I worry that the more I am around this man the more I will get used to him. He seems to run away from me every time he makes a move. Why?

Are you a Pisces?

This is normal behaviour for Virgo men. There is nothing to worry about.

Virgo males are gentlemen. We take the time to get to know you and don't claim you as our own in the beginning.
We often need our alone time to go over the emotions and feelings that we realise came about under our noses.
We like to be in control. When he doesn't contact you he is analysing the emotions he felt while around you and is trying to get them back in control.

These are all good things.

lol the funniest part is I base this on what I've read about other Virgo men.

I am not a runner myself, never have been...

I am not a Pisces.
I do let him brew alone and I do not contact him.

Why do you write suggestions based on what you read not what you experience?
What would you tell me based on your own personal experiences Cajunspirit?

I write based on that because it seems to be in the higher average of occurrences with Virgo men.

If I am avoiding a woman, I do it because I want little to do with her.
Which is what most women think in a Virgo situation, for me it holds true but from what I have read it may not be so with other Virgo men.

If I dig you, I will try to secure you as fast as possible. Lots of teasing and questions. Attempts to get in close contact, but never anything that would make a young woman feel uncomfortable.

I would flirt but always leave space and room for doubt. That is the area which the woman has to fill and show her interest, her 50% to add to mine and make 100% .

I will sometimes go quiet on a woman for two reasons...

1: Because I have been dumped several times in the past for being too possessive when all I thought I was doing was showing an interest, so now I tend to play it cool for fear of the same happening again.

2: Because I want a woman to chase me a bit too. I love to feel wanted and hope that a woman likes me enough to break with outdated protocol which suggests that it's the man's job to do all of the chasing.

Posted by VirgoM20

2: Because I want a woman to chase me a bit too. I love to feel wanted and hope that a woman likes me enough to break with outdated protocol which suggests that it's the man's job to do all of the chasing.

AMEN!!!

Posted by Sekhmet
Because I want a woman to chase me a bit too.
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That's kind of a tough one, because one person's chasing in another person's stalking or obessing.

You're a Cancer, chasing ain't your style .

Posted by Sekhmet
Because I want a woman to chase me a bit too.
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That's kind of a tough one, because one person's chasing in another person's stalking or obessing. Kind of liek the room for error in being posessive vs. showing interest. I think that's where it takes 2 people strong enough to make overtures without losing themselves, and also people who know themselves well enough to have a clue how their communication style will come across to the other person.

(Sorry, just butting in as a cancer F learning about a virgo M 😉 )

I was just meaning stuff like not always waiting for the man to send the first text or e-mail. I can see what you're saying, but I think it's just a case of meeting each other half way. In fact, I'm not actually bothered about being met half-way, I just want to feel that someone isn't just with me because I'm making it easy for them. If I always pick a lady up and pay for everything then she had to make no physical or financial effort, so how do I know she isn't just with me because it's all easy and free? For her to make, maybe, 25% of the effort is enough.

Posted by Cajunspirit

Posted by Sekhmet
Because I want a woman to chase me a bit too.
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That's kind of a tough one, because one person's chasing in another person's stalking or obessing.

You're a Cancer, chasing ain't your style .

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Chasing isn't any woman's style as far as I can tell... though I thoroughly enjoyed the "pounce and devour" style employed by a Leo woman whom I was in a very long relationship with 🙂

Posted by VirgoM20

Chasing isn't any woman's style as far as I can tell... though I thoroughly enjoyed the "pounce and devour" style employed by a Leo woman whom I was in a very long relationship with 🙂

Aries and Sagittarius women are equally as aggressive 😄

Posted by VirgoM20
I will sometimes go quiet on a woman for two reasons...

1: Because I have been dumped several times in the past for being too possessive when all I thought I was doing was showing an interest, so now I tend to play it cool for fear of the same happening again.

2: Because I want a woman to chase me a bit too. I love to feel wanted and hope that a woman likes me enough to break with outdated protocol which suggests that it's the man's job to do all of the chasing.

I have been in relationships with two Virgo men. Being a Leo, I am pretty up front when I am interested so I didnt have a problem making clear that I was interested, but then left the rest up to the VirGuy to respond. And in both cases they did.

In response to VM20 #1 point: I myself find VirGuys to be very aggressive when they are interested. I am not one to smother though and actually I felt smothered by them. In both instances I ended the relationships because they were very possessive & wanting to "claim me " very early on despite their trying not to be. The last Virgo I was with did exactly what you said here. He had a past of failed relationship which he blamed on "being too picky and shallow and not looking beneath the surface so ultimately they never worked" so when he set his sights on me, he was very aggressive and was too overbearing about the relationship working out. I couldn't get interested as quickly so I ended it out of fear of hurting him in the long run.

Point #2: I think VirGuys like to be chased some without coming accross as too emotionally needy. If you can do it with somewhat of an aloofness it can be very intriguing yet mysterious. See VM20 comment on the Leo woman's pouncing style in another post. He appreciated the forth coming attitude and the no nonsense approach she took to the relationship. Be honest and forward with your feelings without being too emotional about it.

I think it's in their nature to stay away a little bit. Most that I know just go about their daily routine and do what they have to do to get things done without giving much thought to much else. Then when business is done and they have the time their thoughts will return to their romantic life. In my experience anyway!

VirGuys can be amazing companions so good luck!!! I hope it works out for you!

Posted by No1delete2

Cajun: Aries and Sagittarius women are equally as aggressive...

Yes - bless 'em!

LOL!! That's because we are all FIRE!!!

Fascinating. I have to admit my style is similar to that of a Virgo. At least when the heart is involved. I do not jump around in beds but I do guard my heart.

Having read the comments I think that possibly this man is guarding his heart from me. At the same time he is not hiding his life from me. This I do not understand reading the comments. Would a Virgo who guards himself not tell about his life in depth? How long does it take for you to open up? I am sorry to ask many questions in one topic. Maybe I need to write more topics.

The man who I am seeing opened up like a book. I am sucked in. It is a nice feeling. He is a nice man. I feel for a lack of a better word nice. Should I worry? Do Virgos play emotional games? I ask this only because the level of attraction on my part seems to be great. I am not used to this and it scares me a bit. Looking back I notice that the time he is away lessens.

Posted by VioletDreamszzz
Fascinating. I have to admit my style is similar to that of a Virgo. At least when the heart is involved.

So what is your sign?

Would a Virgo who guards himself not tell about his life in depth? How long does it take for you to open up? I am sorry to ask many questions in one topic. Maybe I need to write more topics.

Personally speaking, I am an open book to whomsoever takes interest. Once you are serious and appreciate the fact I am opening up to you, I'm cool.

The man who I am seeing opened up like a book. I am sucked in. It is a nice feeling. He is a nice man. I feel for a lack of a better word nice. Should I worry? Do Virgos play emotional games? I ask this only because the level of attraction on my part seems to be great. I am not used to this and it scares me a bit. Looking back I notice that the time he is away lessens.

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No, you should not worry.

Yes, some of us do play emotional games. We only do this when we are not sure how to figure out what you are feeling. Testing the waters if you may.

Sounds like you are falling for him! *giggle*

Hey no HATE 😄

You need to take it easy..

Just got my lunch break. Sadly im on here. What is this man doing to me? Heavens.

Cajunspirit, I am a Cancer sun Pisces Ascendant. Do not giggle it is not a giggling matter haha. I still have my feet firm on the ground. Not falling for him. I will cement my feet to the floor if I have to.

He did ask a lot of questions. Why why why what why. Where I am headed in life and what do I want. I felt like he was in the FBI asking me so many things. But I answered all of them to the best of my abilities. I have nothing to hide.

He has not worried about me as of yet. Does not protect or make time for me. At least nothing out of the ordinary. Which is alright he is a busy man. I do not think I would be able to handle all of that right now. It would be nice to hear from him more often.

How do Virgos worry and secure people? Are there particular signs that I need to look out for? This may be a silly question.

Cookies do sound good with milk.

Posted by VioletDreamszzz

Cajunspirit, I am a Cancer sun Pisces Ascendant. Do not giggle it is not a giggling matter haha. I still have my feet firm on the ground. Not falling for him. I will cement my feet to the floor if I have to.

Cancer was my second guess... bah

He did ask a lot of questions. Why why why what why. Where I am headed in life and what do I want. I felt like he was in the FBI asking me so many things. But I answered all of them to the best of my abilities. I have nothing to hide.

Well... if you have a Pisces ascendant, I don't imagine you liked all the questions. Nor do I think you would have answered him in detail, as he would have liked.

How do Virgos worry and secure people? Are there particular signs that I need to look out for? This may be a silly question.

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sortilege85, said it well.

Look out for him asking about your diet, taking interest in your habits, wanting to help you in any way, giving you advice.

I did answer them quite well. Since he was asking he wanted to know so why hide the answers? Besides it's better in my opinion to fully answer questions and not have gray areas. Unless the gray areas are inevitable. I will admit towards the end of the questions I just gave him

I don't know what to do with myself. I can not get this man out of my head. Any suggestions?

Thanks for being so informative. Have to go back to work and keep my head off this subject. It is just so hard.

Hm for some reason the sentence got cut off. I gave him quick responses towards the end.

Posted by VioletDreamszzz

I don't know what to do with myself. I can not get this man out of my head. Any suggestions?

Thanks for being so informative. Have to go back to work and keep my head off this subject. It is just so hard.

I suggest you go give him a big warm hug at your every convenience 😄