Well im in a situation at the moment that im not liking and need your advice.
I have have known my virgo male for the past 3 years and been and in a relationship with him for just on a year and living with him for the last 6 months.
We get along really well and have heaps of things in common.
He was married but has been separated for the last 4 years so here is the dilemma when we got together he told me that he had a girlfriend that he was with for 6 months before he went back to his ex wife to have another go at thier marriage he left her again and went back to his ex girlfriend but yet again he went back to his ex wife before finally deciding it wasnt going to work and he once told me that he regrets leaving his ex girlfriend and should of stayed with her.
Now his ex girlfriend found him on facebook and he gave her his number and she rang him. He told me that it was his old friend Tracey and they are going to catch up soon, he told me where she worked and all was good until i caught him out in a lie it was actually his ex girlfriend. I told him never to lie to me as liars get caught then he just let out a whole heap of hateful and hurtful words said i was green eyed and jealous. I said if you have things to discuss and get off your chestand it makes you feel better i dont mind if you go and see her, i said on 1 condition that you tell her you have a girlfriend. He come home and i ask him he said the time isnt right yet, so eventually he told me that he did tell her and I believe him.
Now she wont take no for an answer she texts him all the time and when her phone plan has run out she asks him to go on msn so i walked in the room and i handed him something and i caught the last sentence he wrote WE WILL SEE WHERE IT TAKES US. I got really annoyed he said there is nothing going on im not having this conversation again we are just friends. But what does that last sentence on msn mean?
Apparently she is having a hard time at the moment and he is being a friend but me being the blunt sag i said thats what councellors are for and she wants him around there every Wednesday for the last 4 weeks, he always asks if it is alright with me if he goes around there.
So is she doing all this to annoy me ie: texts, msn, phone calls him coming home smelling of her cheap or does she hope his feelings for her will change or does he still have feelings for her. Im confused? as virgos are very secretive people
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Aug 27, 2008Comments: 3 · Posts: 4208 · Topics: 163
Virgos are not really so secretive... we just don't always tell the whole story.
My Girlfriend is a Sag and we have been together for over a year now.
What is the sign of this ex-girlfriend?
It does sound to me that she is doing this to piss you off and frustrate you where he is concerned.
He is the naive Virgo who thinks they can be friends and wants to maintain the friendship. Probably too hard headed to cut her off without his own personal validations...
You must realise that you as a woman and particularly a Sagittarius can see through people and the picture as a whole while the Virgo man, only focuses on the minor details. This is a fundamental problem when it comes to viewpoints.
I think it is possible he is true to you and just "waiting on a reason" to actually make any substantial action to ignore the ex.
Maybe your right.
The ex girlfriend is an aries.
I cant ever go and bring this up in a conversation he completely shuts off and ignores it. But he told me this morning nothing will happen only if he wants it to happen and its not going to happen, i said you need to tell her that not me and i hung up the phone and havent heard from him since.
He is no good at face to face confrontation he is better talking about things like this on the phone.
Example lastnight we were having dinner she will text him right on 6.30pm and will not stop texting until he answers the text which just makes me mad and he knows that she is getting under my skin.
I have every opportunity to tell her off his msn account is on all the time but im better than that im not going to contact her. You know how hot headed we sag women we can be
He even told me last week that she said i was too old for him im 38 and he is 32 and i said what did you say and he said age doesnt come into it if you love someone.
I do trust him and we never ever agrue we get on so well we dont have anything to fight about until she arrived on the scene we argue all the time especially around dinner we dont talk, we even argued today so knowing a virgo he wont speak to me until he has calmed down.
I'm amazed you put up with this and argue as much as you do. It must annoy you to high hell.
The key here is to stay calm and help him evaluate the relationship.
Ask him why he has to speak to her,
What she means to him,
and why he continues to entertain her
I have asked him virtually the same questions that you have asked.
He speaks to her because she needs someone to talk to she recently split up with her fiancee and has a 2 year old little boy.
But in my mind she is using this to play the damzel in distress and he cant see it.
I asked him if he has some sort of feelings still for her and he said no she needs a friend.
But in my mind she is hoping if he stays friends with him long enough she is hoping his feelings will change.
And he continues to entertain her because she needs support
But in my mind someone has to text someone first to start the conversation going and he said she texts him in the morning to say good morning and sometimes he says good morning but not all the time.
We would have nothing to argue about if she wasnt around.
And i would never contact her im better than that but my satisfaction in all this is i wake up to him everyday and she doesnt.
My problem here is her.
I can see straight through her and see what she is doing and be is either so besotted with her or is just blinded by it all that he either chooses not to see it or he is just plain stupid which he isnt.
If you tell a person that you have a girlfriend and he has said it to her 3 times in fact i was in the car with him while she rang him and she still cant get it than she is just plan dumb.
I think im being very linenant here because really would a girlfriend let there boyfriend have contact with his ex girlfriend most probably not but i trust and respect him.
He said she needs a friend because her family and friends want nothing to do with what has happened he never told me what happenend and respects her wishes not to tell anyone.
I spoke to him this afternoon and i told him that she continues to put a wedge between us then there is no reason for us to stay together because im not living a life of constant arguing so he said he will keep his distance from her and wont go and see her tonight.
So really to him she is like a little pet project to him she needs help and he has the ears for listening.
Yes for tonight only lol..... I will keep you posted on that one.
So least you have an insight to how a virgo and sagittarius relationship is like. We get along so well finish each others sentences, text each other at the same time, pick the same things up in the supermarket hey we even went out and bought the same cars i drove it home and in the driveway he had the same in blue.
We needed new phones and come home and showed each other what we purchased and they were the same. I believe we have a connection although they say that a virgo and sagittarius are incompatable i dont believe it my mum is a virgo and my dad is a sag, him mum is a virgo and his dad is a sag, my best friend is a virgo and she married a sag. And out of all the people that i have meet its the virgos that i have a connection with.
So its only this girl that is getting in the way and he is only encourging her.... well to me anyway.
No1delete2
He shuffled back and forth because there is a daughter involved and was undecided what to do stay with his ex wife or move on. So eventually he made the break from both of them, I was going out with him 2 years ago but made the break because I said he needed time to sort himself out and and needed time on his own, then we got back together about 6 months later.
Im the one at fault here because im the one that enabled it to all happen because i said go and see her and put your mind at ease, but I told him lastnight ex's are ex's for a reason you leave them in your past and move on so i said me or her you choose and he just sits there in silence and wont give me an answer, but to me sitting in silence says thousands of words.
Yes she is younger than me 24 in fact and he is 32 so soon as i mention him that i dont want him going to see her he erupts all these hateful words, says that im jealous because of her age blah blah blah and all other vulgarity i wont mention.
Yes i can be very forgiving person but you cross me and im like a little pitbull and my words are like daggers straight through the heart.
Is he doing this to make me jealous? trouble is im not a jealous type of person he keeps doing what he is doing i will simply pack my things up and leave and i have always done this in every relationship i have been in and never look back and simply remember the bad things that have happened that makes me forget about the person very quickly.
Sorry I dont really know anything about the placements, risings and things so if anybody can work this out it would be very helpful.
My birthday 9 december 1970 his birthday 23 september 1977
Thanks all advice has been appreciated i think it is time i front her face to face im not the type to go on msn and talk behind a computer screen.
Will let you know what happens.
It could be make or break but there are plenty of fish to fry lol
cajunspirit I live in Australia
Mine is this.
Sun Sagittarius 16.06
Moon Aries 21.52
Mercury Capricorn 6.36
Venus Scorpio 10.54
Mars Scorpio 1.13
Jupiter Scorpio 22.52
Saturn Taurus 17.06 R
Uranus Libra 12.48
Neptune Sagittarius 1.12
Pluto Virgo 29.33
Lilith Virgo 10.42
Asc node Aquarius 26.14
His is this.
Sun Virgo 28.30
Moon Capricorn 16.09
Mercury Virgo 10.39
Venus Leo 28.46
Mars Cancer 12.15
Jupiter Cancer 4.25
Saturn Leo 25.15
Uranus Scorpio 9.32
Neptune Sagittarius 13.35
Pluto Libra 13.30
Lilith Gemini 16.52
Asc node Libra 15.08
Im just going to ride the storm so to speak and see what happens that is the other side of me talking i would love to confront her but in reality i wouldnt do that im too proud.