Virgo man and Virgo woman - Who opens up first?

This topic was created in the Virgo and Virgo Compatibility forum by fieryvirgo on Tuesday, July 26, 2016 and has 4 replies.
I can see reading through these forums people seem to have a fairly solid understanding of the dynamics of Virgo men and women, so can someone please help me? I am so confused, probably partly by my own actions but by my fellow virgo guy as well. We keep spinning in circles, and Im not sure what to do! I was still married when we met, but nothing had happened it was just a lot of unspoken sexual tension when I was around him. I am now separated and facing a whole new dilemma as I venture into this new territory stepping away from an abusive Cap into the grips of a sensual Virgo.

As a Virgo woman, I find it hard to let go and trust anyone. Im picky and particular, and while I get along with everyone, it takes a particular guy to really grab my heart. This one did, and Im crazy in love with him. I even let him touch my face, which honestly is HUGE when you don't like anyone in your bubble. I've beat around the bush a lot in making this known to him, but he has as well. When it comes down to it, theres a lot of dancing around the subject and no direct conversations.

When it comes to intimacy though - whoa! I have read that virgo men show their feelings through intimacy, but I've also ready that they are just all around great lovers who care a lot about pleasing the woman they're with. So which is it? I've heard they are pretty emotionally constipated, but they are passionate. Can they really be both? Ahhh its making me so crazy.

His eyes are fierce, his touch is sensual, he grabs my face/neck and kisses me with fiery passion every time he sees me, squeezing me as close to him as possible. He doesn't let me go at all while we are together, his hands on me at all times (I can't even take a step away from him to gather my senses without him pulling me back to him for another kiss!) but then he retreats and hides from me for days afterwards, sometimes being slightly distant for a couple of weeks before warming up again. He did say Im like a drug - I managed to get that much from him - which I suppose technically is a lot.

He will not venture into the territory of feelings, but nor will I. Its almost taboo, both of us too scared to say anything. Welcome to the virgo mind. So here I sit, doing what virgos do, trying to understand how to handle this sexy, sensual, sweet, quiet virgo I have on my hands. Im trapped in my own head and just as I start feeling like maybe I can open up, he retreats again!

I want to tell him how I feel, but I can't. He's so good at keeping whats in his head to himself (and has told me he "puts a lid on everything") that I just can't let it out. He has even asked me what was going on inside my head and I still can't tell him! How do I get him to open up and quit being so stubborn, and how do I myself get out of my own head long enough to tell him?

Being new to this whole single thing doesn't help a bit, as spending almost half my life with an abusive cap has made it a little difficult for me!

Thanks
Aw. This is cute. He's the fiery Virgo right?

Im happy that someone has finally wrote of Virgo men as the sensualists that they are.

You are the same person essentially. Give him some time, and give yourself some time also, to grow and really learn about each other. You said you just came out of a relationship with a cap, an abusive one at that. So you'll need some time to understand yourself again and hopefully once your in touch with yourself again you'll be able to better understand him (since you are almost as mirrors of each other).

Good luck! Virgos are definitely people worth while.
Posted by zFlavor
If you do not have trust for someone from the start. then there is none at all. Trust until it's broken.

Relationship with just sexual tension want work....and you were still married, so maybe he thinks a few ill things of you....ie, woman still married so why is she interested in me when she don't even have a divorce yet.

...solve for those problems first
Are you kidding me?! That wasn't at all necessary. I had felt sexual tension which I had not acted upon until long after I was legally separated and out of my failing marriage. Your assumptions are simply rude and unfounded! There is no lack of trust here. You're an idiot!

Where I live it takes two to three years to finalize a divorce.
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
Aw. This is cute. He's the fiery Virgo right?

Im happy that someone has finally wrote of Virgo men as the sensualists that they are.

You are the same person essentially. Give him some time, and give yourself some time also, to grow and really learn about each other. You said you just came out of a relationship with a cap, an abusive one at that. So you'll need some time to understand yourself again and hopefully once your in touch with yourself again you'll be able to better understand him (since you are almost as mirrors of each other).

Good luck! Virgos are definitely people worth while.
Ahh thank.we are similar but I'm just terrified to open up! I'm the fiery one, he the offer more gentle one. I'm

A ways out of my marriage, but still working on me a lot which is why I'm still going round and round with this complex man!