Virgo Man, Aquarius woman - after a year I don't feel it. My story.

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by INTJVIRGO on Friday, February 12, 2016 and has 19 replies.
[Before all of this I dated Pisces for 4 and half year, 1 month later I get with Aquarius]

Hi I'm Virgo Man and I date with Aquarius woman for almost a year. She made the first move to be with me. I knew her for like half a year or so, she started hugging me for no reason - I though it was a joke. We were just friends, and as a Virgo Im cute and rude to woman at the same time (lthat's my style or something like that ). Her friend told me that this might be something more. So that day I texted her, we got out for coffee. Since that day we were together almost everyday. But few months ago I started to have mixed feeling about her. Think that I should break up with her. Why?

Well:
I love to care about her, I like to help her, the conversations were deep and about important things. She's ambitious and intelligent and I love that too. Hugging with her is something I like the most.

But: i don't feel her mind, sex life simply sucks - haven't had worst in my life, I feel that she's not treating me like long-term partner, she can't even kiss like she should. In bed - she's lazy, please her and she don't mind to please you. It's not working: we meet, eat some, talk, maybe have sex that suck and get back to our houses. It's not routine, I feel we're not compatible - but at start I felt that were were born to be together. But all astrology forums told: It will not work out, sooner or later.
I thing we should go back to be good friends, but I feel that it's gonna be hard or impossible for both of us. She's so sweet, I don't want to hurt her, but is it ok to hurt myself to see her satisfied? Well no.

We even had a little fight about our behaviors and acting:
- She told me that I'm a d***. , not only for her but for the rest of the world. Well I was somehow surprised because she has similar sense of humor, we even insult each other for fun.
- I told her that she's cold etc. She responded that she'll get better which seems impossible.

But after that we talked second time about it, she started conversation and the only discussed problem was me, not even a word about her "fault".


And there is a second reason which showed me that I could build my life with other person.
Week ago I talked to a Cancer woman. We know each other for about two years, but I wouldn't think that I can establish such a great connection with her. We talked for like 20 minutes and I couldn't stop thinking about her for next few days. She was on my head. Suddenly she texted me why I don't sleep(posting some on Facebook), she wanted to have a walk. I agreed, it was 2AM! We talked outside, then in her house - just talked not even touching once. We say goodbye to each other at 1PM! Talking, talking and talking.
When I was almost leaving she asked me:
- Do you love her?
- Are you happy with her?

I couldn't say anything - pure silence, my heartbeat got faster and for few seconds everything in my head was a big screaming NO NO NO I'M NOT!! And Afte
And After that shock I told her that I've got some mixed feelings and skipped the topic.

After such exciting night
I got few hours of sleep, and meet with my Aquarius. I was sad and detached, she was stressed and asked for eating her. Did that, asked for something for me - NO! I was sad even more. While I was driving to my home I texted to Cancer that I want to talk. She couldn't but later she said that we can go out for a walk at night. 9:30PM we talk and talk I started with Aquarius topic and told the truth that I fell that I don't love her anymore. We changed the place, and suddenly one of our friends [Mine, AQ and C] spotted us on a walk at 1AM, he told his GF - friend of AQ. It was uncomfortable, but we played it out somehow - he was drunk. We got uber and got back to her house, talked like an extra hour. I felt that we both "feel something" we even told that to each other when I was getting back home. I wanted to go home - I was tired and stressed, she told me if I go out she will cry. I went back home, got some sleep.

Two days after GF of a friend talks with me about it and asked me for same goddam questions:
- Do you love her?
- Are you happy together?
- Is it really that bad?
Silence, again. She told me she will not tell anything to AQ but I should talk about it. I replied: I'm just planning when should we break up.

Should I:
- end it up with AQ, and try to be friends - I would like to be able to talk with her, she's so intelligent
- Give AQ another chance, just being ultra honest but not about Cancer
- Break up with AQ and get with Cancer SLOWLY
- Break up and just give some time to myself, and maybe get with Cancer

I think about it all the time, I know what to do but I'm somehow scared about consequences The worst is that AQ seems so unconscious about that - hard hit.

Thanks for any help.
I remember getting asked about this once from my Virgo friend. He was dating a Cancer too and didn't know what to do.

I asked him the same things ...are you happy, do you love her?

He was silent, in thought. Next day he emails me and said No, he was not.

But he also hasn't been truly happy in all his relationships, which is why he's still alone. Still seemingly looking for someone to fill his holes....

It may be the Aqua, who knows... but you should also look to see if you're looking for something that may not exist and keep jumping from woman to woman so quickly.

Just a thought. Anyhow, good luck.
I'm with Aqua right now. The cancer made a move toward me.
@LadyOfRebirth
And by continuing with AQ I hurt Cancer.
One walk and your love-life flips 180.
Posted by SensitiveBlues
anyways TROLLL TROOLLL this sounds like that other guy that makes up stuff




I thought that too...sounds like the virgo with the Aqua wife and cancer coworker. Lol
So should I try to be "friends" with both and get some break from being in relationships. Good option. But... I think when she text me again in the middle of the night I will dress up and talk with her again.

@INTJVirgo

Your attempt to convince the readers that you're grounded, faithful and practical is a theatrical performance at its best.

"A righteous man is conflicted... a moral obligation to work things out with his woman or to follow his heart and seek solace with the other woman."

The only dilemma you have is the ability to cover your tracks while you solidify your position with your side-pieces.... playing the role of the misunderstood brother.

Lets observe your track record, shall we...
Pisces (GF)
Aqua (Friend who expresses how she feels about you)
Aqua (GF)
Cancer (friend who expresses how she feels about you)
....????(GF)????

But I am sure you can fill in the question marks. You already made a decision.

Just creating this thread to clear your grimy conscience.
Posted by INTJVIRGO
Hi I'm Virgo Man and I date with Aquarius woman for almost a year.

LMAO...

Yet he crowns this thread with "Virgo Man, Aquarius Woman-After a Year, I don't feel it-My Story."
This is exactly what happened with my Virgo ex and I. He stopped "feeling it" after 8 years, didn't say a fucking word, just started crying on the shoulder of his Gemini side bitch, so she KNEW he was in a long term relationship and felt it was "OK" to be his comfort. Tell the Aqua, she deserves to know, but mostly, whatever it is you are looking for, can only be found within yourself. No one can fill whatever space you have inside and fix you, your house is not in order, your moral compass is askew and you need to fix that before you are balanced enough to offer a relationship. I hope the Aqua tells you to shove your bullshit up your ass, and finds herself someone else.

Nothing you have said tells me that you are in it for the long haul, you haven't even had a discussion with the Aqua about how unhappy you are, you just want to move on to something else and leave your collateral damage behind. Fuck you.
BS

I got plenty of Pisces friends and they cheat and are keep the Bull going

To OP I've been with my aqua for over 10 years a lot of ups and downs but it gets better and aqua girls are my first choice mainly because every aqua I dated has been sprung over me, but they get over it, a few still got thing cancer women will hold on to u forever or kill u before they get over it.
How bout this just keep your grill closed and keep both of them,

What's love got to do with it. Matter of fact keep love out of it.
Well I talked about "US" with Aqua, she asked if we can try again. I agreed.
Now Cancer tells me that she want me so bad and everything.

I don't want to cheat. Would like to have both, I love to spend time with AQ and C.

The best for all of us would be: date both or none of them.
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Leave the poor Aqua alone, dump her believe me she will heal.

Aquas can sense when they not wanted anymore and that can make them distant or confused.

you are already emotionally cheating on her , so do her a favour and tell her to her face that it's over, and don't ever look back ,cause she will never love you ever again.

Go to the cancer woman and marry her.

The end.....
Posted by INTJVIRGO
@LadyOfRebirth
And by continuing with AQ I hurt Cancer.
One walk and your love-life flips 180.

dude! do not continue with Aqua please!
Posted by Harukaa
I still thinking .. why are cancer women (most of them)

Loooove men who they have gf ?

they are cancer, they kill relationships.lol
Posted by Aquastic
Leave the poor Aqua alone, dump her believe me she will heal.

Aquas can sense when they not wanted anymore and that can make them distant or confused.

you are already emotionally cheating on her , so do her a favour and tell her to her face that it's over, and don't ever look back ,cause she will never love you ever again.

Go to the cancer woman and marry her.

The end.....

When you emotionally cheat on an Aqua, you hurt the deep feels. There is no coming back from that. And if you think you can hide it, you can't, she'll figure it out. So you wrestle that shit out with the Cancer and let the Aqua go back to being chased for her awesome.

Again. Fuck you.
UPDATE: I broke up with Aqua few days ago. Aqua was great and lovely for a week or so, after I talked with her about "US", then relationship sucked again.

Thanks everyone for comments.