Well here it goes, I am a Virgo woman trying to figure out a Virgo man (we have the exact same birthday).
We met first off a dating site as a fling. We hung out a couple times and then his drinking on the weekends got in the way. So I stopped talking to him. But the moment I met him, I felt a strong intense connection. It hurt me to cut him off. About a month later, he reconnects with me and we hang out for a few months, every weekend. We were getting pretty close and then all of a sudden he backed off. I was extremely hurt and confused. He decided he wanted to be friends with me as he doesn't want a relationship. I chose to be friends with him. We hung out as friends (no sex) and during this time we messaged each other everyday throughout the day. He literally snap chats me every day and night about what he's up to etc. He definitely isn't hanging out with other women. I have helped him show that he is an amazing guy and deserves so much (as his drinking was getting the better of him). He has controlled his drinking quite a bit and has totally changed his life around. He has told me a few times that he is so grateful I came into his life and helped him get through his hard times and that I am an angel from god etc etc. So fast forward to last week. He gets drunk and wants to hook up, I did. And he told me he loved me when he was drunk. I obviously brushed it off, as he was drunk and doesn't remember. But when he drinks he always calls me and wants to hang out more than friends but when he is sober he just wants to be friends!!!! It drives me insane as when we do kiss, it's like an intense feeling and connection. All we do together is laugh and have an amazing time and would consider him my best friend. But what do I do? Just let it ride out and see what happens? Or do I ask him for an ultimatum? Or do I just date other people while he figures out what he wants? Help me with this Virgo male as a Virgo women it hurts my heart.
Oh and I should mention we hang out every Sunday normally and go hiking, then go out for dinner and then I go home? Lol it is so weird! I am a pretty sexual person, but sex is honestly the last thing on his mind and he has told me that. He can go forever without it.