Virgo man hot and cold , push and pull

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by goldrockett on Tuesday, January 23, 2018 and has 21 replies.
Hey guys , so I've been having the worst of luck with men these last few years. But hopefully this guy is the one !! We've been dating since November , he is a August Virgo. I wasn't even into him at first and seeing how he had just had a baby in September I really wasn't interested. He just was pretty persistent. I gave in and now I'm so into him. He had his baby in September , he's co-parenting. Didn't work out between him and his daughters mother. Fast forward , things have been great , a little over 2 months into dating we were intimate. But sometimes , even before we were intimate , he can be inconsistent with communication. He texts me faithfully every morning to say good morning but sometimes , he'll not return messages to me but he'll make posts on Facebook , have conversations with the ppl on there and just sometimes be dry with responses when we talk , yet he makes sure to always talk to me even if it's hours later. Oh and he hates when I ignore him yet he can blow me off from time to time smh. When we're together he's always all on me. Kissing me on the cheek , forehead , hand , back just wherever. He didn't even pressure me into sex. Just feels so Natural when we're together. But I can't help but feel a little confused when he does this disappearing thing when we're talking. Sometimes he doesn't even express himself or his feelings to me , it's like he's holding back until we're together he can't resist me in showing it. I feel like things are on a good path but I'm still confused about his push and pull actions. I really want a relationship to come from this but his inconsistencies just irritate me sometimes and throw me off. Any advice or words ?
Posted by oxSunQueenxo
Posted by Leowwwww
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I'm not even done reading your post and there's like 22 red flags.



Red flags? Like what?
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Yes I'd like to know what red flags too ? I mean he's only inconsistent with communication and expressing himself so what red flags are you seeing ?

Posted by oxSunQueenxo
Posted by goldrockett
Hey guys , so I've been having the worst of luck with men these last few years. But hopefully this guy is the one !! We've been dating since November , he is a August Virgo. I wasn't even into him at first and seeing how he had just had a baby in September I really wasn't interested. He just was pretty persistent. I gave in and now I'm so into him. He had his baby in September , he's co-parenting. Didn't work out between him and his daughters mother. Fast forward , things have been great , a little over 2 months into dating we were intimate. But sometimes , even before we were intimate , he can be inconsistent with communication. He texts me faithfully every morning to say good morning but sometimes , he'll not return messages to me but he'll make posts on Facebook , have conversations with the ppl on there and just sometimes be dry with responses when we talk , yet he makes sure to always talk to me even if it's hours later. Oh and he hates when I ignore him yet he can blow me off from time to time smh. When we're together he's always all on me. Kissing me on the cheek , forehead , hand , back just wherever. He didn't even pressure me into sex. Just feels so Natural when we're together. But I can't help but feel a little confused when he does this disappearing thing when we're talking. Sometimes he doesn't even express himself or his feelings to me , it's like he's holding back until we're together he can't resist me in showing it. I feel like things are on a good path but I'm still confused about his push and pull actions. I really want a relationship to come from this but his inconsistencies just irritate me sometimes and throw me off. Any advice or words ?
Let him have his time with other people... if he always makes time for you on any given day, I'm not sure why you are worried. Virgos are Earth people... they move slowly. I would advise against jumping into anything serious.
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Ok , I'm an earth sign too , a Taurus I don't understand why I can't be as laid back although I do move slowly in relationships. I try to give him his space but it irritates me when I really wanna have a convo with him and he's just mia towards me sometimes
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Posted by goldrockett
Hey guys , so I've been having the worst of luck with men these last few years. But hopefully this guy is the one !! We've been dating since November , he is a August Virgo. I wasn't even into him at first and seeing how he had just had a baby in September I really wasn't interested. He just was pretty persistent. I gave in and now I'm so into him. He had his baby in September , he's co-parenting. Didn't work out between him and his daughters mother. Fast forward , things have been great , a little over 2 months into dating we were intimate. But sometimes , even before we were intimate , he can be inconsistent with communication. He texts me faithfully every morning to say good morning but sometimes , he'll not return messages to me but he'll make posts on Facebook , have conversations with the ppl on there and just sometimes be dry with responses when we talk , yet he makes sure to always talk to me even if it's hours later. Oh and he hates when I ignore him yet he can blow me off from time to time smh. When we're together he's always all on me. Kissing me on the cheek , forehead , hand , back just wherever. He didn't even pressure me into sex. Just feels so Natural when we're together. But I can't help but feel a little confused when he does this disappearing thing when we're talking. Sometimes he doesn't even express himself or his feelings to me , it's like he's holding back until we're together he can't resist me in showing it. I feel like things are on a good path but I'm still confused about his push and pull actions. I really want a relationship to come from this but his inconsistencies just irritate me sometimes and throw me off. Any advice or words ?
Let him have his time with other people... if he always makes time for you on any given day, I'm not sure why you are worried. Virgos are Earth people... they move slowly. I would advise against jumping into anything serious.
Ok , I'm an earth sign too , a Taurus I don't understand why I can't be as laid back although I do move slowly in relationships. I try to give him his space but it irritates me when I really wanna have a convo with him and he's just mia towards me sometimes
When did you start talking to/dating this guy? If you guys started soon after he had his baby, that's a huge red flag...

Do you have your chart and his chart?
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We started talking 2 months after the baby. I don't have either chart. But if this helps any his birthday is August 30 1987 and mine is may 16 1987. I was born at 5:59 am
Posted by goldrockett
Hey guys , so I've been having the worst of luck with men these last few years. But hopefully this guy is the one !! We've been dating since November , he is a August Virgo. I wasn't even into him at first and seeing how he had just had a baby in September I really wasn't interested. He just was pretty persistent. I gave in and now I'm so into him. He had his baby in September , he's co-parenting. Didn't work out between him and his daughters mother. Fast forward , things have been great , a little over 2 months into dating we were intimate. But sometimes , even before we were intimate , he can be inconsistent with communication. He texts me faithfully every morning to say good morning but sometimes , he'll not return messages to me but he'll make posts on Facebook , have conversations with the ppl on there and just sometimes be dry with responses when we talk , yet he makes sure to always talk to me even if it's hours later. Oh and he hates when I ignore him yet he can blow me off from time to time smh. When we're together he's always all on me. Kissing me on the cheek , forehead , hand , back just wherever. He didn't even pressure me into sex. Just feels so Natural when we're together. But I can't help but feel a little confused when he does this disappearing thing when we're talking. Sometimes he doesn't even express himself or his feelings to me , it's like he's holding back until we're together he can't resist me in showing it. I feel like things are on a good path but I'm still confused about his push and pull actions. I really want a relationship to come from this but his inconsistencies just irritate me sometimes and throw me off. Any advice or words ?
don't think too much about the fact that he doesn't text you back right away even if he likes you he can be busy and sometimes just doesn't feel to answer right away .

I'm a virgo and i do not always want to answer people even if i like someone i sometimes put them to the test to see what they are made of
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Hey guys , so I've been having the worst of luck with men these last few years. But hopefully this guy is the one !! We've been dating since November , he is a August Virgo. I wasn't even into him at first and seeing how he had just had a baby in September I really wasn't interested. He just was pretty persistent. I gave in and now I'm so into him. He had his baby in September , he's co-parenting. Didn't work out between him and his daughters mother. Fast forward , things have been great , a little over 2 months into dating we were intimate. But sometimes , even before we were intimate , he can be inconsistent with communication. He texts me faithfully every morning to say good morning but sometimes , he'll not return messages to me but he'll make posts on Facebook , have conversations with the ppl on there and just sometimes be dry with responses when we talk , yet he makes sure to always talk to me even if it's hours later. Oh and he hates when I ignore him yet he can blow me off from time to time smh. When we're together he's always all on me. Kissing me on the cheek , forehead , hand , back just wherever. He didn't even pressure me into sex. Just feels so Natural when we're together. But I can't help but feel a little confused when he does this disappearing thing when we're talking. Sometimes he doesn't even express himself or his feelings to me , it's like he's holding back until we're together he can't resist me in showing it. I feel like things are on a good path but I'm still confused about his push and pull actions. I really want a relationship to come from this but his inconsistencies just irritate me sometimes and throw me off. Any advice or words ?
Let him have his time with other people... if he always makes time for you on any given day, I'm not sure why you are worried. Virgos are Earth people... they move slowly. I would advise against jumping into anything serious.
Ok , I'm an earth sign too , a Taurus I don't understand why I can't be as laid back although I do move slowly in relationships. I try to give him his space but it irritates me when I really wanna have a convo with him and he's just mia towards me sometimes
When did you start talking to/dating this guy? If you guys started soon after he had his baby, that's a huge red flag...

Do you have your chart and his chart?
We started talking 2 months after the baby. I don't have either chart. But if this helps any his birthday is August 30 1987 and mine is may 16 1987. I was born at 5:59 am
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We're both both in Baltimore Maryland
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Posted by goldrockett
Hey guys , so I've been having the worst of luck with men these last few years. But hopefully this guy is the one !! We've been dating since November , he is a August Virgo. I wasn't even into him at first and seeing how he had just had a baby in September I really wasn't interested. He just was pretty persistent. I gave in and now I'm so into him. He had his baby in September , he's co-parenting. Didn't work out between him and his daughters mother. Fast forward , things have been great , a little over 2 months into dating we were intimate. But sometimes , even before we were intimate , he can be inconsistent with communication. He texts me faithfully every morning to say good morning but sometimes , he'll not return messages to me but he'll make posts on Facebook , have conversations with the ppl on there and just sometimes be dry with responses when we talk , yet he makes sure to always talk to me even if it's hours later. Oh and he hates when I ignore him yet he can blow me off from time to time smh. When we're together he's always all on me. Kissing me on the cheek , forehead , hand , back just wherever. He didn't even pressure me into sex. Just feels so Natural when we're together. But I can't help but feel a little confused when he does this disappearing thing when we're talking. Sometimes he doesn't even express himself or his feelings to me , it's like he's holding back until we're together he can't resist me in showing it. I feel like things are on a good path but I'm still confused about his push and pull actions. I really want a relationship to come from this but his inconsistencies just irritate me sometimes and throw me off. Any advice or words ?
don't think too much about the fact that he doesn't text you back right away even if he likes you he can be busy and sometimes just doesn't feel to answer right away .

I'm a virgo and i do not always want to answer people even if i like someone i sometimes put them to the test to see what they are made of
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That's how I have been feeling , like I'm being tested. Lol why though ? It's crazy to me. But he hates when I do to him what he does to me. So the best thing I can do is just not sweat that he doesn't get back to me right away or be bothered when I see that he's talking to every one but me. Lol I'll try but it kinda makes me hot.
Virgos need their "me" time, it's 100% natural and very common (as a Virgo moon, I can assure you it's very common). Don't grow paranoid and cause unnecessary drama over nothing.
I have that exact birthday but a year younger.

I don't see any problems so not sure why you are creating some.
It's ridiculous that you think people not being super excited to talk to you and only you is hot/cold or push and pull behavior.

I do the same things with texting/FB, to not even mention how horrible I am with emails.

I will talk to someone for hours then smthg catches my squirrel attention and I'm off. Either had an idea to do something around the house, watch a move, go for a walk etc. I just drift in and out without a goodbye or talk to you later or whatever.

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I have that exact birthday but a year younger.

I don't see any problems so not sure why you are creating some.
Well I'm not trying to create a problem. I'm just here to get feedback
Posted by Damnata
It's ridiculous that you think people not being super excited to talk to you and only you is hot/cold or push and pull behavior.

I do the same things with texting/FB, to not even mention how horrible I am with emails.

I will talk to someone for hours then smthg catches my squirrel attention and I'm off. Either had an idea to do something around the house, watch a move, go for a walk etc. I just drift in and out without a goodbye or talk to you later or whatever.

I also don't expect anyone for that matter to be excited to speak to me. Im just one of the rare ppl in the world that is a very good communicator. I wish I wasn't sometimes tho , I'm like always by my phone
Posted by oxSunQueenxo
Posted by Damnata
It's ridiculous that you think people not being super excited to talk to you and only you is hot/cold or push and pull behavior.

I do the same things with texting/FB, to not even mention how horrible I am with emails.

I will talk to someone for hours then smthg catches my squirrel attention and I'm off. Either had an idea to do something around the house, watch a move, go for a walk etc. I just drift in and out without a goodbye or talk to you later or whatever.

What is your Mars placement?
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Aries
Posted by goldrockett
Posted by Damnata
It's ridiculous that you think people not being super excited to talk to you and only you is hot/cold or push and pull behavior.

I do the same things with texting/FB, to not even mention how horrible I am with emails.

I will talk to someone for hours then smthg catches my squirrel attention and I'm off. Either had an idea to do something around the house, watch a move, go for a walk etc. I just drift in and out without a goodbye or talk to you later or whatever.

I also don't expect anyone for that matter to be excited to speak to me. Im just one of the rare ppl in the world that is a very good communicator. I wish I wasn't sometimes tho , I'm like always by my phone
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constant talking =/= good communicator

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Welcome to the world of a virgo! Typical behavior. What are his other placements, moon, Venus, mars?
Sun Virgo

Moon Scorpio

Mercury Virgo

Venus Virgo

Mars Virgo

Jupiter Aries

Saturn Sagittarius

Uranus Sagittarius

Neptune Capricorn

Pluto Scorpio

TOB is unkown.
wow that's a lot of virgo
And they're all conjunct.
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Them bring conjunct is that a bad thing or what lol. I have no idea
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Welcome to the world of a virgo! Typical behavior. What are his other placements, moon, Venus, mars?
Sun Virgo

Moon Scorpio

Mercury Virgo

Venus Virgo

Mars Virgo

Jupiter Aries

Saturn Sagittarius

Uranus Sagittarius

Neptune Capricorn

Pluto Scorpio

TOB is unkown.
wow that's a lot of virgo
And they're all conjunct.
do you have a stellium?
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What is stellium exactly
Virgo men, the Hermit of the zodiac

Need lots of space
He has a baby.....you will come second, or hopefully so

My ex Virgo always put our son first and it caused problems with some of the women he dated, even the ones that had children themselves
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Virgo men, the Hermit of the zodiac

Need lots of space


And some virgals too...

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Welcome to the world of a virgo! Typical behavior. What are his other placements, moon, Venus, mars?
Sun Virgo

Moon Scorpio

Mercury Virgo

Venus Virgo

Mars Virgo

Jupiter Aries

Saturn Sagittarius

Uranus Sagittarius

Neptune Capricorn

Pluto Scorpio

TOB is unkown.
Scorpio moon

And then all Virgo

😂😂😂 she’s screwed

Another Taurus bites the dust

HAHA
My same thoughts. Loololol

My Virgo has some of the same placements. VIRGO Sun, Virgo Venus and Scorpio Moon. He's a tough nut to crack sometimes but lol. Patience has been my best friend when it comes to him. The longer I know him the more he opens up. There are times I won't talk to him for days, weeks, in the early period, a month would go by. Now I'm so used to it I just have to think "man, I haven't heard from Mr. Virgo in a while" and I will literally get a text from him within 5 mins.

This is the same way my Aries talks about me opening up.

😂😂😂

Only the strong survive I guess lol

You know us Fire signs. We like a challenge.
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Yes y’all do 😂 been through it throughout my whole middle and high school year. Senior now 😈

Posted by oxSunQueenxo
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I'm not even done reading your post and there's like 22 red flags.



Red flags? Like what?
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Like your possession