Virgo men expression

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by Mz_D on Tuesday, October 30, 2018 and has 5 replies.
Hi I am dating someone who is a Virgo man and he is 7 years older than me. I am a Sagittarius woman. The hardest part of being with him is the hot and cold and disappearing. Once we get close he pushes away. I have expressed my concerns about everything and he never reply’s or just ignores it. Previously I would just leave because of the emotional rollercoaster but this time I am trying to stick it out.

When we first started hanging out he told me he has been hurt and feels as though that he isn’t good for anyone. This was after hanging out for a day. He hasn’t been with anyone over a year because he is a workaholic and has a lot going on. He has tried to push me away twice before but I gave him space and let him come back around or I reached out. I am a very understanding person and tend to put everyone else lives and feelings a head of mine. At the beginning everything was fine for a while. We would FaceTime and see each other here and there. On FaceTime we wouldn’t say much it was just us looking at each other smiling making faces and just enjoying one another. We came the conclusion to take the relationship to a physical level and that’s when things began to get weird. The last time we were intimate I can tell that he was beginning to have feelings.

A few days after I tried to get an idea on where we stood what we were doing. He completely disregarded the question. A few days later I brought it up again and he didn’t respond. So I didn’t to leave it alone. The next day he lashed out at me and disappeared for two days. Everything went back to normal and was good for a while. At this point I have not seen him for a month. It seems like everytime I try and get him to express his emotions or himself he doesn’t reply. One day I texted him and told him that he puts me on an emotional roller coaster and he stated he is stressed out with a lot of stuff and he isn’t putting me on a emotional rollercoaster. I asked him to let me in and he doesn’t have to go through things on his own. He didn’t reply.

This past weekend was fine we were joking around and I asked him if he was my baby and he said yes. I haven’t talked to him since then that has been almost three days. I guess what I am trying not to do is just walk away. I like him a lot and how he looks at me when we are together and the things he says I know he feels the same I just wish he could express it.

Sorry it’s so long I am just confused lol anyone who knows a Sagittarius knows we don’t handle bull crap or hot and cold.
Tell him you just want to be friends.
I felt like this experience was for me to learn how to have patience and sit back and let it roll. I was taking the punches the back and fourth. When he was upset about what was going on in his personal life he took it out on me and me being blunt I would tell him not to and that was wrong. I think what baffles me the most is he is 37. He is too old to not be able to communicate.

I have always given him a out. I told him if it was too much he could just walk away and I wouldn’t be hurt. I told him if he just wanted sec hey that’s fine as well and he got upset when I said that.

So yesterday since I had not talk to him in four days I texted him was he okay he said yes and you. I told him I was worried because he had disappeared for a few days wanted to make sure he was okay. I texted him again once again the consideration side is coming out I asked him hey do you need time to yourself to work things out. No response. So a few hours later I texted him telling him I am not a toy you put on the shelf and take down when you want to be bothered. If he couldn’t handle a relationship he should have left me alone once I told him I liked him and we decided to be together. He texted back saying I have a lot going on right now and I don’t want you to feel that way so yes I need time to myself. I said okay gotcha and left it alone. It has been hurting but I feel as though people make time for what they want in there life and he mad time here and there but never for the important things.

Men say women are confusing and we don’t tell them what we want or how we feel. I am the complete opposite.
Posted by tiziani

I would lay off, he's already told you no.



The funny thing is I ve tried the laying off part and leaving him alone and he would come right back or say that’s not what he wanted. I tried being the hard ass and treating him the way he treats me and he didn’t like that said I was hot and cold and he didn’t like when I did that.
Posted by tiziani

Posted by Mz_D

Posted by tiziani

I would lay off, he's already told you no.



The funny thing is I ve tried the laying off part and leaving him alone and he would come right back or say that’s not what he wanted. I tried being the hard ass and treating him the way he treats me and he didn’t like that said I was hot and cold and he didn’t like when I did that.


(shrugs) I'd still lay off.

The way you're talking, you come off like you feel you're owed something or trying to get it to a certain place.

You're guilt tripping the dude too. "well you should have told me back then"

Just pointing this out because it's obviously not the way to get what you want, as long as you keep doing that I'm sure you'll be frustrated or attract the passive side out of anyone.

My 2 cents.
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I see where you are coming from and noway shape or form was I trying to guilt trip him or do I feel like anyone owes me anything. Like I stated I am blunt and all this could have been avoided if he walked away completely when he was given the chance and didn’t send mixed signs. I have been pretty consistent with how I feel and my actions. If I am not interested in someone I don’t waste my time the moment signs began to show I end things. I am straight forward not good at sugar coding things. But I see where you are coming from and that’s why I felt it was best just to walk away now and not be consistent. Thank you though it’s helping me look at it from a different point of view. Maybe I need to work on how I talk to people and not be so blunt. Thank you!