VIRGO MEN!!! Spill it...unwrap the mystery of the Virgo man

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by Scorpmoon39 on Thursday, May 19, 2016 and has 45 replies.
Virgo men are probably one of the most intriguing signs to me when it comes to relationships or emotions. I want to hear from the Virgo men what being a virgo male is like. Do you realize your hot and cold nature? What triggers it? What are you like in love? Why is everything analyzed? What calms you and what fires you up? Help unlock the mystery of the Virgo man...
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Hey girl I'mma let you finish but....there is zero mystery to Virgos.

I hope some come explaining the nonexistant mystery.

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I've told you before you have to use the large nets. You never know the strength of one trying to escape, so a large would suffice
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Posted by LibWman
I've told you before you have to use the large nets. You never know the strength of one trying to escape, so a large would suffice


Nets?

http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/pisces.asp
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All of the other men (non-V's) participate and/or deal with the women's incessant need to entertain her emotional baggage on the man who likes her ... for the Goods at the end, the guy will overlook this smothering and insufferable female trait of holding the puss hostage as leverage to get the man to cater to her feelings. Which of course, he isn't really caring of her feelings .. he's playing the game of it, because Goods are an unspoken promise if he plays his cards right.


Virgo's won't play. They just walk away unaffected by the female games to try and emotionally manipulate him.


And THAT ^^^^^^ is what is attracting you, and making you want to have him. He won't fall for games, he doesn't think emotional blackmail is acceptable, and not worth a nut if he has to feign concern for you.

Since people are inherently ego-based, since our consciousness is ego-fueled/aware .... to be ignored without ever being considered is the ultimate thrill of the chase .. you have to have it now.


In reality, as much as people get pissed at Virgos choosing robotics ... they get more action because of it, because it intrigues the others.



But, of course, you weren't actually looking for the unlocking of this mystery ... you were looking for people to embrace and fall into your delusion of Knights in Shining Armors coming down to rescue you from your emotional torment you carry around with you.
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fyi, kudos on giving all your personal information in that astro chart on your profile.
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All of the other men (non-V's) participate and/or deal with the women's incessant need to entertain her emotional baggage on the man who likes her ... for the Goods at the end, the guy will overlook this smothering and insufferable female trait of holding the puss hostage as leverage to get the man to cater to her feelings. Which of course, he isn't really caring of her feelings .. he's playing the game of it, because Goods are an unspoken promise if he plays his cards right.


Virgo's won't play. They just walk away unaffected by the female games to try and emotionally manipulate him.


And THAT ^^^^^^ is what is attracting you, and making you want to have him. He won't fall for games, he doesn't think emotional blackmail is acceptable, and not worth a nut if he has to feign concern for you.

Since people are inherently ego-based, since our consciousness is ego-fueled/aware .... to be ignored without ever being considered is the ultimate thrill of the chase .. you have to have it now.


In reality, as much as people get pissed at Virgos choosing robotics ... they get more action because of it, because it intrigues the others.



But, of course, you weren't actually looking for the unlocking of this mystery ... you were looking for people to embrace and fall into your delusion of Knights in Shining Armors coming down to rescue you from your emotional torment you carry around with you.


I am not a woman that needs rescued and that comment had me rolling on the floor....I have a curiosity about them because they seem to be my dominant which is extremely rare.
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Posted by Scorpmoon39
Virgo men are probably one of the most intriguing signs to me when it comes to relationships or emotions. I want to hear from the Virgo men what being a virgo male is like. Do you realize your hot and cold nature? What triggers it? What are you like in love? Why is everything analyzed? What calms you and what fires you up? Help unlock the mystery of the Virgo man...


Meh, I never found them mysterious at all. What is it you find about them that is hot and cold?
Virgo men that I know are kind of insecure, nervous (either on the surface or underneath), analytical, practical and always cautious.
Again, the ones I know are desperately hoping to find love but don't seem to know that their nitpicky wet blanket and slightly boring nature is a turn off.

Strangely, my mom is a Scorpio and when I tell her about my good Virguy friend, she thinks he is SO smart and agrees with most of what he says. I on the other hand think he states the obvious all the time ie., "starting your own business is hard" duh. " most people don't see returns for a couple of years" again duh.

I think Virguys are great at being cautious but there is not a lot of fire which I like. I can see how earth and water would go well together though!

Sorry if I come across harsh on Virguys.
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I've seen TONS of posts and comments regarding Virgos and their here one day, gone the next as well as their tendency to be hot and cold with their emotions. I'm guessing it is because they analyze things over and over. I have definitely noticed insecurities and it honestly is shocking to me as to why...most Virgos I know have it together in pretty much every aspect of life as well as being very intelligent...to me that should equal confidence. I have also noticed that they have dominant personalities which doesn't exactly fit with the insecurity thing. Seems like they are a big ball of contradictions....and why they intrigue me.
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Virgo men mysterious ? Ouch lol what Venus sign has he got . Scorpio placements maybe otherwise I find them so easy to read lol
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My virgo guy has a scorpio moon. He's been great lately and he just introduced me to his 'SAM' Sister from Another Mother lol and invited me to stay at his place for the 1st time. He's been more open with me since we removed ourselves from the crazy drama crowd that we both can't stand dealing with. Hoping it stays good...im always a little on edge because he's disappeared for a few days here and there but he always seems to come back and we talk it out. Idk ..he's definitely my dominant and an alpha as well so that's been an adjustment for me.
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I'm living with a Virgo male now I'm an Aries woman. Virgo men are gentleman ladies men who are smooth with their words and lead by action often breaking hearts because of their bachelor persona. They experience different women seeking perfection finding out his likes and dislikes . My Virgo was a bachelor or womanizer whatever you want to call it he was going through women trying to find the perfect one and he found me the odd one he can't figure me out I keep his brain working he thinks about what my next step is I'm unpredictable I surprise him all the time . Virgo men are critical and as an Aries I want to drop kick him at times but I know he cares he sees improvement and just wants the best for me he doesn't beat around the bush and although we live together he's the same before we were offical he still is detached likes his alone time can be very quiet you may view this as a problem but it's not he's just being himself I'm just an addition in his life me being there isn't going to change his routine. Virgo men have to be in control they want to feel needed by their partner they want to teach their partner and help them grow.
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Posted by Scorpmoon39
Virgo men are probably one of the most intriguing signs to me when it comes to relationships or emotions. I want to hear from the Virgo men what being a virgo male is like. Do you realize your hot and cold nature? What triggers it? What are you like in love? Why is everything analyzed? What calms you and what fires you up? Help unlock the mystery of the Virgo man...


They are the most intriguing sign they do have an hot cold nature. They are cold when they need their time alone and are focused on work or a project when they are not stressed over work or life their hot clingy all over you making you feel like the only girl in the world . They just want their woman to be their best friend who they can make love to . They are the same inlove their partner is an addition to their life this is why Virgo man are fussy and critical they are reaching for perfection so they expect their partner to be on the same page as them . Virgo men are men who like women to be independent mentally emotionally because he worries to much himself and isn't the mushy type so a woman for instance an Aries like myself I think for myself and I'm not emotionally needy so this works out with him because I'm mature enough to the point I won't get mad over not receiving a lot of attention . They like women are are sumbmissive and confident in bed meaning he wants to ge in control but won't mind letting the woman take the wheel for a second as far as finances and intelligence it's great if you have your own money and education that's a plus but if your little more financially dependent on him he's traditional he won't mind bringing him the bacon as long as you can cook it to perfection and if you aren't educated you atleast have to have a open mind to where you can talk about anything . Virgo men like women opposite of them he's interested in how her brain works . For example I'm an Aries I'm a child at heart he's a Virgo he's a father by heart so it's a father /child complex relationship he plays daddy to me to certain extent and he likes it he feels in control and needed.
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Posted by Scorpmoon39
Virgo men are probably one of the most intriguing signs to me when it comes to relationships or emotions. I want to hear from the Virgo men what being a virgo male is like. Do you realize your hot and cold nature? What triggers it? What are you like in love? Why is everything analyzed? What calms you and what fires you up? Help unlock the mystery of the Virgo man...


They are the most intriguing sign they do have an hot cold nature. They are cold when they need their time alone and are focused on work or a project when they are not stressed over work or life their hot clingy all over you making you feel like the only girl in the world . They just want their woman to be their best friend who they can make love to . They are the same inlove their partner is an addition to their life this is why Virgo man are fussy and critical they are reaching for perfection so they expect their partner to be on the same page as them . Virgo men are men who like women to be independent mentally emotionally because he worries to much himself and isn't the mushy type so a woman for instance an Aries like myself I think for myself and I'm not emotionally needy so this works out with him because I'm mature enough to the point I won't get mad over not receiving a lot of attention . They like women are are sumbmissive and confident in bed meaning he wants to ge in control but won't mind letting the woman take the wheel for a second as far as finances and intelligence it's great if you have your own money and education that's a plus but if your little more financially dependent on him he's traditional he won't mind bringing him the bacon as long as you can cook it to perfection and if you aren't educated you atleast have to have a open mind to where you can talk about anything . Virgo men like women opposite of them he's interested in how her brain works . For example I'm an Aries I'm a child at heart he's a Virgo he's a father by heart so it's a father /child complex relationship he plays daddy to me to certain extent and he likes it he feels in control and needed.
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I wonder if the whole Virgo daddy at heart works on women with daddy problems??? Or abandoned women who their dad left them or husbands left them?
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If you think a Virgo is easy to read its only cause he wants you to think that Winking Not because he has shown you ALL of his true self. Although whats ironic is that not even WE can fully 'read' ourselves, and thats part of our charm and appeal.

Thats how we unintentionally keep women hooked and thats why they are so intrigued by us even though we seem so...simple. Because no matter how many times a Virgo gives the impression he's cool and indifferent about a lot of things that do matter to you, you are always left with the vague sensation/feeling that there is more beneath the surface of that apparent cool indifference.

And the truth is, there usually is.
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Virgo women however are a complete different story. They dont have as good of a grasp of the nervous Mercury energy as us Virdudes do, so they usually end up saying much more than they intended to. This often resulting in them misrepresenting themselves. It makes them easier to read too. They just cant keep things inside as well as us Virdudes can.
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Virgo being mutable, it deals with opposite energies, both mental and emotional. We are split from within. Our life revolves around that struggle to unify things that seem ununifiable. It is this struggle that gives us that enormous potential for creativity and resourcefulness, as well as a certain universal appeal. People are drawn to characters that have a deep struggle within, just look at movie characters, the most remembered or interesting ones are always the ones that deal with personal struggle.
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Ok, I revealed enough for now..


Good thing this is just the top of the iceberg Winking

Good luck in that quest, ladies! Make it an interesting one.
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Virgo being mutable, it deals with opposite energies, both mental and emotional. We are split from within. Our life revolves around that struggle to unify things that seem ununifiable. It is this struggle that gives us that enormous potential for creativity and resourcefulness, as well as a certain universal appeal. People are drawn to characters that have a deep struggle within, just look at movie characters, the most remembered or interesting ones are always the ones that deal with personal struggle.


true. i have witnessed this. why im kind of perplexed with the virgos are simple...i never have ever met a simple virgo
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I think only Virgos think Virgos are simple lol. This man I'm on and off seeing is more complex and here again gone again than any man I've ever known. One min he says he loves me, next he's gone...then he misses me, comes back and leaves again. I quit giving a shit...what will be will be. I love the man but I'm not chasing him.
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No hidden catch. No strings attached. Just freelove.
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Posted by RamOfPeace
No hidden catch. No strings attached. Just freelove.


Sure doesn't feel that way lol. HE has a scorpio moon and Venus in leo...all around pain in the ass but it's what I love about him.
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Posted by Scorpmoon39
Posted by RamOfPeace
No hidden catch. No strings attached. Just freelove.


Sure doesn't feel that way lol. HE has a scorpio moon and Venus in leo...all around pain in the ass but it's what I love about him.
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You sound like an emotional masochist
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Posted by RamOfPeace
Posted by Scorpmoon39
Posted by RamOfPeace
No hidden catch. No strings attached. Just freelove.


Sure doesn't feel that way lol. HE has a scorpio moon and Venus in leo...all around pain in the ass but it's what I love about him.


You sound like an emotional masochist
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Not ashamed to say I had to Google that and quite honestly that is the 1st time anyone has ever said that to me...and holy shit I think you just opened my eyes to something I didn't even realize.

These came up as the 15 signs
I do all but 13 and 15...getting better at 1

1. Start arguments for no apparent reason.
2. Engorge ourselves with food until it hurts.
3. Quit goals right when things start to go well.
4. Run from happy relationships.
5. Quit jobs that have potential.
6. End friendships over trivial matters.
7. Knowingly spend more money than we have.
8. Abuse alcohol and drugs.
9. Tolerate people who hurt us.
10. Tolerate people who control us.
11. Tolerate people who reject and demean us.
12. Tolerate people who humiliate us.
13. Refuse to stand up for ourselves.
14. Hold onto painful feelings.
15. Criticize ourselves incessantly
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Posted by Underworldaries
I'm living with a Virgo male now I'm an Aries woman. Virgo men are gentleman ladies men who are smooth with their words and lead by action often breaking hearts because of their bachelor persona. They experience different women seeking perfection finding out his likes and dislikes . My Virgo was a bachelor or womanizer whatever you want to call it he was going through women trying to find the perfect one and he found me the odd one he can't figure me out I keep his brain working he thinks about what my next step is I'm unpredictable I surprise him all the time . Virgo men are critical and as an Aries I want to drop kick him at times but I know he cares he sees improvement and just wants the best for me he doesn't beat around the bush and although we live together he's the same before we were offical he still is detached likes his alone time can be very quiet you may view this as a problem but it's not he's just being himself I'm just an addition in his life me being there isn't going to change his routine. Virgo men have to be in control they want to feel needed by their partner they want to teach their partner and help them grow.



Well stated. I feel the same way even though I'm a virgal Winking
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Posted by RamOfPeace
Posted by Scorpmoon39
Posted by RamOfPeace
No hidden catch. No strings attached. Just freelove.


Sure doesn't feel that way lol. HE has a scorpio moon and Venus in leo...all around pain in the ass but it's what I love about him.


You sound like an emotional masochist
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I agree....but some people like it
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Virgo women however are a complete different story. They dont have as good of a grasp of the nervous Mercury energy as us Virdudes do, so they usually end up saying much more than they intended to. This often resulting in them misrepresenting themselves. It makes them easier to read too. They just cant keep things inside as well as us Virdudes can.

My anxiety is killing me. I figured the older I got, it would fade. Nope.. I just grew to accept it..
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I sometimes wonder if people who are analytical, like many Virgo influenced people can be, seem complex to people who aren't as analytical.

The look on people's faces when they're thinking about something in an analytical way can come across as more of a puzzle than it actually is at times. It can also look like anger or judgment or any number of emotions and states that skews perception about what is going on. The thoughts themselves might be quite straight forward, there are just a lot of them and various angles being considered.

Most Virgo influenced people I know can be quiet at times as they process, which I guess might seem mysterious to some people.

To me, it's very normal. I grew up with a very analytical family. All of us at some point have been misunderstood because of our expressions when thinking. I'd have to check my parents and sister's chart overlay, but I think I'm the only one with a heavy Virgo influence (many planets in the 6th house)
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Virgos and Virgo influenced people I've known, when comfortable, share their thought process out loud with me and I enjoy that and do the same and often it ends up being funny and we laugh because there are so many "what ifs" and that sort of thing to reach a conclusion of some kind.

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I honestly don't know what the hell to think about the virgo I've been seeing. It's a roller-coaster that I don't think I can handle much longer

Sucks to love someone so much and you feel like you're the only one in the relationship. One day he tells me how much he misses me, the next he's cold as ice.
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I'm a virgal.

But I have read through this thread and thought and thought and thought about how I could put into words just what I thought would be a great answer to you.

And that's when it hit me. Virgos have so much going on inside and unfortunately are horrible at expressing themselves. I've always told people that I'm sorry in advance for how I come off to others because I know that from my end I could feel warmth and love inside but I don't project it as well. And I hate that about myself, and it's something I am trying to get better at.

People are very interested and intrigued with Virgo because they can sense an internal battle going on, and there is one. And the true interest happens when the person expects us to be bursting at the seams, but we aren't. We hold our internal struggle inside, simply because of the fact that emotional expression is so so difficult for us.

Think of the earth, all people seem to forget that at the earths core there is a ball of magma, burning at outrageous temperatures, and sometimes must be released through volcanoes and such. That's a Virgo. So much is happening inside, but not enough is being shown unless it was an uncontrollable outburst.

That's why so many virgos are interested in the arts or writing (so many great authors) or anything else really. We need to be able to express how we feel without saying it.

We're truly sorry about that. It's something we try to fix everyday. And that's another thing, the fact that we try to fix everything, even ourselves. Not everything can be fixed. We know that so well, but we still try anyway.
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That's why Virgos seem disconnected (which adds to the list as to why one is intrigued) because most of us are. We cannot connect our heart to our words and that is what cripples our relationships with others. It sucks because we are perfectionists and are able to see our flaws very well. We realize the disconnect and try to fix it. But it usually takes a long long time, if we are able to fix it at all anyway. As said before, Virgo women are worse at handling the nervous energy than Virgo men, which is why the Virgo male seems harder to understand. The wire between their heart and mouth is nonexistent usually. Whereas the Virgo female may overrepresent in what they say, which causes others to misinterpret her. We can never get it right. We're either going 200% or 0% . Never at a comfortable 100%
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Sunsetvirgo that actually makes sense. I am the total opposite and am very open about my feelings and I feel things so intensely. It's almost like I can feel hiso tension and it's driving me crazy. He only is able to express his emotions when he's been drinking which sucks. I have this connection with him that keeps me hanging on...in a way I feel we need eachother to create some kind of balance within each of us. We are both going through some really stressful times and we both are on the defense...not helping the situation. I don't want to lose him but I feel like he keeps drifting further away, trying to find things wrong or issues that cause disagreements. We never fight as in yelling, we just don't know how to talk to eachother and I need to know or feel where he's at in all of this. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm considering telling him we need to take a break, regroup and see if we come together at a later time when things are calmer. We haven't had sex in over a month due to a lot of our issues with trying to figure us out...the sex is intense and we don't want that to be the basis of our relationship. It's hard because that's when I feel we are the most connected and I miss that terribly.
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I understand.

It was said that out of all of the zodiacs, Virgo and Scorpio bring to relationships understanding. Many may not realize it, but a Virgo strives to understand and comprehend our partners, half because we know how it feels to be misunderstood and the other half is because we are constantly analyzing you. He may not verbalize it but he probably understands you in a way you've never imagined (E.g. what makes you tick/tock, the way your finger moves or your eyebrow lifts when you lie, etc.) and knows how his miscommunication is hurting you and the relationship. But unfortunately he's having a battle of how to express himself.

Virgos may not say this, but we crave for someone to understand us without having us say any words. Which is honestly an unrealistic wish for such a realistic sign. Having someone read us just as well as we read them is ethereal for a Virgo.

And The fact that your asking people to reveal the "Virgo enigma" means that you can't read him.

And honestly, that's okay. Not many people can.

It's probably better to take a break and regroup as you said. Maybe you both will find what your looking for. Whether you find each other or someone else, who knows. To each their own, though.
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We went into this backwards and didn't get to know each other on a personal level and fell into the chemistry and infatuation with eachother. Once I understand HOW to communicate with him on a level that we both get I'm sure we will be great. We just haven't gotten there yet. He's doing his typical ignoring me for a day today and more than likely I'll either get a text late tonight or at some point in the morning. I've learned that about him...he can ignore like none other. I don't know how he does it...I don't like leaving things up in the air at all and I want to and need to know where we are...I have to have a sense of stability and we have not had any of that. He's 'broken up' with me like 3x and always comes back pretty quickly and we work it out. It causes us both to put walls up and that's not good either

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The Virgo I was with for 8 years has a Cap Moon, and Leo Venus, Virgo sun and mars. I agree with the opinion that when a Virgo is in it, he is all the way in. I never had a doubt about the consistency of my Virguy until he hit mid-life crisis.


But yeah they don't blow hot and cold, they are either or.
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As I said, the communication between you two is close to horrible. Which is sometimes the case when one is trying to understand a Virgo. Leaving and then coming back to each other and seeing where you both are at, is a wonderful idea.

I know he's like a drug, and you want to keep the conversation going and keep the relationship going (I was talking to a fellow Virgo guy myself). They're very intoxicating and mysterious truly. But something I've noticed for anyone no matter the sign, is that distance makes the heart grow fonder. As you said that everytime he "breaks up" with you he comes right back. So try that.

Also, not understanding and getting to know each other first is a major setback. Virgos look for companionship in friendship first and foremost. Having a best friend type of relationship is crucial to us.
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That's what I'm going to have to do...as much as I hate it we are just going to have to take some time and see if we are drawn back together at a better time. I don't want to stop talking to him bUT we can't just be friends. The connection is to intense...he can just look at me a certain way and I'm putty in his hands.
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We both have scorpio moons which is like a tornado hitting a volcano. His venus is in leo and mine is in aries...we're all kinds of intense.
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I know. It sucks. Withdrawing from something you want to figure out, understand, is going to be difficult. And you'll want him to fight for you and the relationship. But it may be for the best for right now.

Wow that's really intense. Good luck.
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Posted by Scorpmoon39
We both have scorpio moons which is like a tornado hitting a volcano. His venus is in leo and mine is in aries...we're all kinds of intense.
I would not tell. him you want a break bc that may just be the end all be all to you guys.


You think hes ignoring you when you text him and get no reply until later that night or next day after an argument...Hes not and thats a myth that has cropped up on the internet. He thinks about you all the time, even then.
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I know I do him... I let my own insecurities get the best of me. These things I'm addressing. He's definitely in my heart and I know he has feelings for me, we just show ithe differently
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The most relevant thing I can think of is that not everyone will love you the way you want them to. Sad yet true.
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there is no mystery. there is only... mystic and magic... when my eyes meet yours then hides away from shynessLaughing
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Posted by virgowithasoul
there is no mystery. there is only... mystic and magic... when my eyes meet yours then hides away from shynessLaughing
This virgo is far from shy...he's a playboy
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