Virgo remaining friends with ex's
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by jewels319 on Tuesday, April 19, 2011 and has 13 replies.
I was having a disucssion my virgo guy about remaining friends after a breakup. He said that if I had met someone that I was interested in pursuing a relationship with that he would be hurt but would still want to remain friends. I know that breaking up doesn't have to be drama and it should be handled maturely (and unfortunately often times it doesn't); but wouldn't it be painful to continue to speak to an ex that you obvious still have feelings for? Please share your pov's virgos out there!
I was wondering the same thing. I posted something similar here not long ago. My ex Virgo wants to remain friends...why is my question.
Posted by CreativityMe
I was wondering the same thing. I posted something similar here not long ago. My ex Virgo wants to remain friends...why is my question.
To let you go slowly/when we're ready to, instead of immediately. It's selfish, silly, and destructive to both parties. Cut 'em off.
It really depends on the person and the manner in which we split.
Using myself as an example...
I can sincerely say I would want you to be 100% happy even if it meant being with someone else but I also choose for myself not to be your consolation prize. I dont think those things are mutually exclusive.
Using myself as an example...
I can sincerely say I would want you to be 100% happy even if it meant being with someone else but I also choose for myself not to be your consolation prize. I dont think those things are mutually exclusive.
I also think it depends on why we broke up.
If the relationship was good for the most part and just didn't work out I stay friends but if it was mostly bad I want them cut out completely.
Yeah it hurts to be broken apart from someone you love but it's worth it in the end when you're both okay.
@Creativity I don't connect with people too often so when I let someone in I like to keep them in my life if I think they are special and if I love them. It doesn't mean I hope to go back into a relationship but it means I care enough to want to find a way for us to know each other even if things change between us. Maybe your Virgo falls along those lines but I'm saying this not knowing about your relationship and breakup.
If the relationship was good for the most part and just didn't work out I stay friends but if it was mostly bad I want them cut out completely.
Yeah it hurts to be broken apart from someone you love but it's worth it in the end when you're both okay.
@Creativity I don't connect with people too often so when I let someone in I like to keep them in my life if I think they are special and if I love them. It doesn't mean I hope to go back into a relationship but it means I care enough to want to find a way for us to know each other even if things change between us. Maybe your Virgo falls along those lines but I'm saying this not knowing about your relationship and breakup.
Out of my 7 past relationships, I remain friends with 5 of them.
The 2 I did not, things ended badly.
I don't see any problem with being friends after it's all said and done, plus I get to toy with them on my hook from time to time.
The 2 I did not, things ended badly.
I don't see any problem with being friends after it's all said and done, plus I get to toy with them on my hook from time to time.
Im friends with my Virgo ex..And its tough because I love him and I know he loves me...But in all honesty I dnt think I would be ok without him in my life still..
I don't know. It's strange to me and I stay away as much as possible. Our relationship was a good one. We had a lot of great times. I am friends with a lot of my ex's so I don't see anything wrong with friendship after a break up, but this is a little different. I don't think it's about getting back together or anything like that. He hasn't allowed time for us to be apart, meaning no communication. I dunno folks. I figured it was about him handling his feelings that he may have hurt me and wanting to kinda keep an eye on me. Or the idea that he really just likes me and not wanting to lose me from his life. The thing that gets me is he now has a woman. I asked him if he thought the communication between he and I would cause friction. He said "maybe" but we can still talk. HUH??? I'm like noooo, I don't think that's right. So, again I am trying to stay my distance. I communicate with him only when he reaches out to me, which is way to often in my POV (at this time). Just strange I tell ya lol. I do have many Virgos in my life so I do get more insight from watching them. And what I have learned over the years is that if the Virgo really felt a connection with someone they don't want to lose it per se. I find that interesting. I have these conversations with my family (Virgos) all the time. I would always asked why contact the person, why be friends with them.... What I found though is that the ppl they would keep in contact with were the ones that touched their heart.
Hey Jewels......
Are ya still there? Why did the pair of you break up?
Are ya still there? Why did the pair of you break up?
We did not break-up. We were talking about a friend of mine and then related it to our situation if we did break-up. It's funny because I wouldn't want to remain friends knowing that he may be digging another woman; however, he asked what if I met someone and he wanted to remain friends would I accept. I couldn't answer because it was like the shoe was on the other foot (which confused the heck out of me). I guess we are all selfish in some ways.
Cajun: I can see how he would want to remain friends because we have great chemistry and I think that he would want to be able to flirt with me.
CLCNY30: I agree with you too here because I know that he is so used to me that if we did break-up, he would still miss me (but maybe not as much if he had met another potential love interest).
Cajun: I can see how he would want to remain friends because we have great chemistry and I think that he would want to be able to flirt with me.
CLCNY30: I agree with you too here because I know that he is so used to me that if we did break-up, he would still miss me (but maybe not as much if he had met another potential love interest).
Posted by jewels319
Cajun: I can see how he would want to remain friends because we have great chemistry and I think that he would want to be able to flirt with me.
Yuuup, we do enjoy light and playful flirting.
Ok, the picture is a little clearer. You didn't really make it too clear that you were speaking about someone else.
Being friends with an ex virgo can be hard if the pair were really connected deeply. You can BE in a relationship with someone else, but a virgo wouldn't want to actually talk about it.
Being friends with an ex virgo can be hard if the pair were really connected deeply. You can BE in a relationship with someone else, but a virgo wouldn't want to actually talk about it.
Posted by jewels319
I was having a disucssion my virgo guy about remaining friends after a breakup. He said that if I had met someone that I was interested in pursuing a relationship with that he would be hurt but would still want to remain friends. I know that breaking up doesn't have to be drama and it should be handled maturely (and unfortunately often times it doesn't); but wouldn't it be painful to continue to speak to an ex that you obvious still have feelings for? Please share your pov's virgos out there!
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