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Sep 07, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 182 · Topics: 25
So I met this man. He is gorgeous, sweet, expressive, romantic, and incredibly sexy. However, he is also incredibly insecure. I never had a man share himself so quickly and intensely. He wants everything with me, but I am a bit more cautious. Especially since I see a tendency in him to be manipulative/controlling. It's as if he constantly tests me to prove my love for him. We've had our issues in a very short period of time because he constantly thinks I am lying to him if I can't see him. Normally, I cater to him to ease his anxiety but my patience could only go so far. Last night, I told I would not be able to see him tonight because I have law school finals next week and would be at school studying tonight. He shot me the nastiest email which called me everything from a liar to a game player, etc. That I was just using him and that I just wanted to play games with him since he knows I would be partying on a Friday night. I had it. No catering this time. I told him that I would not tolerate a man disrespecting me and that he could think what he wanted. Then he tried to flip it on me by saying that I did this because I knew he would get mad and that would be my way out of the relationship. I almost wrote back, but I didn't. I knew he was trying to get me to make him feel better and chase him, which I will not. He can think what he wants...I'm not playing these mind games with him. I'll be at school studying tonight and he can think what he wants. I am a Pisces Sun/Aquarius Moon. Is this typical behavior? I'm a big believer in freedom...and I feel like he just wanted me all to himself at all times...he was willing to cancel any plans to be with me...I'm honestly a little concerned this guy is going to stalk me now...I wouldn't be surprised if he showed up at my school tonight...I just hope he goes his way and I'll go mine...
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Feb 04, 2013Comments: 1 · Posts: 9186 · Topics: 179
Put a pair of these on..
and run like a bat outta hell!
This guy clearly has issues and if he does try to stalk you, do whatever you must to make that shit stop!
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Sep 07, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 182 · Topics: 25
Update - he reached out and apologized...said he was just scared and that he imagines the worst when I am not around. I told him I had no patience for it but chose to give him another chance. I went to dinner the following night with girlfriends and he spent the whole night sending me messages that he knew I was out with another guy. It's too much. I love so many aspects about him and how openly he shares his emotions, but it's not healthy. I can't be with someone who loves me, but wants me around at all times to comfort his anxiety. He is a wonderful man and I wish him the world. I think we are magical together when on a good terms, but the bad aspects are just not healthy. So I've ended things. It was an emotional ending but it's for the best. He needs someone less liberal than me, who will cater to his controlling behavior. It's a shame...but that's life...
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Sep 30, 2011Comments: 712 · Posts: 13125 · Topics: 157
And no scorpio moon is going to want to be around you all the time. We value our space & despise clingy people. As a matter of fact, anything overdone ie. spending too much time together can quickly become a nuisance or make the scorpio moon to start to dislike you. IDK about virgo/scorpio sun-moon combo, though, buy 11/8 combo VALUES personal space. I'd dump a guy that acts like I've adopted him by wanting to be around me all the damn time. Not happening.
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Sep 30, 2011Comments: 712 · Posts: 13125 · Topics: 157
LMAO, they call cancer sun/leo moon: the drama queen.
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Sep 07, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 182 · Topics: 25
He keeps emailing me that I said I would never leave him...that he needs me and loves me and wants to make me happy...we'll go back and forth a few times where I kindly tell him that I care for him and can be his friend...but nothing more, because I'm not what he's looking for...and he'll try for a bit to convince me otherwise and then he'll abruptly say, "forget it...take care...bye". I can't be with someone who doesn't trust me and needs me around at ALL times. Maybe it's my Aqua moon, but I love quality time and I love being with my partner at all times...but he takes it to another level. I can already tell that me having any kind of social life is out the door. When I said that to him, he said he wouldn't have a problem with it so long as he dropped me off and picked me up...ummm, no thanks.
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Sep 07, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 182 · Topics: 25
CluelessCancer - WOW - that was scary...my rising is Cancer...does that change anything?? I've felt bad all day about my Virgo Sun/Scorpio Moon...I know being with him is not healthy...I miss him...but I won't reach out...it will start the cycle all over again, and that's not fair to him...in a weird way it's nice being loved so intensely...but it's just too much and I know long-term we'll end in anger and resentment...he might hate me right now for leaving, but hopefully one day he'll see the reality of the situation...oh well, that's life...
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Feb 11, 2010Comments: 252 · Posts: 38715 · Topics: 473
@OP.
Do not REASON this guy's behavior. Run.