Does anyone know whether or not our sign deals with unrequited love differently than other signs? My first reaction is to hate the person who isn't "returning" the love. I know that's not necessarily a healthy thing to do, but that is just my first reaction. My Venus is in Leo. I know that might mess things up, as Virgos generally react differently than Leos. What do you guys think?
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Aug 27, 2008Comments: 3 · Posts: 4208 · Topics: 163
Very... amusing how many Virgos have Venus in Leo...
This has to do with our very core amigo, having the Leo just makes it worse.
We need to feel needed and appreciation is what drives us forward.
All to often we are used and abused and don't even get a thank you for it, that is when I become deeply hurt and agitated.
Otherwise, I just become sad and depressed.
I think it is perfectly normal and healthy, especially as a Virgo with Venus in Leo who is young like we are.
Maybe we grow out of it with the years... I'm sure Shaks will have something to say about that.
I will never nor do I want to be selfish. It simply isn't gentlemanly, and it makes you look bad.
While you are right that most people are selfish and only look out for themselves, that doesn't mean that I have to act that way. I'd like to think that it is things like this that set me apart from most individuals.
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Aug 27, 2008Comments: 3 · Posts: 4208 · Topics: 163
I have my Moon in Leo too and I don't see any reason to be selfish either.
Though other "all knowing and high horsed" folks on DXP would have you I am selfish for not wanting the people around me to destroy themselves and expect me to accept it.
It all comes down to experience in knowing who to help and how much to help them. Over time, you get better at it.
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Aug 12, 2009Comments: 3 · Posts: 3918 · Topics: 16
Very interesting. I just ended a relationship (well.... more accurately I decided not to move it further along, it was in the beginning stages) with a Virgo that has moon and venus in Leo. I have Sun, Moon & Venus in Leo. So this topic definitely sparked my interest especially after seeing a few of the statements from both AV and CS.
He was very much into me and was moving way to fast for me, determined to prove to me that he was the man for me. I am just not at a place where I can offer him what he needs emotionally. I did try, and he tried to give me the space he felt I needed but I felt as if I was under constant pressure to commit to attempting a future with him in an extremely short period of time. I was very honest with my position, however he did continue to push the issue from time to time making me uncomfortable. We spent this weekend together and it become clear to me that I had to end it because I just wasnt that into him.
**We need to feel needed and appreciation is what drives us forward.
I can see how important this was to my Virgo. He was constantly trying to take care of me and being a Leo, I am a very independent person but ALWAYS very appreciative of everything someone does for me. So, I always made sure to thank him when he did something for me, even though I was constantly asking him not to.
**All to often we are used and abused and don't even get a thank you for it, that is when I become deeply hurt and agitated.
During our conversation, I could tell he was very upset so I told him that I was not a person that was comfortable with taking advantage of someone's feelings and that I would simply not abuse him in that way. Therefore I have to be honest and tell you that I am not feeling the same and that I don't feel like we can continue to move forward.
**Otherwise, I just become sad and depressed.
He didn't take it extremely well but I just couldn't force myself to feel something that wasn't. I was worried that he would be mad with me and was unsure what to expect. However, this morning he sent me a very nice text telling me that he will miss my company and that he wished me the best and maybe at another time things would be different. He told me he would always be there for me and anytime I wanted to see him all I had to do was ask. So, I hope he means it and that we can be friends eventually. I think I will let him contact me though. Any ideas on that?
LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved, thanks for replying. I read what you wrote and it was very interesting. The guy you described sounds very similar to me; that's probably not a good thing, is it?
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Aug 27, 2008Comments: 3 · Posts: 4208 · Topics: 163
Yeah sortilege85 is right.
I find Leo women very disinterested in Virgo men. They are so nice but so distant with us, I usually have no idea what to say or do.
I, myself, am a Leo/Virgo cusp, born right on the day and lemme tell ya, it ain't easy. It can sometimes feel like a total war of head vs. heart, which makes decision making very conflicting. It can really difficult if you have Leo traits being a Virgo, but then you get both ends of that never-ending spectrum. I generally feel if my love is unrequited, then I give up. I don't think anyone can force love upon someone else, nor can they do it to you. If it isn't happening, try your options, but don't assume they will work. If you really feel that it's unrequited love in the end, then you should just move on from that. It won't happen.
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Dec 08, 2008Comments: 0 · Posts: 2929 · Topics: 207
I get mad to it only happen to me once i let this libra get under my radar but i was made i count this to my scorpio rising for me being made.. but lucky i have cap moon that keeps me selfish enough to not get used and get over things.. i have virgo venus mars and mercury..