Virgos..ever feel disappointed by people...

It's a feeling that gets stronger the older I get, but I have lost faith in people in general. I have friends, but some I have grown to resent the longer I've gotten to know them. Is this a virgo thing? I feel disillusion has set in. I have either pushed people away more recently or I've cut them out of my life completely. And I know I'm resentful towards them because I've stopped holding back my true feelings about them...at least my perception of them anyway.

Your thoughts?

Thanks for your response. I guess the resentment comes from learning that some people are not who I perceived them to be. I can now see through their phoniness. People who I trusted and held close to my heart. Only to find out my perception of them was inaccurate. They were always putting on a show if you will. Those are the people I have distanced myself from which had caused this resentment. And I see more clearly now through alot of people's BS which makes me feel like people suck!

Satori...maybe that's your clue to stay gone.

No problem...i guess the reason it's the same old butter is because many go through it at different times. Looking for advice from someone who has...we all can learn something from one another. :-)

Decan: thanks for your advice...really trying to...i hope this is just a phase I'm going through...really sucks...i used to have such a positive outlook and opinion of people.

Satori: thanks for the link, I'll check it out!

Posted by virgoheart
It's a feeling that gets stronger the older I get, but I have lost faith in people in general. I have friends, but some I have grown to resent the longer I've gotten to know them. Is this a virgo thing? I feel disillusion has set in. I have either pushed people away more recently or I've cut them out of my life completely. And I know I'm resentful towards them because I've stopped holding back my true feelings about them...at least my perception of them anyway.

Your thoughts?

oh hell yea i felt use by people cuz i will give from my heart but i learn that u gotta find people u like u for you also u see people who they really are and u leave those type of people behind because they are not good for you.


oh i cut alot people from my life cuz i realize i should be around people who enjoy being around me.


we grow up we leave people who is not on our mental wave length.

Thanks LV!

Let me be frank because I've been there. This is not exclusively virgo thing. Most adults went through this path.
It is hard when you finally opened yourself with all your expectations and discovered life as what it is.
Yes it is hard. But the best part of this is... you grow up.
You lose your naivety and this is not a bad thing. Learn to see the silver lining in everything. Everything has two ways of seeing and what you see is your choice. Think good instead. It is as simple as that.

The objective is to love yourself, love what you're growing up to be.
Take a look in the mirror and make sure you love who's staring back.
When you cut people off, you should ask yourself would this hurt me even more?
Nobody can hurt you without your consent, and these moments you spend on being disappointed are moments wasted because life doesn't wait for anyone. Move on anyway.

So these are more practical tips: spend more time with your friends. Travel. Read more. These will eventually let you see that life sets out the best for everyone, and nobody is perfect. It will make you be more forgiving and accepting. Don't refer to the time/date/sign you're born under. Your life is yours, you decide.

It all comes down to your tolerance level.

Me, I have very low tolerance and it will always be a matter of weighing a persons pros and cons. No one is perfect and life is about choices. If you choose to excommunicate someone, I see no problem wit that, it's your choice.

We Virgos are just more prone to it, because we are the discriminating kind 🙂

Thanks everyone for your advice. I really appreciate it! As painful as this phase has been, I hope I can get through it quickly and be wiser for it. It does come from naivety....seems like some people are equipped with this knowledge and some of us have to learn the hard way. More than anything I hate how it's changed my personality...i am more cautious and skeptical...i no longer live in ignorant bliss...i used to see the good in everyone and now I question my perception constantly...hate it...

Posted by virgoheart
It's a feeling that gets stronger the older I get, but I have lost faith in people in general. I have friends, but some I have grown to resent the longer I've gotten to know them. Is this a virgo thing? I feel disillusion has set in. I have either pushed people away more recently or I've cut them out of my life completely. And I know I'm resentful towards them because I've stopped holding back my true feelings about them...at least my perception of them anyway.

Your thoughts?

Yes, I have--but my disappointment is just that, MY disappointment. As long as they're happy with the directions their lives are taking, then what I feel about them/their lives doesn't matter. I'd rather take that energy, and invest it into improving my OWN life.

Posted by virgoheart
Thanks for your response. I guess the resentment comes from learning that some people are not who I perceived them to be. I can now see through their phoniness. People who I trusted and held close to my heart. Only to find out my perception of them was inaccurate. They were always putting on a show if you will. Those are the people I have distanced myself from which had caused this resentment. And I see more clearly now through alot of people's BS which makes me feel like people suck!

If you read up on virgos it says that we are good at picking up different types of facade. It could be people pretending to be who they really aren't or gimmicks/schemes. It's hard to fool us. So when you said that you can see through phoniness, don't doubt it. Your intuition is more than likely to be correct.