Virguy broke up with me...he thinks I'm cheating!

I just want some input. My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago because he thinks I have lied to him and been unfaithful! He said he is convinced of it. I have a kid and am cool with the dad and my boyfriend sees it as something more but it's not. We've been together 9 months. I'm going crazy without him. We broke up and then talked the next day but nothing got solved. We got into a horrible argument and he said some really mean things to me including that he doesn't give a F###K about me, which I really know he didn't mean! That was the last I heard of him. I'm dying to call him but I'm afraid to. What do you suggest??

that means he's cheating. he cheated on you.

He is not cheating on u he is just treaten by ur ex and trying get out early b4 he gets hurt u have to explain to him he isin ur life bc ur kid and let him know how much u love him and try to make ur ex contact only about the kid that all it should be.. i have been were he is at.... it tick us off but if u explain it like i told u... u b ok

he is discouraged _ think. talk to him but not tell him to return to u. just tell the situation , not in a miserable mood.

Tsk, for pete's sake .. just because a person has become insecure about something doesn't mean thier cheating on you, lol.

::: shakes head :::


TaurusVenusChick, here's the deal ... Virgo's by nature think they aren't good enough for you. And this is all the time during a relationship .. they look at you and think things like ..

'why me' .. 'look how beautiful she is, why would she want someone like me'

They always feel that way ^^^^

They feel so blessed that someone as lovely as their partner would want to be with them, and will above and beyond to support their partner in every way possible for them ... but, this insecurity is always present.

Since he is like this by nature, and you have such a good relationship with an ex, he is terrified that he won't be good enough for you and that you will go back to your ex because your ex might be better for you than he is. Him breaking up with you, and accusing you of infidelity is just his defense mechanism kicking in.

He needs reassurance that he is your man .. that HE is your man. And if this means cutting unnecessary ties with your child's father for a while, then I should think if you care about this man then it would be worth it. Besides, connection with child's father should only be during child-time anyway. To spend any other quality time with ex, when child isn't involved, is actually grounds for suspicion, in which case, I wouldn't blame him for being paranoid.


Just go to him, make sure he understands, fully, that your heart and mind is with him ... HIM. That's all he needs.

Virgo's are very simple .. you cannot complicate things with these people by throwing another person into the mix, or you'll fuck their heads up like this.

I can begin to emphasise emphatically how amazingly accurate P-Angel's words are.

We never think we are good enough and are in constant fear that someone may be better suited to you than we are.

We feel threatened, we believe we should be ALL that matters.
The accusations and breakup IS IN FACT a defensive mechanism, one that I have employed myself as well as another Virgo guy I know.

You must thoroughly assure him he is YOUR MAN.