Virguys
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by daydrmblvr08 on Thursday, December 12, 2013 and has 29 replies.
Hello everyone - I have posted here before but would still not consider myself well-versed in astrology, so please bear with me as you read through.
I have recently been on a few dates with a Virgo, but I am completely confused about his intentions. He is incredible - very likely the most intelligent person I have ever met (shouldn't expect any less from a Virgo). He's also funny (he did stand-up comedy at a talent show twice) and good-looking. He's very easy to talk to, but even during our first few encounters I felt as though he had some nervous energy.
Anyway, despite all of his wonderful qualities, I still had a feeling he just wanted to get laid, which, initially, I was fine with. He would bring me out with all of his friends, and I told him that he didn't have to involve me in his life, that it was just making things complicated. He told me that his mother raised him right and that I deserved the respect of being taken out and, basically, not to be treated like a hooker. He told me to sleep on it, and if I really didn't want to continue, to let him know in the morning. I mulled it over and decided, "Why not enjoy him while I can? He happens to be amazing." So in the morning I told him that I did want to continue. He said, "Good. I'm glad."
The last time I saw him was 10 days ago. I made dinner at my house and then he took a book off my shelf to borrow. He said it was his "excuse to come hang out again." But I haven't heard a single peep out of him. Currently, he is on interviews around the country (he is a medical student interviewing for residency) and before he left my house he said he would send me pictures of his suits. This is relevant because he had asked me the first time I went to his house to help him coordinate his suits for his interviews. But again, he has made no contact.
What the heck, Virgos?? Enlighten me. Why has he not contacted me? Am I supposed to contact him?
My birthday is 2/5/90; his is 8/30/87. My rising sign is Virgo.
I have recently been on a few dates with a Virgo, but I am completely confused about his intentions. He is incredible - very likely the most intelligent person I have ever met (shouldn't expect any less from a Virgo). He's also funny (he did stand-up comedy at a talent show twice) and good-looking. He's very easy to talk to, but even during our first few encounters I felt as though he had some nervous energy.
Anyway, despite all of his wonderful qualities, I still had a feeling he just wanted to get laid, which, initially, I was fine with. He would bring me out with all of his friends, and I told him that he didn't have to involve me in his life, that it was just making things complicated. He told me that his mother raised him right and that I deserved the respect of being taken out and, basically, not to be treated like a hooker. He told me to sleep on it, and if I really didn't want to continue, to let him know in the morning. I mulled it over and decided, "Why not enjoy him while I can? He happens to be amazing." So in the morning I told him that I did want to continue. He said, "Good. I'm glad."
The last time I saw him was 10 days ago. I made dinner at my house and then he took a book off my shelf to borrow. He said it was his "excuse to come hang out again." But I haven't heard a single peep out of him. Currently, he is on interviews around the country (he is a medical student interviewing for residency) and before he left my house he said he would send me pictures of his suits. This is relevant because he had asked me the first time I went to his house to help him coordinate his suits for his interviews. But again, he has made no contact.
What the heck, Virgos?? Enlighten me. Why has he not contacted me? Am I supposed to contact him?
My birthday is 2/5/90; his is 8/30/87. My rising sign is Virgo.
Posted by daydrmblvr08
He would bring me out with all of his friends, and I told him that he didn't have to involve me in his life, that it was just making things complicated.
Just by reading this, you fucked up. The guy wanted to treat you right and out of insecurity, or I don't know what was going through your head.. you stopped him.
His actions don't appear to be of a man who's only looking to get laid. There was no need for him to bring you around his friends.
Too soon to tell but it's possible he switched his intentions of dating you with treating you like a fwb.
I figured I probably screwed up. Still not sure if I should contact him or not.
You give mixed signals, such you did, and you get mixed messages back ...
Posted by daydrmblvr08
Anyway, despite all of his wonderful qualities, I still had a feeling he just wanted to get laid, which, initially, I was fine with. The last time I saw him was 10 days ago. I made dinner at my house and then he took a book off my shelf to borrow. He said it was his "excuse to come hang out again." But I haven't heard a single peep out of him.
I bet this fella has quite the LIBRARY
Chalk it up to going against your gut.
The one thing about Virgo is that they will try something again if intentions are clear & sincere. So I would send him a text wishing him good luck on his interviews etc. if he doesn't reply back within a reasonable amount of time then forget him. You sent a "feeler" out there and he didn't bite. If he responds positively ask him out right if he'd be interested in trying out something more serious/consistent. If he responds in kind then there you go. Virgo aren't the type to drag something out because we hate wasting time.
Hmm, I guess I could put a feeler out there. Thanks for the advice trashedbliss.
The only reason I didn't want to initiate contact was because I initiated the last two times I saw him. Is it typical of Virgos to want to be contacted?
In the past 11 days he's had 4 interviews in Chicago, San Diego, LA, and Washington DC. So I know his schedule has been hectic. He borrowed my book to read on the plane. His last interview for this month is tomorrow, I think. Would it be a terrible idea to text him on Sunday to let him know I hope everything went well?
The only reason I didn't want to initiate contact was because I initiated the last two times I saw him. Is it typical of Virgos to want to be contacted?
In the past 11 days he's had 4 interviews in Chicago, San Diego, LA, and Washington DC. So I know his schedule has been hectic. He borrowed my book to read on the plane. His last interview for this month is tomorrow, I think. Would it be a terrible idea to text him on Sunday to let him know I hope everything went well?
Just an update and another question:
When Virguy bought his return ticket home from December interviews, he said, "I'm coming home tomorrow. Wanna do something?" I agreed. I brought dinner and a movie to his house (12/16). The following Saturday I invited him to a Christmas party at my friends house (12/21). My friend invited us to an event for New Years and we went (12/31). As usual, it has been a pleasure to spend time with him. He's incredibly generous with the compliments, which leads me to believe he's enjoying himself too.
BUT, between all of these dates I don't hear from him. I even initiated contact after our date on NYE and tried to hold a conversation. He responded a few times and then just stopped. What's up with this Virgo?
When Virguy bought his return ticket home from December interviews, he said, "I'm coming home tomorrow. Wanna do something?" I agreed. I brought dinner and a movie to his house (12/16). The following Saturday I invited him to a Christmas party at my friends house (12/21). My friend invited us to an event for New Years and we went (12/31). As usual, it has been a pleasure to spend time with him. He's incredibly generous with the compliments, which leads me to believe he's enjoying himself too.
BUT, between all of these dates I don't hear from him. I even initiated contact after our date on NYE and tried to hold a conversation. He responded a few times and then just stopped. What's up with this Virgo?
I think that's the most useful thing I've heard so far, LilyTree, so thank you.
I just keep hearing that "if he really liked you, he wouldn't be able to leave you alone." Quite frankly, I don't want to write him off as uninterested because we have a lot of fun together. I appreciate the reassurance that he is both a medical student and a Virgo and has a lot to think about.
Maybe he doesn't have unlimited text messaging. Lol
I just keep hearing that "if he really liked you, he wouldn't be able to leave you alone." Quite frankly, I don't want to write him off as uninterested because we have a lot of fun together. I appreciate the reassurance that he is both a medical student and a Virgo and has a lot to think about.
Maybe he doesn't have unlimited text messaging. Lol
That is mean.
My BF is a Virgo, demonstrated similar behavior, kept me guessing about his intentions. Made me crazy. But he's a keeper. As far as your Virguy: it's early--he may not have decided what his intentions are. But he is steady and keeps coming back, has been clear about his interest, even if he's not communicating as much as you'd like. That's something. Are you patient enough to see what develops? Virgo is a slow burn...
This description helped me understand my Virgo man a bit better, calm my ever anxious and insecure Cancer heart & mind: http://www.keen.com/CommunityServer/UserBlogPosts/MsLisaM/Virgo-Men/624707.aspx
This description helped me understand my Virgo man a bit better, calm my ever anxious and insecure Cancer heart & mind: http://www.keen.com/CommunityServer/UserBlogPosts/MsLisaM/Virgo-Men/624707.aspx
Posted by LilyTree
Perhaps he prefers face-to-face communication? It sounds like he is spending a lot of time with you. Maybe he needs the time in-between to himself? Being a med student and also a virgo...I can imagine there's a lot of thinking he needs to do.
Posted by daydrmblvr08
I think that's the most useful thing I've heard so far, LilyTree, so thank you.
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You have to be told that?
You're a real dipshit, aren't you?
Posted by daydrmblvr08
I think that's the most useful thing I've heard so far, LilyTree, so thank you.
I just keep hearing that "if he really liked you, he wouldn't be able to leave you alone." Quite frankly, I don't want to write him off as uninterested because we have a lot of fun together. I appreciate the reassurance that he is both a medical student and a Virgo and has a lot to think about.
Maybe he doesn't have unlimited text messaging. Lol
You either need to accept him establishing his future or walk away. If you think he's busy as a med student, just wait until he starts his residency. YOU WILL NEVER SEE HIM..that's how that works in the medical field. Since you can't handle what's going on now, I don't see you dealing with what's to come. AT ALL. No patience=no virgo.
Posted by CluelessCancer
Real men don't need too be figured or, they clear as day. Real men don't need to be lead, they lead. Dating a Virgo man is like being with a lesbian who has a dick.
LOL, has anyone ever told you how awesome you are? I'm sure you've been told numerous times before
It's been over a week I'd let it be. If he wants to contact you he will, but the fact that he said he would contact and didn't means he's just not that interested. You deserve better anyway. Even as a FWB. You want a man to respect your wishes regardless of whether it's casual or not. You don't want a virguy anyway they're overrated.
^^ Not a week or even half a week. She went out with him New years eve, spoke to him after so I am assuming the 1st- he was distant.. she makes the update on the 3rd about not hearing from him... it had been 2 days. Today makes 3 days. At OP, Virgos take their time, relax. If you come across needy like you have so far to an outsider. He will be gone.
You saw him pretty much every weekend during December and it wasn't enough? in between all his interviews, flying back an forth.. wow. Ya you are NEEDY. what sign are you?
Also this "and I told him that he didn't have to involve me in his life" you made yourself into a FWB if you have even had sex. If no sex is involved, you are a friend.
You saw him pretty much every weekend during December and it wasn't enough? in between all his interviews, flying back an forth.. wow. Ya you are NEEDY. what sign are you?
Also this "and I told him that he didn't have to involve me in his life" you made yourself into a FWB if you have even had sex. If no sex is involved, you are a friend.
I see your b-day is 2/5? A Fellow Aqua? You must have some other placements that make you come across this way. Because most Aqua's don't come across needy- if anything we give the big middle finger of independence. LOL
Posted by daydrmblvr08
The last time I saw him was 10 days ago. I made dinner at my house ...
This post said 10 days justagirl.... Maybe I misread but that is where I got the impression it's been over a week.
I think I just assumed that hadn't had any phone contact in that long.
Posted by daydrmblvr08
Just an update and another question:
When Virguy bought his return ticket home from December interviews, he said, "I'm coming home tomorrow. Wanna do something?" I agreed. I brought dinner and a movie to his house (12/16). The following Saturday I invited him to a Christmas party at my friends house (12/21). My friend invited us to an event for New Years and we went (12/31). As usual, it has been a pleasure to spend time with him. He's incredibly generous with the compliments, which leads me to believe he's enjoying himself too.
BUT, between all of these dates I don't hear from him. I even initiated contact after our date on NYE and tried to hold a conversation. He responded a few times and then just stopped. What's up with this Virgo?
Ya she updated it 2 times since her first OP, above is the update. I was more trying to get HRr to see how needy she is being, I don't think she even realizes it. She is making it seem like he is MIA which he is not. Distorted perception on her part, they are friends, she wants more. Hence why he has no contact between seeing each other or it's FWB if they are having sex. again 0 contact between seeing him.
Oh okay I see now. I always get to impatient to read through every post on here lol... -___- Need to start doing that before I put a foot in my mouth. Yeah then it hasn't been too long. Just being a little needy... it happens though when people really care for someone.
@LilyTree, thank you again for all of your feedback. I have felt much better since updating this post. I do just want to enjoy him and our time together without having to analyze every detail. Also, good luck in medical school!!
@LetitB, I work in the College of Medicine that he attends and I understand the demands of medical school and residency. I just find his communication style interesting because I have more interaction with the residents in several of the departments than I have with Virguy.
@justagirl, I can see how the original post could have been perceived as needy. I don??t want to be needy or come off as needy. I came to this website to find some third-party advice, because my friends and sisters seem hell-bent on believing that I should drop him for not calling every five minutes. Unfortunately, hearing those things repeatedly made me start questioning if I really should. Stupid of me to let anyone interfere with my ???big middle finger of independence.?? Lol
I also dated a Gemini for four years who was quite a talker, so I will admit I am adjusting to Virguy??s communication style . If he doesn??t want to text me every detail of his day, that??s awesome! That just gives me more time to do things I want to do. I wouldn??t mind hearing that he made it safely to his destination or that his interviews went well, though.
Anyway, interview season is over after 1/17. I??m sure I??ll be back to lean on you all again. Thanks for all the feedback and taking time to read through my mess. ??_
@LetitB, I work in the College of Medicine that he attends and I understand the demands of medical school and residency. I just find his communication style interesting because I have more interaction with the residents in several of the departments than I have with Virguy.
@justagirl, I can see how the original post could have been perceived as needy. I don??t want to be needy or come off as needy. I came to this website to find some third-party advice, because my friends and sisters seem hell-bent on believing that I should drop him for not calling every five minutes. Unfortunately, hearing those things repeatedly made me start questioning if I really should. Stupid of me to let anyone interfere with my ???big middle finger of independence.?? Lol
I also dated a Gemini for four years who was quite a talker, so I will admit I am adjusting to Virguy??s communication style . If he doesn??t want to text me every detail of his day, that??s awesome! That just gives me more time to do things I want to do. I wouldn??t mind hearing that he made it safely to his destination or that his interviews went well, though.
Anyway, interview season is over after 1/17. I??m sure I??ll be back to lean on you all again. Thanks for all the feedback and taking time to read through my mess. ??_
For anyone who comes across this post and wants to know the ending, here it is:
My Virguy matched in residency in the Midwest; we currently live in the South. I thought his imminent departure was the reason for his distance/lack of communication, and while that may have been part of the explanation, he told me that he is actually in love with one of his fellow medical students. He said that she has never wanted to make things official with him, and that she just wants to be friends. He told me that they had a mutual agreement to remain friends and that they would never be anything else. He said that he has had a hard time reconciling his feelings the past few months.
I removed myself from the picture and wished him good luck in residency. I also told him I was sorry that she wasn't reciprocating his feelings, but that he would meet lots of great people in this new chapter.
In this particular situation, I wish I would have confronted Virguy sooner. I should've been honest about my feelings, and not let weeks go by without communicating. I thought that he would eventually tell me what was going on when the time was right for him, but if you want answers, ask for them.
Lastly, I'm extremely disappointed that this relationship didn't pan out. He was incredible.
My Virguy matched in residency in the Midwest; we currently live in the South. I thought his imminent departure was the reason for his distance/lack of communication, and while that may have been part of the explanation, he told me that he is actually in love with one of his fellow medical students. He said that she has never wanted to make things official with him, and that she just wants to be friends. He told me that they had a mutual agreement to remain friends and that they would never be anything else. He said that he has had a hard time reconciling his feelings the past few months.
I removed myself from the picture and wished him good luck in residency. I also told him I was sorry that she wasn't reciprocating his feelings, but that he would meet lots of great people in this new chapter.
In this particular situation, I wish I would have confronted Virguy sooner. I should've been honest about my feelings, and not let weeks go by without communicating. I thought that he would eventually tell me what was going on when the time was right for him, but if you want answers, ask for them.
Lastly, I'm extremely disappointed that this relationship didn't pan out. He was incredible.
Posted by daydrmblvr08
For anyone who comes across this post and wants to know the ending, here it is:
My Virguy matched in residency in the Midwest; we currently live in the South. I thought his imminent departure was the reason for his distance/lack of communication, and while that may have been part of the explanation, he told me that he is actually in love with one of his fellow medical students. He said that she has never wanted to make things official with him, and that she just wants to be friends. He told me that they had a mutual agreement to remain friends and that they would never be anything else. He said that he has had a hard time reconciling his feelings the past few months.
I removed myself from the picture and wished him good luck in residency. I also told him I was sorry that she wasn't reciprocating his feelings, but that he would meet lots of great people in this new chapter.
In this particular situation, I wish I would have confronted Virguy sooner. I should've been honest about my feelings, and not let weeks go by without communicating. I thought that he would eventually tell me what was going on when the time was right for him, but if you want answers, ask for them.
Lastly, I'm extremely disappointed that this relationship didn't pan out. He was incredible.
He wanted to have sex with you immediately...you said you "were fine with it". Next time think before you drop your panties. You don't get to complain after you have consensual sex. It takes away from women who are real victims.
@cluelessCancer
Lol exactly my thoughts I even told my Virgo that haha... He's just a female with a dick.. They act like girls with mood swings n all the bs games.
Took all the words right out of my mouth!
Lol exactly my thoughts I even told my Virgo that haha... He's just a female with a dick.. They act like girls with mood swings n all the bs games.
Took all the words right out of my mouth!
Posted by daydrmblvr08
.... I still had a feeling he just wanted to get laid, which, initially, I was fine with.
.... and I told him that he didn't have to involve me in his life, that it was just making things complicated.
Posted by LetltB
He wanted to have sex with you immediately...you said you "were fine with it". Next time think before you drop your panties. You don't get to complain after you have consensual sex. It takes away from women who are real victims.
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@ladyofrebirth
Apparently you don't get a lot of things! It's cool everyone's different sweetie.. _??
Apparently you don't get a lot of things! It's cool everyone's different sweetie.. _??
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