Walking out on dates..

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by VirgoMerlot on Saturday, April 20, 2013 and has 18 replies.
I mentioned in another thread that I had walked out on 2 dates in my life, and the only other person I knew of who had done that was another Virgo. Then our lovely Vulcan posted that she had done this as well. I thought it would be fun to get the details of what happened. So, if you've done this, tell us why! And, was there any fallout after the fact?
First one was perfectly ordinary. I asked her out, she said yes, and we decided to go out for drinks the next night. We were sitting at the bar, talking when she saw some friends. She said she would be right back. She came back, when her drink was empty. This went on for about 30 minutes. I had enough, and went to the table, and said that I had to get something from my car, and I would be right back. She had left a bag in the car. I grabbed it, came back in, and gave it to her, and told her I was gone. She was puzzled, saying she was just about to come back . The 2 guys she was sitting with were intimidated. I'm 6'4" and 230 lbs. One said "Hey man, I didn't know she was with you, and I don't want any problems." I told him that I had no problems with him, and I just wanted to give her back her bag, and they could have her. I walked out she followed, trying to talk to me but I kept walking. I ran into her a few days later, and she tried to apologize. I asked her if she had gotten home safely, and walked away again.
Next one was about 2 months later. I was working as a photographer in Hilton Head, SC. I had a gig where I would take boarding photos of people for a dinner cruise with the lighthouse in the background of the photo. I would go get the photos printed, and sell them when the cruise got back. There is a bar close by that I was a regular at. I liked one of the waitresses there, and had been flirting with her for about a week, and the other waiters and bar tenders were telling her to go out with me. One day, she was working a day shift, and I showed up for some food before I went to take my pictures. There was a concert that same night that she was going to closeby. I asked her if she wanted to go out after I got done. She said she was going to the concert, but would meet me at this bar after the show, about 10:00 and we would go out. I got done with my photos, and went to the bar to wait for her. The bartender told me that she was excited about going out with me. Well, the show ended, and she came over to the bar, but she was 3 sheets to the wind, sloppy, staggering drunk.
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We went to a different bar, and the whole time, she was blurting out things like "HEEEE LIIIIKES MEEEE!!! AND I LIIIIKE HIMMMMMM! She also started beating on my back for some reason. Then, she fell on her ass. I asked the bartender if anybody there knew her. The bartender said he knew her, and would call her roommate and have her come pick her up. I thanked him, and left. I saw her the next day when I worked. She was embarrassed, and apologized. I told her it was ok, and we stayed friends, but neither of us asked the other out again.
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My mom is a Virgo. She didn't walk out of a date, but got my dad good. Previously I they had gone a date and he spent most of his time upstairs on the phone at the party. The next time they went out my mom quickly looked at her watch and then told him she needed to be home. He took her home and asked why. She told him she had another date. Sure enough, my dad waited around trying to size up the competition. Little did he know no one was coming smile
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Posted by christinelovessnickers
My mom is a Virgo. She didn't walk out of a date, but got my dad good. Previously I they had gone a date and he spent most of his time upstairs on the phone at the party. The next time they went out my mom quickly looked at her watch and then told him she needed to be home. He took her home and asked why. She told him she had another date. Sure enough, my dad waited around trying to size up the competition. Little did he know no one was coming smile


+100000 hahhaa
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Posted by christinelovessnickers
My mom is a Virgo. She didn't walk out of a date, but got my dad good. Previously I they had gone a date and he spent most of his time upstairs on the phone at the party. The next time they went out my mom quickly looked at her watch and then told him she needed to be home. He took her home and asked why. She told him she had another date. Sure enough, my dad waited around trying to size up the competition. Little did he know no one was coming smile


Nice. Bravo. lol
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Posted by VirgoMerlot
There is a bar close by that I was a regular at.




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There is a bar close by where I was a regular. Better?
Hope I didn't piss you off. Winking
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I wasn't mad at her after I cooled down that night, but she proved she wasn't worth my time. Running around with other guys on the first date is a baaaaaad sign. lol
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Posted by BalmyTigress
Posted by VirgoMerlot
I wasn't mad at her after I cooled down that night, but she proved she wasn't worth my time. Running around with other guys on the first date is a baaaaaad sign. lol


Oh, it's definitely not something that should be accepted. It's just that when you said that she tried to apologize, it sounded as if you totally dropped her as a human being afterwards. We all make mistakes and we're not necessarily even aware that we're making them, so it sounds so harsh when someone says that they'll just walk out on that person when they're trying to apologize.
I guess I'm just trying to figure out the Virgo brain and I don't seem to quite understand it :-)
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There are differences in what both did. For example, the first one, we didn't know each other. I literally met her the first day, and asked her out on the spot. I didn't know her from anyone. So, when I ditched her, I had no history with her whatsoever. I wasn't mad at her after the fact, but I also didn't want to waste my time with her. In my opinion, her trying to apologize to me days later meant to me that she wanted to try again. I did not, so I was rude to her because I didn't feel like explaining it. She knew what she did, so wasting my time by letting her apologize could have given her the wrong idea about my intentions, which is why I walked away.
We analyze EVERYTHING that we and anyone else do. We look layer by layer into everything.
The second one, I had a friendship more or less before we went out. I had known her for about a month and a half, but I started flirting with her about a week before formally asking her out. She got drunk, and made an ass out of herself. It happens. I've been on the opposite side of this coin as well. So, I wasn't mad at her when that happened, but I also didn't want to be in a relationship with someone who went that crazy with the booze.
I hope that gives you a glimpse into our brains. If not, feel free to ask. smile
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Posted by VirgoMerlot
I wasn't mad at her after I cooled down that night, but she proved she wasn't worth my time. Running around with other guys on the first date is a baaaaaad sign. lol


What I love about you Virgo men. You expect a woman to be like a a Lady in public. Have respect for yourself. I don't blame you on walking out on both. The first one was straight disrespectful. The second, geez I can't stand it when people can't handle their drinking. I never drink past my point. Once I reach it, that is enough, I am not going to make myself a fool in public.
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ha ha good topic.
First date, He asked me to meet him for dinner. Got there..saw him standing outside with a group of people talking. As soon as he seen me walking toward the group he walked toward me, I met him at the door, smiled he smiled both said hello. I waited for him to open the door, he looked at the door then at me, I looked at the door and looked at him. He did not open it, I turned, walked away and said have a good night. Got in my car and left. He tried to stop me, I heard someone mock him from the group. Total turnoff and spoke volumes with inaction. My Dad and brothers raised me as a lady.
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"She said she would be right back. She came back, when her drink was empty. This went on for about 30 minutes. I had enough, and went to the table, and said that I had to get something from my car, and I would be right back. She had left a bag in the car."

^^Rude & extremely inconsiderate. Good for you! Cell phones are a dealbreaker for me too. Unless the guy has kids and needs to check on them...shut the damn thing off. I see couples at dinner doing this and if I could only act out the thoughts going through my head! lol
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Posted by LetltB
"She said she would be right back. She came back, when her drink was empty. This went on for about 30 minutes. I had enough, and went to the table, and said that I had to get something from my car, and I would be right back. She had left a bag in the car."

^^Rude & extremely inconsiderate. Good for you! Cell phones are a dealbreaker for me too. Unless the guy has kids and needs to check on them...shut the damn thing off. I see couples at dinner doing this and if I could only act out the thoughts going through my head! lol


Oh I agree!! Cell phones must be left alone. I do have kids, and I see my Virgo Friend, if I get a text or call, I just look to see if it is my kids, if it isn't I leave it alone and all my attention is on him. Cell phones have made people so rude.
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Posted by LetltB
ha ha good topic.
First date, He asked me to meet him for dinner. Got there..saw him standing outside with a group of people talking. As soon as he seen me walking toward the group he walked toward me, I met him at the door, smiled he smiled both said hello. I waited for him to open the door, he looked at the door then at me, I looked at the door and looked at him. He did not open it, I turned, walked away and said have a good night. Got in my car and left. He tried to stop me, I heard someone mock him from the group. Total turnoff and spoke volumes with inaction. My Dad and brothers raised me as a lady.


Wow...That was over before it even got started. The dude deserved it though.
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Posted by BalmyTigress
Posted by VirgoMerlot
There are differences in what both did. For example, the first one, we didn't know each other. I literally met her the first day, and asked her out on the spot. I didn't know her from anyone. So, when I ditched her, I had no history with her whatsoever. I wasn't mad at her after the fact, but I also didn't want to waste my time with her. In my opinion, her trying to apologize to me days later meant to me that she wanted to try again. I did not, so I was rude to her because I didn't feel like explaining it. She knew what she did, so wasting my time by letting her apologize could have given her the wrong idea about my intentions, which is why I walked away.



That thing right there is why I'll probably never attempt to be with a Virgo again :-) Things don't always go as planned, and it's not necessarily anyone's fault, but if you don't state the real reason why you don't think it's working out and you just come up with something and disappear, then the other person is left wondering what happened.
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She knew what she did though. That's the point here. She knew that she was leaving me alone on what was supposed to be a date, and only coming back when she needed a refill. Do unto others, I guess.
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Posted by VirgoMerlot
She knew what she did though. That's the point here. She knew that she was leaving me alone on what was supposed to be a date, and only coming back when she needed a refill. Do unto others, I guess.



Exactly! Why the hell would you take the time to explain to someone how they screwed up intentionally? lol...it's clear the male she was talking to knew what was going on and why it was justified. She KNEW what she did too. Good for you.
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Posted by BalmyTigress
Posted by VirgoMerlot
I wasn't mad at her after I cooled down that night, but she proved she wasn't worth my time. Running around with other guys on the first date is a baaaaaad sign. lol


Oh, it's definitely not something that should be accepted. It's just that when you said that she tried to apologize, it sounded as if you totally dropped her as a human being afterwards. We all make mistakes and we're not necessarily even aware that we're making them, so it sounds so harsh when someone says that they'll just walk out on that person when they're trying to apologize.
I guess I'm just trying to figure out the Virgo brain and I don't seem to quite understand it :-)
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i think the thing for virgos is how close you are to them. they will make concessions for people they genuinely care about, but will never forget the bad treatment you gave them, and will always have that in the back of their minds. but with someone they are not close to, they will not bother after the first sign of disrespect. they just don't care for them. they might still act civil, but you are not making it to their inner circle.
and i think you are right about virgos being harsh. i guess we are not good at communicating what bothered us, we just let go. i know i keep thinking about what i would have liked to say to someone who hurt me, but never say a word, just move away from that person. guess this is something we virgos should try working on, communicating what bothers us.
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This isn't a walk out, rather someone walked out on me. This is when I was 19 or 20. I had broken up with a girl, and she went bat shit crazy, trying to get me back. One of her friends asked me out to dinner. I was not into this friend at all, and I suspected something was up. The first half of the dinner, she was talking about the girl I had broken up with. I was right. It was a setup to try to get me to feel nostalgic and take my ex back.
Finally, I put the brakes on it by saying that I didn't want to talk about my ex anymore. I wanted to talk about the two of us. I started to get close to her, put my arm around her, and tried to kiss her. She kept trying to talk about how I should go back to the ex, so I grabbed her in a gentle but firm way, and kissed her on the mouth. That did it. She slapped me, and left and called someone to pick her up.
My plan worked, my ex's plan backfired, and I never heard from either of them again. lol
How pathetic of the ex to try that, and how pathetic of the friend to agree to it.
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