What does it mean?

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Sorry, I was having trouble with this earlier - here's my original post:


Hi everybody! I have a question for the virgo guys here -- what does it mean when a virgo guy tells you how he's not used to showing emotions? While I was hanging out with a crush (who I think may have a crush on me too), he told me how his face will look passive in spite of the variety of emotions he may be feeling at the moment. His friends apparently mess with him about this habit of his.

Maybe I'm overanalyzing this, but as a Virgo myself, I'm not sure why he decided to disclose this info -- is he telling me this as a precaution or just as a method of letting me "closer" into his personality? I tend to keep a neutral face too when dealing with people, but it's more of a defense mechanism more than anything else.

Sorry for rambling, but I thought I would seek some wonderful wisdom from my fellow Virgs... any honest advice is appreciated!

"fellow Virgs"...

PLEASE RESPOND!
I am not a virgo :-).

any honest advice is appreciated!
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why? Are virgos dishonest 😉??

any honest advice is appreciated!
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why? Are virgos dishonest 😉??



LOL! Sorry, I suppose I forgot who I was talking to. 🙂

This question seems funny to me, and likely to any person who deals with a Virgo on a daily basis ...... it would be like me asking other Pisces what it means if a Pisces I know gets dreamy-eyed.


Certainly, you've heard non-V's refer to your kind as being robots..

"how he's not used to showing emotions"
"he told me how his face will look passive in spite of .."

..... yes, this sounds about right .. a cold stare, or indifference


" .. is he telling me this as a precaution .. "
" .. or just as a method of letting me "closer" into his personality?"
" .. a neutral face too when dealing with people, but it's more of a defense mechanism more than anything else."


What difference does it make to know this answer? NONE !!!!!

For he, and you, and your kind .. will continue to withhold your expressions which shows to other people that you feel.

It's really funny because a lot of Virgos come in here to complain about how people mis-understand them, and that they are kind, caring and sensitive folk ... yet, they withhold showing people this, and know it.

So, if you KNOW you are hurting another person by NOT sharing with them how you feel by your expressions .. then how in the hell can you justify turning around and saying .. "I'm so mis-understood"



Hello .. come in ......................

The answer to your question ...... because he's a Virgo.

No hidden agenda
No precautions
No mechanisms
No anything, except ...

.. he's a Virgo, and this is what they do, this is how they treat people ....... they withhold emotional expression and leave their signifant other to have to guess. AND, if the S/O gets it wrong, then what follows is criticism and resentment for not understanding their kind and sensitive nature.

Go figure ........

escritora84,

First: Please ignore the fallacious ill-logic from the non-Virgos. Absence of an emotional expression does not equal absence of emotions. Just like, a pedophile not observed abusing a child still has that desire within him, and will act upon that desire when his particular circumstances permit. As you well know, us Virgs are sensitive, observant, and emotional creatures -- but, we are VERY RESERVED, and others interpret that calm exterior as being flat & emotionless. When we are around people we trust, and FEEL comfortable with, we are much more open with our true feelings.

...is he telling me this as a precaution or just as a method of letting me "closer" into his personality?

Second: Like any True Virgo, you answered your own question - I tend to keep a neutral face too when dealing with people, but it's more of a defense mechanism more than anything else. We protect our tender hearts through a detached external face, while internally, it can be as wild as a Leeds soccer match! I have stated on DXP many times that we "loosen up" with age, but there's definitely a tendency in me to be "robotic" when I'm in unfamiliar surroundings -- it's just safer that way...

~DyarStra?e

Nobody has said, or even suggested that it's an absence .. it has been said that expression is withheld.

P-Angel: Certainly, you've heard non-V's refer to your kind as being robots..

Technically speaking, robots are incapable of emotion - feeling or expressing. My refutation of your statement stands.

So, if you KNOW you are hurting another person by NOT sharing with them how you feel by your expressions .. then how in the hell can you justify turning around and saying .. "I'm so mis-understood"

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I'm not sure where this statement is coming from, but Virgos don't deliberately try to hurt people by not sharing our emotions. And no, we're not robots either. The famous ?look of indifference? is more of a measure to keep ourselves from getting hurt. It sounds selfish, I know. But to us, emotions are strange, wild, unpredictable, which is the complete opposite of what we're about.

Thanks Dyar for your response, I really appreciate it. I felt that for my crush to share that info with me is significant ? his way of letting his guard down, in a way. Maybe I'm wrong.