What he do this to me....
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by spion on Sunday, March 23, 2008 and has 12 replies.
Here I am again..
I already struggle so much for my Virgo guy i really dont know what to do.
I dont hear him until now the last contact was before one mount he initiated and after that i wrote to him two times but he didnt answer. I saw him in the street before 3 days ago we had only the eyes contact and nothing he was in the car.
When he contacted me everything is good we have normal conversation,last time he told to me that he wanted to meet my cousin to talk with him about some stuffs.
The last time when i saw him and when we been together was before 3 mounts... I try to control myself and to think only for myself but he never was so distant to me before why this happen...
And one more thing when i dont contact him long period of time he text ed to me like
are you alive, you are disappear and so on and when i contact him after that he not replay on my messages what mean this...
Hi spion,
It sounds like double standards to me. I sever all contact (ignore emails, texts, etc) only when I have a gf or am not interested in the girl romantically. If, as you say, he has not always been like that...then I am afraid that these are not good signs.
Ask him to explain his absence like a mature, sensible man ought to be able to. If he gives no convincing answer (I mean REALLY valid) then he is a loser for playing with you and should be summarily dumped. Life is too short!
All the best in any case :-)
It sounds like double standards to me. I sever all contact (ignore emails, texts, etc) only when I have a gf or am not interested in the girl romantically. If, as you say, he has not always been like that...then I am afraid that these are not good signs.
Ask him to explain his absence like a mature, sensible man ought to be able to. If he gives no convincing answer (I mean REALLY valid) then he is a loser for playing with you and should be summarily dumped. Life is too short!
All the best in any case :-)
Why doesn't the Virgo guy do the right thing and just tell the girl he doesn't want to be with her anymore?
"I saw him in the street before 3 days ago we had only the eyes contact and nothing he was in the car."
"And one more thing when i dont contact him long period of time he text ed to me like are you alive, you are disappear and so on"
"when i contact him after that he not replay on my messages"
It means that he wants you to do all the effort in developing a relationship that he isn't interested in having, by means of playing with your feelings.
In other words ... he doesn't really want to have a relationship with you, he just wants you to chase him, so he can feel special that somebody wants him.
Swim, spion ..... don't lower yourself to a man who isn't interested in anybody except himself. A boyfriend who will ignore you in public is NOT your man, so don't fool yourself into believing it to be so.
"And one more thing when i dont contact him long period of time he text ed to me like are you alive, you are disappear and so on"
"when i contact him after that he not replay on my messages"
It means that he wants you to do all the effort in developing a relationship that he isn't interested in having, by means of playing with your feelings.
In other words ... he doesn't really want to have a relationship with you, he just wants you to chase him, so he can feel special that somebody wants him.
Swim, spion ..... don't lower yourself to a man who isn't interested in anybody except himself. A boyfriend who will ignore you in public is NOT your man, so don't fool yourself into believing it to be so.
SensingTaurus(f) Why doesn't the Virgo guy do the right thing and just tell the girl he doesn't want to be with her anymore?
I wonder the same thing myself
I wonder the same thing myself
"Why doesn't the Virgo guy do the right thing and just tell the girl he doesn't want to be with her anymore?"
Simple. It's because he isn't me. lol, just kidding. It depends on each person, not whole virgo in general
. I did tell my ex back there when I am not interested anymore, face to face, straight forward.
Simple. It's because he isn't me. lol, just kidding. It depends on each person, not whole virgo in general
. I did tell my ex back there when I am not interested anymore, face to face, straight forward.Hello all ladies there!!!
I appreciate your opinions, and i decided to not contact him at all to see what happens, and one day he wrote me on skype we talk to each other 4 hours and there he told to me that he is scared how will be understand, and told to me you see i completely open up to you, I am so honest with you etc, he also told me that he accept me intellectually and so on and so on and after that no contact and one day out of the blue he rang on my phone and was so nervous i could feel it. He asked me about my job, and where i am he was so carry but didn't want to show that.
Before this to happen, we had a verbal fight about dating, i told to him that i want to date him in his own way that i have my own needs and after that we were intimate again and i though that everything will turn all right but bum bum bum .....
But i am fine i don't have trouble any more i am in peace with my soul thanks of god.
He is very confused not me and don't know what he wants and about understanding i told to him that only he wants to be understand and where i am in this situation.
I tried to understand him all 1 years and a half that he has problem to believe in some woman because of the past ( 5 years relationship and she left him for other guy and married with him ) but thats not a very big excuse everybody learn lessens on his own life and I learn mine in this relationship.
Best regards to all of you
"HE is the one who is confused."
I don't think so, fs .... if a man, any man, presents himself to the woman in a manner which shows no emotional regard for her, or very little, while unzipping his pants for her, as she attempts to emotionally secure him by means of kitty .. in which case, he takes the kitty, while still remaining emotionally distant .. as she then falsely believes she is snaring him, to keep waiting for him ..
... to me .. isn't the man being confused .. it's the female who is confused.
I don't think so, fs .... if a man, any man, presents himself to the woman in a manner which shows no emotional regard for her, or very little, while unzipping his pants for her, as she attempts to emotionally secure him by means of kitty .. in which case, he takes the kitty, while still remaining emotionally distant .. as she then falsely believes she is snaring him, to keep waiting for him ..
... to me .. isn't the man being confused .. it's the female who is confused.
For example ...
"we had a verbal fight about dating"
..... a fight about dating, terms of dating means that both parties aren't happy with treatment, so a fight ensues.
"i told to him that i want to date him in his own way that i have my own needs and after that we were intimate again"
... so she tells him how she feels, and then opens her legs to him .. and by giving up the kitty, and him taking it .. she falsely believed that by him taking her physically, meant emotionally ...
"and i though that everything will turn all right but bum bum bum ....."
A man WILL take you, if you offer yourself to him ... this isn't his confusion, his mind is perfectly clear that the woman is an easy fuck.
Just because a woman expresses how she feels, doesn't = he feels this way also, simply because you blew him to show him. that = easy piece. And the only thing he has to do is "listen" to you carry-on with emotional baggage for a few minutes, then your clothes fall off.
This confusion isn't the man's .. he just wants a nut.
"we had a verbal fight about dating"
..... a fight about dating, terms of dating means that both parties aren't happy with treatment, so a fight ensues.
"i told to him that i want to date him in his own way that i have my own needs and after that we were intimate again"
... so she tells him how she feels, and then opens her legs to him .. and by giving up the kitty, and him taking it .. she falsely believed that by him taking her physically, meant emotionally ...
"and i though that everything will turn all right but bum bum bum ....."
A man WILL take you, if you offer yourself to him ... this isn't his confusion, his mind is perfectly clear that the woman is an easy fuck.
Just because a woman expresses how she feels, doesn't = he feels this way also, simply because you blew him to show him. that = easy piece. And the only thing he has to do is "listen" to you carry-on with emotional baggage for a few minutes, then your clothes fall off.
This confusion isn't the man's .. he just wants a nut.
"his confusion is he wants me around, he is fine with my kitty, but he doesn't want emotional involvement"
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ please, fs, take away your feelings for him and read this for exactly what it means.
"When I say "I love you; I miss you when away; you fill my thoughts." He gets confused."
"but he does not want to go for the NEXT level. Which is inevidable if one wants everything in a relationship."
fs, I just don't know what else to say to you so you'll hear me. You see this as it is inevitable for him to want the emotional part of a relationship if it's to advance further .. while, knowing that he actually does NOT want it ... while completely oblivious that it is YOU who wants him to want it, and you thinking it's his confusion.
"I'm not confused by what I want. Spion is not confused by what she wants. We both know what we want. He is the one not knowing how to balance it out."
What you want, what Spion wants ... is NOT what the man wants. It's not a matter of these men not knowing how to balance it out, and it makes them confused ... that is NOT the reality, fs.
What you want, in which you say you aren't confused ... is a man who does NOT want an emotional relationship with you, in which you refuse to comprehend because you want him to.
He is not confused, fs ... you are .. compelely .. and I don't know how else to get you to see this.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ please, fs, take away your feelings for him and read this for exactly what it means.
"When I say "I love you; I miss you when away; you fill my thoughts." He gets confused."
"but he does not want to go for the NEXT level. Which is inevidable if one wants everything in a relationship."
fs, I just don't know what else to say to you so you'll hear me. You see this as it is inevitable for him to want the emotional part of a relationship if it's to advance further .. while, knowing that he actually does NOT want it ... while completely oblivious that it is YOU who wants him to want it, and you thinking it's his confusion.
"I'm not confused by what I want. Spion is not confused by what she wants. We both know what we want. He is the one not knowing how to balance it out."
What you want, what Spion wants ... is NOT what the man wants. It's not a matter of these men not knowing how to balance it out, and it makes them confused ... that is NOT the reality, fs.
What you want, in which you say you aren't confused ... is a man who does NOT want an emotional relationship with you, in which you refuse to comprehend because you want him to.
He is not confused, fs ... you are .. compelely .. and I don't know how else to get you to see this.
"In my case, I was always willing to give my kitty .."
"his confusion is he wants me around, he is fine with my kitty, but he doesn't want emotional involvement"
"Set me free if you are not interested in more."
::: hangs head in defeat :::
I hope one day, fs, you are able to set yourself free. In the meantime, I cannot respond to your posts anylonger that reference this Virgo man .. for it's far too painful for me to watch.
"his confusion is he wants me around, he is fine with my kitty, but he doesn't want emotional involvement"
"Set me free if you are not interested in more."
::: hangs head in defeat :::
I hope one day, fs, you are able to set yourself free. In the meantime, I cannot respond to your posts anylonger that reference this Virgo man .. for it's far too painful for me to watch.
I am relax and i don't have problems with the Virgo man or with the man at all.
And i can balance, I am Libra by the way...
I forgot for him already but he told me to improve things with me not I thats the difference, any way i know the true already
)) my luck open up very slowly i believe in me and in him but i don't put pressure between us. Its very frustrate when has ups and downs in the relationship but everybody must to passed this and after that start harmonious process. Leave Your Feedback
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