What is this Virgo's main agenda?

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I have been dating my Virgo Man for 7 months, we were totally relaxed and gave each other space, understanding and trust.

We recently parted company on my part because I felt it had become detached from feeling and uninterested in my welfare, unlike our previous months together when he would ask if I was ok and what I was doing.

He is analytical and crytical in most aspects of the relationship.

We have met and he says he still wants to be with me, still loves me and wants to remain at my side, but it comes with conditions, namely, I must not make assumptions, I must not question him or his motives, I must not look for clarity, I must not seek the need to ask if he is still interested, his only response is "I am here, if I wasnt here then I would tell you I did not want it anymore" problem is to me thats not a positive statement, it would be far better for him to have said "I want to be here because I want to be with you" therefore I am adjusting to putting a positive to his confusing negative statements!

Your views please Virgo's..............from a friendly and caring Pisces in learning to understand the Earth Sign x
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Thats a shame and a comment by Mr Defense that they are allergic to Pisces because he is the pursuant and talks of long term within the relationship, he has an ex who was an Aries and an ex wife who was Cancer and with both he was the same in these relationships too, how do I know, because we live in a small town and friendly and talk, thats what women do no matter what sign we hail under.

If they are allergic to some signs, why pursue at all? why the hell dont they just move on as the sign suggests they do?

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Yes Stares he divorced a Cancer woman and she had him on 3 counts of affairs within their 14 years of marriage, so I guess I am now answering the question I set out on, he sadly is a Virgo with infidelity and that will follow on with him with the learned behaviour over the past.

He is a wonderful man, but too distant and whilst I read that Virgo's are caring, in what aspect, this is too contradictory because they do not show emotion, therefore those seeking the care and attention of this supposedly caring person can be further from the truth.
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Mr Defense, I feel better about myself and I have the confidence and admirers. I ended it remember and moved on and run two businesses, so my time is spent on worthy matters and not that of the heart, however he pursued, and caring as we pisces are, I listen and with all good intent allowed this Virgo to show his feelings, as he says he cannot just shut of his feelings, but again I find myself totally confused because if this is the case, why on earth go hold and cold if feelings do not supposedly change, another contradiction.

I will enjoying my life with or without him, he knows where I am, if he wants it then I will happily embrace good times, but once a Pisces shuts the door we move far far away not be found by a predator that has only one agenda, a Prize Catch!

Check out a few dating sites, I Moderate one of them, nearly 62% of men dating on there are Virgo's, I rest my case.
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I run an American on line Candy Company, a Beauty Salon and Moderate for a Dating Site, I was widowed early due an unfortunate accident and I meet many interesting people, I posted on this forum to understand in many ways what it would be like to date a Virgo, my husband was a Pisces albeit Zodiac Signs did not play a part in any thought process until I spoke about my new man and was asked what sign he was, it seems that we all fall victim sometimes to the hearsay rather taking into account the person who they are.

I had to do a little research before moderating in understanding what men/women were looking for and traits of signs under Lunar Moons etc to acknowledge questions, in doing so I then decided to ask from my own personal perspective now that I had met an opposite, I do not believe that Virgo men believe every woman wants to be seen with one, one of my closest male friends is a Virgo and I have no connection romantically at all with him, I still believe there has to be chemistry.

When I look back I have dated a couple of Virgo's but it was the chemistry or lack of that I did not initiate another meeting, however having found and enjoyed a blissful 7 months until now am I trying to understand an earth sign more deeply, but not too deeply because again Virgo's will retreat if you show emotional blackmail to achieve an answer that was possibly there but not visible the way we would express those feelings.
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Posted by deni1403
Thats a shame and a comment by Mr Defense that they are allergic to Pisces because he is the pursuant and talks of long term within the relationship, he has an ex who was an Aries and an ex wife who was Cancer and with both he was the same in these relationships too, how do I know, because we live in a small town and friendly and talk, thats what women do no matter what sign we hail under.

If they are allergic to some signs, why pursue at all? why the hell dont they just move on as the sign suggests they do?



He's just trying to make you feel better about yourself. He knows that it's every woman's dream to be acknowledged by a Virgo.
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LMAO. Puhleeze. It's not 'every woman's dream' to be acknowledge by virgo men. If I were given 3 wishes, one would be to not be acknowledged by virgo men lol. The only virgo man I'm mildly attracted to is Dave Chappelle. I'm not sure if he is even a virgo or a leo. The rest I find cute, as in baby cute. I like PHV though & some of the male virgoes on this site. That Axion guy is very cute & so is Infinity(something-something).
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Posted by BeautifulVirgo

My thoughts on the original topic is your Virgo is not going to live up to your expectations. As a Virgo if I have to be and say what someone else expects then I can't be me. If I can't be me, & be accepted & loved for who I am, then I have to move along.



^^Very well stated.^^

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his only response is "I am here, if I wasnt here then I would tell you I did not want it anymore"



He wants to be with her. He told her this verbatim. No subtleties. No hints. No confusion. Just a direct answer.

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problem is to me thats not a positive statement,



According to whom? You?

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it would be far better for him to have said "I want to be here because I want to be with you" therefore I am adjusting to putting a positive to his confusing negative statements!
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No you're just trying to convert him into a male version of yourself. There is no confusion on your part. Just manipulation.
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Posted by deni1403
I have been dating my Virgo Man for 7 months, we were totally relaxed and gave each other space, understanding and trust.



Posted by deni1403


He is a wonderful man, but too distant and whilst I read that Virgo's are caring, in what aspect, this is too contradictory because they do not show emotion, therefore those seeking the care and attention of this supposedly caring person can be further from the truth.
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You DO know that you contradicted yourself, right?
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Posted by deni1403

We have met and he says he still wants to be with me, still loves me and wants to remain at my side, but it comes with conditions, namely, I must not make assumptions, I must not question him or his motives, I must not look for clarity, I must not seek the need to ask if he is still interested, his only response is "I am here, if I wasnt here then I would tell you I did not want it anymore" problem is to me thats not a positive statement, it would be far better for him to have said "I want to be here because I want to be with you" therefore I am adjusting to putting a positive to his confusing negative statements!




V-guy here chasing an absolutely ethereal pisces gal. I'd like to think I've made it known she's the only person in my heart.

There's much truth in this, "I am here, if I wasn't here then I would tell you I did not want it anymore". Try not to let Fear rule over your heart. It can poison everything you do with him which may explain why he needed to straight up tell you to stop second guessing him.

(Though if I'm reading your commentary at face value and he literally laid out "conditions" in such a way, that's kind of douche-bagy 😛 )

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Posted by sunnyvirgo83
You must meet requirements? What is he GOD? I'd tell him to go F himself. If a man tells me requirements I'd be like requirement this show him the finger and please I hope the door hits ur arse hard on the way out....requirements puhleese. He's dbag. I can't stand Virgo males...



I don't think there were rigid 'perfection' requirements as the OP is attempting to assert...

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We have met and he says he still wants to be with me, still loves me and wants to remain at my side, but it comes with conditions, namely, I must not make assumptions, I must not question him or his motives, I must not look for clarity, I must not seek the need to ask if he is still interested
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I believe he is simply telling her to stop doubting his love for her. The OP is obviously a victim of her own insecurities.

I think anyone would feel annoyed if someone was pestering them about redundant questions that have been answered in a million and one ways. The OP, apparently, still isn't convinced!