What is up with this Virgo man? (Page 2)

Posted by Pandybear

Posted by Rae91
One can only assume after no contact for a little over a week..

Did you guys end in a fight? Why have you not called him?? *scratches head*

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How can he knows if things will run smoothly if he doesn't try to contact me? :l I was thinking of just texting him myself out of the blue but I really don't want to get rejected.. ha.

No, we didn't end up in a fight at all! I just looked like I was leaving in a rush because things were so awkward.. I didn't even hug him goodbye. I'm sure he picked up on that little detail..

you've got nothing to lose at this point...take the plunge 😉

Why don't virgos like to initiate? Why can't they be constant and aggressive!

I knew i'd get backlash for that. -____-

I was going through the forum and this is something I read from another member:

"Yes I realise I do push people away when all I want is for them to come and get me. It's partly fear, partly to see what they would do and if they'd make an effort for me. Maybe it is wrong cause I see the effect of being toyed with by a scorpio. But I think self preservation and fear of looking like a fool does paly a part in a virgo make up."

Is this true for Virgo?

Posted by Rae91
Why don't virgos like to initiate? Why can't they be constant and aggressive!

whoa i get blamed and accused too much for initiating and confronting haha

Posted by Rae91
I was going through the forum and this is something I read from another member:

"Yes I realise I do push people away when all I want is for them to come and get me. It's partly fear, partly to see what they would do and if they'd make an effort for me. Maybe it is wrong cause I see the effect of being toyed with by a scorpio. But I think self preservation and fear of looking like a fool does paly a part in a virgo make up."

Is this true for Virgo?

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i had a clash with a friend and she behaved like a kid, no sense of duty. i didnt want to see her because i cant fathom such a person was pretending to be some good hearted person when she was just using me and other people but doesnt want to realise. but deep inside i do want to see that she is a good hearted person but i must accept the reality of the situation. does that answer about when we dont want to see and when we do want to see?

Posted by Rae91

.. he text and told me to bring my bathing suit. I replied telling him "Never!" (I wasn't quite comfortable with my body yet and was waiting until i lost some weight) When he asked why i boldly said "Because i'm fat?" And his response was "Oh okay." ...I don't think i've ever been so offended in my life. It was like he was agreeing with me!

How superficial of you ... you are one of those girls who will ask how your ass looks in your jeans to get a compliment .. when you know all along that your ass is fat.

Posted by Rae91

I feel like I would need someone to help me step by step in getting me to get comfortable around them so I can see the disaster in the horizon.

::: shakes head :::

You expect the other to do all the work, while you sit back helpless ... waiting for compliments.

It's not another persons responsibility to try and give you confidence or comfort about yourself .. if you are that insecure about comfort (and about your fat ass), then it's your job to make yourself feel confident enough to have a real, adult relationship.

Posted by Rae91
Cupcake-

He's NEVER complimented me in person and I was forced to think he didn't like what he saw.

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Just like that ^^^^ ..... you are so superficial that your whole issue about him when you say he is acting unintereted is because he isn't giving you compliments on the way you look.

god help you when you grow up and actually want a man to want you for who you are ... because your karma will rear it's ugly head and only bring to you superficial men.

Posted by 25thDecan
Also....sometimes virgos DO give the full head of steam and come forward completely...and many cancers will make a silly sarcastic remark and deflect it...when the poor guy was serious.

Happens.....

Are you assuming I was being sarcastic..?

Posted by zeoblade

Posted by Rae91
Why don't virgos like to initiate? Why can't they be constant and aggressive!

whoa i get blamed and accused too much for initiating and confronting haha

Posted by Rae91
I was going through the forum and this is something I read from another member:

"Yes I realise I do push people away when all I want is for them to come and get me. It's partly fear, partly to see what they would do and if they'd make an effort for me. Maybe it is wrong cause I see the effect of being toyed with by a scorpio. But I think self preservation and fear of looking like a fool does paly a part in a virgo make up."

Is this true for Virgo?

i had a clash with a friend and she behaved like a kid, no sense of duty. i didnt want to see her because i cant fathom such a person was pretending to be some good hearted person when she was just using me and other people but doesnt want to realise. but deep inside i do want to see that she is a good hearted person but i must accept the reality of the situation. does that answer about when we dont want to see and when we do want to see?

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Indeed it does.

Doublegem- Wow.. that's one hell of a compliment, thanks.

Posted by 25thDecan

Posted by Rae91

Posted by 25thDecan
Also....sometimes virgos DO give the full head of steam and come forward completely...and many cancers will make a silly sarcastic remark and deflect it...when the poor guy was serious.

Happens.....

Are you assuming I was being sarcastic..?

No...I'm HOPING YOU WERE. Are you daft? He doesn't think YOU'RE FAT! IF HE DID HE WOULDN'T TELL YOU TO BRING A BATHING SUIT! YOU TOTALLY SHOT THE GUY DOWN!
I'm not sorry for yelling...I truly see in you what I see in many other cancer women...it's like you're a sweetheart but you have to be HIT OVER THE HEAD to get you to see what's in front of you..EVEN AFTER IT'S TOLD YOU TIME AND AGAIN!.

Geez..you must not really like the guy at all.

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I very much appreciate your agressiveness, thanks. (:
You think he has a problem that I said no? It's not like I was saying no because of HIM.
I do like him! Sigh. Very much so.

That is indeed a picture of me

DobuleGem 2- I think he just has some concerns that's he's keeping to himself- maybe he thinks i'm not interested. Maybe he's just given up. Maybe he's calculating when he should talk to me again. He always did that this thing with always apologizing to me for being "boring"

everevolvingepithet- No, I may be stalling. I'm just waiting for the "right opportunity"

I wonder sometimes if women just want a man by their side. And thats it. Because it's been so integrated in our gender.


And men actually care " Who " is by their side. Since they were always able to have the choice to be free or not. Had the time to think about it.

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Posted by Sagittarius89
I wonder sometimes if women just want a man by their side. And thats it. Because it's been so integrated in our gender.


And men actually care " Who " is by their side. Since they were always able to have the choice to be free or not. Had the time to think about it.

That's silly.
Women (within my lifetime) have always had the choice. This holds no weight whatsoever ! 😛
This is more down to what you've allowed yourself to be exposed to, nothing to do with gender specifics I think.
Although it's an interesting standpoint I guess, why do you feel the need to have a person 'by your side' , just for the sake of it ?
Come sit on my Cherry red leather couch, mmkay ?

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No, I mean you think the world looks at women 50 years old and single successfully? They say something is *missing* you don't see that in society?

Posted by strawberrybaby2241

Posted by Rae91
DobuleGem 2- I think he just has some concerns that's he's keeping to himself- maybe he thinks i'm not interested. Maybe he's just given up. Maybe he's calculating when he should talk to me again. He always did that this thing with always apologizing to me for being "boring"

everevolvingepithet- No, I may be stalling. I'm just waiting for the "right opportunity"

Calculating when he should talk to you again...if he comes back maybe in the middle of the relationship this will happen again where he runs off and leaves you alone...and im sure you dont want that hun...some men just dont know what they want ....smh

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Ironic being that we met on match.com! Ha -___- Thought only "serious" people went on there. Bleh.

Posted by DoubleGem2
You mean single, as in never been married? or in a long term realtionship through out her life?

Like never been married or planning to or in a long term relationship.

Posted by strawberrybaby2241

Posted by Rae91
DobuleGem 2- I think he just has some concerns that's he's keeping to himself- maybe he thinks i'm not interested. Maybe he's just given up. Maybe he's calculating when he should talk to me again. He always did that this thing with always apologizing to me for being "boring"

everevolvingepithet- No, I may be stalling. I'm just waiting for the "right opportunity"

Calculating when he should talk to you again...if he comes back maybe in the middle of the relationship this will happen again where he runs off and leaves you alone...and im sure you dont want that hun...some men just dont know what they want ....smh

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that is most highly likley

not just in love but also in professional life you need to reassess the situation

but once you are in a relationship, you wouldnt run off, you can assess in situ if you stay or break it off

We're not in a relationship- that's the thing. We were at the dating stage