What the French Toast?!

Ok, so I gave the Virgo his walking papers like a week ago, and he is still showing up like nothing ever happened and he still lives here! What the treetrunk?!! ya know, and it'll be like the middle of the night when he knows i'm all disoriented and so used to letting him in the house that i'll just let him in, then in the morning i'm looking around like "what the trunk? Why are you here?"

Last night he showed up, and I really broke it all down to him for like the umteenth time why I broke it off. I seriously gave like a 30 minute lecture on his cheating, lies, deceit, ect... Now it's time to see if he grasped any of it.

He looks at me like a big innocent St. Benard and says "What the hell are you talking about? I love you. I haven't slept with anybody else. Why are you acting like this?"

Making me feel like the deranged, bad guy, when i've talked to the women personally! I've seen the texts, emails, and i've spoken to him about this previously. He just acts like I never said a word, and i'm hurting his feelings so badly.

what is it Virgos? Do you guys have such a hard time breaking up with a person? Virgos are supposed to be of the IDGAF attitude, and once I cut you off, it's a done deal. I'll never speak to you again. So why the hard time letting go? I'm confused. I get the feeling that i'm still in a relationship, even though i've broken it off, annnnd i've started dating other people! In his mind we're still together, and i'm treated as such.

What the French Toast?!!

Posted by Brown69
i'll just let him in, then in the morning i'm looking around like "what the trunk? Why are you here?"

if you don't want him in your life anymore, don't let him in your house.

Look at this from his POV ....


He is still able to have access to you, so you must not mind his indiscretions .. not really.

You may have said those things to him, but, he is there with you, so you must not mind his lies ... not really.


If you really didn't want him, he wouldn't have access to you ... so, what is really up is that you are playing along with him, and since games is what he plays, and you are participating ... he will continue to pretend for your enjoyment.

P really hit if off here. If he's still in your life and you're still giving him the time of day, then he can stick around all he wants. That's how us virgos are... it's how anyone is. If you still show any sort of interest or acknowledgement of our involvement in your life, we'll stick around. It's only when WE feel it's right to go that we gtfo.

Uuugh! I'm going to have to let him knock...usually it's a combination of the fact that he won't stop knocking, and i'm worried that a neighbor might call the police on him, and i'd hate to call the police b/c he won't stop. So usually I just open the stupid door and point to the couch. When I wake up he's laying across the foot of my bed like a terrier.

So I told him that I was seeing someone, and he just ignores me. He honestly thinks he can make me understand whatever it is he's trying to get across. It's like dude! Go away! You ruined it already! My ears are closed to any further lies...

I just wish I could get rid of his azz now. Maybe date one of his friends. lol! I bet that'd get me the ole Virgo cold shoulder!

Sounds to me like you like playing along.


A person who is really finished ... is

You're not .. you would even entertain pretending to like his friend to get a reaction.



Good thing he is not a Pisces .. a Fish would have snubbed you off, no matter how many of his friends you feigned to care for.

hes probably concerned he wont find anyone else, or might be scared of being alone. you may want to consider him acting like a wuss before you think he still loves you like he used to. it sounds like this virgo has a hard time letting go (which i cant hate on) but virgos are also known to implement guilt (which is where he goes wrong) and so far it seems like its working on you.

Posted by P-Angel




Good thing he is not a Pisces .. a Fish would have snubbed you off, no matter how many of his friends you feigned to care for.

*takes a look at p-angels marital status* "Married, nevermind pisces still let losers in their life, they are no different"

*walks away*

If you are letting the guy into your life then you really want the guy around.

If you really didn\'t want this guy a part of your life then you would just take off and force the bastard to stay a good distance.

agreed, if he has such access, you are allowing it and are getting something out of it (not saying that in a negative way, just saying period). Figure out where you really stand, and go from there.

ugh. stop blaming the victim. just because she isn't handling it great doesn't mean she's looking for drama. it isn't as though she's stringing along a nice, normal person. he's clearly nuts. there are some people who just can't accept a "no". they think they can break you down. he was probably a spoilt brat growing up (my discovery: virgos who were totally spoilt as kids usually grow up to be worthless creeps, while those who aren't coddled usually become womderful people when they grow up because they've learned to depend on their own abilities, rather than just expecting the world to kiss their ass). he's just going to push and push til he gets what he wants.

what you need to do: call the police the next time he does this.

and don't just say "no". say "no means no". be very clear with yourself and with him of where your boundaries are. i know you want to be nice and do the right thing, but it just isn't an option with crazy people.

Sorry folks, I was briefly away. To some degree, some of you are right. I do still love him, and I don't want to see him in trouble. This is why I don't want the police involved. I don't feel i'm physically in danger or anything. On the other hand I recognize that I deserve a better mate, so i'm trying to separate myself. He doesn't recognize, or own up to doing anything wrong, so he keeps trying. I don't hate the guy, so I would never try to get him in trouble.

And the whole "date his friend" comment was a joke. I would never!

I had one of my guy friends stay a couple nights, and when he came my friend answered the door. He was so put off. I hadn't heard from him all weekend. So I didn't hear from him for about three, or four days. This morning he shows up. No friend here. I just let him knock....He went away about half hour later, but then began calling my cell phone non-stop. Off it went. I'm done....I just hope i'm strong enough to maintain the evil it takes to turn him away. Thanks all!