What would lead a Virgo man to cheat on his wife...twice?...

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by moonrvr on Tuesday, September 12, 2017 and has 20 replies.
My friend is involved with another woman - he's been married for ~20 years!...I asked him if he's unhappy to which he always responds that he's happy!?!? He's always been extremely kind with a heart of gold; is he lying to himself? I'd love some insight so I can guide him as a friend!
Yeah... he's not happy, but doesn't know how to get out of the 20 year relationship. And he's not 100% sure if being single and alone is better than being in an unhappy relationship.

Soooo been there...
Virgos cheat in fact stay cheating... My sister ex husband stayed cheating bringing home diseases and was smooth about doing it... His twin sister is the same way... Deep down Virgos need gratification from others ... So cheating is second nature for them... Of course they will say they are faithful ... Yet another lie they tell themselves ... Undercover sluts ... They look clean though... Not faithful at all... I don't know any faithful Virgos in fact know a lot and they are all sluts ... And will try to steal your man... And fail.... In fact one is trying to steal mines... Failing... Hubby has placed a restraining order on that sleez .. To protect our family ... I would leave .. ... If he cheated this is not the first or the last time
This guy is straight using you... There is something he is dependent on... You could boost his ego ...something ... All this hogwash about this man not wanting to hurt you.... When clearly sticking his bird in another is a hurt ... And a blow to you... Leave ... You deserve so much better ... And I wouldn't care about the years ... Your body is your temple ... With someone like this he will destroy it starting with manipulation ... As he has done... I can tell... Biggest manipulaters on the planet ... Don't buy it
He wouldn't be extremely kind and with a heart of gold if he stays cheating on the wife. This is an example of a Virgo with no spine to divorce and find happiness elsewhere... too much like their Pisces counterparts
are you one of the affairs? :p
He probably is thinking he is being nice and helping out by sleeping with the other woman. lol
Posted by csdude55
Yeah... he's not happy, but doesn't know how to get out of the 20 year relationship. And he's not 100% sure if being single and alone is better than being in an unhappy relationship.

Soooo been there...


How do I help him?
Posted by Toti
I don't think he is happy. I think he want his wife to be the one who would end the marriage. I don't know, but I have impression that virgos always tend to pull away from making hard decisions when it comes to their relationships. I think he doesn't want to hurt her, but in the same time he knows he doesn't want to be in that marriage anymore.
That makes sense. He's my BFF and I would love to see him happy.
Posted by Bottabing
This guy is straight using you... There is something he is dependent on... You could boost his ego ...something ... All this hogwash about this man not wanting to hurt you.... When clearly sticking his bird in another is a hurt ... And a blow to you... Leave ... You deserve so much better ... And I wouldn't care about the years ... Your body is your temple ... With someone like this he will destroy it starting with manipulation ... As he has done... I can tell... Biggest manipulaters on the planet ... Don't buy it
We are just friends.

Posted by DarkLyon
He wouldn't be extremely kind and with a heart of gold if he stays cheating on the wife. This is an example of a Virgo with no spine to divorce and find happiness elsewhere... too much like their Pisces counterparts
Agree but when kids are involved things are different. More difficult.
Posted by whatisthisallabout
are you one of the affairs? :p
10000% not. Happy and married. Would love to see my good friend the same.
He's happy he's just being a man who is greedy.

Virgos never leave when they decide to marry. Good or bad were in it for long haul.

I just think hes looking for fun quick easy sex. Some one younger. Or ego boost.

Virgos never leave.
If you truly care about your Virgo friend, you need to help him put a stop to the cheating, the shady behaviour, the backstabbing, and the lying. He is setting his family up for catastrophic failure by trying to have it all.

Virgos will almost never do it themselves. Some of them need you to hold their hand when it comes to making tough decisions.
How do I help him?


I guess it depends. Do you think he and his wife are a good match and he's going through a mid-life crisis, or do you think they're really not good together?

If he asks your opinion, give it honestly. If he doesn't ask, though, then stay out of it. Just remember that if you advise him to leave his wife, and then they make up and he tells her, then it's likely that your friendship will be over. Few women will accept their husband's best friend if they advised him to leave her.
@GC02, this is slightly off topic, but... if it's in the Virgos nature to cheat, then was your uncle really a "scumb bag butter"? He was just doing what comes natural to him, no different from a Scorpio being promiscuous or a Capricorn dating a man for his money. Or a psychotic feeling the need to kill.

Granted, it's dishonest, disrespectful, and not socially acceptable, but still, he couldn't help his nature, could he?

Maybe a subject for a different thread...
Posted by moonrvr
He's always been extremely kind with a heart of gold; is he lying to himself? I'd love some insight so I can guide him as a friend!
You don't know all sides of your friend......


Not to say he is a bad person...but it's obv you don't know all sides of him ..or his life or his marriage ..and i don't think he wants you to....
Posted by moonrvr
Posted by Bottabing
This guy is straight using you... There is something he is dependent on... You could boost his ego ...something ... All this hogwash about this man not wanting to hurt you.... When clearly sticking his bird in another is a hurt ... And a blow to you... Leave ... You deserve so much better ... And I wouldn't care about the years ... Your body is your temple ... With someone like this he will destroy it starting with manipulation ... As he has done... I can tell... Biggest manipulaters on the planet ... Don't buy it
We are just friends.

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Choose better friends ... Cheaters make terrible friends and will lie to you as if they are the victim .... Don't be shocked if his cheating ways filters over into your friendship ... Disloyal partners make disloyal friends... Don't believe me just watch... A snake is just that... And you're friends with him? Sheesh ... If he disloyal to his wife I guarantee he could careless about your friendship to him... He just need someone to play victim too.. An extra pillow to hold him up... Considering I'm sure many have dropped this clown some where in his life ... Pay attention ... He is disloyal ... And will be disloyal to you as a friend ... This is common sense though ... Cheaters are snakes ...period in all faucets of relationships ... These types will steal money... Lie.. Manipulate... All kinds of toxic negative ways... Be warned ... Choose your friends wisely because ain't no way is a slut hanging in my circle ... That's a snake... I bet he seems so nice though ... Yeah snakes usually do... Until they bite

Posted by csdude55
@GC02, this is slightly off topic, but... if it's in the Virgos nature to cheat, then was your uncle really a "scumb bag butter"? He was just doing what comes natural to him, no different from a Scorpio being promiscuous or a Capricorn dating a man for his money. Or a psychotic feeling the need to kill.

Granted, it's dishonest, disrespectful, and not socially acceptable, but still, he couldn't help his nature, could he?

Maybe a subject for a different thread...


People like that are a waste to society ... No regards to human emotions ...a waste... His nature is waste because it breaks hearts ...waste of skin..

Posted by moonrvr
My friend is involved with another woman - he's been married for ~20 years!...I asked him if he's unhappy to which he always responds that he's happy!?!? He's always been extremely kind with a heart of gold; is he lying to himself? I'd love some insight so I can guide him as a friend!
Think about the reasons for a minute (I do, nano second; as I'm Piscean). Wouldn't you get tired of eating at Pizza Hut for 20 years? It's also called temptation AND his choice (not to cheat). He's a weak man that cannot fight temptation. Now, think about this too, he doesn't give a rat's azz about his "vows" and his wife (mother of his children), too. She's a FOOL to still stay w/him. Why? Because he knows what kind of woman he has (one that will forgive him time and time, and time again). Also, wives do NOT do the things a man wants her to do; if she doesn't that's why he cheats (and heard they pay prostitutes to do what they "fantasize" about since their wifey doesn't do it at home).



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