What would you do in my situation?

my girlfriend and i have lived together for 11 months now, live happily, she moved from Manchester to be with me in Hull(about 200 miles away). Manchester is a bigger town with alot more going on, Hull is a small town with not much about it, as she is an actress, she cannot get work here due to town being so small.

Last night we were watching a drama called "Cold blood" it was filmed in her home town Manchester, as we were watching she noticed one of the Actresses was someone who she went to University with, My girlfriend told me that when they were at Uni, her tutor told her that she was always the more talented one of the two.

she got upset that the other girl was acting and she wasnt, i believe this is alot to do with the fact she lives in Hull now so there is not as much prospect, i have since thought about asking her to move back home, to pursue her acting, is it selfish of me to keep her here because we live together?

she doesnt want me to move to manchester because her parents dont like the fact she is gay, but if she moves back home with her parents, she will be living in a better town for her career and hopefully her acting will move forward??

the downside for me, we wont live together and we will only see each other once a week maybe once every 2 weeks, but i can see how sad she is getting that her acting is suffering, should i say she should move home and hopefully her acting will progress? but will our relationship suffer?

What should i do?

Is it not possible to live in Manchester, close enough by her parents house to see her often?

Actually, I'm really not getting the point about her needing to be close to a certain town in order to get "parts". Take Depp for example, who lives on an island ... an actor doesn't really have to actually "live" in a populated town in order to have work. It's my understanding that a lot of filming is done in locations that isn't even in the town the studio is = On Location.

Does she not have an agent?

In your position, rather than fretting over whether she should move to another town, I would encourage her to change Agents, if the one she has isn't finding her roles because I'm thinking that where she lives really shouldn't be a deal-breaker.

P-Angel, she doesnt want me to move to Manchester because he parents live in Manchester, her mum dad and brother know she is gay but the rest of her family dont, if we move to manchester together she would run risk of teh rest of her family finding out i.e granparents etc, which would upset her mother, whom also said "she doesnt want it on her doorstep"

so the option isnt move to manchester, we thought about moving closer or to a bigger city, but we are trying to save up cash to travel America, thats the reason she moved to Hull, Hull is a small town where the bills are cheaper, but since being here a year, her acting has suffered!

Yeah she has an agent, she has had audtions and is currently working in some plays (only complimentary)

im just thinking of telling her to go back and live with her parents, she can concentrate more on acting and not have to worry about bills etc, she would then hopefully be able to save more cash up for travelling!

not a bad idea. nice to see you thinking so much of your partner.

but what are you going to do in the mean time. Have you thought about doing your bit for yourself. What about working hard on your own career. making money 🙂 being independent. Are you a virgo who depends on her partner for livelihood.

hope you get the point. wishing you success in all endeavours

Sometimes, Ami .... the trees in life loom up in front of us, daunting and overwhelming to make us feel like we can't maneuver our way around them .... however, we can't lose focus of the whole forest in which shows us how each tree plays the part in the whole picture.

In other words .... you and her have made the decision to work towards a specific goal, and have adjusted our lives accordingly. During this time, there will likely be many obstacles that will cross your path .. however, you can't give up and simply "react" to these obstacles, or you'll never find your way to what you're aiming for.

For her to go back now = the last year of wasted time.
For you two to stick to your guns, which will lead to accomplishment = the road to success.


Don't give in to defeat ..

Soulness - i will be concentrating on my career also, i will move in with a friend, try get exra cash saved up! but i will be starting voluntary work soo so it isnt all about her, i just need her to find her feet, and at this time being here i dont think she is doing so, we had a brief discussion weekend, think she is going to move manchester and save up there!