Posted by MarjdcIt just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?
I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"
I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcIt just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?
I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"
I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....click to expand
Posted by MarjdcWell the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcIt just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?
I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"
I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
@saggurl88
Thank you for your reply . This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.
I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...
I just want to know their deal.click to expand
Posted by virgoth
virgo probably told his roommate that he's feeling you but doesn't trust it or you, being cautious I'd say or maybe his roommate is your competition and virgo is fluid or could also be that his roommate is feeling a certain type of way
get to know the roommate that is how you will gain great intel
Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcWell the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcIt just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?
I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"
I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
@saggurl88
Thank you for your reply . This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.
I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...
I just want to know their deal.
You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.click to expand
Posted by MarjdcAre you sure the Virgo was ever interested? Now the story sounds like the flat mate was just trying to hook you two up. Maybe the Virgo was just being polite. There are holes in this story lol I'm confusedPosted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcWell the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcIt just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?
I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"
I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
@saggurl88
Thank you for your reply . This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.
I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...
I just want to know their deal.
You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.
@saggurl88
You are right! They're like batcates sj ce highschool and now they live and work together under the same company.
I think you are right that he is soothing the Virgo's mind. But what for?
I am not interested in the flatmate,he has a gf and he's not my type hahaha I am more interested in the virgo. The virgo just ignored my messages and I haven't heard from him for almost a week. Literally nothingclick to expand
Posted by virgothPosted by Marjdchm, wait for him to come to you leave him alonePosted by virgoth
virgo probably told his roommate that he's feeling you but doesn't trust it or you, being cautious I'd say or maybe his roommate is your competition and virgo is fluid or could also be that his roommate is feeling a certain type of way
get to know the roommate that is how you will gain great intel
Thanks for your insights @virgoth
Actually the flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her last time when my virgo cooked and we all (the flatmate and gf,me and my virgo) ate together.
I think so to that ny virgo told his flatmate about me...but what do you mean he doesn't trust it or me? I think he is cautious too. But I can't wait forever.. :/
I know my virgo is insecure of his roomate,he told me that last time. When he was pouring the wine and his flatmate asked if my virgo guy told me about the wine..I just said,"nope,virgo guy doesn't tell me anything because he is a very private person,everything is just inside his head"
And then the flatmate glanced at my virgo and my virgo was just silent. I cannot become close to the roomate because I only get to see him if my virgo asks me out.
Last time I sent my virgo a photo ofthe pasta I cooked,and asked him how his week was going and catch up soon! He never repliedclick to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcAre you sure the Virgo was ever interested? Now the story sounds like the flat mate was just trying to hook you two up. Maybe the Virgo was just being polite. There are holes in this story lol I'm confusedPosted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcWell the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcIt just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?
I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"
I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
@saggurl88
Thank you for your reply . This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.
I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...
I just want to know their deal.
You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.
@saggurl88
You are right! They're like batcates sj ce highschool and now they live and work together under the same company.
I think you are right that he is soothing the Virgo's mind. But what for?
I am not interested in the flatmate,he has a gf and he's not my type hahaha I am more interested in the virgo. The virgo just ignored my messages and I haven't heard from him for almost a week. Literally nothingclick to expand
Posted by virgothPosted by MarjdcPosted by virgothPosted by Marjdchm, wait for him to come to you leave him alonePosted by virgoth
virgo probably told his roommate that he's feeling you but doesn't trust it or you, being cautious I'd say or maybe his roommate is your competition and virgo is fluid or could also be that his roommate is feeling a certain type of way
get to know the roommate that is how you will gain great intel
Thanks for your insights @virgoth
Actually the flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her last time when my virgo cooked and we all (the flatmate and gf,me and my virgo) ate together.
I think so to that ny virgo told his flatmate about me...but what do you mean he doesn't trust it or me? I think he is cautious too. But I can't wait forever.. :/
I know my virgo is insecure of his roomate,he told me that last time. When he was pouring the wine and his flatmate asked if my virgo guy told me about the wine..I just said,"nope,virgo guy doesn't tell me anything because he is a very private person,everything is just inside his head"
And then the flatmate glanced at my virgo and my virgo was just silent. I cannot become close to the roomate because I only get to see him if my virgo asks me out.
Last time I sent my virgo a photo ofthe pasta I cooked,and asked him how his week was going and catch up soon! He never replied
@virgoth
That's what I usually do, I leave him alone and then after a few weeks he will come up with some random txt and next thing I know we are hanging out and then he disappears again. Why like this? I'm slowly losing interest.. it's like everything in his own terms..
if a man is invested he really will go thru the trouble of chasing you and trying to find the time to make the effortclick to expand
Posted by MarjdcAwww ok. I don’t have anymore questions. Things seem to be going pretty good. Maybe send a text asking why communication slowed down- since he was so clingy at first.(don’t include the clingy part lol) Other than that I have nothing to add. I’m not a Virgo. I’m seeing one now but he is super aloof. I don’t even text him anymore, I just answer him when he texts. I hate how he doesn’t answer right away so I’ve just stopped doing it. I have brought that up to him but he rolls his eyes. I guess he’s heard that before lol. So instead of me getting upset, I just keep busy till he messages me.Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcAre you sure the Virgo was ever interested? Now the story sounds like the flat mate was just trying to hook you two up. Maybe the Virgo was just being polite. There are holes in this story lol I'm confusedPosted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcWell the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcIt just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?
I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"
I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
@saggurl88
Thank you for your reply . This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.
I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...
I just want to know their deal.
You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.
@saggurl88
You are right! They're like batcates sj ce highschool and now they live and work together under the same company.
I think you are right that he is soothing the Virgo's mind. But what for?
I am not interested in the flatmate,he has a gf and he's not my type hahaha I am more interested in the virgo. The virgo just ignored my messages and I haven't heard from him for almost a week. Literally nothing
@saggurl88
He is interested. Last time he said he wasn't looking for something serious because they don't know how long they'll be here in this country coz of work. And then he updated me saying they will stay longer. Then updated me that they moved in in a new flat. He was so clingy in the beginning,always wanting me around. Introduced me to his friends,we were like seeing eachother and playing chess everyday. Thenhe became distant,and I was confused. And then now he will txt me whenever..making up random small talks to open up a conversation and it feels like we are going in circles and his flatmate during the recent meetup,was trying to help my virgo to like be close to me..idk,I am really confused and really losing interest coz of his hot cold attitude.
There was a time,when he went back to his country,I never heard from him and then he would randomly send me online chess requests. Then I didn't know he came back here coz he didn't inform me and for my own sanity I just went back again to the online dating app where I met him. And to my surprise,I saw him!!! I was like,"omg,did he unmatch me or something" and after a few minutes,we matched again and he instantly messaged me on the app and whatsapp. He said he made a new account so his previous matches and conversations will be deleted. But I was wondering,if he wants everything to be deleted,why did he even match me again? We were already txting eachother over whatsapp anyways...
When he was in Amsterdam,I did ask him to get me something from there and I already forgot about it when he came back. And then he surprised me and gave me the thing he bought from there..I find that sweet
It will seem like there are lots of holes because I just shortened the story so easier to read hahaha but you can ask anythingclick to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcAwww ok. I don’t have anymore questions. Things seem to be going pretty good. Maybe send a text asking why communication slowed down- since he was so clingy at first.(don’t include the clingy part lol) Other than that I have nothing to add. I’m not a Virgo. I’m seeing one now but he is super aloof. I don’t even text him anymore, I just answer him when he texts. I hate how he doesn’t answer right away so I’ve just stopped doing it. I have brought that up to him but he rolls his eyes. I guess he’s heard that before lol. So instead of me getting upset, I just keep busy till he messages me.Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcAre you sure the Virgo was ever interested? Now the story sounds like the flat mate was just trying to hook you two up. Maybe the Virgo was just being polite. There are holes in this story lol I'm confusedPosted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcWell the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcIt just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?
I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"
I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
@saggurl88
Thank you for your reply . This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.
I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...
I just want to know their deal.
You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.
@saggurl88
You are right! They're like batcates sj ce highschool and now they live and work together under the same company.
I think you are right that he is soothing the Virgo's mind. But what for?
I am not interested in the flatmate,he has a gf and he's not my type hahaha I am more interested in the virgo. The virgo just ignored my messages and I haven't heard from him for almost a week. Literally nothing
@saggurl88
He is interested. Last time he said he wasn't looking for something serious because they don't know how long they'll be here in this country coz of work. And then he updated me saying they will stay longer. Then updated me that they moved in in a new flat. He was so clingy in the beginning,always wanting me around. Introduced me to his friends,we were like seeing eachother and playing chess everyday. Thenhe became distant,and I was confused. And then now he will txt me whenever..making up random small talks to open up a conversation and it feels like we are going in circles and his flatmate during the recent meetup,was trying to help my virgo to like be close to me..idk,I am really confused and really losing interest coz of his hot cold attitude.
There was a time,when he went back to his country,I never heard from him and then he would randomly send me online chess requests. Then I didn't know he came back here coz he didn't inform me and for my own sanity I just went back again to the online dating app where I met him. And to my surprise,I saw him!!! I was like,"omg,did he unmatch me or something" and after a few minutes,we matched again and he instantly messaged me on the app and whatsapp. He said he made a new account so his previous matches and conversations will be deleted. But I was wondering,if he wants everything to be deleted,why did he even match me again? We were already txting eachother over whatsapp anyways...
When he was in Amsterdam,I did ask him to get me something from there and I already forgot about it when he came back. And then he surprised me and gave me the thing he bought from there..I find that sweet
It will seem like there are lots of holes because I just shortened the story so easier to read hahaha but you can ask anythingclick to expand
Posted by MarjdcMe and the Virgo are sleeping together. That went pretty fast cause he’s been after me for a few years. So all I had to say was ok, basically.Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcAwww ok. I don’t have anymore questions. Things seem to be going pretty good. Maybe send a text asking why communication slowed down- since he was so clingy at first.(don’t include the clingy part lol) Other than that I have nothing to add. I’m not a Virgo. I’m seeing one now but he is super aloof. I don’t even text him anymore, I just answer him when he texts. I hate how he doesn’t answer right away so I’ve just stopped doing it. I have brought that up to him but he rolls his eyes. I guess he’s heard that before lol. So instead of me getting upset, I just keep busy till he messages me.Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcAre you sure the Virgo was ever interested? Now the story sounds like the flat mate was just trying to hook you two up. Maybe the Virgo was just being polite. There are holes in this story lol I'm confusedPosted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcWell the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcIt just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?
I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"
I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
@saggurl88
Thank you for your reply . This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.
I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...
I just want to know their deal.
You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.
@saggurl88
You are right! They're like batcates sj ce highschool and now they live and work together under the same company.
I think you are right that he is soothing the Virgo's mind. But what for?
I am not interested in the flatmate,he has a gf and he's not my type hahaha I am more interested in the virgo. The virgo just ignored my messages and I haven't heard from him for almost a week. Literally nothing
@saggurl88
He is interested. Last time he said he wasn't looking for something serious because they don't know how long they'll be here in this country coz of work. And then he updated me saying they will stay longer. Then updated me that they moved in in a new flat. He was so clingy in the beginning,always wanting me around. Introduced me to his friends,we were like seeing eachother and playing chess everyday. Thenhe became distant,and I was confused. And then now he will txt me whenever..making up random small talks to open up a conversation and it feels like we are going in circles and his flatmate during the recent meetup,was trying to help my virgo to like be close to me..idk,I am really confused and really losing interest coz of his hot cold attitude.
There was a time,when he went back to his country,I never heard from him and then he would randomly send me online chess requests. Then I didn't know he came back here coz he didn't inform me and for my own sanity I just went back again to the online dating app where I met him. And to my surprise,I saw him!!! I was like,"omg,did he unmatch me or something" and after a few minutes,we matched again and he instantly messaged me on the app and whatsapp. He said he made a new account so his previous matches and conversations will be deleted. But I was wondering,if he wants everything to be deleted,why did he even match me again? We were already txting eachother over whatsapp anyways...
When he was in Amsterdam,I did ask him to get me something from there and I already forgot about it when he came back. And then he surprised me and gave me the thing he bought from there..I find that sweet
It will seem like there are lots of holes because I just shortened the story so easier to read hahaha but you can ask anything
@saggurl88 I did send him a photo of the pasta I cooked last time,also I asked how his week was going but no reply. Hopefully things would really go well. I am thinking of unnatching him on the app actually..
Ohhh thought you were a virgo haha but thanks for replying your thoughts to my questions. They are weird right?! (No offense to virgos out there) I also don't txt him that much anymore. Everything is like to his advantage..pfft lol
Yes!!! They don't answer right away,it makes me frustrated as a leo and then I got used to it and put him in archives on whatsapp haha good you brought it up to him!!! That's good,keeping yourself busy but have you tried seeing other guys?click to expand
Posted by hippiecrite@hippiecrite
Dating a Virgo? Focus on the similarities. Bet your ass they are. Live your own life. That doesn't mean date other people, but it certainly means to have your own friends. Dating a Virgo is as close to equality as you’re ever gonna get. Get what you want to receive. Show love and you will be loved. Don’t overthink it. Just be and enjoy.
Posted by LadyNeptune@LadyNeptune
Your overthinking. Go with the flow
Posted by saggurl88@saggurl88Posted by MarjdcMe and the Virgo are sleeping together. That went pretty fast cause he’s been after me for a few years. So all I had to say was ok, basically.Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcAwww ok. I don’t have anymore questions. Things seem to be going pretty good. Maybe send a text asking why communication slowed down- since he was so clingy at first.(don’t include the clingy part lol) Other than that I have nothing to add. I’m not a Virgo. I’m seeing one now but he is super aloof. I don’t even text him anymore, I just answer him when he texts. I hate how he doesn’t answer right away so I’ve just stopped doing it. I have brought that up to him but he rolls his eyes. I guess he’s heard that before lol. So instead of me getting upset, I just keep busy till he messages me.Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcAre you sure the Virgo was ever interested? Now the story sounds like the flat mate was just trying to hook you two up. Maybe the Virgo was just being polite. There are holes in this story lol I'm confusedPosted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcWell the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.Posted by saggurl88Posted by MarjdcIt just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?
I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"
I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
@saggurl88
Thank you for your reply . This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.
I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...
I just want to know their deal.
You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.
@saggurl88
You are right! They're like batcates sj ce highschool and now they live and work together under the same company.
I think you are right that he is soothing the Virgo's mind. But what for?
I am not interested in the flatmate,he has a gf and he's not my type hahaha I am more interested in the virgo. The virgo just ignored my messages and I haven't heard from him for almost a week. Literally nothing
@saggurl88
He is interested. Last time he said he wasn't looking for something serious because they don't know how long they'll be here in this country coz of work. And then he updated me saying they will stay longer. Then updated me that they moved in in a new flat. He was so clingy in the beginning,always wanting me around. Introduced me to his friends,we were like seeing eachother and playing chess everyday. Thenhe became distant,and I was confused. And then now he will txt me whenever..making up random small talks to open up a conversation and it feels like we are going in circles and his flatmate during the recent meetup,was trying to help my virgo to like be close to me..idk,I am really confused and really losing interest coz of his hot cold attitude.
There was a time,when he went back to his country,I never heard from him and then he would randomly send me online chess requests. Then I didn't know he came back here coz he didn't inform me and for my own sanity I just went back again to the online dating app where I met him. And to my surprise,I saw him!!! I was like,"omg,did he unmatch me or something" and after a few minutes,we matched again and he instantly messaged me on the app and whatsapp. He said he made a new account so his previous matches and conversations will be deleted. But I was wondering,if he wants everything to be deleted,why did he even match me again? We were already txting eachother over whatsapp anyways...
When he was in Amsterdam,I did ask him to get me something from there and I already forgot about it when he came back. And then he surprised me and gave me the thing he bought from there..I find that sweet
It will seem like there are lots of holes because I just shortened the story so easier to read hahaha but you can ask anything
@saggurl88 I did send him a photo of the pasta I cooked last time,also I asked how his week was going but no reply. Hopefully things would really go well. I am thinking of unnatching him on the app actually..
Ohhh thought you were a virgo haha but thanks for replying your thoughts to my questions. They are weird right?! (No offense to virgos out there) I also don't txt him that much anymore. Everything is like to his advantage..pfft lol
Yes!!! They don't answer right away,it makes me frustrated as a leo and then I got used to it and put him in archives on whatsapp haha good you brought it up to him!!! That's good,keeping yourself busy but have you tried seeing other guys?
Him having stuff his way makes things easier on me cause I go with the flow. I like not having to make an effort 😝click to expand
Posted by MarjdcEwww for months? Reading this it sounded like you had only gone on a few dates so far, early days.Posted by LadyNeptune@LadyNeptune
Your overthinking. Go with the flow
Yep,I am going withthe flow for months already hahaha I just wish I know what he wants 🤣click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptune@LadyNeptunePosted by MarjdcEwww for months? Reading this it sounded like you had only gone on a few dates so far, early days.Posted by LadyNeptune@LadyNeptune
Your overthinking. Go with the flow
Yep,I am going withthe flow for months already hahaha I just wish I know what he wants 🤣click to expand
Posted by dilettante
Posted by saggurl88I don’t even text him anymore, I just answer him when he texts. I hate how he doesn’t answer right away so I’ve just stopped doing it. I have brought that up to him but he rolls his eyes. I guess he’s heard that before lol. So instead of me getting upset, I just keep busy till he messages me.
i kinda do this too tbh. my virgo & i can go days (like 4-5) w/out communicating. usually he texts me first but i wont hesitate to be the initiator if its been more than 3 days.
i’ll send a text that says “can we hang soon?” or “i wanna see you this weekend”. he always calls me right away to schedule a time.
OP sometimes being an initiator helps. dont be afraid to send a text but send one that he can actually answer. a food photo isnt really one that warrants a response. ask him a question or something. virgos are direct when asked (unless they have a super elusive chart).
Posted by AneemA04I was surprised when he sent the video. I said, "wow! I never knew you could play the Piano" and he said it wasn't him. And I thought he was just teasing, and I said, " I know it is you and the flatmate is just taking your video" and he said,it is not him and he doesn't know how to play Piano. And I still insisted it was him and that I wanted to see him play,that I knew it was his back and his arms so I know it was him. Then I think he was kinda pissed about it and replied it wasn't him, it wasn't his back,I didn't spend enough time to remember his back and he doesn't know how to play. He was bad at it and never learned it. (I sensed he was a bit mad from his response) I thought he was just teasing.. I said, I will teach him soon so he can beat his flatmate
How did you respond to the piano playing video?
And why on earth you didn't simply play the piano? If you're a music teacher..
Posted by AneemA04Ofcourse I care where he is from. Last time when he showed me his hometown in France,I was really amazed by how beautiful it is! They lived near the mountains which has really good scenery. When I said, "wow! You have a beautiful hometown!" He just said, " don't exaggerate, it's just mountains"
"did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?"
How did you respond to this?
Did you care about where he was from?
Posted by AneemA04Timeline was like this:Posted by MarjdcOh.. Okay.. That is goodPosted by AneemA04I was surprised when he sent the video. I said, "wow! I never knew you could play the Piano" and he said it wasn't him. And I thought he was just teasing, and I said, " I know it is you and the flatmate is just taking your video" and he said,it is not him and he doesn't know how to play Piano. So I said, I will teach him soon so he can beat his flatmate
How did you respond to the piano playing video?
And why on earth you didn't simply play the piano? If you're a music teacher..
After the dinner meetup last time,I did play the Piano,and he was really happy about it but his flatmate was more happy coz he plays the Piano and not my Virgo. But my virgo was very supportive when I played.
But suppose your last meetup was somewhere in september, that means it has been a month passed..
How has the interaction been since then up til now?click to expand
Posted by AneemA04The flatmate already has a gf and he is not my type. Although he is more confident and outspoken than my Virgo guy. I thinj he is trying to help my Virgo speak for himself...Posted by MarjdcTbh the flatmate sounds nosy afPosted by AneemA04Ofcourse I care where he is from. Last time when he showed me his hometown in France,I was really amazed by how beautiful it is! They lived near the mountains which has really good scenery. When I said, "wow! You have a beautiful hometown!" He just said, " don't exaggerate, it's just mountains"
"did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?"
How did you respond to this?
Did you care about where he was from?
I felt offended that time and I explained to him that people's views are different and I am not exaggerating. White people may be excited by temples and mountains in asia but bored with Castles while Asians will be excited with castles and bored with temples. And he agreed when I explained like this.
So when his flatmate said "this wine is really good,did he tell you it is from his hometown?"
I said, "no,he doesn't tell me anything. He is a very private person,he keeps everything in his head". And the flat ate just glanced at my Virgo..
He could be of interference to the progressclick to expand
Posted by AneemA04Posted by MarjdcSo i suppose you know he is a traveler..Posted by AneemA04Timeline was like this:Posted by MarjdcOh.. Okay.. That is goodPosted by AneemA04I was surprised when he sent the video. I said, "wow! I never knew you could play the Piano" and he said it wasn't him. And I thought he was just teasing, and I said, " I know it is you and the flatmate is just taking your video" and he said,it is not him and he doesn't know how to play Piano. So I said, I will teach him soon so he can beat his flatmate
How did you respond to the piano playing video?
And why on earth you didn't simply play the piano? If you're a music teacher..
After the dinner meetup last time,I did play the Piano,and he was really happy about it but his flatmate was more happy coz he plays the Piano and not my Virgo. But my virgo was very supportive when I played.
But suppose your last meetup was somewhere in september, that means it has been a month passed..
How has the interaction been since then up til now?
End of April/Beginning of May: he was super clingy
June: we still see eachother every now and then but on off
July-he was busy,went back to France and I didn't txt that much and it bothered me thst I didn't hear from him,but I didn't tell him
August-went back ti France,sent me some online chess matches but I ignored
September- he txted the never ending "how are you?" Phrase with no immediate response after I txted
October- he wanted to meetup but I was guarding my heart already and I was busy
November- he wants to meetup,I was busy,then he sent video,then asked me to meet him while he had hangover but I can't,then asked me again and then he cooked and I played Piano.
When we met up this November(last week),it was the same day he got back from Amsterdam and he got me some strooowaffle (coz I asked him to bring me something from there) haha
I think it was okay.. Perhaps he is still in what is that called, a phase after traveling where you need time to get back to the normal mode?click to expand
Posted by AneemA04Posted by MarjdcIm late for work, chat you later ✌Posted by AneemA04Posted by MarjdcSo i suppose you know he is a traveler..Posted by AneemA04Timeline was like this:Posted by MarjdcOh.. Okay.. That is goodPosted by AneemA04I was surprised when he sent the video. I said, "wow! I never knew you could play the Piano" and he said it wasn't him. And I thought he was just teasing, and I said, " I know it is you and the flatmate is just taking your video" and he said,it is not him and he doesn't know how to play Piano. So I said, I will teach him soon so he can beat his flatmate
How did you respond to the piano playing video?
And why on earth you didn't simply play the piano? If you're a music teacher..
After the dinner meetup last time,I did play the Piano,and he was really happy about it but his flatmate was more happy coz he plays the Piano and not my Virgo. But my virgo was very supportive when I played.
But suppose your last meetup was somewhere in september, that means it has been a month passed..
How has the interaction been since then up til now?
End of April/Beginning of May: he was super clingy
June: we still see eachother every now and then but on off
July-he was busy,went back to France and I didn't txt that much and it bothered me thst I didn't hear from him,but I didn't tell him
August-went back ti France,sent me some online chess matches but I ignored
September- he txted the never ending "how are you?" Phrase with no immediate response after I txted
October- he wanted to meetup but I was guarding my heart already and I was busy
November- he wants to meetup,I was busy,then he sent video,then asked me to meet him while he had hangover but I can't,then asked me again and then he cooked and I played Piano.
When we met up this November(last week),it was the same day he got back from Amsterdam and he got me some strooowaffle (coz I asked him to bring me something from there) haha
I think it was okay.. Perhaps he is still in what is that called, a phase after traveling where you need time to get back to the normal mode?
They travel for work every now and then but not too long. Last time my Virgo said he wasn't looking for anything serious coz of his travels,but not he told me they'll be staying here longer and they moved in toa new flat.
The interaction after the meetup last week was zero. I txted him after I opened his gift and said thank you and it was nice to see them again,he said it was nice as well to see me. Then I said,catch up again soon! And he didn't reply anymore. He is always like this,whenever I ask,he won't respond,but he expects me to respond when he txts,🙄click to expand
Posted by virgothPosted by Marjdchm, wait for him to come to you leave him alonePosted by virgoth
virgo probably told his roommate that he's feeling you but doesn't trust it or you, being cautious I'd say or maybe his roommate is your competition and virgo is fluid or could also be that his roommate is feeling a certain type of way
get to know the roommate that is how you will gain great intel
Thanks for your insights @virgoth
Actually the flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her last time when my virgo cooked and we all (the flatmate and gf,me and my virgo) ate together.
I think so to that ny virgo told his flatmate about me...but what do you mean he doesn't trust it or me? I think he is cautious too. But I can't wait forever.. :/
I know my virgo is insecure of his roomate,he told me that last time. When he was pouring the wine and his flatmate asked if my virgo guy told me about the wine..I just said,"nope,virgo guy doesn't tell me anything because he is a very private person,everything is just inside his head"
And then the flatmate glanced at my virgo and my virgo was just silent. I cannot become close to the roomate because I only get to see him if my virgo asks me out.
Last time I sent my virgo a photo ofthe pasta I cooked,and asked him how his week was going and catch up soon! He never repliedclick to expand
Posted by dilettantePosted by Marjdcvirgos are def slow paced. they are busy & their way of processing stimulus is kinda out of sight - out of mind.Posted by dilettante
Posted by saggurl88I don’t even text him anymore, I just answer him when he texts. I hate how he doesn’t answer right away so I’ve just stopped doing it. I have brought that up to him but he rolls his eyes. I guess he’s heard that before lol. So instead of me getting upset, I just keep busy till he messages me.
i kinda do this too tbh. my virgo & i can go days (like 4-5) w/out communicating. usually he texts me first but i wont hesitate to be the initiator if its been more than 3 days.
i’ll send a text that says “can we hang soon?” or “i wanna see you this weekend”. he always calls me right away to schedule a time.
OP sometimes being an initiator helps. dont be afraid to send a text but send one that he can actually answer. a food photo isnt really one that warrants a response. ask him a question or something. virgos are direct when asked (unless they have a super elusive chart).
@dilettante
Thanks for your insight
I actually sent him the pasta photo coz it reminded me of him cooking pasta when I went to their place last week. And yes,I do initiate the txts every now and then during the early stage and it got tiring because he doesn't respond as quick as I wish he would. Like,not hearing back from him for days kills the excitement or the climax of it.
Now when he suddenly txts,I don't feel that excited anymore. I am surprised that he replied after a decade though hahaha
It is good your Virgo is responsive
But I think Virgos are more slow than a Cancer. (No offense to any Cancer reading this)
After the pasta photo,I txted him asking how his weekend was going and pffft no response. Maybe he died or something..idk..
sometimes i’ll send a text & virgo wont respond til next day or not at all. but i also do the same so... it never really bothers me. i think one needs to manage their expectations for immediate responses. i rarely respond to texts immediately unless i have absolutely nothing going on - which is v rare.
for me, not hearing from the virgo for a few days then getting a text, keeps it exciting. i dont like ppl up my ass, blowing up my phone bc it stresses me out & puts pressure on me to respond. from what i gather, my virgo is the same way. we both hate pressure applied on us.
just keep it light & try not to stress... if i were u, i would keep my options open & not put all my eggs in the virgo basket. he sounds really busy & that makes for a distant virgo, for sure. they kinda get tunnel vision mode when really busy.click to expand
Posted by mewmewgirl
I was seeing a Virgo for almost a year, I cut contact because he essentially chose to pursue someone else over me when we were still talking. He recently contacted me again apologising, attempting to justify everything and saying he wants to be back in my life. We text consistently for a day or so and then he goes missing again.
Before then he was ALL in. Consistent with messages, calls, plans etc. Until he started talking to someone else, it all slowly stopped and he waited for me to call quits because he was too much of a coward to be honest.
Honestly in this case, I’d say give up. I’ve realised with the Virgos I know they’re either all in or not really in at all. Platonically they’re not always around but keep in contact, romantically they’re always wanting to know what you’re up to. Of course this is just my experience, but if you stay around just tread cautiously and go with the flow, no expectations.
Posted by MarjdcAfter things ended, he told me he had dinner for his belated birthday with a female friend he never mentioned to me... Now I’m not insecure like that but found it odd. He was like “she was upset she wasn’t invited out for my birthday” but mind you, it was only with the boys one night and the other was with me. Why would a random friend be upset over that. Red flag?Posted by mewmewgirl
I was seeing a Virgo for almost a year, I cut contact because he essentially chose to pursue someone else over me when we were still talking. He recently contacted me again apologising, attempting to justify everything and saying he wants to be back in my life. We text consistently for a day or so and then he goes missing again.
Before then he was ALL in. Consistent with messages, calls, plans etc. Until he started talking to someone else, it all slowly stopped and he waited for me to call quits because he was too much of a coward to be honest.
Honestly in this case, I’d say give up. I’ve realised with the Virgos I know they’re either all in or not really in at all. Platonically they’re not always around but keep in contact, romantically they’re always wanting to know what you’re up to. Of course this is just my experience, but if you stay around just tread cautiously and go with the flow, no expectations.
Oh dear,sorry to hear that. How did you knowhewas pursuing somebody else?
Actually I was active on the dating apo when he went missing coz he went back to his country for vacation. Then boom! I saw him on the app and he saw me as well and we matched😑😐 I asked him if he deleted me,and he said he didn't and he was just recently active again. That he deleted his old one so all the matches and conversations will be deleted. But I don't get the point of him matching me again coz we already communicate via whatsapp🙄😑
Yeah,I think they are a bit coward jn terms of emotions,either they're a coward or just have big egos. Mine has a big ego,he told me so.
And when I jokingly said I missed him and he can stop talking to me,I said this jokingly,He took it seriously😐 and said,He should better stop contacting me. But then after a week,he sent me a random txting,saying he was learning some expression from my country and asking me about it🙄 and then we met.
Sigh....yeah,going with the flow is the best with no expectations but I have to be fair to myself as I am looking for something consistent and not wishy washy...click to expand
Posted by mewmewgirlPosted by MarjdcAfter things ended, he told me he had dinner for his belated birthday with a female friend he never mentioned to me... Now I’m not insecure like that but found it odd. He was like “she was upset she wasn’t invited out for my birthday” but mind you, it was only with the boys one night and the other was with me. Why would a random friend be upset over that. Red flag?Posted by mewmewgirl
I was seeing a Virgo for almost a year, I cut contact because he essentially chose to pursue someone else over me when we were still talking. He recently contacted me again apologising, attempting to justify everything and saying he wants to be back in my life. We text consistently for a day or so and then he goes missing again.
Before then he was ALL in. Consistent with messages, calls, plans etc. Until he started talking to someone else, it all slowly stopped and he waited for me to call quits because he was too much of a coward to be honest.
Honestly in this case, I’d say give up. I’ve realised with the Virgos I know they’re either all in or not really in at all. Platonically they’re not always around but keep in contact, romantically they’re always wanting to know what you’re up to. Of course this is just my experience, but if you stay around just tread cautiously and go with the flow, no expectations.
Oh dear,sorry to hear that. How did you knowhewas pursuing somebody else?
Actually I was active on the dating apo when he went missing coz he went back to his country for vacation. Then boom! I saw him on the app and he saw me as well and we matched😑😐 I asked him if he deleted me,and he said he didn't and he was just recently active again. That he deleted his old one so all the matches and conversations will be deleted. But I don't get the point of him matching me again coz we already communicate via whatsapp🙄😑
Yeah,I think they are a bit coward jn terms of emotions,either they're a coward or just have big egos. Mine has a big ego,he told me so.
And when I jokingly said I missed him and he can stop talking to me,I said this jokingly,He took it seriously😐 and said,He should better stop contacting me. But then after a week,he sent me a random txting,saying he was learning some expression from my country and asking me about it🙄 and then we met.
Sigh....yeah,going with the flow is the best with no expectations but I have to be fair to myself as I am looking for something consistent and not wishy washy...
Anyways, a week by and we bump into each other in public - the night he was with her for dinner!! He was standing behind her with his hands on her shoulders. We were never that touchy in public. His face dropped when he saw me and he said hello under his breath. Another red flag? So I put the pieces together and gathered he was already pursuing her because he was VERY distant a week prior to us ending things. He lowkey confirmed that he was into her via text after I saw him as well. Tried to water it down but I saw through it lol.
The app thing is so strange! But if he’s on, doesn’t that imply what his intentions are? Because you don’t just go back on for the sake of it right? To me, that’s already a sign he isn’t taking you seriously.
I hate it when they come back and act like nothing happened?! So inconsistent with their words and actions. Like are you in or out?
Honestly girl, you shouldn’t have to chase. No matter a persons sign, if they’re genuinely into you they’ll show it. Personally, I would run and never look back in this situation. The inconsistencies alone would be a dealbreaker for me. It’s up to you with what you think is best though. Just don’t want a fellow sister to get hurt 💞click to expand
Posted by FeelingGemini
He seems like a typical Virgo. I don't know the whole story,but by reading the last two pages, it looks like he has a lot if Virgo planets. Does he?
It really depends on how much you are into him. When my Virgo did the similar stuff, sending random texts and disappearing, I was too mad and too crazy not to chase, so I always called him up on his behaviour. That, in a way, made us stay together, because otherwise, with his "insecurity" in relationships, he would never chase and I'd just give up. What he told me years later is that by disappearing he would test if I would be persistent, which for him, was a sign of my interest in him. Stupid and sad, I know, but that's how it is.
So, if you are into him and don't want to lose him for whatever reason, tell him his behaviour bothers you. They appreciate honesty and maybe he needs some proof of your interest to get himself moving in the right direction.
If it's not that, if he's a marker, then losing him is not a loss.
Posted by FeelingGeminiI checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?
You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.
What is your Sun, anyway?
Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.
I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.
First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.
We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.
Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.
Wish you all the best
Posted by MarjdcSo, it seems he has a lot of earth in him, that's why he is passive. And he will always be like that, which, I must admit, bothers me to a point in my relationship, but I learnt to accept it and don't go mad over it. His mars is in Aries, which gives him a quality to fight for what he wants, maybe you didn't see his trait in him yet, but if you survive this long period of not knowing what he wants, you surely will.Posted by FeelingGeminiI checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?
You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.
What is your Sun, anyway?
Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.
I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.
First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.
We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.
Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.
Wish you all the best
Me I am a leo. What tactics?
"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.
Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..
"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.
"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha
Thanks for the insights dear💞💓
Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....click to expand
Posted by FeelingGeminiWow,how did you get over his passivity? Is having a lot of earth bad?Posted by MarjdcSo, it seems he has a lot of earth in him, that's why he is passive. And he will always be like that, which, I must admit, bothers me to a point in my relationship, but I learnt to accept it and don't go mad over it. His mars is in Aries, which gives him a quality to fight for what he wants, maybe you didn't see his trait in him yet, but if you survive this long period of not knowing what he wants, you surely will.Posted by FeelingGeminiI checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?
You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.
What is your Sun, anyway?
Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.
I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.
First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.
We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.
Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.
Wish you all the best
Me I am a leo. What tactics?
"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.
Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..
"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.
"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha
Thanks for the insights dear💞💓
Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....
But overall, with the earth planers and Venus in Cancer, he is passive and you will have to show the initiative in whatever you need or want from him.
I understand the inconsistency could make you forget him, but that's why I said depending how much you want him, how much you want to know him more, will determine the course of your relationship.
The tactics I explained; backing off to see how much you are interesting in moving forward. With his Venus in Cancer, it is evem more prominent; one step forward, two steps back, try to remember that.
Someone nicely said on here, Virgo men are all nice when they are not invested emotionally, they are open, you can talk to them about everything, etc, but once they realize their emotions are not under control (ie, they start to fall in love), they are a mess, and they behave erratically. In that period (which could be the ons you're in now) you'd need to be patient, don't take his inconsistencies as a sign of disinterest in you, and just try to assure him that he's the only one you like and want to be with.
At least, that's how I should have behaved, but I was too crazy so I called him on almost everything.
You don't want the mess that I had, so I give you the friendly advice on how to get to the safe place without losing too many nerves.
He likes you. Virgos wouldn't do anything they don't want to do or joke with you just for the sake of it. They value their time and choose who to be in contact with. Especially, him buying you a little present, remembering what you said, shows that he has you on hos mind. He would never do that, if he didn't like you, trust me.
I know you have a hard time now understanding him, I really do. I went through so much with mine, but they do have so much qualities that most people, not only men, but people in general, lack, that the hardship you go througn now, is worth goinh through. They are pure gems, you can rely on them for anything, they won't leave you in cold when the going gets tough. Of course, I'm talking about normal Virgos, not bastards, who you can find in any sign.
Wish you all the bestclick to expand
Posted by FeelingGeminiPosted by MarjdcSo, it seems he has a lot of earth in him, that's why he is passive. And he will always be like that, which, I must admit, bothers me to a point in my relationship, but I learnt to accept it and don't go mad over it. His mars is in Aries, which gives him a quality to fight for what he wants, maybe you didn't see his trait in him yet, but if you survive this long period of not knowing what he wants, you surely will.Posted by FeelingGeminiI checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?
You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.
What is your Sun, anyway?
Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.
I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.
First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.
We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.
Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.
Wish you all the best
Me I am a leo. What tactics?
"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.
Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..
"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.
"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha
Thanks for the insights dear💞💓
Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....
But overall, with the earth planers and Venus in Cancer, he is passive and you will have to show the initiative in whatever you need or want from him.
I understand the inconsistency could make you forget him, but that's why I said depending how much you want him, how much you want to know him more, will determine the course of your relationship.
The tactics I explained; backing off to see how much you are interesting in moving forward. With his Venus in Cancer, it is evem more prominent; one step forward, two steps back, try to remember that.
Someone nicely said on here, Virgo men are all nice when they are not invested emotionally, they are open, you can talk to them about everything, etc, but once they realize their emotions are not under control (ie, they start to fall in love), they are a mess, and they behave erratically. In that period (which could be the ons you're in now) you'd need to be patient, don't take his inconsistencies as a sign of disinterest in you, and just try to assure him that he's the only one you like and want to be with.
At least, that's how I should have behaved, but I was too crazy so I called him on almost everything.
You don't want the mess that I had, so I give you the friendly advice on how to get to the safe place without losing too many nerves.
He likes you. Virgos wouldn't do anything they don't want to do or joke with you just for the sake of it. They value their time and choose who to be in contact with. Especially, him buying you a little present, remembering what you said, shows that he has you on hos mind. He would never do that, if he didn't like you, trust me.
I know you have a hard time now understanding him, I really do. I went through so much with mine, but they do have so much qualities that most people, not only men, but people in general, lack, that the hardship you go througn now, is worth goinh through. They are pure gems, you can rely on them for anything, they won't leave you in cold when the going gets tough. Of course, I'm talking about normal Virgos, not bastards, who you can find in any sign.
Wish you all the bestclick to expand
Posted by MarjdcThey are slow, but they come around eventually. He is interested in you, and you being interested in cooking, culture and art makes you perfect in his eyes. He didn't say it yet, but that's what he thinks.Posted by FeelingGeminiPosted by MarjdcSo, it seems he has a lot of earth in him, that's why he is passive. And he will always be like that, which, I must admit, bothers me to a point in my relationship, but I learnt to accept it and don't go mad over it. His mars is in Aries, which gives him a quality to fight for what he wants, maybe you didn't see his trait in him yet, but if you survive this long period of not knowing what he wants, you surely will.Posted by FeelingGeminiI checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?
You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.
What is your Sun, anyway?
Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.
I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.
First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.
We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.
Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.
Wish you all the best
Me I am a leo. What tactics?
"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.
Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..
"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.
"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha
Thanks for the insights dear💞💓
Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....
But overall, with the earth planers and Venus in Cancer, he is passive and you will have to show the initiative in whatever you need or want from him.
I understand the inconsistency could make you forget him, but that's why I said depending how much you want him, how much you want to know him more, will determine the course of your relationship.
The tactics I explained; backing off to see how much you are interesting in moving forward. With his Venus in Cancer, it is evem more prominent; one step forward, two steps back, try to remember that.
Someone nicely said on here, Virgo men are all nice when they are not invested emotionally, they are open, you can talk to them about everything, etc, but once they realize their emotions are not under control (ie, they start to fall in love), they are a mess, and they behave erratically. In that period (which could be the ons you're in now) you'd need to be patient, don't take his inconsistencies as a sign of disinterest in you, and just try to assure him that he's the only one you like and want to be with.
At least, that's how I should have behaved, but I was too crazy so I called him on almost everything.
You don't want the mess that I had, so I give you the friendly advice on how to get to the safe place without losing too many nerves.
He likes you. Virgos wouldn't do anything they don't want to do or joke with you just for the sake of it. They value their time and choose who to be in contact with. Especially, him buying you a little present, remembering what you said, shows that he has you on hos mind. He would never do that, if he didn't like you, trust me.
I know you have a hard time now understanding him, I really do. I went through so much with mine, but they do have so much qualities that most people, not only men, but people in general, lack, that the hardship you go througn now, is worth goinh through. They are pure gems, you can rely on them for anything, they won't leave you in cold when the going gets tough. Of course, I'm talking about normal Virgos, not bastards, who you can find in any sign.
Wish you all the best
Quick update on my Virgo.
He suddenly txted me yesterday and asked how I was doing? He actually watched my WhatsApp story and we had a conversation because of that. He then updated me about his match for handball this coming weekend,him getting a wine cellar for their new flat,and he was all excited about it. I felt happy he suddenly updated me.
I then asked when he will cook again,and he said we can organize it. I said I wasn't feeling good and might have the fever and just told me to get some rest and that I should be in shape when we meet.
I also told him I would cook him my country's food next time. I even asked how his Piano skills are,he said it was still zero coz he is focusing on Guitar and Ukulele.
He then told me,I haven't shown him the movie that we talked about months ago. OMG!!!! Their memories are scary!!!! He can still remember that.. he didn't say the title but he said I will remember it hahaha he is funny in his own way..click to expand
Posted by FeelingGeminiPosted by MarjdcThey are slow, but they come around eventually. He is interested in you, and you being interested in cooking, culture and art makes you perfect in his eyes. He didn't say it yet, but that's what he thinks.Posted by FeelingGeminiPosted by MarjdcSo, it seems he has a lot of earth in him, that's why he is passive. And he will always be like that, which, I must admit, bothers me to a point in my relationship, but I learnt to accept it and don't go mad over it. His mars is in Aries, which gives him a quality to fight for what he wants, maybe you didn't see his trait in him yet, but if you survive this long period of not knowing what he wants, you surely will.Posted by FeelingGeminiI checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?
You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.
What is your Sun, anyway?
Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.
I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.
First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.
We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.
Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.
Wish you all the best
Me I am a leo. What tactics?
"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.
Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..
"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.
"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha
Thanks for the insights dear💞💓
Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....
But overall, with the earth planers and Venus in Cancer, he is passive and you will have to show the initiative in whatever you need or want from him.
I understand the inconsistency could make you forget him, but that's why I said depending how much you want him, how much you want to know him more, will determine the course of your relationship.
The tactics I explained; backing off to see how much you are interesting in moving forward. With his Venus in Cancer, it is evem more prominent; one step forward, two steps back, try to remember that.
Someone nicely said on here, Virgo men are all nice when they are not invested emotionally, they are open, you can talk to them about everything, etc, but once they realize their emotions are not under control (ie, they start to fall in love), they are a mess, and they behave erratically. In that period (which could be the ons you're in now) you'd need to be patient, don't take his inconsistencies as a sign of disinterest in you, and just try to assure him that he's the only one you like and want to be with.
At least, that's how I should have behaved, but I was too crazy so I called him on almost everything.
You don't want the mess that I had, so I give you the friendly advice on how to get to the safe place without losing too many nerves.
He likes you. Virgos wouldn't do anything they don't want to do or joke with you just for the sake of it. They value their time and choose who to be in contact with. Especially, him buying you a little present, remembering what you said, shows that he has you on hos mind. He would never do that, if he didn't like you, trust me.
I know you have a hard time now understanding him, I really do. I went through so much with mine, but they do have so much qualities that most people, not only men, but people in general, lack, that the hardship you go througn now, is worth goinh through. They are pure gems, you can rely on them for anything, they won't leave you in cold when the going gets tough. Of course, I'm talking about normal Virgos, not bastards, who you can find in any sign.
Wish you all the best
Quick update on my Virgo.
He suddenly txted me yesterday and asked how I was doing? He actually watched my WhatsApp story and we had a conversation because of that. He then updated me about his match for handball this coming weekend,him getting a wine cellar for their new flat,and he was all excited about it. I felt happy he suddenly updated me.
I then asked when he will cook again,and he said we can organize it. I said I wasn't feeling good and might have the fever and just told me to get some rest and that I should be in shape when we meet.
I also told him I would cook him my country's food next time. I even asked how his Piano skills are,he said it was still zero coz he is focusing on Guitar and Ukulele.
He then told me,I haven't shown him the movie that we talked about months ago. OMG!!!! Their memories are scary!!!! He can still remember that.. he didn't say the title but he said I will remember it hahaha he is funny in his own way..
They are obsessed with all things classy and artistic, and you being a piano teacher (if memory serves me well) is like you jumped in front of all the other women without doing anything.
Their passivity in emotional life (cause they are quite vibrant and energetic in other areas of life), is something I learnt to accept, without going crazy.
It just happened over time; once I got to know him deeply, his character and the way he functions, I just put it down to something that is part of him, and learnt to love it even.
It's hard to not get the response in some acceptable period of time, but that's how they are. They ponder over it, are happy or unhappy with what you wrote and continue on. It is very selfish in a way, that's where we had the most of our quarrels of, but in time I saw it was useless to fight over that. Mostly for the reason it rarely happens now, since we are together, but also because it doesn't mean a disrespect from their part, just a bit of selfishness and a bit of not wanting you to lose the flame for them (by being enigmatic).
They are complicated, but respectful, caring, loyal and very interesting. When I put everything on scales, the qualities where much, much stronger than his flaws, and none of us is perfect, so..
Thank you for the nice words, I appreciate them, and hope that the two of you will make it. You are a nice and honest person, which I'm sure, he appreciate and which made him like you.
All the bestclick to expand
Posted by FeelingGeminiPosted by MarjdcThey are slow, but they come around eventually. He is interested in you, and you being interested in cooking, culture and art makes you perfect in his eyes. He didn't say it yet, but that's what he thinks.Posted by FeelingGeminiPosted by MarjdcSo, it seems he has a lot of earth in him, that's why he is passive. And he will always be like that, which, I must admit, bothers me to a point in my relationship, but I learnt to accept it and don't go mad over it. His mars is in Aries, which gives him a quality to fight for what he wants, maybe you didn't see his trait in him yet, but if you survive this long period of not knowing what he wants, you surely will.Posted by FeelingGeminiI checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?
You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.
What is your Sun, anyway?
Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.
I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.
First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.
We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.
Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.
Wish you all the best
Me I am a leo. What tactics?
"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.
Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..
"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.
"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha
Thanks for the insights dear💞💓
Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....
But overall, with the earth planers and Venus in Cancer, he is passive and you will have to show the initiative in whatever you need or want from him.
I understand the inconsistency could make you forget him, but that's why I said depending how much you want him, how much you want to know him more, will determine the course of your relationship.
The tactics I explained; backing off to see how much you are interesting in moving forward. With his Venus in Cancer, it is evem more prominent; one step forward, two steps back, try to remember that.
Someone nicely said on here, Virgo men are all nice when they are not invested emotionally, they are open, you can talk to them about everything, etc, but once they realize their emotions are not under control (ie, they start to fall in love), they are a mess, and they behave erratically. In that period (which could be the ons you're in now) you'd need to be patient, don't take his inconsistencies as a sign of disinterest in you, and just try to assure him that he's the only one you like and want to be with.
At least, that's how I should have behaved, but I was too crazy so I called him on almost everything.
You don't want the mess that I had, so I give you the friendly advice on how to get to the safe place without losing too many nerves.
He likes you. Virgos wouldn't do anything they don't want to do or joke with you just for the sake of it. They value their time and choose who to be in contact with. Especially, him buying you a little present, remembering what you said, shows that he has you on hos mind. He would never do that, if he didn't like you, trust me.
I know you have a hard time now understanding him, I really do. I went through so much with mine, but they do have so much qualities that most people, not only men, but people in general, lack, that the hardship you go througn now, is worth goinh through. They are pure gems, you can rely on them for anything, they won't leave you in cold when the going gets tough. Of course, I'm talking about normal Virgos, not bastards, who you can find in any sign.
Wish you all the best
Quick update on my Virgo.
He suddenly txted me yesterday and asked how I was doing? He actually watched my WhatsApp story and we had a conversation because of that. He then updated me about his match for handball this coming weekend,him getting a wine cellar for their new flat,and he was all excited about it. I felt happy he suddenly updated me.
I then asked when he will cook again,and he said we can organize it. I said I wasn't feeling good and might have the fever and just told me to get some rest and that I should be in shape when we meet.
I also told him I would cook him my country's food next time. I even asked how his Piano skills are,he said it was still zero coz he is focusing on Guitar and Ukulele.
He then told me,I haven't shown him the movie that we talked about months ago. OMG!!!! Their memories are scary!!!! He can still remember that.. he didn't say the title but he said I will remember it hahaha he is funny in his own way..
They are obsessed with all things classy and artistic, and you being a piano teacher (if memory serves me well) is like you jumped in front of all the other women without doing anything.
Their passivity in emotional life (cause they are quite vibrant and energetic in other areas of life), is something I learnt to accept, without going crazy.
It just happened over time; once I got to know him deeply, his character and the way he functions, I just put it down to something that is part of him, and learnt to love it even.
It's hard to not get the response in some acceptable period of time, but that's how they are. They ponder over it, are happy or unhappy with what you wrote and continue on. It is very selfish in a way, that's where we had the most of our quarrels of, but in time I saw it was useless to fight over that. Mostly for the reason it rarely happens now, since we are together, but also because it doesn't mean a disrespect from their part, just a bit of selfishness and a bit of not wanting you to lose the flame for them (by being enigmatic).
They are complicated, but respectful, caring, loyal and very interesting. When I put everything on scales, the qualities where much, much stronger than his flaws, and none of us is perfect, so..
Thank you for the nice words, I appreciate them, and hope that the two of you will make it. You are a nice and honest person, which I'm sure, he appreciate and which made him like you.
All the bestclick to expand
Posted by NancymPosted by FeelingGeminiPosted by MarjdcThey are slow, but they come around eventually. He is interested in you, and you being interested in cooking, culture and art makes you perfect in his eyes. He didn't say it yet, but that's what he thinks.Posted by FeelingGeminiPosted by MarjdcSo, it seems he has a lot of earth in him, that's why he is passive. And he will always be like that, which, I must admit, bothers me to a point in my relationship, but I learnt to accept it and don't go mad over it. His mars is in Aries, which gives him a quality to fight for what he wants, maybe you didn't see his trait in him yet, but if you survive this long period of not knowing what he wants, you surely will.Posted by FeelingGeminiI checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?
You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.
What is your Sun, anyway?
Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.
I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.
First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.
We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.
Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.
Wish you all the best
Me I am a leo. What tactics?
"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.
Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..
"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.
"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha
Thanks for the insights dear💞💓
Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....
But overall, with the earth planers and Venus in Cancer, he is passive and you will have to show the initiative in whatever you need or want from him.
I understand the inconsistency could make you forget him, but that's why I said depending how much you want him, how much you want to know him more, will determine the course of your relationship.
The tactics I explained; backing off to see how much you are interesting in moving forward. With his Venus in Cancer, it is evem more prominent; one step forward, two steps back, try to remember that.
Someone nicely said on here, Virgo men are all nice when they are not invested emotionally, they are open, you can talk to them about everything, etc, but once they realize their emotions are not under control (ie, they start to fall in love), they are a mess, and they behave erratically. In that period (which could be the ons you're in now) you'd need to be patient, don't take his inconsistencies as a sign of disinterest in you, and just try to assure him that he's the only one you like and want to be with.
At least, that's how I should have behaved, but I was too crazy so I called him on almost everything.
You don't want the mess that I had, so I give you the friendly advice on how to get to the safe place without losing too many nerves.
He likes you. Virgos wouldn't do anything they don't want to do or joke with you just for the sake of it. They value their time and choose who to be in contact with. Especially, him buying you a little present, remembering what you said, shows that he has you on hos mind. He would never do that, if he didn't like you, trust me.
I know you have a hard time now understanding him, I really do. I went through so much with mine, but they do have so much qualities that most people, not only men, but people in general, lack, that the hardship you go througn now, is worth goinh through. They are pure gems, you can rely on them for anything, they won't leave you in cold when the going gets tough. Of course, I'm talking about normal Virgos, not bastards, who you can find in any sign.
Wish you all the best
Quick update on my Virgo.
He suddenly txted me yesterday and asked how I was doing? He actually watched my WhatsApp story and we had a conversation because of that. He then updated me about his match for handball this coming weekend,him getting a wine cellar for their new flat,and he was all excited about it. I felt happy he suddenly updated me.
I then asked when he will cook again,and he said we can organize it. I said I wasn't feeling good and might have the fever and just told me to get some rest and that I should be in shape when we meet.
I also told him I would cook him my country's food next time. I even asked how his Piano skills are,he said it was still zero coz he is focusing on Guitar and Ukulele.
He then told me,I haven't shown him the movie that we talked about months ago. OMG!!!! Their memories are scary!!!! He can still remember that.. he didn't say the title but he said I will remember it hahaha he is funny in his own way..
They are obsessed with all things classy and artistic, and you being a piano teacher (if memory serves me well) is like you jumped in front of all the other women without doing anything.
Their passivity in emotional life (cause they are quite vibrant and energetic in other areas of life), is something I learnt to accept, without going crazy.
It just happened over time; once I got to know him deeply, his character and the way he functions, I just put it down to something that is part of him, and learnt to love it even.
It's hard to not get the response in some acceptable period of time, but that's how they are. They ponder over it, are happy or unhappy with what you wrote and continue on. It is very selfish in a way, that's where we had the most of our quarrels of, but in time I saw it was useless to fight over that. Mostly for the reason it rarely happens now, since we are together, but also because it doesn't mean a disrespect from their part, just a bit of selfishness and a bit of not wanting you to lose the flame for them (by being enigmatic).
They are complicated, but respectful, caring, loyal and very interesting. When I put everything on scales, the qualities where much, much stronger than his flaws, and none of us is perfect, so..
Thank you for the nice words, I appreciate them, and hope that the two of you will make it. You are a nice and honest person, which I'm sure, he appreciate and which made him like you.
All the best
Ugh!!! I am going through a similar situation with a Virgo guy. I know in my heart that he loves me, I can see it in his eyes and through his actions. I have struggled with the hot/ cold although our situation is so drastically different regarding our relationship compared to others. Yes, it's been frustrating with the texting and distance but with the help of others and yourself I am getting a clear insight into their way of thinking. I am learning that no texting isn't a priority to him, in fact he's not a fan of social media and is technologically impaired. He will sometimes reply right away or hours later but he has never ignored me. He always fills me in on what hes doing with his day/week. We don't chat everyday... I actually just text him unaware of his day and he replied right away. We exchanged a few messages only for him to inform me he's at a celebration of life. LOL...The one time I figure he would wait till later to message me. Yes, they are complicated and although we are going through a major hurdle in our relationship I am patient to wait as I Love him so! Time and patience I think is key with Virgoclick to expand
Posted by Nancym
Yes, I have found being on here and chatting with others has been extremely insightful.
Hmm...How do i deal with my Virgo?? From day one we have been very open and have able to talk to each other about everything. Our relationship is similar to others on here but he/we are working through a different/ difficult hurdle that we didn't foresee but I have always said things happen for a reason and I believe this is teaching me how to control and keep my emotions in check. Not to let them get the best of me, lash out or jump to conclusions. If something is bothering me I take a step back and think things through, pick my battles and go to him with calm manner. Virgo men don't like emotional confrontation. LOL... I am a sensitive, loving, patient Gemini and tend to spin and overthink. 🙈 Patience and knowing that not everything is about me. Understanding that he is a work alcoholic. He is working through a difficult, emotional situation of which I understand, respect and am giving him the space he needs to work through. Someone once explained when it comes to the matter of the heart Virgo men are like the Prince who will go off and slay the dragon on his own. They tend to put on the brave face with the dazzling smile and everyone but those that they are closest to are none the wise to the turmoil they are battling within. Knowing all this and that he would never do anything to intentionally hurt me and that he loves. But first and foremost Trust!!
Posted by Mariposa_I feel you with the detached/cold and the craving for an emotional bond. It's so annoying,right?! Sigh..its like mixed signals everywhere..
I like Virgo guys but I find them cold/detached, extremely logical regardless if they’re polite so that emotional bond I crave for comes to a halt after awhile. It only goes so far, it seems like my feelings aren’t reciprocated. I find water men understand; they are more down to earth, it flows easily I actually feel cared for. I notice with a Virgo if you run the emotional wave over them they shut down, gotta think about it constantly.
A Scorpio man is resilient, his words dig into my core and I know where he’s coming from. A cancer man brings comfort with sympathy and I can rest. A Pisces man lightens the mood, but still deeply cares for the pain you’re feeling.
Posted by Mariposa_Posted by MarjdcToo much hot/cold, feels like constant games and it brings the worse of me out.Posted by Mariposa_I feel you with the detached/cold and the craving for an emotional bond. It's so annoying,right?! Sigh..its like mixed signals everywhere..
I like Virgo guys but I find them cold/detached, extremely logical regardless if they’re polite so that emotional bond I crave for comes to a halt after awhile. It only goes so far, it seems like my feelings aren’t reciprocated. I find water men understand; they are more down to earth, it flows easily I actually feel cared for. I notice with a Virgo if you run the emotional wave over them they shut down, gotta think about it constantly.
A Scorpio man is resilient, his words dig into my core and I know where he’s coming from. A cancer man brings comfort with sympathy and I can rest. A Pisces man lightens the mood, but still deeply cares for the pain you’re feeling.
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