When should I give up on this Virgo guy?

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Met online,everything went well,he was so clingy. Then he assumed I was still active on the dating app and said he wasn't looking for something serious coz he travels often. He then did some sweet things and then disappeared. Appeared again but a bit distant. He went on a holiday back to his country and I just let it be. He then sends me chess match online,he loves chess. He came back and then planning to stay longer.

When he wants to talk,he makes up this "random small talk" which will lead to "I will explain to you when we meet" Last time he randomly sent a video of a guy playing piano (He knows I'm a music teacher) I thought it was him playing,but it was his flatmate. Why did he even send a video?? We met up recently and it was so relaxed and really nice. Then I don't hear from him again. Is it just sex? When should I give up?
I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"

I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
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I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"

I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
It just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?
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Posted by Marjdc

I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"

I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
It just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?
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@saggurl88

Thank you for your reply smile. This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.

I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...

I just want to know their deal.
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I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"

I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
It just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?


@saggurl88

Thank you for your reply smile. This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.

I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...

I just want to know their deal.
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Well the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.

You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.
Posted by virgoth

virgo probably told his roommate that he's feeling you but doesn't trust it or you, being cautious I'd say or maybe his roommate is your competition and virgo is fluid or could also be that his roommate is feeling a certain type of way

get to know the roommate that is how you will gain great intel


Thanks for your insights @virgoth

Actually the flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her last time when my virgo cooked and we all (the flatmate and gf,me and my virgo) ate together.

I think so to that ny virgo told his flatmate about me...but what do you mean he doesn't trust it or me? I think he is cautious too. But I can't wait forever.. :/

I know my virgo is insecure of his roomate,he told me that last time. When he was pouring the wine and his flatmate asked if my virgo guy told me about the wine..I just said,"nope,virgo guy doesn't tell me anything because he is a very private person,everything is just inside his head"

And then the flatmate glanced at my virgo and my virgo was just silent. I cannot become close to the roomate because I only get to see him if my virgo asks me out.

Last time I sent my virgo a photo ofthe pasta I cooked,and asked him how his week was going and catch up soon! He never replied Sad
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I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"

I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
It just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?


@saggurl88

Thank you for your reply smile. This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.

I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...

I just want to know their deal.
Well the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.

You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.
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@saggurl88

You are right! They're like batcates sj ce highschool and now they live and work together under the same company.

I think you are right that he is soothing the Virgo's mind. But what for?

I am not interested in the flatmate,he has a gf and he's not my type hahaha I am more interested in the virgo. The virgo just ignored my messages and I haven't heard from him for almost a week. Literally nothing Sad
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Posted by Marjdc

I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"

I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
It just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?


@saggurl88

Thank you for your reply smile. This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.

I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...

I just want to know their deal.
Well the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.

You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.


@saggurl88

You are right! They're like batcates sj ce highschool and now they live and work together under the same company.

I think you are right that he is soothing the Virgo's mind. But what for?

I am not interested in the flatmate,he has a gf and he's not my type hahaha I am more interested in the virgo. The virgo just ignored my messages and I haven't heard from him for almost a week. Literally nothing Sad
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Are you sure the Virgo was ever interested? Now the story sounds like the flat mate was just trying to hook you two up. Maybe the Virgo was just being polite. There are holes in this story lol I'm confused
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Posted by virgoth

virgo probably told his roommate that he's feeling you but doesn't trust it or you, being cautious I'd say or maybe his roommate is your competition and virgo is fluid or could also be that his roommate is feeling a certain type of way

get to know the roommate that is how you will gain great intel


Thanks for your insights @virgoth

Actually the flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her last time when my virgo cooked and we all (the flatmate and gf,me and my virgo) ate together.

I think so to that ny virgo told his flatmate about me...but what do you mean he doesn't trust it or me? I think he is cautious too. But I can't wait forever.. :/

I know my virgo is insecure of his roomate,he told me that last time. When he was pouring the wine and his flatmate asked if my virgo guy told me about the wine..I just said,"nope,virgo guy doesn't tell me anything because he is a very private person,everything is just inside his head"

And then the flatmate glanced at my virgo and my virgo was just silent. I cannot become close to the roomate because I only get to see him if my virgo asks me out.

Last time I sent my virgo a photo ofthe pasta I cooked,and asked him how his week was going and catch up soon! He never replied Sad
hm, wait for him to come to you leave him alone
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@virgoth

That's what I usually do, I leave him alone and then after a few weeks he will come up with some random txt and next thing I know we are hanging out and then he disappears again. Why like this? I'm slowly losing interest.. it's like everything in his own terms..
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Posted by Marjdc

I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"

I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
It just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?


@saggurl88

Thank you for your reply smile. This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.

I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...

I just want to know their deal.
Well the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.

You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.


@saggurl88

You are right! They're like batcates sj ce highschool and now they live and work together under the same company.

I think you are right that he is soothing the Virgo's mind. But what for?

I am not interested in the flatmate,he has a gf and he's not my type hahaha I am more interested in the virgo. The virgo just ignored my messages and I haven't heard from him for almost a week. Literally nothing Sad
Are you sure the Virgo was ever interested? Now the story sounds like the flat mate was just trying to hook you two up. Maybe the Virgo was just being polite. There are holes in this story lol I'm confused
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@saggurl88

He is interested. Last time he said he wasn't looking for something serious because they don't know how long they'll be here in this country coz of work. And then he updated me saying they will stay longer. Then updated me that they moved in in a new flat. He was so clingy in the beginning,always wanting me around. Introduced me to his friends,we were like seeing eachother and playing chess everyday. Thenhe became distant,and I was confused. And then now he will txt me whenever..making up random small talks to open up a conversation and it feels like we are going in circles and his flatmate during the recent meetup,was trying to help my virgo to like be close to me..idk,I am really confused and really losing interest coz of his hot cold attitude.

There was a time,when he went back to his country,I never heard from him and then he would randomly send me online chess requests. Then I didn't know he came back here coz he didn't inform me and for my own sanity I just went back again to the online dating app where I met him. And to my surprise,I saw him!!! I was like,"omg,did he unmatch me or something" and after a few minutes,we matched again and he instantly messaged me on the app and whatsapp. He said he made a new account so his previous matches and conversations will be deleted. But I was wondering,if he wants everything to be deleted,why did he even match me again? We were already txting eachother over whatsapp anyways...

When he was in Amsterdam,I did ask him to get me something from there and I already forgot about it when he came back. And then he surprised me and gave me the thing he bought from there..I find that sweet smile



It will seem like there are lots of holes because I just shortened the story so easier to read hahaha but you can ask anything smile
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Posted by virgoth

virgo probably told his roommate that he's feeling you but doesn't trust it or you, being cautious I'd say or maybe his roommate is your competition and virgo is fluid or could also be that his roommate is feeling a certain type of way

get to know the roommate that is how you will gain great intel


Thanks for your insights @virgoth

Actually the flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her last time when my virgo cooked and we all (the flatmate and gf,me and my virgo) ate together.

I think so to that ny virgo told his flatmate about me...but what do you mean he doesn't trust it or me? I think he is cautious too. But I can't wait forever.. :/

I know my virgo is insecure of his roomate,he told me that last time. When he was pouring the wine and his flatmate asked if my virgo guy told me about the wine..I just said,"nope,virgo guy doesn't tell me anything because he is a very private person,everything is just inside his head"

And then the flatmate glanced at my virgo and my virgo was just silent. I cannot become close to the roomate because I only get to see him if my virgo asks me out.

Last time I sent my virgo a photo ofthe pasta I cooked,and asked him how his week was going and catch up soon! He never replied Sad
hm, wait for him to come to you leave him alone


@virgoth

That's what I usually do, I leave him alone and then after a few weeks he will come up with some random txt and next thing I know we are hanging out and then he disappears again. Why like this? I'm slowly losing interest.. it's like everything in his own terms..


if a man is invested he really will go thru the trouble of chasing you and trying to find the time to make the effort
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@virgoth

True. So I guess I should just give up then. I have been waiting for the past few months already and I don't think I deserve his hot cold attitude. He needs to make.up his mind

All I did was good to him, bring him food,accompany him when he was tired (because he wanted to be with me), take care of him and all that jazz..sigh..I know he likes me,if not,why does he always come back..
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I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"

I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
It just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?


@saggurl88

Thank you for your reply smile. This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.

I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...

I just want to know their deal.
Well the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.

You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.


@saggurl88

You are right! They're like batcates sj ce highschool and now they live and work together under the same company.

I think you are right that he is soothing the Virgo's mind. But what for?

I am not interested in the flatmate,he has a gf and he's not my type hahaha I am more interested in the virgo. The virgo just ignored my messages and I haven't heard from him for almost a week. Literally nothing Sad
Are you sure the Virgo was ever interested? Now the story sounds like the flat mate was just trying to hook you two up. Maybe the Virgo was just being polite. There are holes in this story lol I'm confused


@saggurl88

He is interested. Last time he said he wasn't looking for something serious because they don't know how long they'll be here in this country coz of work. And then he updated me saying they will stay longer. Then updated me that they moved in in a new flat. He was so clingy in the beginning,always wanting me around. Introduced me to his friends,we were like seeing eachother and playing chess everyday. Thenhe became distant,and I was confused. And then now he will txt me whenever..making up random small talks to open up a conversation and it feels like we are going in circles and his flatmate during the recent meetup,was trying to help my virgo to like be close to me..idk,I am really confused and really losing interest coz of his hot cold attitude.

There was a time,when he went back to his country,I never heard from him and then he would randomly send me online chess requests. Then I didn't know he came back here coz he didn't inform me and for my own sanity I just went back again to the online dating app where I met him. And to my surprise,I saw him!!! I was like,"omg,did he unmatch me or something" and after a few minutes,we matched again and he instantly messaged me on the app and whatsapp. He said he made a new account so his previous matches and conversations will be deleted. But I was wondering,if he wants everything to be deleted,why did he even match me again? We were already txting eachother over whatsapp anyways...

When he was in Amsterdam,I did ask him to get me something from there and I already forgot about it when he came back. And then he surprised me and gave me the thing he bought from there..I find that sweet smile



It will seem like there are lots of holes because I just shortened the story so easier to read hahaha but you can ask anything smile
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Awww ok. I don’t have anymore questions. Things seem to be going pretty good. Maybe send a text asking why communication slowed down- since he was so clingy at first.(don’t include the clingy part lol) Other than that I have nothing to add. I’m not a Virgo. I’m seeing one now but he is super aloof. I don’t even text him anymore, I just answer him when he texts. I hate how he doesn’t answer right away so I’ve just stopped doing it. I have brought that up to him but he rolls his eyes. I guess he’s heard that before lol. So instead of me getting upset, I just keep busy till he messages me.
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I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"

I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
It just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?


@saggurl88

Thank you for your reply smile. This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.

I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...

I just want to know their deal.
Well the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.

You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.


@saggurl88

You are right! They're like batcates sj ce highschool and now they live and work together under the same company.

I think you are right that he is soothing the Virgo's mind. But what for?

I am not interested in the flatmate,he has a gf and he's not my type hahaha I am more interested in the virgo. The virgo just ignored my messages and I haven't heard from him for almost a week. Literally nothing Sad
Are you sure the Virgo was ever interested? Now the story sounds like the flat mate was just trying to hook you two up. Maybe the Virgo was just being polite. There are holes in this story lol I'm confused


@saggurl88

He is interested. Last time he said he wasn't looking for something serious because they don't know how long they'll be here in this country coz of work. And then he updated me saying they will stay longer. Then updated me that they moved in in a new flat. He was so clingy in the beginning,always wanting me around. Introduced me to his friends,we were like seeing eachother and playing chess everyday. Thenhe became distant,and I was confused. And then now he will txt me whenever..making up random small talks to open up a conversation and it feels like we are going in circles and his flatmate during the recent meetup,was trying to help my virgo to like be close to me..idk,I am really confused and really losing interest coz of his hot cold attitude.

There was a time,when he went back to his country,I never heard from him and then he would randomly send me online chess requests. Then I didn't know he came back here coz he didn't inform me and for my own sanity I just went back again to the online dating app where I met him. And to my surprise,I saw him!!! I was like,"omg,did he unmatch me or something" and after a few minutes,we matched again and he instantly messaged me on the app and whatsapp. He said he made a new account so his previous matches and conversations will be deleted. But I was wondering,if he wants everything to be deleted,why did he even match me again? We were already txting eachother over whatsapp anyways...

When he was in Amsterdam,I did ask him to get me something from there and I already forgot about it when he came back. And then he surprised me and gave me the thing he bought from there..I find that sweet smile



It will seem like there are lots of holes because I just shortened the story so easier to read hahaha but you can ask anything smile
Awww ok. I don’t have anymore questions. Things seem to be going pretty good. Maybe send a text asking why communication slowed down- since he was so clingy at first.(don’t include the clingy part lol) Other than that I have nothing to add. I’m not a Virgo. I’m seeing one now but he is super aloof. I don’t even text him anymore, I just answer him when he texts. I hate how he doesn’t answer right away so I’ve just stopped doing it. I have brought that up to him but he rolls his eyes. I guess he’s heard that before lol. So instead of me getting upset, I just keep busy till he messages me.
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@saggurl88 I did send him a photo of the pasta I cooked last time,also I asked how his week was going but no reply. Hopefully things would really go well. I am thinking of unnatching him on the app actually..

Ohhh thought you were a virgo haha but thanks for replying your thoughts to my questions. They are weird right?! (No offense to virgos out there) I also don't txt him that much anymore. Everything is like to his advantage..pfft lol

Yes!!! They don't answer right away,it makes me frustrated as a leo and then I got used to it and put him in archives on whatsapp haha good you brought it up to him!!! That's good,keeping yourself busy smile but have you tried seeing other guys?
Dating a Virgo? Focus on the similarities. Bet your ass they are. Live your own life. That doesn't mean date other people, but it certainly means to have your own friends. Dating a Virgo is as close to equality as you’re ever gonna get. Give what you want to receive. Show love and you will be loved. Don’t overthink it. Just be and enjoy.
Your overthinking. Go with the flow
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I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"

I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
It just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?


@saggurl88

Thank you for your reply smile. This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.

I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...

I just want to know their deal.
Well the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.

You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.


@saggurl88

You are right! They're like batcates sj ce highschool and now they live and work together under the same company.

I think you are right that he is soothing the Virgo's mind. But what for?

I am not interested in the flatmate,he has a gf and he's not my type hahaha I am more interested in the virgo. The virgo just ignored my messages and I haven't heard from him for almost a week. Literally nothing Sad
Are you sure the Virgo was ever interested? Now the story sounds like the flat mate was just trying to hook you two up. Maybe the Virgo was just being polite. There are holes in this story lol I'm confused


@saggurl88

He is interested. Last time he said he wasn't looking for something serious because they don't know how long they'll be here in this country coz of work. And then he updated me saying they will stay longer. Then updated me that they moved in in a new flat. He was so clingy in the beginning,always wanting me around. Introduced me to his friends,we were like seeing eachother and playing chess everyday. Thenhe became distant,and I was confused. And then now he will txt me whenever..making up random small talks to open up a conversation and it feels like we are going in circles and his flatmate during the recent meetup,was trying to help my virgo to like be close to me..idk,I am really confused and really losing interest coz of his hot cold attitude.

There was a time,when he went back to his country,I never heard from him and then he would randomly send me online chess requests. Then I didn't know he came back here coz he didn't inform me and for my own sanity I just went back again to the online dating app where I met him. And to my surprise,I saw him!!! I was like,"omg,did he unmatch me or something" and after a few minutes,we matched again and he instantly messaged me on the app and whatsapp. He said he made a new account so his previous matches and conversations will be deleted. But I was wondering,if he wants everything to be deleted,why did he even match me again? We were already txting eachother over whatsapp anyways...

When he was in Amsterdam,I did ask him to get me something from there and I already forgot about it when he came back. And then he surprised me and gave me the thing he bought from there..I find that sweet smile



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Awww ok. I don’t have anymore questions. Things seem to be going pretty good. Maybe send a text asking why communication slowed down- since he was so clingy at first.(don’t include the clingy part lol) Other than that I have nothing to add. I’m not a Virgo. I’m seeing one now but he is super aloof. I don’t even text him anymore, I just answer him when he texts. I hate how he doesn’t answer right away so I’ve just stopped doing it. I have brought that up to him but he rolls his eyes. I guess he’s heard that before lol. So instead of me getting upset, I just keep busy till he messages me.


@saggurl88 I did send him a photo of the pasta I cooked last time,also I asked how his week was going but no reply. Hopefully things would really go well. I am thinking of unnatching him on the app actually..

Ohhh thought you were a virgo haha but thanks for replying your thoughts to my questions. They are weird right?! (No offense to virgos out there) I also don't txt him that much anymore. Everything is like to his advantage..pfft lol

Yes!!! They don't answer right away,it makes me frustrated as a leo and then I got used to it and put him in archives on whatsapp haha good you brought it up to him!!! That's good,keeping yourself busy smile but have you tried seeing other guys?
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Me and the Virgo are sleeping together. That went pretty fast cause he’s been after me for a few years. So all I had to say was ok, basically.

Him having stuff his way makes things easier on me cause I go with the flow. I like not having to make an effort 😝
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Dating a Virgo? Focus on the similarities. Bet your ass they are. Live your own life. That doesn't mean date other people, but it certainly means to have your own friends. Dating a Virgo is as close to equality as you’re ever gonna get. Get what you want to receive. Show love and you will be loved. Don’t overthink it. Just be and enjoy.
@hippiecrite

Yep,I am living my life, don't get me wrong. I am letting him be and the situation be..but I want consistency. Yeah, I am a bit of an overthinker. It's just a bit unfair that if he txts me then I reply and he doesn't do the same unless maybe he is in a mood to reply. We sleep together every now and then but I want intimacy. I was showing this to him last time..then he became distant so I started losing interest..

I did reject him last time though. He randomly messaged me saying he wants to meetup and he had a hangover but I already made plans so I cannot meet him. The next time he asked me to go to his new house and I said it was too far and do a raincheck. And when I asked him if we can catch up he suddenly said, let's do a raincheck on that 😑😐 but we met a week after that. He txted small talks etc. He is always like that,small talk then meet up and disappear. When I txt he doesn't reply so I stop txting haha just wondering if I am wasting my time,but I like him.


Thank you for your insight. How to focus on the similarities if he doesn't initiate txt then we can't meet Sad and I can't always say yes to his txts,it is unfair for myself. And yee,he is very equal,I like that about him. Caring and very accomodating smile I wish he knows I like him haha
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Your overthinking. Go with the flow
@LadyNeptune

Yep,I am going withthe flow for months already hahaha I just wish I know what he wants 🤣
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I have noticed his flatmate acts weird when I'm around. When my virgo was pouring wine,his flatmate suddenly said to me: "hey,did he tell you that this wine is from his hometown?" And "did he made you listen to this music?" And "can you play Piano later?" And I jokingly said, "oh I only know happy birthday" and then his flatmate was like "so all you said to Virgo guy were lies?"

I mean, literally his flatmate knows something about my virgo guy that I don't know....
It just seems like the Virgo is shy and the flat mate is trying to help. What are you getting out of it? What's weird?


@saggurl88

Thank you for your reply smile. This is what I thought as well. That his flatmate is trying to speak/help him. His flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her.

I don't know what I am getting out of it..just mixed signals whether my virgo guy likes me or not. But I do know he is insecure of his flatmate. The weird part is the flatmate talks more on what my virgo is supposed to be asking or telling me but might not have the guts to. Like when my virgo poured the wine and cooked, his flat mate was making most of the conversation..like "did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?" And he said this while glancing at my virgo and me...

I just want to know their deal.
Well the flatmate and Virgo are friends and I'm guessing have known each other longer. The flat mate just seems to be soothing the Virgos mind or insecurities by getting info from you while keeping the Virgos name on your mind.

You actually seem more interested in the flatmate.


@saggurl88

You are right! They're like batcates sj ce highschool and now they live and work together under the same company.

I think you are right that he is soothing the Virgo's mind. But what for?

I am not interested in the flatmate,he has a gf and he's not my type hahaha I am more interested in the virgo. The virgo just ignored my messages and I haven't heard from him for almost a week. Literally nothing Sad
Are you sure the Virgo was ever interested? Now the story sounds like the flat mate was just trying to hook you two up. Maybe the Virgo was just being polite. There are holes in this story lol I'm confused


@saggurl88

He is interested. Last time he said he wasn't looking for something serious because they don't know how long they'll be here in this country coz of work. And then he updated me saying they will stay longer. Then updated me that they moved in in a new flat. He was so clingy in the beginning,always wanting me around. Introduced me to his friends,we were like seeing eachother and playing chess everyday. Thenhe became distant,and I was confused. And then now he will txt me whenever..making up random small talks to open up a conversation and it feels like we are going in circles and his flatmate during the recent meetup,was trying to help my virgo to like be close to me..idk,I am really confused and really losing interest coz of his hot cold attitude.

There was a time,when he went back to his country,I never heard from him and then he would randomly send me online chess requests. Then I didn't know he came back here coz he didn't inform me and for my own sanity I just went back again to the online dating app where I met him. And to my surprise,I saw him!!! I was like,"omg,did he unmatch me or something" and after a few minutes,we matched again and he instantly messaged me on the app and whatsapp. He said he made a new account so his previous matches and conversations will be deleted. But I was wondering,if he wants everything to be deleted,why did he even match me again? We were already txting eachother over whatsapp anyways...

When he was in Amsterdam,I did ask him to get me something from there and I already forgot about it when he came back. And then he surprised me and gave me the thing he bought from there..I find that sweet smile



It will seem like there are lots of holes because I just shortened the story so easier to read hahaha but you can ask anything smile
Awww ok. I don’t have anymore questions. Things seem to be going pretty good. Maybe send a text asking why communication slowed down- since he was so clingy at first.(don’t include the clingy part lol) Other than that I have nothing to add. I’m not a Virgo. I’m seeing one now but he is super aloof. I don’t even text him anymore, I just answer him when he texts. I hate how he doesn’t answer right away so I’ve just stopped doing it. I have brought that up to him but he rolls his eyes. I guess he’s heard that before lol. So instead of me getting upset, I just keep busy till he messages me.


@saggurl88 I did send him a photo of the pasta I cooked last time,also I asked how his week was going but no reply. Hopefully things would really go well. I am thinking of unnatching him on the app actually..

Ohhh thought you were a virgo haha but thanks for replying your thoughts to my questions. They are weird right?! (No offense to virgos out there) I also don't txt him that much anymore. Everything is like to his advantage..pfft lol

Yes!!! They don't answer right away,it makes me frustrated as a leo and then I got used to it and put him in archives on whatsapp haha good you brought it up to him!!! That's good,keeping yourself busy smile but have you tried seeing other guys?
Me and the Virgo are sleeping together. That went pretty fast cause he’s been after me for a few years. So all I had to say was ok, basically.

Him having stuff his way makes things easier on me cause I go with the flow. I like not having to make an effort 😝
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@saggurl88

Yay sounds good then!! He is basically jnto yiu if he is after yiu for a few years now Hahaha

Me and my Virgo occasionally sleep together and I just want it to be more consistent. Not the sex,but the hanging out part to get to know him more. He used to update ne all the time about his whereabouts..He's like a little nerdy boy at times which I find cute and charming smile

Yeah,going with the flow is the easiest but sometimes I tend to overthink if I am wasting my time or just wait it out coz I really like him haha
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Your overthinking. Go with the flow
@LadyNeptune

Yep,I am going withthe flow for months already hahaha I just wish I know what he wants 🤣
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Ewww for months? Reading this it sounded like you had only gone on a few dates so far, early days.
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Your overthinking. Go with the flow
@LadyNeptune

Yep,I am going withthe flow for months already hahaha I just wish I know what he wants 🤣
Ewww for months? Reading this it sounded like you had only gone on a few dates so far, early days.
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@LadyNeptune

We are inseperable during the first stage,we always see eachother and he will always txt and ask where I was and always want to hangout (so clingy) and then suddenly on and off.

It is annoying really,he moves so slow and whenever we see eachother and his flat mate is there🤔that is the time that the flatmate talks for him...I do know he is insecure of his flatmate.

Last time when he came back from Bali,he hugged me like there was no tomorrow. I think when he is intouch with his emotions he tends to keep it inside. Then he cooked for me and we do things together,tidying stuff,washing dishes,cooking,watching series. Everything was perfect then suddenly hot and cold again. So I just let him be..

I can't always have the "hey how are you?" C

conversation everytime,there should be progress and he needs to man up.

Previously I always tell him how handsome and smart he is and he would just say,stop manipulating me. And this turned me off and I said,I don't manipulate,I appreciate people.

I don't know if I should give up,let him be or date other people....
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Posted by saggurl88I don’t even text him anymore, I just answer him when he texts. I hate how he doesn’t answer right away so I’ve just stopped doing it. I have brought that up to him but he rolls his eyes. I guess he’s heard that before lol. So instead of me getting upset, I just keep busy till he messages me.

i kinda do this too tbh. my virgo & i can go days (like 4-5) w/out communicating. usually he texts me first but i wont hesitate to be the initiator if its been more than 3 days.

i’ll send a text that says “can we hang soon?” or “i wanna see you this weekend”. he always calls me right away to schedule a time.

OP sometimes being an initiator helps. dont be afraid to send a text but send one that he can actually answer. a food photo isnt really one that warrants a response. ask him a question or something. virgos are direct when asked (unless they have a super elusive chart).


@dilettante

Thanks for your insight smile

I actually sent him the pasta photo coz it reminded me of him cooking pasta when I went to their place last week. And yes,I do initiate the txts every now and then during the early stage and it got tiring because he doesn't respond as quick as I wish he would. Like,not hearing back from him for days kills the excitement or the climax of it.

Now when he suddenly txts,I don't feel that excited anymore. I am surprised that he replied after a decade though hahaha

It is good your Virgo is responsive smile

But I think Virgos are more slow than a Cancer. (No offense to any Cancer reading this)

After the pasta photo,I txted him asking how his weekend was going and pffft no response. Maybe he died or something..idk..
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How did you respond to the piano playing video?

And why on earth you didn't simply play the piano? If you're a music teacher..
I was surprised when he sent the video. I said, "wow! I never knew you could play the Piano" and he said it wasn't him. And I thought he was just teasing, and I said, " I know it is you and the flatmate is just taking your video" and he said,it is not him and he doesn't know how to play Piano. And I still insisted it was him and that I wanted to see him play,that I knew it was his back and his arms so I know it was him. Then I think he was kinda pissed about it and replied it wasn't him, it wasn't his back,I didn't spend enough time to remember his back and he doesn't know how to play. He was bad at it and never learned it. (I sensed he was a bit mad from his response) I thought he was just teasing.. I said, I will teach him soon so he can beat his flatmate smile

After the dinner meetup last time,I did play the Piano,and he was really happy about it but his flatmate was more happy coz he plays the Piano and not my Virgo. So it was more like me and the flatmate was exchanging pieces in the Piano. But virgo was very supportive when I played.
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"did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?"

How did you respond to this?

Did you care about where he was from?
Ofcourse I care where he is from. Last time when he showed me his hometown in France,I was really amazed by how beautiful it is! They lived near the mountains which has really good scenery. When I said, "wow! You have a beautiful hometown!" He just said, " don't exaggerate, it's just mountains"

I felt offended that time and I explained to him that people's views are different and I am not exaggerating. White people may be excited by temples and mountains in asia but bored with Castles while Asians will be excited with castles and bored with temples. And he agreed when I explained like this.

So when his flatmate said "this wine is really good,did he tell you it is from his hometown?"

I said, "no,he doesn't tell me anything. He is a very private person,he keeps everything in his head". And the flat ate just glanced at my Virgo..
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How did you respond to the piano playing video?

And why on earth you didn't simply play the piano? If you're a music teacher..
I was surprised when he sent the video. I said, "wow! I never knew you could play the Piano" and he said it wasn't him. And I thought he was just teasing, and I said, " I know it is you and the flatmate is just taking your video" and he said,it is not him and he doesn't know how to play Piano. So I said, I will teach him soon so he can beat his flatmate smile

After the dinner meetup last time,I did play the Piano,and he was really happy about it but his flatmate was more happy coz he plays the Piano and not my Virgo. But my virgo was very supportive when I played.
Oh.. Okay.. That is good

But suppose your last meetup was somewhere in september, that means it has been a month passed..

How has the interaction been since then up til now?
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Timeline was like this:

End of April/Beginning of May: he was super clingy

June: we still see eachother every now and then but on off

July-he was busy,went back to France and I didn't txt that much and it bothered me thst I didn't hear from him,but I didn't tell him

August-went back ti France,sent me some online chess matches but I ignored

September- he txted the never ending "how are you?" Phrase with no immediate response after I txted

October- he wanted to meetup but I was guarding my heart already and I was busy

November- he wants to meetup,I was busy,then he sent video,then asked me to meet him while he had hangover but I can't,then asked me again and then he cooked and I played Piano.

When we met up this November(last week),it was the same day he got back from Amsterdam and he got me some strooowaffle (coz I asked him to bring me something from there) haha
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"did he tell you this wine is from his hometown?"

How did you respond to this?

Did you care about where he was from?
Ofcourse I care where he is from. Last time when he showed me his hometown in France,I was really amazed by how beautiful it is! They lived near the mountains which has really good scenery. When I said, "wow! You have a beautiful hometown!" He just said, " don't exaggerate, it's just mountains"

I felt offended that time and I explained to him that people's views are different and I am not exaggerating. White people may be excited by temples and mountains in asia but bored with Castles while Asians will be excited with castles and bored with temples. And he agreed when I explained like this.

So when his flatmate said "this wine is really good,did he tell you it is from his hometown?"

I said, "no,he doesn't tell me anything. He is a very private person,he keeps everything in his head". And the flat ate just glanced at my Virgo..
Tbh the flatmate sounds nosy af

He could be of interference to the progress

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The flatmate already has a gf and he is not my type. Although he is more confident and outspoken than my Virgo guy. I thinj he is trying to help my Virgo speak for himself...
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How did you respond to the piano playing video?

And why on earth you didn't simply play the piano? If you're a music teacher..
I was surprised when he sent the video. I said, "wow! I never knew you could play the Piano" and he said it wasn't him. And I thought he was just teasing, and I said, " I know it is you and the flatmate is just taking your video" and he said,it is not him and he doesn't know how to play Piano. So I said, I will teach him soon so he can beat his flatmate smile

After the dinner meetup last time,I did play the Piano,and he was really happy about it but his flatmate was more happy coz he plays the Piano and not my Virgo. But my virgo was very supportive when I played.
Oh.. Okay.. That is good

But suppose your last meetup was somewhere in september, that means it has been a month passed..

How has the interaction been since then up til now?
Timeline was like this:

End of April/Beginning of May: he was super clingy

June: we still see eachother every now and then but on off

July-he was busy,went back to France and I didn't txt that much and it bothered me thst I didn't hear from him,but I didn't tell him

August-went back ti France,sent me some online chess matches but I ignored

September- he txted the never ending "how are you?" Phrase with no immediate response after I txted

October- he wanted to meetup but I was guarding my heart already and I was busy

November- he wants to meetup,I was busy,then he sent video,then asked me to meet him while he had hangover but I can't,then asked me again and then he cooked and I played Piano.

When we met up this November(last week),it was the same day he got back from Amsterdam and he got me some strooowaffle (coz I asked him to bring me something from there) haha
So i suppose you know he is a traveler..

I think it was okay.. Perhaps he is still in what is that called, a phase after traveling where you need time to get back to the normal mode?
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They travel for work every now and then but not too long. Last time my Virgo said he wasn't looking for anything serious coz of his travels,but not he told me they'll be staying here longer and they moved in toa new flat.

The interaction after the meetup last week was zero. I txted him after I opened his gift and said thank you and it was nice to see them again,he said it was nice as well to see me. Then I said,catch up again soon! And he didn't reply anymore. He is always like this,whenever I ask,he won't respond,but he expects me to respond when he txts,🙄
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How did you respond to the piano playing video?

And why on earth you didn't simply play the piano? If you're a music teacher..
I was surprised when he sent the video. I said, "wow! I never knew you could play the Piano" and he said it wasn't him. And I thought he was just teasing, and I said, " I know it is you and the flatmate is just taking your video" and he said,it is not him and he doesn't know how to play Piano. So I said, I will teach him soon so he can beat his flatmate smile

After the dinner meetup last time,I did play the Piano,and he was really happy about it but his flatmate was more happy coz he plays the Piano and not my Virgo. But my virgo was very supportive when I played.
Oh.. Okay.. That is good

But suppose your last meetup was somewhere in september, that means it has been a month passed..

How has the interaction been since then up til now?
Timeline was like this:

End of April/Beginning of May: he was super clingy

June: we still see eachother every now and then but on off

July-he was busy,went back to France and I didn't txt that much and it bothered me thst I didn't hear from him,but I didn't tell him

August-went back ti France,sent me some online chess matches but I ignored

September- he txted the never ending "how are you?" Phrase with no immediate response after I txted

October- he wanted to meetup but I was guarding my heart already and I was busy

November- he wants to meetup,I was busy,then he sent video,then asked me to meet him while he had hangover but I can't,then asked me again and then he cooked and I played Piano.

When we met up this November(last week),it was the same day he got back from Amsterdam and he got me some strooowaffle (coz I asked him to bring me something from there) haha
So i suppose you know he is a traveler..

I think it was okay.. Perhaps he is still in what is that called, a phase after traveling where you need time to get back to the normal mode?


They travel for work every now and then but not too long. Last time my Virgo said he wasn't looking for anything serious coz of his travels,but not he told me they'll be staying here longer and they moved in toa new flat.

The interaction after the meetup last week was zero. I txted him after I opened his gift and said thank you and it was nice to see them again,he said it was nice as well to see me. Then I said,catch up again soon! And he didn't reply anymore. He is always like this,whenever I ask,he won't respond,but he expects me to respond when he txts,🙄
Im late for work, chat you later ✌
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Haha rightyo! Catch you later 😄
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virgo probably told his roommate that he's feeling you but doesn't trust it or you, being cautious I'd say or maybe his roommate is your competition and virgo is fluid or could also be that his roommate is feeling a certain type of way

get to know the roommate that is how you will gain great intel


Thanks for your insights @virgoth

Actually the flatmate has a girlfriend and I already met her last time when my virgo cooked and we all (the flatmate and gf,me and my virgo) ate together.

I think so to that ny virgo told his flatmate about me...but what do you mean he doesn't trust it or me? I think he is cautious too. But I can't wait forever.. :/

I know my virgo is insecure of his roomate,he told me that last time. When he was pouring the wine and his flatmate asked if my virgo guy told me about the wine..I just said,"nope,virgo guy doesn't tell me anything because he is a very private person,everything is just inside his head"

And then the flatmate glanced at my virgo and my virgo was just silent. I cannot become close to the roomate because I only get to see him if my virgo asks me out.

Last time I sent my virgo a photo ofthe pasta I cooked,and asked him how his week was going and catch up soon! He never replied Sad
hm, wait for him to come to you leave him alone
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Yeah..no choice really haha
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Posted by saggurl88I don’t even text him anymore, I just answer him when he texts. I hate how he doesn’t answer right away so I’ve just stopped doing it. I have brought that up to him but he rolls his eyes. I guess he’s heard that before lol. So instead of me getting upset, I just keep busy till he messages me.

i kinda do this too tbh. my virgo & i can go days (like 4-5) w/out communicating. usually he texts me first but i wont hesitate to be the initiator if its been more than 3 days.

i’ll send a text that says “can we hang soon?” or “i wanna see you this weekend”. he always calls me right away to schedule a time.

OP sometimes being an initiator helps. dont be afraid to send a text but send one that he can actually answer. a food photo isnt really one that warrants a response. ask him a question or something. virgos are direct when asked (unless they have a super elusive chart).


@dilettante

Thanks for your insight smile

I actually sent him the pasta photo coz it reminded me of him cooking pasta when I went to their place last week. And yes,I do initiate the txts every now and then during the early stage and it got tiring because he doesn't respond as quick as I wish he would. Like,not hearing back from him for days kills the excitement or the climax of it.

Now when he suddenly txts,I don't feel that excited anymore. I am surprised that he replied after a decade though hahaha

It is good your Virgo is responsive smile

But I think Virgos are more slow than a Cancer. (No offense to any Cancer reading this)

After the pasta photo,I txted him asking how his weekend was going and pffft no response. Maybe he died or something..idk..
virgos are def slow paced. they are busy & their way of processing stimulus is kinda out of sight - out of mind.

sometimes i’ll send a text & virgo wont respond til next day or not at all. but i also do the same so... it never really bothers me. i think one needs to manage their expectations for immediate responses. i rarely respond to texts immediately unless i have absolutely nothing going on - which is v rare.

for me, not hearing from the virgo for a few days then getting a text, keeps it exciting. i dont like ppl up my ass, blowing up my phone bc it stresses me out & puts pressure on me to respond. from what i gather, my virgo is the same way. we both hate pressure applied on us.

just keep it light & try not to stress... if i were u, i would keep my options open & not put all my eggs in the virgo basket. he sounds really busy & that makes for a distant virgo, for sure. they kinda get tunnel vision mode when really busy.
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Thank you for your insights smile

Yeah, they are very very slow paced and it is my first time having a Virgo..sigh about the out of sight out of mind...

I get you with the not responding immediately, previously it bothered me that he doesn't respond immediately,but now I got used to it which led ny emotions to him kinda fizzle out haha

"for me, not hearing from the virgo for a few days then getting a text, keeps it exciting"----I kinda like this thinking. But for me it makes me question if he really is interested or not..haha or just busy..but still,nobody is THAT busy..but noted on the pressure in responding thing,maybe my virgo is also like that. I already got used to his no txting mode or ghosting and reappearing haha

Sigh to the tunnel vision..maybe he is pre occupied with work..

My last txt to him was nov 14..felt like ages hahaha
I was seeing a Virgo for almost a year, I cut contact because he essentially chose to pursue someone else over me when we were still talking. He recently contacted me again apologising, attempting to justify everything and saying he wants to be back in my life. We text consistently for a day or so and then he goes missing again.

Before then he was ALL in. Consistent with messages, calls, plans etc. Until he started talking to someone else, it all slowly stopped and he waited for me to call quits because he was too much of a coward to be honest.

Honestly in this case, I’d say give up. I’ve realised with the Virgos I know they’re either all in or not really in at all. Platonically they’re not always around but keep in contact, romantically they’re always wanting to know what you’re up to. Of course this is just my experience, but if you stay around just tread cautiously and go with the flow, no expectations.
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I was seeing a Virgo for almost a year, I cut contact because he essentially chose to pursue someone else over me when we were still talking. He recently contacted me again apologising, attempting to justify everything and saying he wants to be back in my life. We text consistently for a day or so and then he goes missing again.

Before then he was ALL in. Consistent with messages, calls, plans etc. Until he started talking to someone else, it all slowly stopped and he waited for me to call quits because he was too much of a coward to be honest.

Honestly in this case, I’d say give up. I’ve realised with the Virgos I know they’re either all in or not really in at all. Platonically they’re not always around but keep in contact, romantically they’re always wanting to know what you’re up to. Of course this is just my experience, but if you stay around just tread cautiously and go with the flow, no expectations.


Oh dear,sorry to hear that. How did you knowhewas pursuing somebody else?

Actually I was active on the dating apo when he went missing coz he went back to his country for vacation. Then boom! I saw him on the app and he saw me as well and we matched😑😐 I asked him if he deleted me,and he said he didn't and he was just recently active again. That he deleted his old one so all the matches and conversations will be deleted. But I don't get the point of him matching me again coz we already communicate via whatsapp🙄😑

Yeah,I think they are a bit coward jn terms of emotions,either they're a coward or just have big egos. Mine has a big ego,he told me so.

And when I jokingly said I missed him and he can stop talking to me,I said this jokingly,He took it seriously😐 and said,He should better stop contacting me. But then after a week,he sent me a random txting,saying he was learning some expression from my country and asking me about it🙄 and then we met.

Sigh....yeah,going with the flow is the best with no expectations but I have to be fair to myself as I am looking for something consistent and not wishy washy...
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Posted by mewmewgirl

I was seeing a Virgo for almost a year, I cut contact because he essentially chose to pursue someone else over me when we were still talking. He recently contacted me again apologising, attempting to justify everything and saying he wants to be back in my life. We text consistently for a day or so and then he goes missing again.

Before then he was ALL in. Consistent with messages, calls, plans etc. Until he started talking to someone else, it all slowly stopped and he waited for me to call quits because he was too much of a coward to be honest.

Honestly in this case, I’d say give up. I’ve realised with the Virgos I know they’re either all in or not really in at all. Platonically they’re not always around but keep in contact, romantically they’re always wanting to know what you’re up to. Of course this is just my experience, but if you stay around just tread cautiously and go with the flow, no expectations.


Oh dear,sorry to hear that. How did you knowhewas pursuing somebody else?

Actually I was active on the dating apo when he went missing coz he went back to his country for vacation. Then boom! I saw him on the app and he saw me as well and we matched😑😐 I asked him if he deleted me,and he said he didn't and he was just recently active again. That he deleted his old one so all the matches and conversations will be deleted. But I don't get the point of him matching me again coz we already communicate via whatsapp🙄😑

Yeah,I think they are a bit coward jn terms of emotions,either they're a coward or just have big egos. Mine has a big ego,he told me so.

And when I jokingly said I missed him and he can stop talking to me,I said this jokingly,He took it seriously😐 and said,He should better stop contacting me. But then after a week,he sent me a random txting,saying he was learning some expression from my country and asking me about it🙄 and then we met.

Sigh....yeah,going with the flow is the best with no expectations but I have to be fair to myself as I am looking for something consistent and not wishy washy...
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After things ended, he told me he had dinner for his belated birthday with a female friend he never mentioned to me... Now I’m not insecure like that but found it odd. He was like “she was upset she wasn’t invited out for my birthday” but mind you, it was only with the boys one night and the other was with me. Why would a random friend be upset over that. Red flag?

Anyways, a week by and we bump into each other in public - the night he was with her for dinner!! He was standing behind her with his hands on her shoulders. We were never that touchy in public. His face dropped when he saw me and he said hello under his breath. Another red flag? So I put the pieces together and gathered he was already pursuing her because he was VERY distant a week prior to us ending things. He lowkey confirmed that he was into her via text after I saw him as well. Tried to water it down but I saw through it lol.

The app thing is so strange! But if he’s on, doesn’t that imply what his intentions are? Because you don’t just go back on for the sake of it right? To me, that’s already a sign he isn’t taking you seriously.

I hate it when they come back and act like nothing happened?! So inconsistent with their words and actions. Like are you in or out?

Honestly girl, you shouldn’t have to chase. No matter a persons sign, if they’re genuinely into you they’ll show it. Personally, I would run and never look back in this situation. The inconsistencies alone would be a dealbreaker for me. It’s up to you with what you think is best though. Just don’t want a fellow sister to get hurt 💞

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Posted by Marjdc

Posted by mewmewgirl

I was seeing a Virgo for almost a year, I cut contact because he essentially chose to pursue someone else over me when we were still talking. He recently contacted me again apologising, attempting to justify everything and saying he wants to be back in my life. We text consistently for a day or so and then he goes missing again.

Before then he was ALL in. Consistent with messages, calls, plans etc. Until he started talking to someone else, it all slowly stopped and he waited for me to call quits because he was too much of a coward to be honest.

Honestly in this case, I’d say give up. I’ve realised with the Virgos I know they’re either all in or not really in at all. Platonically they’re not always around but keep in contact, romantically they’re always wanting to know what you’re up to. Of course this is just my experience, but if you stay around just tread cautiously and go with the flow, no expectations.


Oh dear,sorry to hear that. How did you knowhewas pursuing somebody else?

Actually I was active on the dating apo when he went missing coz he went back to his country for vacation. Then boom! I saw him on the app and he saw me as well and we matched😑😐 I asked him if he deleted me,and he said he didn't and he was just recently active again. That he deleted his old one so all the matches and conversations will be deleted. But I don't get the point of him matching me again coz we already communicate via whatsapp🙄😑

Yeah,I think they are a bit coward jn terms of emotions,either they're a coward or just have big egos. Mine has a big ego,he told me so.

And when I jokingly said I missed him and he can stop talking to me,I said this jokingly,He took it seriously😐 and said,He should better stop contacting me. But then after a week,he sent me a random txting,saying he was learning some expression from my country and asking me about it🙄 and then we met.

Sigh....yeah,going with the flow is the best with no expectations but I have to be fair to myself as I am looking for something consistent and not wishy washy...
After things ended, he told me he had dinner for his belated birthday with a female friend he never mentioned to me... Now I’m not insecure like that but found it odd. He was like “she was upset she wasn’t invited out for my birthday” but mind you, it was only with the boys one night and the other was with me. Why would a random friend be upset over that. Red flag?

Anyways, a week by and we bump into each other in public - the night he was with her for dinner!! He was standing behind her with his hands on her shoulders. We were never that touchy in public. His face dropped when he saw me and he said hello under his breath. Another red flag? So I put the pieces together and gathered he was already pursuing her because he was VERY distant a week prior to us ending things. He lowkey confirmed that he was into her via text after I saw him as well. Tried to water it down but I saw through it lol.

The app thing is so strange! But if he’s on, doesn’t that imply what his intentions are? Because you don’t just go back on for the sake of it right? To me, that’s already a sign he isn’t taking you seriously.

I hate it when they come back and act like nothing happened?! So inconsistent with their words and actions. Like are you in or out?

Honestly girl, you shouldn’t have to chase. No matter a persons sign, if they’re genuinely into you they’ll show it. Personally, I would run and never look back in this situation. The inconsistencies alone would be a dealbreaker for me. It’s up to you with what you think is best though. Just don’t want a fellow sister to get hurt 💞

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Oh dear,sorryto hear this happened to you. I hope you are okay now! 💗

A random friend upset coz she wasn't invited to the bday dinner sounds needy clingy to me and your Virgo maybe felt sad for her whining about it. But why did he even tell you that?? What is his purpose?

Oh shoot,sorry to hear you caught him red handed like that Sad sigh. But atleast yiu saw the truth right?! Most likely he is testing waters with other girls not just that one.

The app thing is really really weird! And he matched me again,like wtf is wrong with him and even messaged me on both the app and whatsapp at the exact time.

In the beginning when everything was going well, he thought I was still active in the app and he suddenly became all defensive🙄😶 and changed. And he just txts me whenever.

You may be right,he aint taking me seriously coz I am always available for him during the early stage..but I always took care of him like a baby. But after not hearing from him on and off,I slowly walked away to save my sanity,never confronted him but he kept coming back,idk why.

"I hate it when they come back and act like nothing happened?! So inconsistent with their words and actions. Like are you in or out? "-------omg!!!!!! This is exactly effin true 😫🙄 why are they like that? And expect us to react like that as well.

I didn't chase him,I just kinda waited and then slowly walked away for my sanity...but he randomly pops up whenever.

"The inconsistencies alone would be a dealbreaker for me. "------ this is true again. I like him but he is weirdly inconsistent..maybe I should really give up and just let him be even if he txts.

Thank you for your thoughts dear.💓💞

He seems like a typical Virgo. I don't know the whole story,but by reading the last two pages, it looks like he has a lot if Virgo planets. Does he?

It really depends on how much you are into him. When my Virgo did the similar stuff, sending random texts and disappearing, I was too mad and too crazy not to chase, so I always called him up on his behaviour. That, in a way, made us stay together, because otherwise, with his "insecurity" in relationships, he would never chase and I'd just give up. What he told me years later is that by disappearing he would test if I would be persistent, which for him, was a sign of my interest in him. Stupid and sad, I know, but that's how it is.

So, if you are into him and don't want to lose him for whatever reason, tell him his behaviour bothers you. They appreciate honesty and maybe he needs some proof of your interest to get himself moving in the right direction.

If it's not that, if he's a marker, then losing him is not a loss.
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He seems like a typical Virgo. I don't know the whole story,but by reading the last two pages, it looks like he has a lot if Virgo planets. Does he?

It really depends on how much you are into him. When my Virgo did the similar stuff, sending random texts and disappearing, I was too mad and too crazy not to chase, so I always called him up on his behaviour. That, in a way, made us stay together, because otherwise, with his "insecurity" in relationships, he would never chase and I'd just give up. What he told me years later is that by disappearing he would test if I would be persistent, which for him, was a sign of my interest in him. Stupid and sad, I know, but that's how it is.

So, if you are into him and don't want to lose him for whatever reason, tell him his behaviour bothers you. They appreciate honesty and maybe he needs some proof of your interest to get himself moving in the right direction.

If it's not that, if he's a marker, then losing him is not a loss.


Is he a typical Virgo? His birthday is August 23 and he just turned 30 this year. I don't have an idea on how to look into his charts.

Oh this happened to you as well?!?!! Is it really a Virgo thing? Random txts---meetups---disappear???

How did you call up on his behaviour?? Did you tell him face to face or via txt? Coz I soooo want to tell him but I don't have the courage to..and am scared it might drive him away..

He is insecure though,last time he always compares himself to his flatmate,he would always say he is smart but the flatmate is smarter and more handsome than him. He also have ugly teeth,so he always says he doesn't like his smile eventhough I like it.

"What he told me years later is that by disappearing he would test if I would be persistent, which for him, was a sign of my interest in him."----- seriously??? This is a girl thing,right?? I mean,when he disappeared and went back to France,he would randomly send me online chess requests,I just ignored it coz it's weird,can he just have a normal conversation? Or maybe this is his way to keep in touch? Idk coz when I txt him and ask when he wants to play chess,he would just say "I don't know" which I find rude. And when he txts during that time,it would be the never ending "hey how are you? What happened when I was away?" And when I reply,he will just disappear. It irritates me like its a waste of time eventhough I like him.

Ugh how do I tell it that his behaviour bothers me? I have difficulty in emotional confrontation that I am not sure what his response would be..either he is testing me,like what happened to your virgo or he is not into me..idk. I'm a coward at this,I would just slowly walk away and mirror what he is doing. I know he knows I like him,I am alsmost always available when he txts especially in the early stages,but now I just can't be bothered with this hot and cold shit.

I think he can feel it when I am losing interest coz he suddenly/randomly just asks me out,makes.up some random conversation and will always end up in a meetup. He usually uses "chess" or recently he said "I am learning an expression from your country,what does it mean when...." Then I would ask him to elaborate and he will just say,he will explain when we meet😑
You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.

What is your Sun, anyway?

Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.

I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.

First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.

We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.

Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.

Wish you all the best
Posted by FeelingGemini

You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.

What is your Sun, anyway?

Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.

I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.

First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.

We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.

Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.

Wish you all the best
I checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?

Me I am a leo. What tactics?

"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.

Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..

"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.

"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha

Thanks for the insights dear💞💓

Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....
Posted by Marjdc

Posted by FeelingGemini

You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.

What is your Sun, anyway?

Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.

I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.

First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.

We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.

Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.

Wish you all the best
I checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?

Me I am a leo. What tactics?

"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.

Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..

"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.

"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha

Thanks for the insights dear💞💓

Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....
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So, it seems he has a lot of earth in him, that's why he is passive. And he will always be like that, which, I must admit, bothers me to a point in my relationship, but I learnt to accept it and don't go mad over it. His mars is in Aries, which gives him a quality to fight for what he wants, maybe you didn't see his trait in him yet, but if you survive this long period of not knowing what he wants, you surely will.

But overall, with the earth planers and Venus in Cancer, he is passive and you will have to show the initiative in whatever you need or want from him.

I understand the inconsistency could make you forget him, but that's why I said depending how much you want him, how much you want to know him more, will determine the course of your relationship.

The tactics I explained; backing off to see how much you are interesting in moving forward. With his Venus in Cancer, it is evem more prominent; one step forward, two steps back, try to remember that.

Someone nicely said on here, Virgo men are all nice when they are not invested emotionally, they are open, you can talk to them about everything, etc, but once they realize their emotions are not under control (ie, they start to fall in love), they are a mess, and they behave erratically. In that period (which could be the ons you're in now) you'd need to be patient, don't take his inconsistencies as a sign of disinterest in you, and just try to assure him that he's the only one you like and want to be with.

At least, that's how I should have behaved, but I was too crazy so I called him on almost everything.

You don't want the mess that I had, so I give you the friendly advice on how to get to the safe place without losing too many nerves.

He likes you. Virgos wouldn't do anything they don't want to do or joke with you just for the sake of it. They value their time and choose who to be in contact with. Especially, him buying you a little present, remembering what you said, shows that he has you on hos mind. He would never do that, if he didn't like you, trust me.

I know you have a hard time now understanding him, I really do. I went through so much with mine, but they do have so much qualities that most people, not only men, but people in general, lack, that the hardship you go througn now, is worth goinh through. They are pure gems, you can rely on them for anything, they won't leave you in cold when the going gets tough. Of course, I'm talking about normal Virgos, not bastards, who you can find in any sign.

Wish you all the best



Posted by FeelingGemini

Posted by Marjdc

Posted by FeelingGemini

You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.

What is your Sun, anyway?

Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.

I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.

First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.

We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.

Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.

Wish you all the best
I checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?

Me I am a leo. What tactics?

"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.

Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..

"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.

"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha

Thanks for the insights dear💞💓

Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....
So, it seems he has a lot of earth in him, that's why he is passive. And he will always be like that, which, I must admit, bothers me to a point in my relationship, but I learnt to accept it and don't go mad over it. His mars is in Aries, which gives him a quality to fight for what he wants, maybe you didn't see his trait in him yet, but if you survive this long period of not knowing what he wants, you surely will.

But overall, with the earth planers and Venus in Cancer, he is passive and you will have to show the initiative in whatever you need or want from him.

I understand the inconsistency could make you forget him, but that's why I said depending how much you want him, how much you want to know him more, will determine the course of your relationship.

The tactics I explained; backing off to see how much you are interesting in moving forward. With his Venus in Cancer, it is evem more prominent; one step forward, two steps back, try to remember that.

Someone nicely said on here, Virgo men are all nice when they are not invested emotionally, they are open, you can talk to them about everything, etc, but once they realize their emotions are not under control (ie, they start to fall in love), they are a mess, and they behave erratically. In that period (which could be the ons you're in now) you'd need to be patient, don't take his inconsistencies as a sign of disinterest in you, and just try to assure him that he's the only one you like and want to be with.

At least, that's how I should have behaved, but I was too crazy so I called him on almost everything.

You don't want the mess that I had, so I give you the friendly advice on how to get to the safe place without losing too many nerves.

He likes you. Virgos wouldn't do anything they don't want to do or joke with you just for the sake of it. They value their time and choose who to be in contact with. Especially, him buying you a little present, remembering what you said, shows that he has you on hos mind. He would never do that, if he didn't like you, trust me.

I know you have a hard time now understanding him, I really do. I went through so much with mine, but they do have so much qualities that most people, not only men, but people in general, lack, that the hardship you go througn now, is worth goinh through. They are pure gems, you can rely on them for anything, they won't leave you in cold when the going gets tough. Of course, I'm talking about normal Virgos, not bastards, who you can find in any sign.

Wish you all the best



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Wow,how did you get over his passivity? Is having a lot of earth bad?

Yes, I haven't seen his Aries trait yet,it just feels he doesn't know what he wants right now and I am too scared to ask..it might pressure him or something...idk

"But overall, with the earth planers and Venus in Cancer, he is passive and you will have to show the initiative in whatever you need or want from him. "-----so I should ask him? But last time I txted him,he didn't really respond even though he is online in WhatsApp Sad

Yeah,his inconsitency is just annoying..I do like him but his inconsistency makes me feel the other way...

Sigh with the one step forward and two steps backward...I haven't heard from him for two weeks now....

"Someone nicely said on here, Virgo men are all nice when they are not invested emotionally, they are open, you can talk to them about everything, etc, and behave erratically when they are invested"---this is actually true,he was sooo open and relaxed during the first stage and now he is aloof..but how to assure him that I like him if he doesn't even respond to my txt Sad and remember he matched me again in the dating app a couple of months ago..so idk if he is testing me or what not..

But when you called out on your Virgo,the result was good right? Like you made the start of a long overdue conversation that nobody wants to start...I am patient now coz he is slowly being forgotten..I am just living my life,but I still think of him though...

"Especially, him buying you a little present, remembering what you said, shows that he has you on hos mind. He would never do that, if he didn't like you, trust me."---&actually this one I was really really surprised that he remembered it,but when he gave me his gift,he just acted normal,like not even excited...but yes,I was super happy with this.

"the hardship you go through now, is worth going through."---- this is soooo inspiring. I wish I can be as patient and understanding as you. Your Virgo is lucky to have you. I wish my Virgo would come out of his shell soon.

Thanks for your thoughts dear 💞💗
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Posted by Marjdc

Posted by FeelingGemini

You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.

What is your Sun, anyway?

Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.

I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.

First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.

We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.

Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.

Wish you all the best
I checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?

Me I am a leo. What tactics?

"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.

Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..

"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.

"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha

Thanks for the insights dear💞💓

Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....
So, it seems he has a lot of earth in him, that's why he is passive. And he will always be like that, which, I must admit, bothers me to a point in my relationship, but I learnt to accept it and don't go mad over it. His mars is in Aries, which gives him a quality to fight for what he wants, maybe you didn't see his trait in him yet, but if you survive this long period of not knowing what he wants, you surely will.

But overall, with the earth planers and Venus in Cancer, he is passive and you will have to show the initiative in whatever you need or want from him.

I understand the inconsistency could make you forget him, but that's why I said depending how much you want him, how much you want to know him more, will determine the course of your relationship.

The tactics I explained; backing off to see how much you are interesting in moving forward. With his Venus in Cancer, it is evem more prominent; one step forward, two steps back, try to remember that.

Someone nicely said on here, Virgo men are all nice when they are not invested emotionally, they are open, you can talk to them about everything, etc, but once they realize their emotions are not under control (ie, they start to fall in love), they are a mess, and they behave erratically. In that period (which could be the ons you're in now) you'd need to be patient, don't take his inconsistencies as a sign of disinterest in you, and just try to assure him that he's the only one you like and want to be with.

At least, that's how I should have behaved, but I was too crazy so I called him on almost everything.

You don't want the mess that I had, so I give you the friendly advice on how to get to the safe place without losing too many nerves.

He likes you. Virgos wouldn't do anything they don't want to do or joke with you just for the sake of it. They value their time and choose who to be in contact with. Especially, him buying you a little present, remembering what you said, shows that he has you on hos mind. He would never do that, if he didn't like you, trust me.

I know you have a hard time now understanding him, I really do. I went through so much with mine, but they do have so much qualities that most people, not only men, but people in general, lack, that the hardship you go througn now, is worth goinh through. They are pure gems, you can rely on them for anything, they won't leave you in cold when the going gets tough. Of course, I'm talking about normal Virgos, not bastards, who you can find in any sign.

Wish you all the best



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Quick update on my Virgo.


He suddenly txted me yesterday and asked how I was doing? He actually watched my WhatsApp story and we had a conversation because of that. He then updated me about his match for handball this coming weekend,him getting a wine cellar for their new flat,and he was all excited about it. I felt happy he suddenly updated me.

I then asked when he will cook again,and he said we can organize it. I said I wasn't feeling good and might have the fever and just told me to get some rest and that I should be in shape when we meet.

I also told him I would cook him my country's food next time. I even asked how his Piano skills are,he said it was still zero coz he is focusing on Guitar and Ukulele.

He then told me,I haven't shown him the movie that we talked about months ago. OMG!!!! Their memories are scary!!!! He can still remember that.. he didn't say the title but he said I will remember it hahaha he is funny in his own way..

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You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.

What is your Sun, anyway?

Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.

I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.

First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.

We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.

Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.

Wish you all the best
I checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?

Me I am a leo. What tactics?

"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.

Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..

"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.

"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha

Thanks for the insights dear💞💓

Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....
So, it seems he has a lot of earth in him, that's why he is passive. And he will always be like that, which, I must admit, bothers me to a point in my relationship, but I learnt to accept it and don't go mad over it. His mars is in Aries, which gives him a quality to fight for what he wants, maybe you didn't see his trait in him yet, but if you survive this long period of not knowing what he wants, you surely will.

But overall, with the earth planers and Venus in Cancer, he is passive and you will have to show the initiative in whatever you need or want from him.

I understand the inconsistency could make you forget him, but that's why I said depending how much you want him, how much you want to know him more, will determine the course of your relationship.

The tactics I explained; backing off to see how much you are interesting in moving forward. With his Venus in Cancer, it is evem more prominent; one step forward, two steps back, try to remember that.

Someone nicely said on here, Virgo men are all nice when they are not invested emotionally, they are open, you can talk to them about everything, etc, but once they realize their emotions are not under control (ie, they start to fall in love), they are a mess, and they behave erratically. In that period (which could be the ons you're in now) you'd need to be patient, don't take his inconsistencies as a sign of disinterest in you, and just try to assure him that he's the only one you like and want to be with.

At least, that's how I should have behaved, but I was too crazy so I called him on almost everything.

You don't want the mess that I had, so I give you the friendly advice on how to get to the safe place without losing too many nerves.

He likes you. Virgos wouldn't do anything they don't want to do or joke with you just for the sake of it. They value their time and choose who to be in contact with. Especially, him buying you a little present, remembering what you said, shows that he has you on hos mind. He would never do that, if he didn't like you, trust me.

I know you have a hard time now understanding him, I really do. I went through so much with mine, but they do have so much qualities that most people, not only men, but people in general, lack, that the hardship you go througn now, is worth goinh through. They are pure gems, you can rely on them for anything, they won't leave you in cold when the going gets tough. Of course, I'm talking about normal Virgos, not bastards, who you can find in any sign.

Wish you all the best





Quick update on my Virgo.


He suddenly txted me yesterday and asked how I was doing? He actually watched my WhatsApp story and we had a conversation because of that. He then updated me about his match for handball this coming weekend,him getting a wine cellar for their new flat,and he was all excited about it. I felt happy he suddenly updated me.

I then asked when he will cook again,and he said we can organize it. I said I wasn't feeling good and might have the fever and just told me to get some rest and that I should be in shape when we meet.

I also told him I would cook him my country's food next time. I even asked how his Piano skills are,he said it was still zero coz he is focusing on Guitar and Ukulele.

He then told me,I haven't shown him the movie that we talked about months ago. OMG!!!! Their memories are scary!!!! He can still remember that.. he didn't say the title but he said I will remember it hahaha he is funny in his own way..

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They are slow, but they come around eventually. He is interested in you, and you being interested in cooking, culture and art makes you perfect in his eyes. He didn't say it yet, but that's what he thinks.

They are obsessed with all things classy and artistic, and you being a piano teacher (if memory serves me well) is like you jumped in front of all the other women without doing anything.

Their passivity in emotional life (cause they are quite vibrant and energetic in other areas of life), is something I learnt to accept, without going crazy.

It just happened over time; once I got to know him deeply, his character and the way he functions, I just put it down to something that is part of him, and learnt to love it even.

It's hard to not get the response in some acceptable period of time, but that's how they are. They ponder over it, are happy or unhappy with what you wrote and continue on. It is very selfish in a way, that's where we had the most of our quarrels of, but in time I saw it was useless to fight over that. Mostly for the reason it rarely happens now, since we are together, but also because it doesn't mean a disrespect from their part, just a bit of selfishness and a bit of not wanting you to lose the flame for them (by being enigmatic).

They are complicated, but respectful, caring, loyal and very interesting. When I put everything on scales, the qualities where much, much stronger than his flaws, and none of us is perfect, so..

Thank you for the nice words, I appreciate them, and hope that the two of you will make it. You are a nice and honest person, which I'm sure, he appreciate and which made him like you.

All the best smile

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Posted by Marjdc

Posted by FeelingGemini

You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.

What is your Sun, anyway?

Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.

I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.

First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.

We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.

Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.

Wish you all the best
I checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?

Me I am a leo. What tactics?

"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.

Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..

"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.

"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha

Thanks for the insights dear💞💓

Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....
So, it seems he has a lot of earth in him, that's why he is passive. And he will always be like that, which, I must admit, bothers me to a point in my relationship, but I learnt to accept it and don't go mad over it. His mars is in Aries, which gives him a quality to fight for what he wants, maybe you didn't see his trait in him yet, but if you survive this long period of not knowing what he wants, you surely will.

But overall, with the earth planers and Venus in Cancer, he is passive and you will have to show the initiative in whatever you need or want from him.

I understand the inconsistency could make you forget him, but that's why I said depending how much you want him, how much you want to know him more, will determine the course of your relationship.

The tactics I explained; backing off to see how much you are interesting in moving forward. With his Venus in Cancer, it is evem more prominent; one step forward, two steps back, try to remember that.

Someone nicely said on here, Virgo men are all nice when they are not invested emotionally, they are open, you can talk to them about everything, etc, but once they realize their emotions are not under control (ie, they start to fall in love), they are a mess, and they behave erratically. In that period (which could be the ons you're in now) you'd need to be patient, don't take his inconsistencies as a sign of disinterest in you, and just try to assure him that he's the only one you like and want to be with.

At least, that's how I should have behaved, but I was too crazy so I called him on almost everything.

You don't want the mess that I had, so I give you the friendly advice on how to get to the safe place without losing too many nerves.

He likes you. Virgos wouldn't do anything they don't want to do or joke with you just for the sake of it. They value their time and choose who to be in contact with. Especially, him buying you a little present, remembering what you said, shows that he has you on hos mind. He would never do that, if he didn't like you, trust me.

I know you have a hard time now understanding him, I really do. I went through so much with mine, but they do have so much qualities that most people, not only men, but people in general, lack, that the hardship you go througn now, is worth goinh through. They are pure gems, you can rely on them for anything, they won't leave you in cold when the going gets tough. Of course, I'm talking about normal Virgos, not bastards, who you can find in any sign.

Wish you all the best





Quick update on my Virgo.


He suddenly txted me yesterday and asked how I was doing? He actually watched my WhatsApp story and we had a conversation because of that. He then updated me about his match for handball this coming weekend,him getting a wine cellar for their new flat,and he was all excited about it. I felt happy he suddenly updated me.

I then asked when he will cook again,and he said we can organize it. I said I wasn't feeling good and might have the fever and just told me to get some rest and that I should be in shape when we meet.

I also told him I would cook him my country's food next time. I even asked how his Piano skills are,he said it was still zero coz he is focusing on Guitar and Ukulele.

He then told me,I haven't shown him the movie that we talked about months ago. OMG!!!! Their memories are scary!!!! He can still remember that.. he didn't say the title but he said I will remember it hahaha he is funny in his own way..

They are slow, but they come around eventually. He is interested in you, and you being interested in cooking, culture and art makes you perfect in his eyes. He didn't say it yet, but that's what he thinks.

They are obsessed with all things classy and artistic, and you being a piano teacher (if memory serves me well) is like you jumped in front of all the other women without doing anything.

Their passivity in emotional life (cause they are quite vibrant and energetic in other areas of life), is something I learnt to accept, without going crazy.

It just happened over time; once I got to know him deeply, his character and the way he functions, I just put it down to something that is part of him, and learnt to love it even.

It's hard to not get the response in some acceptable period of time, but that's how they are. They ponder over it, are happy or unhappy with what you wrote and continue on. It is very selfish in a way, that's where we had the most of our quarrels of, but in time I saw it was useless to fight over that. Mostly for the reason it rarely happens now, since we are together, but also because it doesn't mean a disrespect from their part, just a bit of selfishness and a bit of not wanting you to lose the flame for them (by being enigmatic).

They are complicated, but respectful, caring, loyal and very interesting. When I put everything on scales, the qualities where much, much stronger than his flaws, and none of us is perfect, so..

Thank you for the nice words, I appreciate them, and hope that the two of you will make it. You are a nice and honest person, which I'm sure, he appreciate and which made him like you.

All the best smile

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Ugh!!!  I am going through a similar situation with a Virgo guy.  I know in my heart that he loves me,  I can see it in his eyes and through his actions.  I have struggled with the hot/ cold although our situation is so drastically different regarding our relationship compared to others.  Yes, it's been frustrating with the texting and distance but with the help of others and yourself I am getting a clear insight into their way of thinking.  I am learning that no texting isn't a priority to him, in fact he's not a fan of social media and is technologically impaired.  He will sometimes reply right away or hours later but he has never ignored me.   He always fills me in on what hes doing with his day/week.  We don't chat everyday...  I actually just text him unaware of his day and he replied right away.  We exchanged a few messages only for him to inform me he's at a celebration of life.  LOL...The one time I figure he would wait till later to message me. Yes, they are complicated and although we are going through a major hurdle in our relationship I am patient to wait as I Love him so!  Time and patience I think is key with Virgo
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Posted by FeelingGemini

You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.

What is your Sun, anyway?

Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.

I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.

First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.

We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.

Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.

Wish you all the best
I checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?

Me I am a leo. What tactics?

"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.

Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..

"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.

"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha

Thanks for the insights dear💞💓

Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....
So, it seems he has a lot of earth in him, that's why he is passive. And he will always be like that, which, I must admit, bothers me to a point in my relationship, but I learnt to accept it and don't go mad over it. His mars is in Aries, which gives him a quality to fight for what he wants, maybe you didn't see his trait in him yet, but if you survive this long period of not knowing what he wants, you surely will.

But overall, with the earth planers and Venus in Cancer, he is passive and you will have to show the initiative in whatever you need or want from him.

I understand the inconsistency could make you forget him, but that's why I said depending how much you want him, how much you want to know him more, will determine the course of your relationship.

The tactics I explained; backing off to see how much you are interesting in moving forward. With his Venus in Cancer, it is evem more prominent; one step forward, two steps back, try to remember that.

Someone nicely said on here, Virgo men are all nice when they are not invested emotionally, they are open, you can talk to them about everything, etc, but once they realize their emotions are not under control (ie, they start to fall in love), they are a mess, and they behave erratically. In that period (which could be the ons you're in now) you'd need to be patient, don't take his inconsistencies as a sign of disinterest in you, and just try to assure him that he's the only one you like and want to be with.

At least, that's how I should have behaved, but I was too crazy so I called him on almost everything.

You don't want the mess that I had, so I give you the friendly advice on how to get to the safe place without losing too many nerves.

He likes you. Virgos wouldn't do anything they don't want to do or joke with you just for the sake of it. They value their time and choose who to be in contact with. Especially, him buying you a little present, remembering what you said, shows that he has you on hos mind. He would never do that, if he didn't like you, trust me.

I know you have a hard time now understanding him, I really do. I went through so much with mine, but they do have so much qualities that most people, not only men, but people in general, lack, that the hardship you go througn now, is worth goinh through. They are pure gems, you can rely on them for anything, they won't leave you in cold when the going gets tough. Of course, I'm talking about normal Virgos, not bastards, who you can find in any sign.

Wish you all the best





Quick update on my Virgo.


He suddenly txted me yesterday and asked how I was doing? He actually watched my WhatsApp story and we had a conversation because of that. He then updated me about his match for handball this coming weekend,him getting a wine cellar for their new flat,and he was all excited about it. I felt happy he suddenly updated me.

I then asked when he will cook again,and he said we can organize it. I said I wasn't feeling good and might have the fever and just told me to get some rest and that I should be in shape when we meet.

I also told him I would cook him my country's food next time. I even asked how his Piano skills are,he said it was still zero coz he is focusing on Guitar and Ukulele.

He then told me,I haven't shown him the movie that we talked about months ago. OMG!!!! Their memories are scary!!!! He can still remember that.. he didn't say the title but he said I will remember it hahaha he is funny in his own way..

They are slow, but they come around eventually. He is interested in you, and you being interested in cooking, culture and art makes you perfect in his eyes. He didn't say it yet, but that's what he thinks.

They are obsessed with all things classy and artistic, and you being a piano teacher (if memory serves me well) is like you jumped in front of all the other women without doing anything.

Their passivity in emotional life (cause they are quite vibrant and energetic in other areas of life), is something I learnt to accept, without going crazy.

It just happened over time; once I got to know him deeply, his character and the way he functions, I just put it down to something that is part of him, and learnt to love it even.

It's hard to not get the response in some acceptable period of time, but that's how they are. They ponder over it, are happy or unhappy with what you wrote and continue on. It is very selfish in a way, that's where we had the most of our quarrels of, but in time I saw it was useless to fight over that. Mostly for the reason it rarely happens now, since we are together, but also because it doesn't mean a disrespect from their part, just a bit of selfishness and a bit of not wanting you to lose the flame for them (by being enigmatic).

They are complicated, but respectful, caring, loyal and very interesting. When I put everything on scales, the qualities where much, much stronger than his flaws, and none of us is perfect, so..

Thank you for the nice words, I appreciate them, and hope that the two of you will make it. You are a nice and honest person, which I'm sure, he appreciate and which made him like you.

All the best smile

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Thanks again for your reply. It really helps a lot for me to understand him smile

Ohhhh classy and artistic things. Got it! Yes,they are indeed slow haha but yesterday when I txted him "Goodluck with the finals!" He then suddenly sent me a link where I can watch it live! And later that day he sent me a photo of him holding the trophy hahaha I felt like a proud gf lol 😂 I found his gesture sweet smile I thinj he really is interested in me smile

Then around 4:30am he suddenly txted me that he forgot his key card so he can't go in his condo. I said I can't let him stay here coz I have other flatmates...then we just kept talking. He was eventually drunk, from the celebration they had for winning the tournament. I kinda felt good that he txted me in time of trouble altho I couldn't help. We then exchanged txts until help arrived on his side. Haha he is funny and very talkative when drunk,like a little kid.

Then today he sent me a short video of their tournament,funny coz I already watched it,and I was cooking when he sent me the video,so I sent him a video of the food I am cooking and told him I would cook this for him next time. He was excited smile

You are right,maybe I just need to accept his passivity in life since he handles everything pragmatically and this is his personality. I mean,he communicates whenever he can,so that is fine for me..

"They ponder over it, are happy or unhappy with what you wrote and continue on." "just a bit of selfishness and a bit of not wanting you to lose the flame for them (by being enigmatic)."------this really made sense..They overthink more than anyone else. But I wish he knows I do like him


"They are complicated, but respectful, caring, loyal and very interesting"----I love this!! You must really love and understand your Virgo guy inside and out to figure this all out.

Thanks for your sweet words. Just wondering when and how did your Virgo guy ask you two to be officially together? If you don't mind me asking haha
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Posted by Marjdc

Posted by FeelingGemini

You can check his planets (and yours, too) on astrodienst.com, they have all kinds of charts. All you need to do is enter the date and the time of birth.

What is your Sun, anyway?

Yes, they are very inconsistent, and they have tactics. Virgo is a feminine sign, that's why sometimes their behaviour in relationships resembles the one of a girl.

I'm shy, too, so I understand you. But my need to set the things right to know the truth was stronger, that's why I always kept myself around. When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos.

First stage of getting to know each other, they are fine, cause their emotions are under control. Once they start to feel something for you, they back off; they try to analyze what happened and at the same time wait for your reaction to the change of pace. Complicated creatures, but gems.

We had a ldr, so I coudn't tell him anything to his face for a couple of years, so the start was really bumpy. I think that's what you asked me, sorry if I forgot to answer on all the questions.

Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you. Show a bit of action, interest in his behaviour, they are very passive. His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him.

Wish you all the best
I checked the site,his sun is Virgo, Moon is Capricorn, Mercury is Virgo,Venus Cancer,Mars Aries, what should I look at here?

Me I am a leo. What tactics?

"When I'd back off, he'd come back, so it's the repetitive theme with Virgos."----- this is very true. It gets tiring. The change of pace just went weird..coz I got used to him all clingy and sweet. Then suddenly,nothing. They are very very complicated creatures.

Oh, must be tough having ldr with a Virgo..

"Bottom line is that he likes you, he's interested in you."----you think? Wish this is true. I am interested in him but if I txt him and no response, I lose interest,then the spark dies down..like he doesn't even care,being passive is sad.

"His random text are his way of making sure you don"t forget on him."------ ohhhh but his inconsistencies will make me want to forget him haha

Thanks for the insights dear💞💓

Slowly understanding how complex a Vurgo guy is....
So, it seems he has a lot of earth in him, that's why he is passive. And he will always be like that, which, I must admit, bothers me to a point in my relationship, but I learnt to accept it and don't go mad over it. His mars is in Aries, which gives him a quality to fight for what he wants, maybe you didn't see his trait in him yet, but if you survive this long period of not knowing what he wants, you surely will.

But overall, with the earth planers and Venus in Cancer, he is passive and you will have to show the initiative in whatever you need or want from him.

I understand the inconsistency could make you forget him, but that's why I said depending how much you want him, how much you want to know him more, will determine the course of your relationship.

The tactics I explained; backing off to see how much you are interesting in moving forward. With his Venus in Cancer, it is evem more prominent; one step forward, two steps back, try to remember that.

Someone nicely said on here, Virgo men are all nice when they are not invested emotionally, they are open, you can talk to them about everything, etc, but once they realize their emotions are not under control (ie, they start to fall in love), they are a mess, and they behave erratically. In that period (which could be the ons you're in now) you'd need to be patient, don't take his inconsistencies as a sign of disinterest in you, and just try to assure him that he's the only one you like and want to be with.

At least, that's how I should have behaved, but I was too crazy so I called him on almost everything.

You don't want the mess that I had, so I give you the friendly advice on how to get to the safe place without losing too many nerves.

He likes you. Virgos wouldn't do anything they don't want to do or joke with you just for the sake of it. They value their time and choose who to be in contact with. Especially, him buying you a little present, remembering what you said, shows that he has you on hos mind. He would never do that, if he didn't like you, trust me.

I know you have a hard time now understanding him, I really do. I went through so much with mine, but they do have so much qualities that most people, not only men, but people in general, lack, that the hardship you go througn now, is worth goinh through. They are pure gems, you can rely on them for anything, they won't leave you in cold when the going gets tough. Of course, I'm talking about normal Virgos, not bastards, who you can find in any sign.

Wish you all the best





Quick update on my Virgo.


He suddenly txted me yesterday and asked how I was doing? He actually watched my WhatsApp story and we had a conversation because of that. He then updated me about his match for handball this coming weekend,him getting a wine cellar for their new flat,and he was all excited about it. I felt happy he suddenly updated me.

I then asked when he will cook again,and he said we can organize it. I said I wasn't feeling good and might have the fever and just told me to get some rest and that I should be in shape when we meet.

I also told him I would cook him my country's food next time. I even asked how his Piano skills are,he said it was still zero coz he is focusing on Guitar and Ukulele.

He then told me,I haven't shown him the movie that we talked about months ago. OMG!!!! Their memories are scary!!!! He can still remember that.. he didn't say the title but he said I will remember it hahaha he is funny in his own way..

They are slow, but they come around eventually. He is interested in you, and you being interested in cooking, culture and art makes you perfect in his eyes. He didn't say it yet, but that's what he thinks.

They are obsessed with all things classy and artistic, and you being a piano teacher (if memory serves me well) is like you jumped in front of all the other women without doing anything.

Their passivity in emotional life (cause they are quite vibrant and energetic in other areas of life), is something I learnt to accept, without going crazy.

It just happened over time; once I got to know him deeply, his character and the way he functions, I just put it down to something that is part of him, and learnt to love it even.

It's hard to not get the response in some acceptable period of time, but that's how they are. They ponder over it, are happy or unhappy with what you wrote and continue on. It is very selfish in a way, that's where we had the most of our quarrels of, but in time I saw it was useless to fight over that. Mostly for the reason it rarely happens now, since we are together, but also because it doesn't mean a disrespect from their part, just a bit of selfishness and a bit of not wanting you to lose the flame for them (by being enigmatic).

They are complicated, but respectful, caring, loyal and very interesting. When I put everything on scales, the qualities where much, much stronger than his flaws, and none of us is perfect, so..

Thank you for the nice words, I appreciate them, and hope that the two of you will make it. You are a nice and honest person, which I'm sure, he appreciate and which made him like you.

All the best smile


Ugh!!!  I am going through a similar situation with a Virgo guy.  I know in my heart that he loves me,  I can see it in his eyes and through his actions.  I have struggled with the hot/ cold although our situation is so drastically different regarding our relationship compared to others.  Yes, it's been frustrating with the texting and distance but with the help of others and yourself I am getting a clear insight into their way of thinking.  I am learning that no texting isn't a priority to him, in fact he's not a fan of social media and is technologically impaired.  He will sometimes reply right away or hours later but he has never ignored me.   He always fills me in on what hes doing with his day/week.  We don't chat everyday...  I actually just text him unaware of his day and he replied right away.  We exchanged a few messages only for him to inform me he's at a celebration of life.  LOL...The one time I figure he would wait till later to message me. Yes, they are complicated and although we are going through a major hurdle in our relationship I am patient to wait as I Love him so!  Time and patience I think is key with Virgo
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Nicely written smile we are learning together on how they are as Virgos. And everyone in this forum is really helping alot especially @FeelingGemini 💗

Each Virgo still is unique in their own ways though. But yes with the txting and late responses haha atleast they update us of their whereabouts. smile Maybe it is something little for them but it means a lot to me/us.

How do you deal with your Virgo guy?
Yes, I have found being on here and chatting with others has been extremely insightful. 

Hmm...How do i deal with my Virgo??  From day one we have been very open and have able to talk to each other about everything.  Our relationship is similar to others on here but he/we are working through a different/ difficult hurdle that we didn't foresee but I have always said things happen for a reason and I believe this is teaching me how to control and keep my emotions in check. Not to let them get the best of me, lash out or jump to conclusions.  If something is bothering me I take a step back and think things through, pick my battles and go to him with calm manner.  Virgo men don't like emotional confrontation.  LOL... I am a sensitive, loving, patient Gemini and tend to spin and overthink. 🙈 Patience and knowing that not everything is about me.  Understanding that he is a work alcoholic.  He is working through a difficult, emotional situation of which I understand, respect and am giving him the space he needs to work through.  Someone once explained when it comes to the matter of the heart Virgo men are like the Prince who will go off and slay the dragon on his own.  They tend to put on the brave face with the dazzling smile and everyone but those that they are closest to are none the wise to the turmoil they are battling within.  Knowing all this and that he would never do anything to intentionally hurt me and that he loves.  But first and foremost Trust!!
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Yes, I have found being on here and chatting with others has been extremely insightful. 

Hmm...How do i deal with my Virgo??  From day one we have been very open and have able to talk to each other about everything.  Our relationship is similar to others on here but he/we are working through a different/ difficult hurdle that we didn't foresee but I have always said things happen for a reason and I believe this is teaching me how to control and keep my emotions in check. Not to let them get the best of me, lash out or jump to conclusions.  If something is bothering me I take a step back and think things through, pick my battles and go to him with calm manner.  Virgo men don't like emotional confrontation.  LOL... I am a sensitive, loving, patient Gemini and tend to spin and overthink. 🙈 Patience and knowing that not everything is about me.  Understanding that he is a work alcoholic.  He is working through a difficult, emotional situation of which I understand, respect and am giving him the space he needs to work through.  Someone once explained when it comes to the matter of the heart Virgo men are like the Prince who will go off and slay the dragon on his own.  They tend to put on the brave face with the dazzling smile and everyone but those that they are closest to are none the wise to the turmoil they are battling within.  Knowing all this and that he would never do anything to intentionally hurt me and that he loves.  But first and foremost Trust!!


Wow,I am lost for words. You're a wise and strong woman! VERY PATIENT!! smile

His hot/cold is testing me for months now and I'm at the end of the line. I can't be treated like this. If he is interested he should make an effort. I don't want any emotional confrontation as well.

Last night I went out with friends and we went to a place that is like a 5min walk from my Virgo's house. I txted him and he said he is too dead to move coz of his hangover but still insisted on me going to his place after me and my friends are done. I got pissed coz it's just a few minutes walk,why can't he do it?? and just expects me to walk over there. I replied saying I don't feel like spending the night at his place and he suddenly asked why,I just said--no reason,I just don't feel like it. I think he was surprised. Then suddenly this afternoon he sent me a gif he made of himself..idk how to react,I just txted LOL

HE IS WEIRD AND I KNOW I SHOULDN'T BE TREATED THIS WAY. If he likes/interested in me then just tell me.

I applaud you for your understanding and patience to your Virgo. I wish I can be like you.
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I like Virgo guys but I find them cold/detached, extremely logical regardless if they’re polite so that emotional bond I crave for comes to a halt after awhile. It only goes so far, it seems like my feelings aren’t reciprocated. I find water men understand; they are more down to earth, it flows easily I actually feel cared for. I notice with a Virgo if you run the emotional wave over them they shut down, gotta think about it constantly.

A Scorpio man is resilient, his words dig into my core and I know where he’s coming from. A cancer man brings comfort with sympathy and I can rest. A Pisces man lightens the mood, but still deeply cares for the pain you’re feeling.
I feel you with the detached/cold and the craving for an emotional bond. It's so annoying,right?! Sigh..its like mixed signals everywhere..
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Posted by Mariposa_

I like Virgo guys but I find them cold/detached, extremely logical regardless if they’re polite so that emotional bond I crave for comes to a halt after awhile. It only goes so far, it seems like my feelings aren’t reciprocated. I find water men understand; they are more down to earth, it flows easily I actually feel cared for. I notice with a Virgo if you run the emotional wave over them they shut down, gotta think about it constantly.

A Scorpio man is resilient, his words dig into my core and I know where he’s coming from. A cancer man brings comfort with sympathy and I can rest. A Pisces man lightens the mood, but still deeply cares for the pain you’re feeling.
I feel you with the detached/cold and the craving for an emotional bond. It's so annoying,right?! Sigh..its like mixed signals everywhere..
Too much hot/cold, feels like constant games and it brings the worse of me out.

Life goes on..
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Patience,like what everyone here says,is the key. If it is worth it then it really is.

I txted my Virgo guy this morning asking him out for dinner to celebrate their win! He said he is flying tomorrow for Australia for 6days and today he might have hand ball training. So I said,ok,just tell me whenever he can,and he immediately said he will tell me today asap haha he rarely does that. And I appreciate that small thing.

Maybe I just need to let him be and just live my life without imposing what I want him to be in my life..if it is meant to be and he is genuinely interested then he will make the move smile
And so we were supposed to have dinner last night to celebrate their winning the handball tournament over the weekend. He said he will update me coz they might have handball training and he will be flying to Australia the next day for 6days.

He txted me later that day and said that their handball training is not cancelled. I felt pissed,like hello,you guys just won the tournament and you are flying the next day,you can cancel handball training so we can have dinner.

Ofcourse I didn't say this,I just replied,"ok,enjoy!"

Obviously I am not his priority. I give up!
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