Why do Virgo women say they have problem....
This topic was created in the Virgo Women forum by FieryAries9108 on Tuesday, November 19, 2013 and has 33 replies.
..and then not talk about it? it kills me when you guys do this, This girl I care about in my college class tells me she is going through something difficult so I ask her if she wants to talk about/ if I can help her in anyway and she say no don't worry about it and that's really nice of you, but then she won't explain the problem... why ~ do you guys do this? Now I'm extra worried.... you shouldn't tell me you have a problem in the first place if your not going to explain what it is/let me help you with it, it just makes me extra concerned and frustrated, do you guys have any suggestions on how I can make her more comfortable with opening up about her problem, because I want nothing more than to help her resolve it if I can/ to see her happy and smiling.
Posted by MellyMel909
I do this if I either:
Haven't found the right words to express the problem/don't *quite* now what the problem is
Or
If I don't know if I trust the person enough to hear and *listen to* whatever it is I have to say.
I guess the second thing is understandable... Is there anyways I can make her feel more comfortable with opening up to me/ is there anything I can say specifically to be more comforting?
For attention. She wants you to pry it out of her or just keep being perpetually concerned about her.
Sometimes I do it - It's pretty silly.
Sometimes I do it - It's pretty silly.
Posted by MellyMel909
Not really. It's kind of a process.. I, for one, am quite skeptical of people I perceive as "trying to take a short-cut to knowing me."
I'm not trying to take any short-cuts though... I just want to help her because I like her that's all no ulterior motives.
Posted by virgodreamz
For attention. She wants you to pry it out of her or just keep being perpetually concerned about her.
Sometimes I do it - It's pretty silly.
How would I go about prying it out of her?
Because they want attention. In the past I was cool with virgo women. Lately though, I've been meeting so many who are fake and want to be the center of attention. They act like they care about you but don't and they act as if they are humble but don't really know the meaning of the word. Move! Your stories are so very boring yet you want everyone to listen! It's hard for me to stifle a yawn yanno.
Posted by MellyMel909
I do this if I either:
Haven't found the right words to express the problem/don't *quite* now what the problem is
Or
If I don't know if I trust the person enough to hear and *listen to* whatever it is I have to say.
^^ this...minus the typos
Or I just honestly don't need the help and im trying to figure it on my own.
Posted by sunnyvirgo83Posted by virgodreamz
For attention. She wants you to pry it out of her or just keep being perpetually concerned about her.
Sometimes I do it - It's pretty silly.
I agree. I a friend who is a Cancer and she is the same way. She'll be like oh I *insert problem here* and doesn't want help. She just cries and cries. I'm not perfect, I know I've complained about a lot of stuff. But my best advice to you is to just let her be. She'll come to you if she has a true problem. We do...We just want to try and figure it out first on our own, if we can't find an answer we'll find a most reliable and closest thing to an answer as we can....and find someone to help. I wonder if she's an Aqua?click to expand
she is a virgo sun, libra moon, and virgo venus
Posted by MellyMel909Posted by FieryAries9108Posted by MellyMel909
Not really. It's kind of a process.. I, for one, am quite skeptical of people I perceive as "trying to take a short-cut to knowing me."
I'm not trying to take any short-cuts though... I just want to help her because I like her that's all no ulterior motives.
Posted by FieryAries9108Posted by virgodreamz
For attention. She wants you to pry it out of her or just keep being perpetually concerned about her.
Sometimes I do it - It's pretty silly.
How would I go about prying it out of her?
Mmm hmm....click to expand
lol I;m serious all I want to do is help, I feel horrible that I can't help, I don't care if she liked more or less after I helped her.
Posted by FieryAries9108Posted by virgodreamz
For attention. She wants you to pry it out of her or just keep being perpetually concerned about her.
Sometimes I do it - It's pretty silly.
How would I go about prying it out of her?click to expand
I say don't, unless you want her to keep using this tactic on you. Just tell her that you are there for her if she needs you and if you want to be really nice I suppose every so often you can ask her how she's doing and if you can help her with anything. It's also not doing her any favours to teach her to push people away so they will pay her some attention.
Was this one of those scenarios were you're like "whats been up with you lately" and she like "im going thru something difficult" and left it at that? Or did she actually come up to you and was like "im going thru something difficult..ok later"
Im mean she did tell you she didnt want to talk about it or need help and it was nice of you to offer but she not obligated to tell you her life story. If she wants to tell you she will...in the mean time don't pressure her about it.
Im mean she did tell you she didnt want to talk about it or need help and it was nice of you to offer but she not obligated to tell you her life story. If she wants to tell you she will...in the mean time don't pressure her about it.
Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
Run!
probably a good idea.... I was over the Virgo's in my life recently and all of a sudden this is happening and another Virgo girl asked me to go to the city with her, I seem to attract all the Virgo women and it's horrible ..... we are pretty much yin and yang we will never be able to become one I realize.
Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
Run!
Phv ...im gonna show you run son!
Posted by virgodreamzPosted by FieryAries9108Posted by virgodreamz
For attention. She wants you to pry it out of her or just keep being perpetually concerned about her.
Sometimes I do it - It's pretty silly.
How would I go about prying it out of her?
I say don't, unless you want her to keep using this tactic on you. Just tell her that you are there for her if she needs you and if you want to be really nice I suppose every so often you can ask her how she's doing and if you can help her with anything. It's also not doing her any favours to teach her to push people away so they will pay her some attention.click to expand
Your most likely right =)
Posted by LostinmyMind11
Was this one of those scenarios were you're like "whats been up with you lately" and she like "im going thru something difficult" and left it at that? Or did she actually come up to you and was like "im going thru something difficult..ok later"
Im mean she did tell you she didnt want to talk about it or need help and it was nice of you to offer but she not obligated to tell you her life story. If she wants to tell you she will...in the mean time don't pressure her about it.
It was in conversation but she brought it up like she wanted me to notice/care... and I'm not trying to pressure her about anything all I want to do is help her because she seems like she needs it.
Looking back for myself...ive said things like this in passing but not necessarily looking for attention or anything for that matter...it was just brought up in the convo...."yeah ive been going thru some shit" " yeah me too" "sucks balls..doesnt it?" Etc...
Could be the same thing *shrugs*
Could be the same thing *shrugs*
You love us PHV...quit playin
And is that your pit in your avi? Even if its not or is...such a pretty dog!
And is that your pit in your avi? Even if its not or is...such a pretty dog!
Posted by LostinmyMind11
Looking back for myself...ive said things like this in passing but not necessarily looking for attention or anything for that matter...it was just brought up in the convo...."yeah ive been going thru some shit" " yeah me too" "sucks balls..doesnt it?" Etc...
Could be the same thing *shrugs*
she has a libra moon and leo mercury so she is most likely doing it for attention.
Posted by PotHeadVirgo24Posted by FieryAries9108Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
Run!
probably a good idea.... I was over the Virgo's in my life recently and all of a sudden this is happening and another Virgo girl asked me to go to the city with her, I seem to attract all the Virgo women and it's horrible ..... we are pretty much yin and yang we will never be able to become one I realize.
You could just speak some real shit in her ear about how you feel about it. She probably won't like it, but she'll probably go home and think about how smart you sounded. I mean what do you have to lose? I know that Libra Moon has her flying with the clouds, so she needs some ground zero in her life. Although it's not your place, fuck it. You're an Aries, so jump.
Or run away!click to expand
This is wonderful advice! thank you =) and he also has a leo mercury.
Posted by FieryAries9108Posted by LostinmyMind11
Looking back for myself...ive said things like this in passing but not necessarily looking for attention or anything for that matter...it was just brought up in the convo...."yeah ive been going thru some shit" " yeah me too" "sucks balls..doesnt it?" Etc...
Could be the same thing *shrugs*
she has a libra moon and leo mercury so she is most likely doing it for attention.click to expand
I have libra mer...leo moon, venus, mars lol so yeah that doesnt prove anything lol
Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
I surely do!
Pot calling the kettle
That's the color of my pit...but mine has more white on his face cause he's getting old
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
I surely do!
Pot calling the kettle
That's the color of my pit...but mine has more white on his face cause he's getting old
Wtf is this shit...holy worst quoting fail lolclick to expand
^^ I give up on that lol
Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
LOLOL. Yeahhh that was badd, lol.
Us men are just as fucked though, I agree.
See and people say we don't take criticism well! Pfffft.. showed them!! LOL
Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
Limm you have a pit? That's so attractive. What's his name? Eat em?
LOL @ eat em. Yeah ive had him since he was a pup...he's now 7. His name is Titian...purposely spelled different. He's a big fat fatty lol
Posted by PotHeadVirgo24Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
LOLOL. Yeahhh that was badd, lol.
Us men are just as fucked though, I agree.
See and people say we don't take criticism well! Pfffft.. showed them!! LOL
Lol. Right?!?!?! We're the criticism experts.click to expand
Exactly!!!
Posted by FieryAries9108Posted by PotHeadVirgo24Posted by FieryAries9108Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
Run!
probably a good idea.... I was over the Virgo's in my life recently and all of a sudden this is happening and another Virgo girl asked me to go to the city with her, I seem to attract all the Virgo women and it's horrible ..... we are pretty much yin and yang we will never be able to become one I realize.
You could just speak some real shit in her ear about how you feel about it. She probably won't like it, but she'll probably go home and think about how smart you sounded. I mean what do you have to lose? I know that Libra Moon has her flying with the clouds, so she needs some ground zero in her life. Although it's not your place, fuck it. You're an Aries, so jump.
Or run away!
This is wonderful advice! thank you =) and he also has a leo mercury.click to expand
she****
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by FieryAries9108Posted by LostinmyMind11
Looking back for myself...ive said things like this in passing but not necessarily looking for attention or anything for that matter...it was just brought up in the convo...."yeah ive been going thru some shit" " yeah me too" "sucks balls..doesnt it?" Etc...
Could be the same thing *shrugs*
she has a libra moon and leo mercury so she is most likely doing it for attention.
I have libra mer...leo moon, venus, mars lol so yeah that doesnt prove anything lolclick to expand
your right but from my experience a lot of leo women do things specifically just to get attention.
Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
LOL @ fatty. So its pronounced Titan? Or Teeshen?
I always wanted a fat lazy dawg. I need a pet like me, not some hyperactive power ranger who shits when he gets happy. The lazy one's are more inclined to listen to my rants and cuddle.
Its pronounced Titan. Mine is a big lap dog...only thing is ..he'll lay on you but he wont let you cuddle with him damn cancer/leo cuspers lol. But yeah he's lazy...but like to play too but not overly so. He's very weird...you would just have to see him to understand lol
Posted by FieryAries9108Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by FieryAries9108Posted by LostinmyMind11
Looking back for myself...ive said things like this in passing but not necessarily looking for attention or anything for that matter...it was just brought up in the convo...."yeah ive been going thru some shit" " yeah me too" "sucks balls..doesnt it?" Etc...
Could be the same thing *shrugs*
she has a libra moon and leo mercury so she is most likely doing it for attention.
I have libra mer...leo moon, venus, mars lol so yeah that doesnt prove anything lol
your right but from my experience a lot of leo women do things specifically just to get attention.click to expand
Yes some do...
Im not saying she isnt doing it for attention...I don't know her ..im just giving you a different virgo women pov. We all do things differently that's for sure.
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by FieryAries9108Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by FieryAries9108Posted by LostinmyMind11
Looking back for myself...ive said things like this in passing but not necessarily looking for attention or anything for that matter...it was just brought up in the convo...."yeah ive been going thru some shit" " yeah me too" "sucks balls..doesnt it?" Etc...
Could be the same thing *shrugs*
she has a libra moon and leo mercury so she is most likely doing it for attention.
I have libra mer...leo moon, venus, mars lol so yeah that doesnt prove anything lol
your right but from my experience a lot of leo women do things specifically just to get attention.
Yes some do...
Im not saying she isnt doing it for attention...I don't know her ..im just giving you a different virgo women pov. We all do things differently that's for sure.click to expand
I agree with you and definitely am not saying that you are all the same it's just she is somewhat of the type to do things for attention.
Also @Aries don't misunderstand me. I'm not saying she is pretending to have a problem. Like Limm I don't know her so I'm only reflecting off of my own experiences she might be like me she might not. I'm not a leo merc but I do have a libra moon - Attention whoring is not really my thing. As you can see from my post history I don't disclose much, connect much with people here and am pretty private overall on and offline.
I usually handle everything on my own but I definitely have at one time or another dropped a clue that something was wrong and enjoyed the attention in the past. I think it would have come from being insecure at that time in my life and wanting to know that someone really cared. Planetary placements or not we can all grow out of habits progress from our flaws.
@Limm I get what you mean about solving your own problems.
However from my view, the most serious problems I've ever had I've delt with in private and even my closest friends had no idea about it. I just thinks Aries' girl wants a little love because she told him something was wrong she surely would know he'd ask for more details.
I usually handle everything on my own but I definitely have at one time or another dropped a clue that something was wrong and enjoyed the attention in the past. I think it would have come from being insecure at that time in my life and wanting to know that someone really cared. Planetary placements or not we can all grow out of habits progress from our flaws.
@Limm I get what you mean about solving your own problems.
However from my view, the most serious problems I've ever had I've delt with in private and even my closest friends had no idea about it. I just thinks Aries' girl wants a little love because she told him something was wrong she surely would know he'd ask for more details.
Posted by virgodreamz
Also @Aries don't misunderstand me. I'm not saying she is pretending to have a problem. Like Limm I don't know her so I'm only reflecting off of my own experiences she might be like me she might not. I'm not a leo merc but I do have a libra moon - Attention whoring is not really my thing. As you can see from my post history I don't disclose much, connect much with people here and am pretty private overall on and offline.
I usually handle everything on my own but I definitely have at one time or another dropped a clue that something was wrong and enjoyed the attention in the past. I think it would have come from being insecure at that time in my life and wanting to know that someone really cared. Planetary placements or not we can all grow out of habits progress from our flaws.
@Limm I get what you mean about solving your own problems.
However from my view, the most serious problems I've ever had I've delt with in private and even my closest friends had no idea about it. I just thinks Aries' girl wants a little love because she told him something was wrong she surely would know he'd ask for more details.
You make a good point thank you =)
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