why oh why...

So, do ya all really like to hear yourself talk? Do you have to say the same thing over and over— What part of "I don't want to hear you talk anymore" is hard for someone to understand... his Merc is in Libra, why won't My Virgo just STFU when I tell him to—

I know exactly what you mean! It's almost as if it's a nervous condition, this verbal diarrhea as if they are just talking JUST to be talking! I can't stand it!

Mocha

OMG I love to talk. I don't know anything about a merc in libra. I'm pretty quiet and private with ppl I don't know well so the few ppl I'm close to probably suffer for it down to the last detail. Sux to be you guys!!

im a mercury in libra but i hate talking, ESPECIALLY on any phone.


my aries, man, i swear she just wants to hear her own voice sometimes.
i swear if i wasnt in a relationship, i wouldnt have a cell phone.

"my Aries"

"if I wasn't in a relationship"






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Before anyone goes any further with this topic,read this.Obviously lildoll thinks being slammed around is foreplay.The date on this thread is 7/6/2011.


https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/he-flipped-2664681/

There comes a point when a person has to go from being a victim to being the victor.Victor in the sense that they are done and have have mastered their own actions and,thoughts and feelings to change the course of their own life.And not trying to be victorious over another.Revenge is a life lived well,not trying to one up the person that hurt you.

If they have always outmanuvered you,what makes you think that they will be offguard at any point so you can exact your revenge.How many times has a person tried to get their last on a marker,only to go over the top and get into all types of legal trouble.

Whereas the other person has been in so much trouble,spent time in jail to catch up on the law and talk to other cons about what they did,so when they come out,they have a new bag of tricks to get you with.Why do you think that so many of the markers know how far to take their actions up to the edge of the law and not get in more trouble when dealing with someone who hasn't had that much experience or hasn't learned from their own past mistakes?

This why the gal that was cheated on and cuts up the bf clothes ends up paying for it,with her own money,time to make that money and now has a criminal record .She pays for it 4x over,court fees,probation fees,restitution and possible job loss now or has a record and won't get hired for her dream job.FAIL.

When to say enough.Sure everyone has their own threshold of pain,but when does the victim stop being the victim.We do not live in medieval times where being beat was just going to be a way of life until that person died that way.

There are so many resources out there that a person can get help.They don't even have to get help in their own city.What does it take to make the shift from that mindset of thinking that they can retrain their bf,that they aren't worthy enough to having pride in oneself.When does victimhood stop being an way of life for the short term attention/sympathy/pity that it brings to making adult decisions with ones' life.

^ Oh damn.

Listen, lildoll is a supervisor of some sort.She makes conscious decisions every day .She makes an effort to go to work,do her job obviously she makes a decison to be a professional.She made a decison to be in the equine industry.She makes an effort to take of her(eye exams).

So she makes a conscious decision to stay put and try to out power the Virgo.She then can make the next step and stop doing to the "stupid dance" with the Virgo.She comes back repeatedly trying to wring out advise abut how to contain/threaten/change/play him,when clearly he is still going to be his person.She isn't going to win,she'll be injured more.I bet she can't even touch her toes without pain.

And of course instead of doing any type of self examination,she will be back here trying to take it out on me/Virgo board because she is too scared/ashamed/stubborn to clean up her real life.

So I write this not for her but for other people that may be walking down the same path as her.I hope someone else is able to have a take away.Other than that,meh.

Posted by VulcanLass
Listen, lildoll is a supervisor of some sort.She makes conscious decisions every day .She makes an effort to go to work,do her job obviously she makes a decison to be a professional.She made a decison to be in the equine industry.She makes an effort to take of her(eye exams).

So she makes a conscious decision to stay put and try to out power the Virgo.She then can make the next step and stop doing to the "stupid dance" with the Virgo.She comes back repeatedly trying to wring out advise abut how to contain/threaten/change/play him,when clearly he is still going to be his person.She isn't going to win,she'll be injured more.I bet she can't even touch her toes without pain.

And of course instead of doing any type of self examination,she will be back here trying to take it out on me/Virgo board because she is too scared/ashamed/stubborn to clean up her real life.

So I write this not for her but for other people that may be walking down the same path as her.I hope someone else is able to have a take away.Other than that,meh.

Truth.com

Posted by 69virgo
I have mer in libra...I don't waste words,saying them over and over and over and over and over and over...oh damn ...I blanked out..lol..🙂 I don't talk much tho...I like a good debate tho...I will debate you til the cows come home..haha..

Same here. My Mercury in Libra just gives me an affinity for debating.

I hardly talk as is.

Its freaky how much you sound like my cappy lildol 😛 although my Merc is in Virgo, it is on the Libra cusp.

Notice how the Virgo men don't take it personally .. while the women not only take shit personally (where it isn't intended), they even use the word, "me", as in saying ..... "taking it out on me"



Virgo women are their own douchebags ... and should continue to flush themselves until they finally get it > subjectivity is a choice, not something a person inflicts upon them

Seems those trying to CONTROL their Virgo guys (which you can't do--I don't care what your sign, or element, don't waste your time. They're strong-willed, and may give off an air of being open to your control and mindgames, but they're made of tougher stuff than you can ever fathom) get upset at not being able to crack a whip and get them to jump through flaming hoops.

It's why those same people have such distaste for Virgo women--because we understand that, have no problem stating it (whether you want to hear it or not) and have that leg up on you. *shrug* Deal.

That's what leads you back here, that's what leads all the usual suspects back here to whine and complain about their Virgo interest--you're seeking control, and you'll never have it.

Do you like to be controlled? Do you like to be manipulated? Of course not. But you seek to do it to others, and expect them to just sit back and take it. Cute. And if they don't, the namecalling, and sign bashing starts. Sad.

You have a choice--either open your eyes and your mind to the truth, or keep them closed, and keep wandering back here scratching your heads for answers that are being provided time and time again.

The only time where I will not shut up is if something happened that is really eating at me and I can't find a solution on my own...other than that...I hardly talk

This thread explains why I used the words"me/Virgo forum".I had been addressed by OP,for those of you who haven't followed this.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/arrrggghhhh-2605617/ https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/arrrggghhhh-2605617/?p=3<BR>

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Life is a journey,controlling others is a detour from self examination.

^ Off topic, but I'm from Northern Virginia (and a psychology major), so I totally know where that is lol.

Seems those who refuse to change for anyone else seek to change others to suit them. Then they come here to bitch about the sign for refusing to do what they themselves cannot.

Interesting...

I don't understand why some of you seem to want to make this about me! *rolls eyes*

Everyone in the barn was tired of hearing him talk. It was about the horse and about how great he himself is - I think he has an inferiority complex as much as he talks about himself and his greatness. My help was mumbling he has no class and the other trainer (a Pisces) in the barn was making random comments to me as well. People just wanted to get their work done and not have to listen to him - he's ALWAYS talking. Sometimes people just want a little peace and quiet! I just happened to be the one to say "Can you just shut up for a change?" Nope, he had to keep going on and on about how he knows so much and is so much better than everyone else - which goes back to my original post!