Wishy Washy Waste of Time Virgo Male

Was dating a Virgo very seriously last year. Then he dumped me bc things were moving too fast. We were long distance then. I understood and took my time away from him. I moved a lot closer to him (from 8 hours to 8 minutes) and we linked back up. Everything was great he treated me like a queen but a few months ago he started giving me some problems... Like going MIA for long periods of time. Anyways he slept with someone else and got an std. Then clearly... I got it... Since we weren't official I sort of forgave it. And we moved forward but with more expectations and boundaries.

But the truth is Im not really happy being the "committed uncommitted". Mind you its been almost 2 years that we've been reacquainted. (we knew each other as kids) So, we're pretty tight. We made great friends and lovers.

But I told him I wasn't happy with him lately and Im not sure how to fix it. He felt like he could stand me up most of the time then buy me things to make up for it... He treated me great most of the time and I adored him. We had so much fun together. I always keep him upbeat and productive.

Anyway, he said he wants to have that spark and he doesn't feel that with me. But he doesnt want me to leave being in his life... Its been 2 weeks and we text daily but after a few back and forth he is MIA again. Thats not friend like to me. He clearly wants my attention but... Idk. Why be so half ass about it?

Im confused hurt and tired. (I know I must sound pretty pathetic, but I honestly believe we were heading somewhere. I just accepted him and was patient with him.)

I cant help but feel rejected and embarrassed. I want him to just disappear out of my life and I'd like to just forgive myself for allowing so much chaos in my life.

Tell me the truth Virgos... Am I wasting my time? Feels like it...I would honestly wait if I felt there was a future.

Thanks

You're wasting your time.

That reads like the intro to the memoirs of an absurd relationship. Back out while you can.

You forgave a man that gave you an STD? I'm sorry..that's inexcusable what if it was HIV?

How many women is he having unprotected sex with.. you obviously care more about this wishy washy Virgo than your own health and safety.

Posted by XoGXOG
Sorry but you are more wishy-washy than the Virgo.

You should be embarrassed and ashamed of your actions by having unprotected sex with a guy who is not even committed to you and who even cheated on you.

There are so many desperate women in this world. It's a sad sad state of affairs and when they come on to forums like this looking for validation and you give them a dose of the cold hard rotten truth, that's when all the hate mail starts. Smh.

Well, I dont appreciate everything you have to say. I am definetly not wishy washy. Although, I may be wrong for the unprotected sex I'm not wrong for trusting him. I WAS THE ONE DECIEVED. However, I Do appreciate the swift kick in the ass. If you've ever been in my shoes maybe you'd understand... Or not. It doesn't matter. Like I said what you said is mostly true.

I called him yesterday and asked him not to contact me anymore. So, I appreciate the WOW.

-Rio

Posted by Pisces1803
You forgave a man that gave you an STD? I'm sorry..that's inexcusable what if it was HIV?

How many women is he having unprotected sex with.. you obviously care more about this wishy washy Virgo than your own health and safety.

I thought it was only me. Mind you this is a guy who was with me almost on the daily. We knew each other's family and were damn near on each other's emergency contacts. As far as I knew we were on our way to being each other's everything. I let the fact that I didn't have a title fall by the wayside. And I am embarrassed. But I'm moving on. Thanks for the input.

Posted by NineAvenue

Posted by RioAbajo
Was dating a Virgo very seriously last year. Then he dumped me bc things were moving too fast. We were long distance then. I understood and took my time away from him. I moved a lot closer to him (from 8 hours to 8 minutes) and we linked back up. Everything was great he treated me like a queen but a few months ago he started giving me some problems... Like going MIA for long periods of time. Anyways he slept with someone else and got an std. Then clearly... I got it... Since we weren't official I sort of forgave it. And we moved forward but with more expectations and boundaries.

But the truth is Im not really happy being the "committed uncommitted". Mind you its been almost 2 years that we've been reacquainted. (we knew each other as kids) So, we're pretty tight. We made great friends and lovers.

But I told him I wasn't happy with him lately and Im not sure how to fix it. He felt like he could stand me up most of the time then buy me things to make up for it... He treated me great most of the time and I adored him. We had so much fun together. I always keep him upbeat and productive.

Anyway, he said he wants to have that spark and he doesn't feel that with me. But he doesnt want me to leave being in his life... Its been 2 weeks and we text daily but after a few back and forth he is MIA again. Thats not friend like to me. He clearly wants my attention but... Idk. Why be so half ass about it?

Im confused hurt and tired. (I know I must sound pretty pathetic, but I honestly believe we were heading somewhere. I just accepted him and was patient with him.)

I cant help but feel rejected and embarrassed. I want him to just disappear out of my life and I'd like to just forgive myself for allowing so much chaos in my life.

Tell me the truth Virgos... Am I wasting my time? Feels like it...I would honestly wait if I felt there was a future.

Thanks

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You are wise and precise. Thanks.

I don't think he's being wishy washy. His message seemed pretty clear to me. You've invested too much into this and now you just don't want to accept that this relationship you have with him is bad so you came here looking for a reason to believe it's good.