Would you...marry you?

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by VirgoVixxxen on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 and has 119 replies.
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Think about it.
We all know what we want in a partner, right? Someone who's funny, smart, good looking, has a job, kind, compassionate, respectful, good with finances, loves kids, doesn't leave crumbs in the bed or chew their fingernails incessantly, blah, blah, blah, and all that other good stuff on the "list".
So...did you ever stop to think about the qualities YOU possess and if they add up to you being someone worth marrying? (wtf is the "marrying kind" anyway?)
If you could step outside of yourself for a moment, and evaluate the person you are through and through, WOULD YOU MARRY YOU? At least at this point in your life?
Are you emotionally, psychologically and spiritually at a place where you could make a "good" husband or wife to someone?
Could you hang in there for the long haul and make the many sacrifices that come along with marriage?
What about infidelity? Can you be faithful?
What about all of the other VERY important practical shit like career, finances, housing, etc.?
Do you think that there are some who are "better built" for marriage than others?
If you're not married yet and wished to be a long time ago, why do you think it is that you're not?
Be honest!!!
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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Think about it.
We all know what we want in a partner, right? Someone who's funny, smart, good looking, has a job, kind, compassionate, respectful, good with finances, loves kids, doesn't leave crumbs in the bed or chew their fingernails incessantly, blah, blah, blah, and all that other good stuff on the "list".
So...did you ever stop to think about the qualities YOU possess and if they add up to you being someone worth marrying? (wtf is the "marrying kind" anyway?)
********I would like to think so. i have an inner strength, a sense of purpose, natural sense of humor, integrity and deep compassion for people; especially for those I love. Whether or not that makes me marriage worthy, I guess my husband would have to be the judge.
If you could step outside of yourself for a moment, and evaluate the person you are through and through, WOULD YOU MARRY YOU? At least at this point in your life?
********at this time, probably not. because of the personal stress and financial pressures I'm going through right now that undermine my ability to be the best and most productive person I can be at this time in my life.
Are you emotionally, psychologically and spiritually at a place where you could make a "good" husband or wife to someone?
********If you are saying that to be a good wife or husband, one has to be at a perfect place in all three categories, well then no, I don't qualify as a good wife right now. If you take into account the ebb and flow of life, and that interacting with others is an emotional , ongoing process, and you can be on top of your game certain days while others not so much, then yes, I would say I'm a good wife. I try very hard to make my husband's life easier and better. But I could always do more. If I were in my 20's or 30's and had more energy, I certainly would. with two boys age 10, and working FT, it's difficult enough just to make it through the day without burning out my entire energy reserve.
Could you hang in there for the long haul and make the many sacrifices that come along with marriage?
**********absolutely! just celebrated our 13th anniversary and will look forward to many more. when we took our vows and it said, "til death do us part", I accepted that as a life long bond. the ONLY exception to that would be if my husband were abusive to me or my children. Certainly infidelity would be a major chink
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I'll try to answer this the best way I can, but it's a little hard for me too because I haven't even really considered marriage as a large possibility for myself; which probably would answer the question as No. Why marry someone who doesn't want to get married now or in the future? I guess at my age and where I am, it's a little difficult to answer, but I've never really considered my wedding day, what'd I do, what kind of wife I'd be, ect.
Now, that is not to say that I don't think I am marriage material. When I'm with someone, I like to work as a team, and I think that's a huge part of a married life (or something similar) with someone. I like to be open to discussion, whether good or bad. I'm supportive and I enjoy taking care of my S/O (as long as he can take care of me, too). The main thing I need to work on is being able to confront problems without wanting to back out; and that's more of a personal issue, but I would like to think once I am finally able to grasp that, I'd be great.
Monogamy is a very tough thing to discuss. IMO, no one should ever be forced into marriage if he/she doesn't think it's for them; and not just marriage, a monogamous relationship. I think society stresses it so much that we are built to think that that's it; there is only one choice and one way to go. As time go ones, traditional values are beginning to really fall apart or at least become redefined; and I think the more we try to stress these values, the more likely it is that marriage falls apart. I do think that some people are more capable of marriage than others, but it's not so much the marriage itself, it's every little thing that marriage opens you up to.
So for me, am I built for marriage? I'm not sure. Am I built for a long, monogamous relationship? Yeah.
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@Gemini64
Congrats.
13 solid years of marriage nowadays is like an eternity. LOL.
Infidelity is an absolute deal breaker for me.
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@Candeh
Thanks.
Interesting that you say you've never really considered the possibility of marriage for yourself because this is me as well. Even as a young girl I never had a strong desire to think or fantasize about my wedding day the way that many (or even most) young women do. Never had a strong desire to be a mother either. It's pretty much always been an "if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, it doesn't" kinda thing.
For many, backing out is alot easier than tackling the problem(s) head on. There are many different reasons as to why some would rather let things fester or move past them instead of dealing with them directly, which is precisely why so many marriages are stuck in "ruts".
As for monogamy, I've known quite a few women who, like me, said that if their husbands cheated they would leave and never look back, and when the infidelity did occur, they stayed. Funny how there are so many things we think we can't live with or say we wouldn't put up with but then do. And many didn't stay simply because they were these downtrodden wives with low-self esteem or no confidence, but because they truly loved their husbands, wanted to make their marriages work, and were able to actually forgive and move beyond it.
Redefining is right. Someone told me recently that despite what society says or has set forth, couples should make their own rules.
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@Candeh
Thanks.
Interesting that you say you've never really considered the possibility of marriage for yourself because this is me as well. Even as a young girl I never had a strong desire to think or fantasize about my wedding day the way that many (or even most) young women do. Never had a strong desire to be a mother either. It's pretty much always been an "if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, it doesn't" kinda thing.
For many, backing out is alot easier than tackling the problem(s) head on. There are many different reasons as to why some would rather let things fester or move past them instead of dealing with them directly, which is precisely why so many marriages are stuck in "ruts".
As for monogamy, I've known quite a few women who, like me, said that if their husbands cheated they would leave and never look back, and when the infidelity did occur, they stayed. Funny how there are so many things we think we can't live with or say we wouldn't put up with but then do. And many didn't stay simply because they were these downtrodden wives with low-self esteem or no confidence, but because they truly loved their husbands, wanted to make their marriages work, and were able to actually forgive and move beyond it.
Redefining is right. Someone told me recently that despite what society says or has set forth, couples should make their own rules.


I mean, I think a lot of my ideals of marriage developed from my mother. She's an aquarius, has never been married a day in her life, and while I think she wouldn't mind getting married, she doesn't necessarily care. If anything, I think the only kick she'd get out of it is the financial benefits and that's about it.
Marriage, or the idea of marriage, is really complicated to me. There is a lot going on that I just don't really care about. I don't want an extravagant wedding. Do I think I could get married one day... sure. I mean, I imagine if I got married, I'd only get married once whether it worked out or not. I like the idea of a domestic partnership better.
As for the cheating; I often think about what I would do if my S/O cheated on me, and I realize I find it hard to think that I could immediately leave. And you know, I'm perfectly aware that I can get another guy in a heartbeat if I wanted to. But it's hard to leave something behind when you invested a lot of time into it
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But it's hard to leave something behind when you invested a lot of time into it. I imagine that, unless it was so incredibly earth shattering that I couldn't function, if cheating did happen, I would be one of those girls who would try to work it out. I mean, not after a break or something, or some serious evaluation and biting his head off.
I find that if you allow you and your S/O to define your own relationship, there is less of a chance of infidelity.
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No, I wouldn't marry me. At least not right now.
I'm a bit too selfish, and I've carved out a nice little life for myself so I honestly don't know if I'll ever have a desire to merge my life with someone else's. Now or anytime in the future (although someone did tell me once that when the "right guy" comes along, I'm gonna sell all my stuff within a blink of an eye and start right on over from scracth, lol).
Not to say that you can't still have your alone time even when married, but, I really, really, really don't think I can adjust to coming home with someone else or other people in the house (even with the "right guy"). Seriously. It's quite hard for me. It's almost as if I alternate between attraction and repulsion and as much as I want you there is as much as I want you gone.
I also am not very comfortable with the idea of being vulnerable/opening up emotionally which I know is something that is very much needed in a marriage.
If I can get a handle on these things, I can be better material for marriage but, at the moment they are my biggest obstacles.

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Posted by virg_goki
my virgal friend told me to just marry myself LOL!


LOL!
But seriously, we are the "bachelors" and "bachelorettes" of the zodiac so even if the desire to get married is there and it doesn't happen, I think we can live with it alot easier than the other signs. *shrugs*
Oh, and we want invites to your wedding, please. Tongue
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"Interesting that you say you've never really considered the possibility of marriage for yourself because this is me as well. Even as a young girl I never had a strong desire to think or fantasize about my wedding day the way that many (or even most) young women do. Never had a strong desire to be a mother either. It's pretty much always been an "if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, it doesn't" kinda thing."

^^^this is me too! I've done the whole living with someone and it doesn't bother me...you do get used to it.
I don't think I could marry myself....I mean I'm so back in forth...I'd feel bad for the other person lol
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@Candeh
Your mom's an Aqua you say?
Ya know, I've always wanted to look up the marriage/divorce rate for the Water Bearers. I could see them coming in at a close second to us in zodiac signs with the highest number of "never been married" category. Maybe it's partly due to the aloof nature we both share. Sometimes it seems they're even more aloof than us. Who knows...maybe they're too busy saving the world to think about marrying some damn body (Oprah anyone?).
Co-sign. I don't have anything against big weddings - at all. Just not my thing though. Something small and intimate will suit me just fine, thank you. Personally, I think too many people focus more on the wedding (usually the bride) and very little on the actual care and attention that should go into the marriage.
I've heard so many say that getting past the wedding was the hardest part. WTF? Surely working out the mortgage when you fall on hard times and trying to constantly figure out ways to keep the passion alive can give any bride with a headache over what type of filling to put in the cake a run for her money any day!
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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Think about it.
We all know what we want in a partner, right? Someone who's funny, smart, good looking, has a job, kind, compassionate, respectful, good with finances, loves kids, doesn't leave crumbs in the bed or chew their fingernails incessantly, blah, blah, blah, and all that other good stuff on the "list".
So...did you ever stop to think about the qualities YOU possess and if they add up to you being someone worth marrying? (wtf is the "marrying kind" anyway?)
If you could step outside of yourself for a moment, and evaluate the person you are through and through, WOULD YOU MARRY YOU? At least at this point in your life?
Are you emotionally, psychologically and spiritually at a place where you could make a "good" husband or wife to someone?
Could you hang in there for the long haul and make the many sacrifices that come along with marriage?
What about infidelity? Can you be faithful?
What about all of the other VERY important practical shit like career, finances, housing, etc.?
Do you think that there are some who are "better built" for marriage than others?
If you're not married yet and wished to be a long time ago, why do you think it is that you're not?
Be honest!!!


Hey VV! Would I marry me? Absolutely! But not now that is. I have never been the type to dream about my wedding, knowing exactly what kind of china I'm going to use to eat my filet mignon off of(seriously?) Nor do I care about a HUGE wedding either. I'd prefer a huge marriage...one day.
I'm the type of person whereas interacting with the same person everyday would be a challenge for me. I tend to grow weary of routine & consistency so I'm a little concerned with marriage. Even if I'm in love with the person, I just have that thing with space. I need it. Often. Just can't have someone on me all the time because it gets annoying. I also need to work on some personal things myself before I can have a solidified marriage and someone probably couldn't marry me right now either so when the time is RIGHT, I'll settle down with that person I am meant to be with! Winking
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Posted by Candeh15
But it's hard to leave something behind when you invested a lot of time into it. I imagine that, unless it was so incredibly earth shattering that I couldn't function, if cheating did happen, I would be one of those girls who would try to work it out. I mean, not after a break or something, or some serious evaluation and biting his head off.
I find that if you allow you and your S/O to define your own relationship, there is less of a chance of infidelity.


Yeah. I know a lady who invested 36 years in her marriage and found out not too long ago that her husband had been unfaithful. She said she is going to stay. I asked "why?"
Her response: "I'm not gonna throw away my 36 year marriage and all the time I invested over one hoe". OOOOKIE DOKE!
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Posted by LostinmyMind11
"Interesting that you say you've never really considered the possibility of marriage for yourself because this is me as well. Even as a young girl I never had a strong desire to think or fantasize about my wedding day the way that many (or even most) young women do. Never had a strong desire to be a mother either. It's pretty much always been an "if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, it doesn't" kinda thing."

^^^this is me too! I've done the whole living with someone and it doesn't bother me...you do get used to it.
I don't think I could marry myself....I mean I'm so back in forth...I'd feel bad for the other person lol


Awww...you're too hard on yourself! Some of us just need more time to grow, but I understand.
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@RT
Hey Girl! smile
Hope you're doing well. How's it going?
You and I are >here
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Posted by PurrrrHissss
Absolutely not. I feel bad for people who have to deal with me.


Hissy, I'm gonna whoop you!
Why do you say this???
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the whole marriage word just repulse me just being real.
i would never honest answer.
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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
@RT
Hey Girl! smile
Hope you're doing well. How's it going?
You and I are >here
I'm doing ok. Hope err'thing is peachy with you! smile But yeah, I feel you though. I think space is necessary & healthy in any relationship. I don't see how people can be underneath each other all day everyday...sheeeesh! It's like, can I go to the freaken' bathroom? I know a woman like that (pisces) has to be with her man everyday, all day...I mean besides work, she's with him constantly. I'm like kudos to you!!! I couldn't be that needy & dependent. To each is own I guess but damn...have a life & interests of your own, as well as alone time or you'll burn out.
Not to generalize, but I see that some of the responses on here from Virgo women has been similar. Could it be that most Virgo women feel this way? Hahahaha...interesting.

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^^^that posted wrong Tongue
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This will be one of my wedding songs Tongue
But really, this is like the best song EVER!!!!
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Posted by virg_goki
So true, you virgals can get rather selfish at times and need someone who's not a pushover to live with u Tongue
@VV: true. Marriage was never in my mind. I always believed that as far as spending my life with someone, I'd go as far as co-habiting and nothing under the legal system. My family thought I was mad since I'm an Asian and we are rather traditional and conventional.



Lol, I wouldn't say I'm that selfish. I mean, I really need my space sometimes; I'm perfectly capable of being on my own. However, with a significant other, I LOVE to be with him. Luckily, with the taurus I'm with now, he could be attached at my hip for like 3 days and vice versa, and then we'll just chill out and do our own thing for like a week or so. But after that, I get really antsy and I just want to be with him again. True, I don't want a pushover, but I don't want someone who's going to call every shot either. Like I said, I like to work as a team, as equals. But, I think he still knows when I'm feeling vulnerable.
As for what you said about marriage, that's how I feel feel. I'm perfectly fine with co-habitation. I don't want a lot of pressure to marry. I want to marry when I'm ready, whenever that'll be. And I don't want to jump into marriage if we have kids, too. I also think that's a mistake a lot of people do. Marry when you want, not because it seems like you should.
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Provocative.Would I ? Nah,I could do a live in.
I would have to grow into wife mode.Trust me there is "a wife mode".
Yes,I could be faithful.Emotionally as well.
Yes,I believe some people are better built for being married-I think some people NEED to be.
Really it's like being in a boat with each person having an oar and you both have to row 90% of the time.
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Posted by PurrrrHissss
Absolutely not. I feel bad for people who have to deal with me.


Hissy, I'm gonna whoop you!
Why do you say this???


I'm a huge pain in the ass, seriously. I'm not trying to be modest or self-deprecating as a joke.
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I told that to this guy once. I said - "look, I'm telling you now, I'm a pain in the ass". LOL!
Do you think it's because of your moods?
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Posted by virg_goki
So true, you virgals can get rather selfish at times and need someone who's not a pushover to live with u Tongue
@VV: true. Marriage was never in my mind. I always believed that as far as spending my life with someone, I'd go as far as co-habiting and nothing under the legal system. My family thought I was mad since I'm an Asian and we are rather traditional and conventional.



I hear ya. We Virgals usually have alot of things to do..."Ya dig?"
There's always school, some type of travel, being class president, student treasurer or some random project like feeding the world, cleaning (lol), there's ALWAYS something to be done! Somebody's business to meddle in...I'm mean, somebody's problem to fix Tongue...*sigh*..and the good lord knows that we don't let anyone deter us. Not even a husband and chilluns. Jesus, the thought of being a 24/7 homemaker gives me hives! Don't get me wrong, stay at home moms and homemakers get my utmost respect but, it's just not for me.
Yes, many Asians are very traditional when it comes to marriage. Well goki, you're still quite young so maybe your views might change in a few years. You never know. Do you want children? Is your family putting the "squeeze" on you?
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never



Alrighty then. smile
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Posted by LeGendary ViRGo

the whole marriage word just repulse me just being real.
i would never honest answer.



Welcome back, you. Hope you had a pleasant Summer. smile
Kinda repulses me too sometimes. Maybe like some of the others, co-habitation is a better option.
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@RealTalk
lol, Err'thing's just peachy on this end...hahaha...you are too cute!
Space is sooooo necessary for me, and I knew a couple like that too. Who went to the John with eachother and all that other stuff. I see his and her bathrooms in my future. smile
It is interesting right? Well, we are all Virgos with a basic make-up so I guess astrology isn't just a crock of shit afterall. I kinda knew many of us would have the same views on marriage.
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This will be one of my wedding songs Tongue
But really, this is like the best song EVER!!!!



Oooooh I love this song! Shit, I love the whole damn album! Bey has really grown as an artist, and she's so beautiful (we need to dedicate a thread to this awesome Virgal), and I know she's gonna make a wonderful mom.
Is this the official vid?
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Posted by Candeh15
Posted by virg_goki
So true, you virgals can get rather selfish at times and need someone who's not a pushover to live with u Tongue
@VV: true. Marriage was never in my mind. I always believed that as far as spending my life with someone, I'd go as far as co-habiting and nothing under the legal system. My family thought I was mad since I'm an Asian and we are rather traditional and conventional.



Lol, I wouldn't say I'm that selfish. I mean, I really need my space sometimes; I'm perfectly capable of being on my own. However, with a significant other, I LOVE to be with him. Luckily, with the taurus I'm with now, he could be attached at my hip for like 3 days and vice versa, and then we'll just chill out and do our own thing for like a week or so. But after that, I get really antsy and I just want to be with him again. True, I don't want a pushover, but I don't want someone who's going to call every shot either. Like I said, I like to work as a team, as equals. But, I think he still knows when I'm feeling vulnerable.
As for what you said about marriage, that's how I feel feel. I'm perfectly fine with co-habitation. I don't want a lot of pressure to marry. I want to marry when I'm ready, whenever that'll be. And I don't want to jump into marriage if we have kids, too. I also think that's a mistake a lot of people do. Marry when you want, not because it seems like you should.
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I feel you on the equality thing. I don't mind submitting, but he ain't call'n all the shots!
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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
@Gemini64
Congrats.
13 solid years of marriage nowadays is like an eternity. LOL.
Infidelity is an absolute deal breaker for me.


thanks for the congrats on our marriage. it's work but worth it.
i had put in my OP that infidelity was a deal breaker, but I trust my husband completely, as he does with me. i know, everyone says this. but for us, it's a done deal. i think because we didn't marry until we were 32, and the fact that we both have the same core values; we are that committed. which could mean many things actually. LOL
btw VV, can I PM you with a quick question? you had some time ago suggested i take certain steps regarding the topic we had been discussing. the opportunity came up and i did.
it's the aftermath that i have a question for you about. i know you're busy, so am i. just interviewed for a new job this am and think i landed it. so things are going to get crazy around here even more.
i hope your state exam went well. i hate tests, period.
please let me know if i can drop you a PM with my question. it will be concise i promise.
thanks
gem 64
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Posted by VulcanLass
Provocative.Would I ? Nah,I could do a live in.
I would have to grow into wife mode.Trust me there is "a wife mode".
Yes,I could be faithful.Emotionally as well.
Yes,I believe some people are better built for being married-I think some people NEED to be.
Really it's like being in a boat with each person having an oar and you both have to row 90% of the time.



VL!
Grow into it? You seem very well built for it already. I think you'd be a wonderful wife.
Need to be? Can you elaborate?
I do find that some people become better versions of themselves once they're married. What the other person is offering/ bringing to the table rounds them out, balances them, and helps them become a better individual. Is that what you mean? Something like that?
Marriage is not for the faint of heart, that's for sure but, there are some marriages that run smoother than others. I'm willing to put in work, or row that oar as you say but I guess we'll see if it's in the cards.
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@goki
Sorry! I see that you had already answered the question when you replied to Candeh.
I must admit however that I'm a bit saddened that you say you'll stomp your foot down. Sad
If the right woman came along and you guys had a family, and she wanted to marry you, would you not at least try to abandon your cynicism about marriage and take a chance?
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@Gemini64
Congrats.
13 solid years of marriage nowadays is like an eternity. LOL.
Infidelity is an absolute deal breaker for me.


thanks for the congrats on our marriage. it's work but worth it.
i had put in my OP that infidelity was a deal breaker, but I trust my husband completely, as he does with me. i know, everyone says this. but for us, it's a done deal. i think because we didn't marry until we were 32, and the fact that we both have the same core values; we are that committed. which could mean many things actually. LOL
btw VV, can I PM you with a quick question? you had some time ago suggested i take certain steps regarding the topic we had been discussing. the opportunity came up and i did.
it's the aftermath that i have a question for you about. i know you're busy, so am i. just interviewed for a new job this am and think i landed it. so things are going to get crazy around here even more.
i hope your state exam went well. i hate tests, period.
please let me know if i can drop you a PM with my question. it will be concise i promise.
thanks
gem 64
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I never really thought it was a good idea to get married young. Never. I think people need time to learn who they are, sow their wild oats, and discover their likes and dislikes. So many have said to me that they regret marrying in their 20's and felt like they really knew who they were once they hit 30 and beyond. Of course there are exceptions to the rule but, generally speaking.

Sure, send the pm.
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Oh God, would I marry me?? The biggest issue would be I don't let on how I feel. So one day I could return home and find me gone haha
But I'm pretty loyal, devoted, I never nag...I could go on and on but I wontTongue The danger is I'll always be left in the dark, and maybe I wont have that sense of security. That would be the biggest issue. I don't know, maybe. I think I would if I wanted a challenge.
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Posted by PurrrrHissss
I'm just a difficult person to live with.


Cuz youz is a water signTongue

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No well maybe Tongue But we would have a very boring restricted life with a helluva lot of romance and love
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Posted by Pisco26
No. Well not right now or in the near future, that is. My mental state of being isnt evolved to the point I'd like it to be... I have a lot of work to do on myself before I will find myself suitable for anything like marriage.



Thanks.
I feel the same.
This might sound a bit crazy but I also would like to learn how to become a better cook before I go trying to be somebody's wife, lol. I'm not too bad but, I'd just like some more recipes. No on the job training for me. What can I say, I like to be prepared. smile
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Posted by iceredrobot
Oh God, would I marry me?? The biggest issue would be I don't let on how I feel. So one day I could return home and find me gone haha
But I'm pretty loyal, devoted, I never nag...I could go on and on but I wontTongue The danger is I'll always be left in the dark, and maybe I wont have that sense of security. That would be the biggest issue. I don't know, maybe. I think I would if I wanted a challenge.


Well you can always work on that Lena. Letting on to how you feel.
You strike me as a pretty normal, balanced, and healthy girl so I could see you making a good wife someday.
Although, I read on the back of the door of a bathroom stall one day - "Everyone seems normal until you get up close".
We've all got issues and things to work on, albeit some more than others, but, I still do think there are some who are more capable of handling marriage and being better husbands/wives than others.
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Posted by PurrrrHissss
Absolutely not. I feel bad for people who have to deal with me.


Hissy, I'm gonna whoop you!
Why do you say this???


I'm a huge pain in the ass, seriously. I'm not trying to be modest or self-deprecating as a joke.


I told that to this guy once. I said - "look, I'm telling you now, I'm a pain in the ass". LOL!
Do you think it's because of your moods?


I'm just a difficult person to live with.
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Ok, Hiss. I'm gonna just have to take your word for it. We know ourselves better than anyone else so, if that's what you say.
Do you forsee children in your future?
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Posted by michellemabelle
No well maybe Tongue But we would have a very boring restricted life with a helluva lot of romance and love



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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Think about it.
We all know what we want in a partner, right? Someone who's funny, smart, good looking, has a job, kind, compassionate, respectful, good with finances, loves kids, doesn't leave crumbs in the bed or chew their fingernails incessantly, blah, blah, blah, and all that other good stuff on the "list".
So...did you ever stop to think about the qualities YOU possess and if they add up to you being someone worth marrying? (wtf is the "marrying kind" anyway?)
If you could step outside of yourself for a moment, and evaluate the person you are through and through, WOULD YOU MARRY YOU? At least at this point in your life?
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I am laughing hysterically at myself as I read the opening post because my answer is an unequivocal YES, YES, YES -- I'd marry ME in a mili-second!!
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LOL! Leo right LB?
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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Well you can always work on that Lena. Letting on to how you feel.
You strike me as a pretty normal, balanced, and healthy girl so I could see you making a good wife someday.
Although, I read on the back of the door of a bathroom stall one day - "Everyone seems normal until you get up close".
We've all got issues and things to work on, albeit some more than others, but, I still do think there are some who are more capable of handling marriage and being better husbands/wives than others.


aww thanks! I've learnt to control the cray cray haha, but warming up to my emotions? Slowly getting there
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Posted by RealTalk
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This will be one of my wedding songs Tongue
But really, this is like the best song EVER!!!!



Oooooh I love this song! Shit, I love the whole damn album! Bey has really grown as an artist, and she's so beautiful (we need to dedicate a thread to this awesome Virgal), and I know she's gonna make a wonderful mom.
Is this the official vid?
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No. I don't think she has a video out yet. I've never been a fan of hers but I liked a few songs & this song to me is the best!!!
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Posted by ArticleL
No.


OOOKAY THEN.
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Posted by RealTalk
Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Posted by RealTalk
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This will be one of my wedding songs Tongue
But really, this is like the best song EVER!!!!



Oooooh I love this song! Shit, I love the whole damn album! Bey has really grown as an artist, and she's so beautiful (we need to dedicate a thread to this awesome Virgal), and I know she's gonna make a wonderful mom.
Is this the official vid?


No. I don't think she has a video out yet. I've never been a fan of hers but I liked a few songs & this song to me is the best!!!
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"Finally you put my love on top, top, top..."
Her VMA performance was bad. She's a bad-ass Virgo chick, and she did that shit in like 4inch stilletos with baby on board all the while singing live...go 'head Bey!
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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Think about it.
We all know what we want in a partner, right? Someone who's funny, smart, good looking, has a job, kind, compassionate, respectful, good with finances, loves kids, doesn't leave crumbs in the bed or chew their fingernails incessantly, blah, blah, blah, and all that other good stuff on the "list".
So...did you ever stop to think about the qualities YOU possess and if they add up to you being someone worth marrying? (wtf is the "marrying kind" anyway?)
If you could step outside of yourself for a moment, and evaluate the person you are through and through, WOULD YOU MARRY YOU? At least at this point in your life?
Are you emotionally, psychologically and spiritually at a place where you could make a "good" husband or wife to someone?
Could you hang in there for the long haul and make the many sacrifices that come along with marriage?
What about infidelity? Can you be faithful?
What about all of the other VERY important practical shit like career, finances, housing, etc.?
Do you think that there are some who are "better built" for marriage than others?
If you're not married yet and wished to be a long time ago, why do you think it is that you're not?
Be honest!!!


Yah I would deffo be marriage material to myself. Except for the lazy part. But the rest, I'm faithful, intense, hard working, fun, young and free at heart. I would marry myself in a tick. But I would call it differently, and I would do it by a waterfall instead.
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A waterfall would be beautiful!
If/when I do get married, I don't want a traditional wedding. It will be small and intimate but def. not traditional.
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Posted by DeadRingerr
I wish I could find someone like me....my troubles would be overWinking



Girl, for true. I'm starting to think that maybe some of us would just be better off marrying ourselves. Ha!
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Posted by LeGendary ViRGo

the whole marriage word just repulse me just being real.
i would never honest answer.



Welcome back, you. Hope you had a pleasant Summer. smile
Kinda repulses me too sometimes. Maybe like some of the others, co-habitation is a better option.
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it was great thanks cant wait till friday so i can go apply for my passports yayyyyyyyyyyyyyy lol
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