you guys really know how to hold a grudge

You win the award.

What happened Bri?

yea what happened bri?

Oh nothing new...was.just thinking about a couple exes of mine...a leo-virgo and a virgo-libra...common factor = virgo.

Other common factor is both of them are still so bitter towards me like 12 years later...

umm no, common pattern = cusp

they're cuspians right? i ask because i dated cuspians and they're truly mythological creatures.

12 years later? what a waste of energy.

I ran into one of them a couple months ago actually...he apparently works for the copier company that we use at work...he came to install our new machine and tried to act like he didn't recognize me...lol funny guy.

Haven't seen the other one in years, but if I come up in conversation with a mutual friend he speaks of me as if I'm Satan to this day.


Anyone else care to share Virgo ex stories. I'd like to know I'm not the only one they hate lol

Yes, both were....idk about mythical...but nice guys. Too nice actually.

Until you dump them.

My virgo didnt really hold a grudge ...I dont think. However, he was extremely passive aggressive. He started back speaking to me as if nothing had happened. He was very kind one day and then extremely cold and distant the next. It was almost creepy how he could change up so quick. You would think he was a Gemini like me almost...lol. He still tries to keep in contact with me now a year later. I am trying to keep my distance away from him though..he creeped me out a little too bad.

I think a large number of Virguys stay friends. Im one who doesn't it's not even a passing thought for me.

Bri, if this happened 12 years ago..that would make their ages 15 or around that age (if it wasn't a huge age difference).

In that case, that falls right into highschool with the highs of emotions/hormones/drama. A lot of younger Virgos have this idea about life bending to the system they have going on in their mind and any time they don't get their way..it irks them. Life has to knock us plenty of times to let go of controlling tendencies in youth.

So in your case, it's the age factor where they probably felt a height of emotions and are carrying it with them as a grudge cuz they never reconciled it.

Posted by brianafay
Oh nothing new...was.just thinking about a couple exes of mine...a leo-virgo and a virgo-libra...common factor = virgo.

Other common factor is both of them are still so bitter towards me like 12 years later...

said the Virgo guy...and yea what someone else said, when male Virgos are done with you, you are dead to them.

Posted by Damnata
Bri, if this happened 12 years ago..that would make their ages 15 or around that age (if it wasn't a huge age difference).

In that case, that falls right into highschool with the highs of emotions/hormones/drama. A lot of younger Virgos have this idea about life bending to the system they have going on in their mind and any time they don't get their way..it irks them. Life has to knock us plenty of times to let go of controlling tendencies in youth.

So in your case, it's the age factor where they probably felt a height of emotions and are carrying it with them as a grudge cuz they never reconciled it.

Yeah...one was when we're 16 and the other I think like 19 maybe?

Idk neither were significant relationships...at least not to me. But they are both SO bitter towards me it's crazy.

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Posted by brianafay
Oh nothing new...was.just thinking about a couple exes of mine...a leo-virgo and a virgo-libra...common factor = virgo.

Other common factor is both of them are still so bitter towards me like 12 years later...

said the Virgo guy...and yea what someone else said, when male Virgos are done with you, you are dead to them.

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Yeah got to +1 you on that.Not all Virguys are like me so judge carefully some like their ex's.

Posted by LillyBlossom
In my opinion, Virgos have unshakable memories which means they still maintain clarity even after time has elapsed or during moments of high emotion. I wish I had that as I tend to get lost in the moment.

This is true for me. I don't hold grudges but I remember, rather vividly, situations. I remember the day, I remember what time of day it was, I remember what you wore, I remember what was said, how it was said. I remember the emotions (which I think is the most important thing). From that point on you are a walking, talking, breathing feeling. You remind me of too much and I work hard at forgetting it all. I fell as though I'm left with no choice but to let you go. Completely. Anything else hurts too much.

Posted by Romz
Virgos may be able to hold a grudge but they pick and choose based on their sexual desires to whom they forgive. If it were truly about morals then why would it be written about extensively that Virgos like to re-visit their exes. I doubt it's out of any true moral stance on staying a gentleman and checking on someone he once cared about. It's an entirely selfish act fueled by the self proclaimed worth that he's desired by people he was once romantically linked to....delusion.


I actually find it comical when a Virgo tries to hold a grudge. That grudge is purposely set there to rationalize their reasoning behind being outwardly rude to someone because they are truly entitled by the idea and delusion they have the power to yield someones reputation.

A true gentleman and one of any worth does not disrespect or hold ill will against their partners past or present.

When Virgos that I've known attempt to hold grudges towards me for some miniscule reason or another I've always held them to their accusation and choice and have upheld my stance on ensuring I isolate them from my life. I choose to not be judged by someone based on irrational emotions and selfish reasoning. It's uncanny how they always come back though...wanting acceptance and to be forgiven or to "put it to rest".

Previously I have forgiven said, Virgos but I think from here on out I'm going to aim to let the wound bleed. I've never seen a Virgo give true mercy to anyone out of the sanctity of their relationship or humanity. This will be an experiment of the heart...interesting.

Extremely well said and damn accurate. I too am tired of just accepting their behavior, which is very selfish. I am a forgiving person and have always chosen to turn the cheek etc. but there comes a point when you have to stand up for yourself and stop the insanity.

It's always frustrated me that virgo's take so much effort to protect themselves from anything emotional and push someone who truly cared about them away, but when they in turn are rejected by that person, they (virgo) act like an entitled 4 year old.

Yeah, I could give a shit that neither of them stayed friends. I don't really stay in touch or friends with any of my exes for that matter.

I just find it interesting how bitter they are towards me, as if I was cruel to them, when in reality they were bigger bitches to me than I ever was to them. I broke up with them...big deal...relationships when you're that young don't last forever. They took it to the next level.

I have one who when I run into him he tries to pretend like he doesn't know me - and when I say hi and try to be friendly, he can hardly look at me....

& the other who talks about me to mutual friends like I'm Satan, and I'm the reason he "isn't a nice guy" anymore.

Boo-fucking-who. I just think it would be nice if they both let it go. That's all 🙂

Posted by Kim11180560
It's true that most Virgos have unshakable memories, for better or worse which can contribute to why we can't just let things go. Recently, I've been feeling hypocritical due to the fact that I seek closure when I don't even give one. And another thing, even at this state, my heart doesn't bleed, it's my mind that is tortured coz I constantly think about where and how the relationship turned south and what could've been done to have made things better. It's more like dwelling on a mistake, really rather than marinating on a wound.

It is VERY hypocritical to seek closure for yourself by ruthlessly cutting someone off and yet, not allowing that individual to have the same closure.

I can understand if the person you are dealing with is mean spirited or backstabbing and you need to move on quickly. however, when it's someone who you have known for a good amount of time, shared some real life changing events with and grew to love them, it is completely unacceptable to me.

in as much as several virgos have deeply hurt me, the more i learn about virgo's and how they deal with relationships, the more i realize they are deeply wounded souls. it must really suck to live a lifetime and never attain perfection or never really know the meaning of "feeling" true love trying to store it is some compartment in your brain only to analyze this notion of love but never really experience it in your heart and soul.

in as much as the entire virgo cutting people off thing irks me, i would conclude if you can't even allow yourself to feel your own emotions without treating them like a calculus problem, is it any wonder you can't deal with another person's emotions and feelings on a level which is normal to most human beings?

pretty sad existence imho. i swear my black lab has more ability to relate to me as a loving and expressive being than the numerous virgos i've interacted with on various levels in my life.

Posted by Kim11180560
I mean, if I can't even grasp the mechanics of emotions within myself, it's kinda hard to handle someone else's or ANY relationship at all (come to think of it). But the thing is I do have a Taurean moon (it takes forever to decide on whether emotions can be expressed) and my Aquarian rising just makes it appear out of place if they are expressed. In short, I would be a horrible person to be in a serious relationship with unless you have a heart of steel and is okay with me being away for weeks at times. I'm not even going to pepper myself with sugar- I have an inclination to be very cold but I want to be more expressive, passionate and less calculated...express myself more emotionally. I think that would make my life much better.

"I would be a horrible person to be in a serious relationship with unless you have a heart of steel and are ok with me being away for weeks at times."

That's not a relationship; that's an arrangement.

the common denominator I keep seeing over and over and over again for many virgos is insecurity. Emotions threatened your inner security. Human beings are suppose to be emotional. That's how we were made. We are not robots.

It's ok to allow yourself to express your joy, compassion and sadness every now and then. Doing that doesn't make you less of a human being or weaker; it makes you more of a human being and stronger.

I grew up with an alcoholic father who neglected my mother and also destroyed a good part of my childhood. It made me build up a self defense mechanism. I stopped crying because I felt empty inside. The ONLY thing that made me feel good and secure inside was my athletic ability and the sports I participated in. Sports gave me an outlet and rebuilt my self esteem.

So you see, it's not as if the rest of us who aren't virgo's can't understand some of what you experience regarding emotions or withholding them. the difference is we can look in the mirror and be ok that we aren't perfect and allow ourselves to feel again.

I would encourage you to get involved in some activities you enjoy and build up your self esteem. You may just find yourself that way and the walls you built up around your heart may slowly be removed.

Kim11180660

one thing i've learned as interacting with most virgo's in my world is that they are very passive aggressive. the manner you describe yourself is very passive aggressive. this is what is so frustrating to those of us who are the recipients of that passive aggressive behavior.

i encourage you to watch this video. it may help you understand a little more about yourself. when i watched it, i couldn't believe how much it described several of the virgo's in my life to a "T." and the bottom line, it's about fear and inability to feel emotion and express it.

I can't even begin to describe how a male Virgo is so much different from a female Virgo.

Posted by VirgoDragirl
I can't even begin to describe how a male Virgo is so much different from a female Virgo.

Yeah, they're hostile without reason...lol...I didn't even have to date and dump them

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