Anyone care to tell me why I’m single?

Posted by AbbyNormal

Idk why you deleted the other post because you could have continued from there. But my suggestion is the same. Make sure you know yourself well and what you want and that can help you narrow it down better. Spending some time alone might really benefit you if you skip from relationship to relationship. Once you know what you want, dating might become easier because you won’t spend as much time on people who aren’t aligned with your specific wants and needs. You have to remember that a very small percent of men are going to mesh well with you in particular. The specifics are always different so keep dating and I’m sure you’ll come across someone who meets that criteria for you. If you don’t know yourself well or what you want, it’ll be a lot harder to find that because you don’t know what you’re looking for. Give it time and patience.


My uncle is a Scorpio and broke up with my aunt when he went off to war because of the distance and not knowing if they could weather it. He even almost married another woman in Korean but ended up coming back to my aunt. Just know nothing is set in stone. If you love someone and they reciprocate, you’ll both do whatever you can to make it work. I’m still looking for a man who makes me feel like my Scorpio ex. I know I found it once so it is possible. Even if it isn’t him, it’s out there somewhere. Yours is out there too.... it just takes time and effort.


If you haven’t dated a Libra or Virgo yet, those would probably be good to dabble in since you’ve already seen some reasons why you don’t like some of the other signs. Just try to understand no two sun signs are necessarily the same either. Just learn to spot the red flags early on.

Posted by PeakSoy

Sounds like you have on of the shittier venuses a bull can have

Posted by Hypnotoad

Go back to your OG Scorp this is some fairytale shit right here.

Posted by Vlora93

He was so sweet, warm, loving, attentive and affectionate, he never pressured me to do anything I felt uncomfortable doing, he never disappeared or made me question his feelings or actions, I even told him that I was ready to lose my virginity to him but he wanted me to be sure and do it according to our culture, we were about to get engaged but he broke it off when I told him I wanted to pursue my career abroad, he didn’t want to move with me so he decided to let me go ( which he never really did to this day ).

Posted by Vlora93

Apparently I was venting and accidentally posted the first time so..


I went on the worst date this past weekend and I’m feeling so down right now, I really want to know if it’s like this for everyone or just me!


I’m 27 and been single since I was 22, the only long term relationship I had was with a Scorpio, we were together for 8 years in total.. friends in school then lovers.


He was so sweet, warm, loving, attentive and affectionate, he never pressured me to do anything I felt uncomfortable doing, he never disappeared or made me question his feelings or actions, I even told him that I was ready to lose my virginity to him but he wanted me to be sure and do it according to our culture, we were about to get engaged but he broke it off when I told him I wanted to pursue my career abroad, he didn’t want to move with me so he decided to let me go ( which he never really did to this day ).


My heart was shattered and I’ve never felt loved again, no other guy in 6 years and 3 countries made me feel like him again.


I had many short term relationships in those years ( 5 months longest ), nothing serious and I’m getting so frustrated and depressed.


I have attracted so many Scorpios but were all the same intense, controlling, players and too rigid, not willing to compromise.


I dated emotionally unavailable, know it all bulls, a Capricorn who turned out to be married with 3 kids, another cap who took me out and stayed silent the whole night!


A 40 something Gemini who lied about his age ( said he was 29 and looked young) he slept with escorts when I told him I’m not ready for sex, then sent me videos of him doing the act.


Pisces who were unemployed, drank too much and blamed everyone else for their problems. ( all 3 said they were not where they wanted to be in life at the time, lived at home and were dating instead of looking for jobs ) asked me out and wanted me to pay for dates and one of them wanted to marry me and move in too.


I talked briefly to a cancer who was too sensitive and wanted me to initiate everything, and pick out dates ( on budget) then he cancelled our date when I said something random about a celebrity that he took personal, I blocked him because he made me feel like a lesbian.


Another cancer who created an excel sheet of everything he spent on our dates from gas to flowers and asked me to pay him back after refusing to have sex with him.


Aries and Sagittarius were too immature in their late 20s - 30s and the type that ends every sentence with a giggle, lol or lmao at the most inappropriate time even when we’re talking about death and loss... they all had disappearing tendencies for weeks!


Aquarius was cold distant and all about himself, I wasn’t important at all, my dreams, goals and emotions were all classic, boring and invalid !

It was always about him, his schedule and goals.


I went on a date with a Leo this past weekend and he talked about his ex non stop and how he did everything for her and she cheated and left him... when I got home I texted him that I don’t feel us together... he got pissed and called me manipulative like his ex !!!

I had to block him.


Never met a Libra or Virgo Male so I don’t know about them.


My Taurus sister is married to a Libra and they’re okay, I wouldn’t call them happy, just fine.


I’m a Taurus sun cancer moon and Mars with Pisces rising and Lilith, I’m a softie super emotional, sentimental and affectionate, I consider myself a water sign more than a Taurus.

Can you list your experience with the signs ?


Who is the best match for a Taurus woman and why?


Or I’m I the bad person ?

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I don’t actually jump into relationships [...]


I just go out when guys ask me [...]

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Posted by AbbyNormal

Idk why you deleted the other post because you could have continued from there. But my suggestion is the same. Make sure you know yourself well and what you want and that can help you narrow it down better. Spending some time alone might really benefit you if you skip from relationship to relationship. Once you know what you want, dating might become easier because you won’t spend as much time on people who aren’t aligned with your specific wants and needs. You have to remember that a very small percent of men are going to mesh well with you in particular. The specifics are always different so keep dating and I’m sure you’ll come across someone who meets that criteria for you. If you don’t know yourself well or what you want, it’ll be a lot harder to find that because you don’t know what you’re looking for. Give it time and patience.


My uncle is a Scorpio and broke up with my aunt when he went off to war because of the distance and not knowing if they could weather it. He even almost married another woman in Korean but ended up coming back to my aunt. Just know nothing is set in stone. If you love someone and they reciprocate, you’ll both do whatever you can to make it work. I’m still looking for a man who makes me feel like my Scorpio ex. I know I found it once so it is possible. Even if it isn’t him, it’s out there somewhere. Yours is out there too.... it just takes time and effort.


If you haven’t dated a Libra or Virgo yet, those would probably be good to dabble in since you’ve already seen some reasons why you don’t like some of the other signs. Just try to understand no two sun signs are necessarily the same either. Just learn to spot the red flags early on.

I didn’t know how to edit the topic so I deleted it.


I think that I know myself too much to the point where it’s getting difficult to find what I need, maybe I should just go with the flow and accept guys as they’re!! I don’t know... I’m all over the place.


I don’t actually jump into relationships, I was depressed after the breakup for almost two years, but I had to move on, especially when I’m alone in foreign countries.


I just go out when guys ask me, I don’t lead them on, that’s why when I’m not feeling the spark I tell them let’s be friends, but they insist on making things official just to figure it’s not going anywhere after couple months.


Also I don’t know about the ex Scorpio, he text and call me every now and then, ask me about my life and if I need anything, but I don’t know if we can ever be together again he just gave up on me so easily, broke my heart as if it was nothing, I loved him to the point where I can’t be with anyone else still after 6 years since the breakup.

If he calls u n texts even now it’s still there. He didn’t give up on you. I’m fact he set you free so you can make ur dreams come true. We never like to hold back our love ones. But if u still feel it tell him

Most people don’t understand us n think it’s giving up when we love too much n set you free always hoping you’d come back once u discovered yourself or reached goals. We see it as selfish to have u give that up

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Posted by AbbyNormal

Idk why you deleted the other post because you could have continued from there. But my suggestion is the same. Make sure you know yourself well and what you want and that can help you narrow it down better. Spending some time alone might really benefit you if you skip from relationship to relationship. Once you know what you want, dating might become easier because you won’t spend as much time on people who aren’t aligned with your specific wants and needs. You have to remember that a very small percent of men are going to mesh well with you in particular. The specifics are always different so keep dating and I’m sure you’ll come across someone who meets that criteria for you. If you don’t know yourself well or what you want, it’ll be a lot harder to find that because you don’t know what you’re looking for. Give it time and patience.


My uncle is a Scorpio and broke up with my aunt when he went off to war because of the distance and not knowing if they could weather it. He even almost married another woman in Korean but ended up coming back to my aunt. Just know nothing is set in stone. If you love someone and they reciprocate, you’ll both do whatever you can to make it work. I’m still looking for a man who makes me feel like my Scorpio ex. I know I found it once so it is possible. Even if it isn’t him, it’s out there somewhere. Yours is out there too.... it just takes time and effort.


If you haven’t dated a Libra or Virgo yet, those would probably be good to dabble in since you’ve already seen some reasons why you don’t like some of the other signs. Just try to understand no two sun signs are necessarily the same either. Just learn to spot the red flags early on.

I didn’t know how to edit the topic so I deleted it.


I think that I know myself too much to the point where it’s getting difficult to find what I need, maybe I should just go with the flow and accept guys as they’re!! I don’t know... I’m all over the place.


I don’t actually jump into relationships, I was depressed after the breakup for almost two years, but I had to move on, especially when I’m alone in foreign countries.


I just go out when guys ask me, I don’t lead them on, that’s why when I’m not feeling the spark I tell them let’s be friends, but they insist on making things official just to figure it’s not going anywhere after couple months.


Also I don’t know about the ex Scorpio, he text and call me every now and then, ask me about my life and if I need anything, but I don’t know if we can ever be together again he just gave up on me so easily, broke my heart as if it was nothing, I loved him to the point where I can’t be with anyone else still after 6 years since the breakup.

If he calls u n texts even now it’s still there. He didn’t give up on you. I’m fact he set you free so you can make ur dreams come true. We never like to hold back our love ones. But if u still feel it tell him

Most people don’t understand us n think it’s giving up when we love too much n set you free always hoping you’d come back once u discovered yourself or reached goals. We see it as selfish to have u give that up

I don’t understand how’s that possible, I told him to come with me but he chose to let me go instead... I can’t tell him I still love him... what if he turned me down? Maybe he wanted to explore more because we were together since 14/15 I don’t know why he did what he did, all I know is that him leaving me really traumatized me.

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Posted by AbbyNormal

Idk why you deleted the other post because you could have continued from there. But my suggestion is the same. Make sure you know yourself well and what you want and that can help you narrow it down better. Spending some time alone might really benefit you if you skip from relationship to relationship. Once you know what you want, dating might become easier because you won’t spend as much time on people who aren’t aligned with your specific wants and needs. You have to remember that a very small percent of men are going to mesh well with you in particular. The specifics are always different so keep dating and I’m sure you’ll come across someone who meets that criteria for you. If you don’t know yourself well or what you want, it’ll be a lot harder to find that because you don’t know what you’re looking for. Give it time and patience.


My uncle is a Scorpio and broke up with my aunt when he went off to war because of the distance and not knowing if they could weather it. He even almost married another woman in Korean but ended up coming back to my aunt. Just know nothing is set in stone. If you love someone and they reciprocate, you’ll both do whatever you can to make it work. I’m still looking for a man who makes me feel like my Scorpio ex. I know I found it once so it is possible. Even if it isn’t him, it’s out there somewhere. Yours is out there too.... it just takes time and effort.


If you haven’t dated a Libra or Virgo yet, those would probably be good to dabble in since you’ve already seen some reasons why you don’t like some of the other signs. Just try to understand no two sun signs are necessarily the same either. Just learn to spot the red flags early on.

I didn’t know how to edit the topic so I deleted it.


I think that I know myself too much to the point where it’s getting difficult to find what I need, maybe I should just go with the flow and accept guys as they’re!! I don’t know... I’m all over the place.


I don’t actually jump into relationships, I was depressed after the breakup for almost two years, but I had to move on, especially when I’m alone in foreign countries.


I just go out when guys ask me, I don’t lead them on, that’s why when I’m not feeling the spark I tell them let’s be friends, but they insist on making things official just to figure it’s not going anywhere after couple months.


Also I don’t know about the ex Scorpio, he text and call me every now and then, ask me about my life and if I need anything, but I don’t know if we can ever be together again he just gave up on me so easily, broke my heart as if it was nothing, I loved him to the point where I can’t be with anyone else still after 6 years since the breakup.

If he calls u n texts even now it’s still there. He didn’t give up on you. I’m fact he set you free so you can make ur dreams come true. We never like to hold back our love ones. But if u still feel it tell him

Most people don’t understand us n think it’s giving up when we love too much n set you free always hoping you’d come back once u discovered yourself or reached goals. We see it as selfish to have u give that up

I don’t understand how’s that possible, I told him to come with me but he chose to let me go instead... I can’t tell him I still love him... what if he turned me down? Maybe he wanted to explore more because we were together since 14/15 I don’t know why he did what he did, all I know is that him leaving me really traumatized me.

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Posted by alexscaries

@Vlora93 you need to enjoy your own company and stop comparing yourself to others.


Relationships aren't the solution to any internal issues you have and if you feel lonely ask yourself why.

Posted by PhoenixStorm

I’m sorry I don’t mean to laugh but he sounds like a piece of work 🤣🤣🤦🏼‍♀️😂


Have you ever tried NOT dating? Maybe take a break from dating. Focus on yourself instead of relationships. Then maybe you will attract your equal instead of these knuckleheads. Maybe they sense your vulnerability.

Posted by LadyNeptune

You gotta go through quantity before you find quality.


Some luck out or settle right away. But for the majority of us the disappointment of a horrible date is not uncommon. Dust yourself off and get back out there. Bounce back.


The important thing here is you recognized he wasn’t right for you and you cut it off quick and didn’t waste any time. Don’t let his saltiness make you second guess yourself.

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Posted by AbbyNormal

Idk why you deleted the other post because you could have continued from there. But my suggestion is the same. Make sure you know yourself well and what you want and that can help you narrow it down better. Spending some time alone might really benefit you if you skip from relationship to relationship. Once you know what you want, dating might become easier because you won’t spend as much time on people who aren’t aligned with your specific wants and needs. You have to remember that a very small percent of men are going to mesh well with you in particular. The specifics are always different so keep dating and I’m sure you’ll come across someone who meets that criteria for you. If you don’t know yourself well or what you want, it’ll be a lot harder to find that because you don’t know what you’re looking for. Give it time and patience.


My uncle is a Scorpio and broke up with my aunt when he went off to war because of the distance and not knowing if they could weather it. He even almost married another woman in Korean but ended up coming back to my aunt. Just know nothing is set in stone. If you love someone and they reciprocate, you’ll both do whatever you can to make it work. I’m still looking for a man who makes me feel like my Scorpio ex. I know I found it once so it is possible. Even if it isn’t him, it’s out there somewhere. Yours is out there too.... it just takes time and effort.


If you haven’t dated a Libra or Virgo yet, those would probably be good to dabble in since you’ve already seen some reasons why you don’t like some of the other signs. Just try to understand no two sun signs are necessarily the same either. Just learn to spot the red flags early on.

I didn’t know how to edit the topic so I deleted it.


I think that I know myself too much to the point where it’s getting difficult to find what I need, maybe I should just go with the flow and accept guys as they’re!! I don’t know... I’m all over the place.


I don’t actually jump into relationships, I was depressed after the breakup for almost two years, but I had to move on, especially when I’m alone in foreign countries.


I just go out when guys ask me, I don’t lead them on, that’s why when I’m not feeling the spark I tell them let’s be friends, but they insist on making things official just to figure it’s not going anywhere after couple months.


Also I don’t know about the ex Scorpio, he text and call me every now and then, ask me about my life and if I need anything, but I don’t know if we can ever be together again he just gave up on me so easily, broke my heart as if it was nothing, I loved him to the point where I can’t be with anyone else still after 6 years since the breakup.

If he calls u n texts even now it’s still there. He didn’t give up on you. I’m fact he set you free so you can make ur dreams come true. We never like to hold back our love ones. But if u still feel it tell him

Most people don’t understand us n think it’s giving up when we love too much n set you free always hoping you’d come back once u discovered yourself or reached goals. We see it as selfish to have u give that up

This is true about Scorpio.


@Vlora93

Me and my Scorpio met a long time ago, we weren't official then but we were very close also. I wanted to chase my dreams so badly that we stopped talking for a bit and after a while he contacted me again asking me about my life because he still loves me. My Scorp wasn't ready to fly out of his nest that time and I was, so I left. I broke his heart as well, not only other way around.


Are you subconsciously maybe comparing guys to your Scorp and it's the reason they can't measure up?

Do you love and want to be with him still?

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Posted by PhoenixStorm

I’m sorry I don’t mean to laugh but he sounds like a piece of work 🤣🤣🤦🏼‍♀️😂


Have you ever tried NOT dating? Maybe take a break from dating. Focus on yourself instead of relationships. Then maybe you will attract your equal instead of these knuckleheads. Maybe they sense your vulnerability.

It’s okay... I do laugh myself when I think about it, he was a lost cause!


I wanted to focus on myself and my career at first, but my friends and family saw how sad and depressed I was and kept telling me I should go out and put myself out there... they set me up on blind dates and whatnot and I did what they said but it still didn’t go anywhere, I stopped for a while then I moved to England, where co-workers and roommates kept asking why I’m still virgin, single and not dating or accepting guys invites, they gossiped about my sexual orientation, I was silly enough and started dating again.


I’m planning on taking a break from guys until the end of my masters, I’ll focus on myself more because it’s impossible and not fair for other guys to heal me.

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Posted by alexscaries

@Vlora93 you need to enjoy your own company and stop comparing yourself to others.


Relationships aren't the solution to any internal issues you have and if you feel lonely ask yourself why.

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Stop dating.


Stop worrying about finding someone and do you.


You're more likely to find the right match when you aren't actively pursuing it. I have yet to see someone end up truly happy when they take the approach that you're taking. They obsess over relationships and dating and spend so much time and energy on that bullshit. It's all a societal construct that's drilled into our heads from an early age and then people wonder why they're miserable in middle age- it's because they spent too much time on what society tells them they want.


Simmer down a bit. The fact you have an entire laundry list of guys that you dated speaks volumes. You're single because you don't know how to find a relationship. You also see being single as a bad thing. Miserable bitches whine about being single and see it as a bad thing. It's not. The sooner you realize this, the happier you'll be, and the more likely you will land a successful relationship.


The fact you still hold a torch to the guy you were with for 8 years says a lot. Stop seeking a replacement. Do you for awhile and find out how to make yourself happy on your own. It's cliche, but true af- it will happen when you least expect it.

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Posted by AbbyNormal

Idk why you deleted the other post because you could have continued from there. But my suggestion is the same. Make sure you know yourself well and what you want and that can help you narrow it down better. Spending some time alone might really benefit you if you skip from relationship to relationship. Once you know what you want, dating might become easier because you won’t spend as much time on people who aren’t aligned with your specific wants and needs. You have to remember that a very small percent of men are going to mesh well with you in particular. The specifics are always different so keep dating and I’m sure you’ll come across someone who meets that criteria for you. If you don’t know yourself well or what you want, it’ll be a lot harder to find that because you don’t know what you’re looking for. Give it time and patience.


My uncle is a Scorpio and broke up with my aunt when he went off to war because of the distance and not knowing if they could weather it. He even almost married another woman in Korean but ended up coming back to my aunt. Just know nothing is set in stone. If you love someone and they reciprocate, you’ll both do whatever you can to make it work. I’m still looking for a man who makes me feel like my Scorpio ex. I know I found it once so it is possible. Even if it isn’t him, it’s out there somewhere. Yours is out there too.... it just takes time and effort.


If you haven’t dated a Libra or Virgo yet, those would probably be good to dabble in since you’ve already seen some reasons why you don’t like some of the other signs. Just try to understand no two sun signs are necessarily the same either. Just learn to spot the red flags early on.

I didn’t know how to edit the topic so I deleted it.


I think that I know myself too much to the point where it’s getting difficult to find what I need, maybe I should just go with the flow and accept guys as they’re!! I don’t know... I’m all over the place.


I don’t actually jump into relationships, I was depressed after the breakup for almost two years, but I had to move on, especially when I’m alone in foreign countries.


I just go out when guys ask me, I don’t lead them on, that’s why when I’m not feeling the spark I tell them let’s be friends, but they insist on making things official just to figure it’s not going anywhere after couple months.


Also I don’t know about the ex Scorpio, he text and call me every now and then, ask me about my life and if I need anything, but I don’t know if we can ever be together again he just gave up on me so easily, broke my heart as if it was nothing, I loved him to the point where I can’t be with anyone else still after 6 years since the breakup.

If he calls u n texts even now it’s still there. He didn’t give up on you. I’m fact he set you free so you can make ur dreams come true. We never like to hold back our love ones. But if u still feel it tell him

Most people don’t understand us n think it’s giving up when we love too much n set you free always hoping you’d come back once u discovered yourself or reached goals. We see it as selfish to have u give that up

I don’t understand how’s that possible, I told him to come with me but he chose to let me go instead... I can’t tell him I still love him... what if he turned me down? Maybe he wanted to explore more because we were together since 14/15 I don’t know why he did what he did, all I know is that him leaving me really traumatized me.

This is nothing horoscope related, but don’t you think asking your LTR partner to move to a different country, with a completely new culture/home/job/etc. seems drastic?


Scorpio’s are some very dedicated partners, but when you’re asking for that much from you man ofc he’s going to pull away. You’ve set up unrealistic expectations there.

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I think you need to learn to be single and enjoy you.

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I think you need to learn to be single and enjoy you.

She's been single for 5 years. You don't think she's done that at this point?

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Idk why you deleted the other post because you could have continued from there. But my suggestion is the same. Make sure you know yourself well and what you want and that can help you narrow it down better. Spending some time alone might really benefit you if you skip from relationship to relationship. Once you know what you want, dating might become easier because you won’t spend as much time on people who aren’t aligned with your specific wants and needs. You have to remember that a very small percent of men are going to mesh well with you in particular. The specifics are always different so keep dating and I’m sure you’ll come across someone who meets that criteria for you. If you don’t know yourself well or what you want, it’ll be a lot harder to find that because you don’t know what you’re looking for. Give it time and patience.


My uncle is a Scorpio and broke up with my aunt when he went off to war because of the distance and not knowing if they could weather it. He even almost married another woman in Korean but ended up coming back to my aunt. Just know nothing is set in stone. If you love someone and they reciprocate, you’ll both do whatever you can to make it work. I’m still looking for a man who makes me feel like my Scorpio ex. I know I found it once so it is possible. Even if it isn’t him, it’s out there somewhere. Yours is out there too.... it just takes time and effort.


If you haven’t dated a Libra or Virgo yet, those would probably be good to dabble in since you’ve already seen some reasons why you don’t like some of the other signs. Just try to understand no two sun signs are necessarily the same either. Just learn to spot the red flags early on.

I didn’t know how to edit the topic so I deleted it.


I think that I know myself too much to the point where it’s getting difficult to find what I need, maybe I should just go with the flow and accept guys as they’re!! I don’t know... I’m all over the place.


I don’t actually jump into relationships, I was depressed after the breakup for almost two years, but I had to move on, especially when I’m alone in foreign countries.


I just go out when guys ask me, I don’t lead them on, that’s why when I’m not feeling the spark I tell them let’s be friends, but they insist on making things official just to figure it’s not going anywhere after couple months.


Also I don’t know about the ex Scorpio, he text and call me every now and then, ask me about my life and if I need anything, but I don’t know if we can ever be together again he just gave up on me so easily, broke my heart as if it was nothing, I loved him to the point where I can’t be with anyone else still after 6 years since the breakup.

If he calls u n texts even now it’s still there. He didn’t give up on you. I’m fact he set you free so you can make ur dreams come true. We never like to hold back our love ones. But if u still feel it tell him

Most people don’t understand us n think it’s giving up when we love too much n set you free always hoping you’d come back once u discovered yourself or reached goals. We see it as selfish to have u give that up

I don’t understand how’s that possible, I told him to come with me but he chose to let me go instead... I can’t tell him I still love him... what if he turned me down? Maybe he wanted to explore more because we were together since 14/15 I don’t know why he did what he did, all I know is that him leaving me really traumatized me.

Technically you left him when you moved away :-) Some people cant just pack up and move to another country at the drop of a hat, your lives were heading in different directions.

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Posted by AbbyNormal

Idk why you deleted the other post because you could have continued from there. But my suggestion is the same. Make sure you know yourself well and what you want and that can help you narrow it down better. Spending some time alone might really benefit you if you skip from relationship to relationship. Once you know what you want, dating might become easier because you won’t spend as much time on people who aren’t aligned with your specific wants and needs. You have to remember that a very small percent of men are going to mesh well with you in particular. The specifics are always different so keep dating and I’m sure you’ll come across someone who meets that criteria for you. If you don’t know yourself well or what you want, it’ll be a lot harder to find that because you don’t know what you’re looking for. Give it time and patience.


My uncle is a Scorpio and broke up with my aunt when he went off to war because of the distance and not knowing if they could weather it. He even almost married another woman in Korean but ended up coming back to my aunt. Just know nothing is set in stone. If you love someone and they reciprocate, you’ll both do whatever you can to make it work. I’m still looking for a man who makes me feel like my Scorpio ex. I know I found it once so it is possible. Even if it isn’t him, it’s out there somewhere. Yours is out there too.... it just takes time and effort.


If you haven’t dated a Libra or Virgo yet, those would probably be good to dabble in since you’ve already seen some reasons why you don’t like some of the other signs. Just try to understand no two sun signs are necessarily the same either. Just learn to spot the red flags early on.

I didn’t know how to edit the topic so I deleted it.


I think that I know myself too much to the point where it’s getting difficult to find what I need, maybe I should just go with the flow and accept guys as they’re!! I don’t know... I’m all over the place.


I don’t actually jump into relationships, I was depressed after the breakup for almost two years, but I had to move on, especially when I’m alone in foreign countries.


I just go out when guys ask me, I don’t lead them on, that’s why when I’m not feeling the spark I tell them let’s be friends, but they insist on making things official just to figure it’s not going anywhere after couple months.


Also I don’t know about the ex Scorpio, he text and call me every now and then, ask me about my life and if I need anything, but I don’t know if we can ever be together again he just gave up on me so easily, broke my heart as if it was nothing, I loved him to the point where I can’t be with anyone else still after 6 years since the breakup.

If he calls u n texts even now it’s still there. He didn’t give up on you. I’m fact he set you free so you can make ur dreams come true. We never like to hold back our love ones. But if u still feel it tell him

Most people don’t understand us n think it’s giving up when we love too much n set you free always hoping you’d come back once u discovered yourself or reached goals. We see it as selfish to have u give that up

This is true about Scorpio.


@Vlora93

Me and my Scorpio met a long time ago, we weren't official then but we were very close also. I wanted to chase my dreams so badly that we stopped talking for a bit and after a while he contacted me again asking me about my life because he still loves me. My Scorp wasn't ready to fly out of his nest that time and I was, so I left. I broke his heart as well, not only other way around.


Are you subconsciously maybe comparing guys to your Scorp and it's the reason they can't measure up?

Do you love and want to be with him still?

Yes!!!

I know it’s bad, not fair childish silly and all but I can’t help it I keep comparing everyone to him, I remember crying in restrooms on dates or leaving early because I wasn’t finding him in anyone else, sucks!!!


I still love him but I don’t know if I can be with him again he might dropped me in a second after 8 years of love !! Who knows he might do it again.

My Scorp had real trouble to leave his country. He could've been anywhere he just didn't want to and stay with family. Now most of his friends moved to my country so he's here and was more comfortable to make a move a gazillion years later.

Your Scorp was 22 when you left so still kind of young. He wouldn't be talking to you everyday if he wasn't feeling deeply for you. I think you should go see him and talk about it... If only to test the waters you know.

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Posted by AbbyNormal

Idk why you deleted the other post because you could have continued from there. But my suggestion is the same. Make sure you know yourself well and what you want and that can help you narrow it down better. Spending some time alone might really benefit you if you skip from relationship to relationship. Once you know what you want, dating might become easier because you won’t spend as much time on people who aren’t aligned with your specific wants and needs. You have to remember that a very small percent of men are going to mesh well with you in particular. The specifics are always different so keep dating and I’m sure you’ll come across someone who meets that criteria for you. If you don’t know yourself well or what you want, it’ll be a lot harder to find that because you don’t know what you’re looking for. Give it time and patience.


My uncle is a Scorpio and broke up with my aunt when he went off to war because of the distance and not knowing if they could weather it. He even almost married another woman in Korean but ended up coming back to my aunt. Just know nothing is set in stone. If you love someone and they reciprocate, you’ll both do whatever you can to make it work. I’m still looking for a man who makes me feel like my Scorpio ex. I know I found it once so it is possible. Even if it isn’t him, it’s out there somewhere. Yours is out there too.... it just takes time and effort.


If you haven’t dated a Libra or Virgo yet, those would probably be good to dabble in since you’ve already seen some reasons why you don’t like some of the other signs. Just try to understand no two sun signs are necessarily the same either. Just learn to spot the red flags early on.

I didn’t know how to edit the topic so I deleted it.


I think that I know myself too much to the point where it’s getting difficult to find what I need, maybe I should just go with the flow and accept guys as they’re!! I don’t know... I’m all over the place.


I don’t actually jump into relationships, I was depressed after the breakup for almost two years, but I had to move on, especially when I’m alone in foreign countries.


I just go out when guys ask me, I don’t lead them on, that’s why when I’m not feeling the spark I tell them let’s be friends, but they insist on making things official just to figure it’s not going anywhere after couple months.


Also I don’t know about the ex Scorpio, he text and call me every now and then, ask me about my life and if I need anything, but I don’t know if we can ever be together again he just gave up on me so easily, broke my heart as if it was nothing, I loved him to the point where I can’t be with anyone else still after 6 years since the breakup.

If he calls u n texts even now it’s still there. He didn’t give up on you. I’m fact he set you free so you can make ur dreams come true. We never like to hold back our love ones. But if u still feel it tell him

Most people don’t understand us n think it’s giving up when we love too much n set you free always hoping you’d come back once u discovered yourself or reached goals. We see it as selfish to have u give that up

I don’t understand how’s that possible, I told him to come with me but he chose to let me go instead... I can’t tell him I still love him... what if he turned me down? Maybe he wanted to explore more because we were together since 14/15 I don’t know why he did what he did, all I know is that him leaving me really traumatized me.

Technically you left him when you moved away :-) Some people cant just pack up and move to another country at the drop of a hat, your lives were heading in different directions.

I didn’t leave him he did !!

I found places he could work at in England and America but he just didn’t want to.


Yes some people can’t pack and move but when you’re in a LTR and about to get married and tell someone I’m going to support you forever but not like that! 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I think you need to learn to be single and enjoy you.

She's been single for 5 years. You don't think she's done that at this point?

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Posted by aquarius09

I think you need to learn to be single and enjoy you.

She's been single for 5 years. You don't think she's done that at this point?

It seemed like a long list but was in 6 years a couple months each and they called it official relationship and they Ended when it didn’t lead to sex!

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I think you need to learn to be single and enjoy you.

She's been single for 5 years. You don't think she's done that at this point?

It seemed like a long list but was in 6 years a couple months each and they called it official relationship and they Ended when it didn’t lead to sex!

My bad. You’re not desperate then. Did anyone of these relationships lead to sex? If not, are you a demisexual (you need an emotional connection before having sex)?

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>>>Another cancer who created an excel sheet of everything he spent on our dates from gas to flowers and asked me to pay him back after refusing to have sex with him.<<<


O-M-G.....I'm financially anal and detailed, but this really takes the cake for craziest shit of all time.

Hopefully you punched him in the face and quietly walked away? LOL

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Posted by AbbyNormal

Idk why you deleted the other post because you could have continued from there. But my suggestion is the same. Make sure you know yourself well and what you want and that can help you narrow it down better. Spending some time alone might really benefit you if you skip from relationship to relationship. Once you know what you want, dating might become easier because you won’t spend as much time on people who aren’t aligned with your specific wants and needs. You have to remember that a very small percent of men are going to mesh well with you in particular. The specifics are always different so keep dating and I’m sure you’ll come across someone who meets that criteria for you. If you don’t know yourself well or what you want, it’ll be a lot harder to find that because you don’t know what you’re looking for. Give it time and patience.


My uncle is a Scorpio and broke up with my aunt when he went off to war because of the distance and not knowing if they could weather it. He even almost married another woman in Korean but ended up coming back to my aunt. Just know nothing is set in stone. If you love someone and they reciprocate, you’ll both do whatever you can to make it work. I’m still looking for a man who makes me feel like my Scorpio ex. I know I found it once so it is possible. Even if it isn’t him, it’s out there somewhere. Yours is out there too.... it just takes time and effort.


If you haven’t dated a Libra or Virgo yet, those would probably be good to dabble in since you’ve already seen some reasons why you don’t like some of the other signs. Just try to understand no two sun signs are necessarily the same either. Just learn to spot the red flags early on.

I didn’t know how to edit the topic so I deleted it.


I think that I know myself too much to the point where it’s getting difficult to find what I need, maybe I should just go with the flow and accept guys as they’re!! I don’t know... I’m all over the place.


I don’t actually jump into relationships, I was depressed after the breakup for almost two years, but I had to move on, especially when I’m alone in foreign countries.


I just go out when guys ask me, I don’t lead them on, that’s why when I’m not feeling the spark I tell them let’s be friends, but they insist on making things official just to figure it’s not going anywhere after couple months.


Also I don’t know about the ex Scorpio, he text and call me every now and then, ask me about my life and if I need anything, but I don’t know if we can ever be together again he just gave up on me so easily, broke my heart as if it was nothing, I loved him to the point where I can’t be with anyone else still after 6 years since the breakup.

If he calls u n texts even now it’s still there. He didn’t give up on you. I’m fact he set you free so you can make ur dreams come true. We never like to hold back our love ones. But if u still feel it tell him

Most people don’t understand us n think it’s giving up when we love too much n set you free always hoping you’d come back once u discovered yourself or reached goals. We see it as selfish to have u give that up

I don’t understand how’s that possible, I told him to come with me but he chose to let me go instead... I can’t tell him I still love him... what if he turned me down? Maybe he wanted to explore more because we were together since 14/15 I don’t know why he did what he did, all I know is that him leaving me really traumatized me.

This is nothing horoscope related, but don’t you think asking your LTR partner to move to a different country, with a completely new culture/home/job/etc. seems drastic?


Scorpio’s are some very dedicated partners, but when you’re asking for that much from you man ofc he’s going to pull away. You’ve set up unrealistic expectations there.

I thought it was sort of an unspoken understanding... I mean we went to look at engagement rings and his family was coming to ask for my hand!!!!


Isn’t that what long term relationships / marriage all about?!


Couples explore, experience and grow together?


What’s unrealistic about that ?

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I think you need to learn to be single and enjoy you.

She's been single for 5 years. You don't think she's done that at this point?

It seemed like a long list but was in 6 years a couple months each and they called it official relationship and they Ended when it didn’t lead to sex!

My bad. You’re not desperate then. Did anyone of these relationships lead to sex? If not, are you a demisexual (you need an emotional connection before having sex)?

No, I’m still virgin and I’m heterosexual demisexual.


Seems like I have to lose my virginity to my ex since he’s the only connection I had.

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I don’t actually jump into relationships [...]


I just go out when guys ask me [...]

See the problem here?


Also, what rockyroadicecream said. Ik a lot of Taurus woman who are ALWAYS in one relationship or another, dunno why this horoscope are so thirsty af for a partner lmao.

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The only thing I don’t agree with is I see being single as miserable... not at all


Yes, I come from a society where girls should get married young and be mainly housewives.

Maybe I’m a people pleaser and I let others affect my life but I don’t think single is bad or being in a relationship even if it’s not healthy and happy is better than being single

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I’m sorry I don’t mean to laugh but he sounds like a piece of work 🤣🤣🤦🏼‍♀️😂


Have you ever tried NOT dating? Maybe take a break from dating. Focus on yourself instead of relationships. Then maybe you will attract your equal instead of these knuckleheads. Maybe they sense your vulnerability.

It’s okay... I do laugh myself when I think about it, he was a lost cause!


I wanted to focus on myself and my career at first, but my friends and family saw how sad and depressed I was and kept telling me I should go out and put myself out there... they set me up on blind dates and whatnot and I did what they said but it still didn’t go anywhere, I stopped for a while then I moved to England, where co-workers and roommates kept asking why I’m still virgin, single and not dating or accepting guys invites, they gossiped about my sexual orientation, I was silly enough and started dating again.


I’m planning on taking a break from guys until the end of my masters, I’ll focus on myself more because it’s impossible and not fair for other guys to heal me.

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I think you need to learn to be single and enjoy you.

She's been single for 5 years. You don't think she's done that at this point?

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Posted by aquarius09

I think you need to learn to be single and enjoy you.

She's been single for 5 years. You don't think she's done that at this point?

Yeah exactly!!!


I don’t know how everyone thinks I’m dying for A relationship and desperate for men when they’re the one asking and they’re making things official not me!!! Even when I tell them I’m not ready!


I’ve been on blind dates for real! Like a friend’s bf or husband brings his buddy to hang out with me without me knowing anything!! I had no idea I was on one.


I mean even the guys knew I was single and fine how did that appear thirsty!


I said I’ve been single for almost 6 years, I am single!!


It seemed like a long list but was in 6 years a couple months each and they called it official relationship and they Ended when it didn’t lead to sex!

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I don’t understand how’s that possible, I told him to come with me but he chose to let me go instead... I can’t tell him I still love him... what if he turned me down? Maybe he wanted to explore more because we were together since 14/15 I don’t know why he did what he did, all I know is that him leaving me really traumatized me.

Why would you expect him to leave everything you moved away. You left him

Why did you have to move you could of built there in the home town and gotten married. You didn’t want to get married n moved to another country. That what he could be thinking.


You guys made promises to build together there then you switched up n said I’m leaving come with me.

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I think you need to learn to be single and enjoy you.

She's been single for 5 years. You don't think she's done that at this point?

Yeah exactly!!!


I don’t know how everyone thinks I’m dying for A relationship and desperate for men when they’re the one asking and they’re making things official not me!!! Even when I tell them I’m not ready!


I’ve been on blind dates for real! Like a friend’s bf or husband brings his buddy to hang out with me without me knowing anything!! I had no idea I was on one.


I mean even the guys knew I was single and fine how did that appear thirsty!


I said I’ve been single for almost 6 years, I am single!!


It seemed like a long list but was in 6 years a couple months each and they called it official relationship and they Ended when it didn’t lead to sex!

Please. Again, you're not taking accountability here. It's everyone else's fault.


You're a real selfish piece of work, here.


You up and move from the guy who wants to marry you. Here he is, ready to start a life with you and you flip the script and want to move internationally. Most people are not down for that. You go on about how he broke your heart, but you equally broke his.


You're willfully dating guys who want more than you're willing to give. Yet when they push, you go along with it and then cry foul when things tank or they end up being crazy. "Well, I just went along with it, but it's not my fault!" The most powerful word in your vocab is "no" and you aren't using it. Do NOT complain when you don't do anything in your best interest.


This is the biggest issue with people pleasers- they are the most untrustworthy and selfish people you can come across. You go along with whatever people tell you do to because YOU want to look good in their eyes and be agreeable. You can't look bad to other people, oh no! So you just do what they say. But when things go wrong, it's never your fault and you quickly finger point because you just did what THEY said. You have zero free will!!! It's all their fault!!


"Why am I still single?"


Because you date bottom of the barrel assholes that people shove on you and you go with it so you don't look bad in their eyes. How can any sane person expect results from that approach in life?


You left a guy to go travel, which, there's nothing wrong with per se. But don't act like a beaten, betrayed puppy when you gave him a pretty shitty list of options in order to keep you. "Wah, he left me. I thought he loved me!!!" Yeah, and I'm sure he thought you loved him but then decided you wanted to go focus on you and travel- which again, isn't bad per se. Everyone should do this at some point in their life. BUT you can't expect to do that when you have LTR and not have negative consequences as the end result.


You're single because you're immature and still have some growing up to do.


Stop dating.


Figure your shit out.


Go back to therapy because this people pleasing shit isn't healthy.

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The only thing I don’t agree with is I see being single as miserable... not at all

So why are you acting like it's a bad thing and coming across desperate?


the sooner you'll really start to live and not be miserable.

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Posted by SagInTheSun898

A married guy hid his whole wife and family from you?? how??