My Taurus guy; justified or unreasonably jealous?

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by Cancer_77 on Monday, February 3, 2020 and has 19 replies.
It was my guys weekend with his kid and we were to meet up after he dropped him off. He is always vague with details such as a specific time, but when it comes to his kid, I never question him

The husband of a friend was at a Super Bowl party I was at and had been drinking a lot, she wasn't there. He lives by my guy, so I said I would drop him off on my way, because you don't let people drive drunk, right?

I texted my Taurus to let him know that I was dropping this guy off and HE FLIPPED like I was doing something wrong. Like I was picking some random guy up from a bar. Told me he'd be "asleep" but this guy "needs me" & to get him "home safe". I figured he was kidding and said I was coming over anyway & then he said he was going out & wouldn't be home, this was within minutes of me texting. I said ok, I'll wait for you, thinking he'd just cool off & he said I was being "crazy" & a "stalker" for saying I was going to wait for him. I'm like "stalker", just a few seconds ago we had plans and I was invited and now I'm a crazy stalker, like WTF? That really hurt.

I pleaded with him to be reasonable about the situation and he was just not having it. Now, I feel like he's punishing me. I was trying to keep a drunk driver off the road. It would not have impacted our plans at all.

I've apologized profusely even though I don't feel like I did anything wrong and he's still giving me the silent treatment.

I really care about this guy, but this kind of behavior is questionable. Was I wrong? Is this some jealousy on his part? Is this typical Taurus behavior??

Before I contact him again, I would love to get some feedback from you guys. Should I let him cool off or tell him to f*** off? Thoughts?
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i think maybe the fact he got mad kind of shows he does care about you. it isnt really that sexy to tell your man you are picking another drunk man in your car to get him home safely. one of his guy friends could have done it. Not you. but again idk for how long has he been mad at you ?
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this is not typical in my experience.


i think a bit of context might help - how long have you been together? has this thing kind of happened before? how have you resolved differences in the past?
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First of all, what you did DOES NOT justify your man acting like an ASSHO**. So....please STOP apologizing. Maybe what you did wasn't the best decision but it wasn't the worst either. Your dude is acting like you banged the dude in your backseat. He's lame. Don't allow him to continue treating you like shit behind it. Its forgiveable. It's good though, to have seen this nasty side of him. It should bring you pause.

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With Uber, Lyft, guy friends and cabs I will be damned if my mate did this for a drunken irresponsible guy. Maybe my Scorp moon but I'm curious why would you put yourself in that situation.
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i think my compass is way off here. if my friend's husband was too drunk to drive i would get him to his home. at least so my friend knew he was safe.


my taurus would not give it a second thought. likewise if he drove my friend's drunk wife home, i'd be pleased that he did a kind thing.


are women not allowed to be alone with men anymore?


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Posted by jeane

i think my compass is way off here. if my friend's husband was too drunk to drive i would get him to his home. at least so my friend knew he was safe.


my taurus would not give it a second thought. likewise if he drove my friend's drunk wife home, i'd be pleased that he did a kind thing.


are women not allowed to be alone with men anymore?
Exactly, this was not some RANDOM guy. I've known him and his WIFE for years, we went to school together. I was trying to be a good friend and it blow up in my face. We're adults, this is ridiculous. He's still giving me the silent treatment.
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Posted by LibraSupreme

With Uber, Lyft, guy friends and cabs I will be damned if my mate did this for a drunken irresponsible guy. Maybe my Scorp moon but I'm curious why would you put yourself in that situation.
Because that's what friends do, that's why. Yes, he should have had better control of his drinking, but how would I feel if he had gotten into a accident and hurt himself or someone else, it would have been irresponsible of me not to drive him home. I went to school with his wife and she was at home with their kids. His house was on the way to where I was going.

But hey, thanks for the input. Guess people aren't allowed to do good things anymore.
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Next time call him a lyft if your dude is that shook by you driving home other guys.

Idk I’m prolly the wrong person to comment cause I see this unreasonable jealous behavior as really insulting. If you don’t trust me, you don’t trust me. And this relationship is gonna have a short shelf life.

But like, use your head bro. If I was gonna cheat on you with some other guy would I really call and tell you about our carpool plans. 😅🤦‍♀️
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Just talk and try having a reasonable talk about it and see whats really bothering him here. The silence treatment rarely goes anywhere.
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Posted by Cancer_77
Posted by LibraSupreme

With Uber, Lyft, guy friends and cabs I will be damned if my mate did this for a drunken irresponsible guy. Maybe my Scorp moon but I'm curious why would you put yourself in that situation.


Because that's what friends do, that's why. Yes, he should have had better control of his drinking, but how would I feel if he had gotten into a accident and hurt himself or someone else, it would have been irresponsible of me not to drive him home. I went to school with his wife and she was at home with their kids. His house was on the way to where I was going.

But hey, thanks for the input. Guess people aren't allowed to do good things anymore.
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I'm just dealing with my own past philandering behavior so I can be jaded in my opinion. I get that you were trying to make a nice gesture but I'm just trying to understand why there was no other option ie..... taxis or similar form. I don't feel sorry for grown men problems.
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Posted by LadyNeptune

Next time call him a lyft if your dude is that shook by you driving home other guys.

Idk I’m prolly the wrong person to comment cause I see this unreasonable jealous behavior as really insulting. If you don’t trust me, you don’t trust me. And this relationship is gonna have a short shelf life.

But like, use your head bro. If I was gonna cheat on you with some other guy would I really call and tell you about our carpool plans. 😅🤦‍♀️
Like seriously!! I was totally honest with him. Kicker part, I didn't even go through with it after he reacted the way he did. Someone else took the guy home and I told my guy that....he's still not talking to me. I agree, I care about him, but if you're going to treat me like this, later.
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Posted by LibraSupreme
Posted by Cancer_77
Posted by LibraSupreme

With Uber, Lyft, guy friends and cabs I will be damned if my mate did this for a drunken irresponsible guy. Maybe my Scorp moon but I'm curious why would you put yourself in that situation.


Because that's what friends do, that's why. Yes, he should have had better control of his drinking, but how would I feel if he had gotten into a accident and hurt himself or someone else, it would have been irresponsible of me not to drive him home. I went to school with his wife and she was at home with their kids. His house was on the way to where I was going.

But hey, thanks for the input. Guess people aren't allowed to do good things anymore.


I'm just dealing with my own past philandering behavior so I can be jaded in my opinion. I get that you were trying to make a nice gesture but I'm just trying to understand why there was no other option ie..... taxis or similar form. I don't feel sorry for grown men problems.
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I totally was not expecting this kind of reaction honestly. My ex was never a jealous type person. I've heard Taurus men are notoriously jealous, so?? But still, have some trust. Why would I tell you what I was doing if I was hooking up with the guy?

Had I known he was that insecure, I wouldn't have offered the guy a ride and actually I didn't end up giving him a ride after my guy reacted that way. I def understand why he might get upset, but not why he would still be giving me the silent treatment. He's a grown man with a child and yet acting like a child himself.
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Posted by Cancer_77
Posted by LadyNeptune

Next time call him a lyft if your dude is that shook by you driving home other guys.

Idk I’m prolly the wrong person to comment cause I see this unreasonable jealous behavior as really insulting. If you don’t trust me, you don’t trust me. And this relationship is gonna have a short shelf life.

But like, use your head bro. If I was gonna cheat on you with some other guy would I really call and tell you about our carpool plans. 😅🤦‍♀️


Like seriously!! I was totally honest with him. Kicker part, I didn't even go through with it after he reacted the way he did. Someone else took the guy home and I told my guy that....he's still not talking to me. I agree, I care about him, but if you're going to treat me like this, later.
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Let him cool off then see what the convo is like. If he’s dealing with past trauma of having a partner cheat and wants you to not drive dudes home then I guess meet him halfway.


He was a bit childish by running away from the house and you just cause he felt slighted. Is that a precursor to how he’s gonna deal with disagreements in the future? Just bail? I don’t like it.


They do say Super Bowl Sunday is the most dangerous day for women in the us. Lots of drunk angry dudes cause their team lost 🔪 🔪 🔪
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Posted by Cancer_77

he said I was being "crazy" & a "stalker" for saying I was going to wait for him. I'm like "stalker", just a few seconds ago we had plans and I was invited and now I'm a crazy stalker, like WTF? That really hurt.


I've apologized profusely even though I don't feel like I did anything wrong and he's still giving me the silent treatment.


tell him to f*** off

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why the F would you apologize if you feel you didn't do anything wrong?


that's how some bad shit start, will he give you the cold shoulder every time he want you to back off from some friend? or family?


will you end up like so many women in a relationship where the man doesn't allow you to see or be around anyone he doesn't feel like it.


oh no, no, no, no I see red flags, he need to cool off his jet.
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Ah yeah, red flags - that is immature behavior for sure …


I got the same bs from some Scorpio when I stopped by a road stop park to check on some dogs and found out they belonged to 2 homeless guys who were living in there in their truck. I never even got out of my Jeep and I carry a knife with me in the car. They were father and son and old stinky dudes but hey. It was sad but they said they all had enough to eat so I left. I thought I did a good thing but he flipped out. Then he came back later to apologize. I dropped him like a hot potato. Some times it takes awhile to see people's true colors.
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Posted by LibraSupreme
Posted by Cancer_77
Posted by LibraSupreme

With Uber, Lyft, guy friends and cabs I will be damned if my mate did this for a drunken irresponsible guy. Maybe my Scorp moon but I'm curious why would you put yourself in that situation.


Because that's what friends do, that's why. Yes, he should have had better control of his drinking, but how would I feel if he had gotten into a accident and hurt himself or someone else, it would have been irresponsible of me not to drive him home. I went to school with his wife and she was at home with their kids. His house was on the way to where I was going.

But hey, thanks for the input. Guess people aren't allowed to do good things anymore.


I'm just dealing with my own past philandering behavior so I can be jaded in my opinion. I get that you were trying to make a nice gesture but I'm just trying to understand why there was no other option ie..... taxis or similar form. I don't feel sorry for grown men problems.


I totally was not expecting this kind of reaction honestly. My ex was never a jealous type person. I've heard Taurus men are notoriously jealous, so?? But still, have some trust. Why would I tell you what I was doing if I was hooking up with the guy?

Had I known he was that insecure, I wouldn't have offered the guy a ride and actually I didn't end up giving him a ride after my guy reacted that way. I def understand why he might get upset, but not why he would still be giving me the silent treatment. He's a grown man with a child and yet acting like a child himself.
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i don't find them jealous. possessive? definitely. what's theirs is theirs and you better treat it well but not jealous.
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I have been with a Taurus man like that before. This is exactly how he was. It was hard to deal with. I was happy to be out of that relationship later.


I’m pretty thankful that I’m with someone who trusts me now.
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Posted by Sassysailorscout

Wait ... did you end up going over there and talking to him ?


Why did he not want you over !? *say my name *say my name *


If you accuse me of cheating my first thought is that you cheated or are a cheater.


What's his relationship with Baby Mom ?


Also maybe he was mad you were at the party without him. And was taking care of someone else.


I'm not a Taurus.. But I would get so upset possessive when my guy would "help" his female friends. So I would make sure to "help" my guy friends. *mirror* but my Venus is in Leo sooooooo ...
No, I didn't go over...not after he said I was acting like a crazy stalker, lol. I told him not to worry, I don't go where I'm not wanted. I think he was just acting like that because he was hurt and jealous, he has shown jealous tendencies before. He has been cheated on in his past relationships, but I've never given him anything to worry about.

In my past relationship, my ex was never the jealous type. I had guy friends and he did not have a problem with that, so I'm not used to this kind of behavior. I guess I can see some of his POV, but if you feel that way, have a conversation about it instead of brooding like a child.

He didn't necessarily accuse me of cheating, but it implied it when he reacted the way he did. He knew I was at the party and did not have a problem with that, not until I said I was taking my friends husband home, a favor I was doing more so for my friend and not her drunk ass husband.

I think he has an overall good relationship with his ex, I mean they're civil, they def get along better now than when they were married. I knew him when he was married, they fought a lot. They tried counselling and attempted to make it work, but in the end they split.
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